Board 8 > As a 24-year-old, is it healthy for me to be friends with people in their 30's?

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Ever since I joined two new communities (one online, one IRL) I made new friends but they are in their 30's, which is a shocking new experience to me. Despite my initial reservations, thankfully we are still mutually intelligible. And I swear if you don't know their age, they look just any of us. How crazy is that? And I'm not just talking about their physical appearances, which are deceiving as they go, but also their mannerisms. It's kinda amazing but also a bit scary.

Like how do you really know if someone is normal or in their 30's if you can't tell at first sight? Not that I'm ageist, of course, they are good people and I'm happy to call them my friends. But it would surely be nice to know how to tell them apart. I mean, it's for the greater good, right? My upbringing prepared me to be friends with most anyone, but I know some of my younger friends are just not ready for such a puzzling experience and the responsibilities that go with it.

So yeah, I've been doing some thinking and I just can't reach a conclusion. Though it's been going swimmingly so far, who knows what's in the future, right? I mean they'll never not be in their 30s again. People say it's in their DNA, who knows. The point is, do you think I should continue to associate with people of their kind? Do the benefits outweigh the risks? Are there precautions I have to take to keep me safe?

Thanks beforehand, B8.
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I'm not sure if this is a joke topic or not.

Is this a joke topic?
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only if you PUt out and Sex them

Raka, you live in Indonesia right? I can't speak for your culture at all, but in most western cultures, it is totally acceptable to be an adult and have friends who are roughly a decade older than you.
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whoa posted...

only if you PUt out and Sex them

buddy told me about this
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Adults are Adults
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no 30 year olds are a group 1 carcinogen
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Joke poll?

Raka_Putra posted...

if someone is normal or in their 30's

I didn't know those were mutually exclusive. Welp.
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what is this a parody of
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grundle
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yea 30 year olds are weird af
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I'm 30, does this mean we can't be friends anymore?
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redrocket_pub posted...

I'm not sure if this is a joke topic or not.

Is this a joke topic?

I'm sorry, are you 30 or older too?

whoa posted...

only if you PUt out and Sex them

Uhh this is just exacerbating the problem.

KCF0107 posted...

Raka, you live in Indonesia right? I can't speak for your culture at all, but in most western cultures, it is totally acceptable to be an adult and have friends who are roughly a decade older than you.

Dude, WHAT? And you're not pulling my leg? But why are Westerners seem to be so obsessed with the whole Millenial/Gen X/Baby Boomers segregation then?

Punnyz posted...

Adults are Adults

But some Adults are more Adults than other.

HeeCawRoo posted...

what is this a parody of

Whatever do you mean...

Bane_Of_Despair posted...

yea 30 year olds are weird af

Finally someone who gets it! The way they talk about job and family and insurance and INVESTMENT. The investment part especially really baffles me personally.

MariaTaylor posted...

I'm 30, does this mean we can't be friends anymore?

Oh no, you're a good upstanding 30 year old Maria! You're an exemplary person.
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im like 12 or something can we still be friends?

go away mods
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how many y/o though
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NFUN posted...

im like 12 or something can we still be friends?

go away mods

stop lying you already admitted you were 12
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Raka_Putra posted...

KCF0107 posted...

Raka, you live in Indonesia right? I can't speak for your culture at all, but in most western cultures, it is totally acceptable to be an adult and have friends who are roughly a decade older than you.

Dude, WHAT? And you're not pulling my leg? But why are Westerners seem to be so obsessed with the whole Millenial/Gen X/Baby Boomers segregation then?

that generation stuff is mostly a media/marketing gimmick made to get people to click on stupid articles, nobody takes it seriously. also, even within one of those generations someone could easily be friends with someone 10+ years older, while you could also be friends with someone from a different generation who is only a couple years apart.

but yeah idk how serious this topic is because I can't fathom this being a real concern or question. its fine to be friends with people. if its weird to you and bothers you, then its weird. if its not, then its not.

Unknown_voter posted...

that generation stuff is mostly a media/marketing gimmick made to get people to click on stupid articles, nobody takes it seriously.

Spoken just like a filthy 30-year-old
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I am a spry, youthful 27

Unknown_voter posted...

nobody takes it seriously.

I know a few older people who do
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Raka, I'm 35, the oldest of my group of friends is 30, the youngest is 19. Age really doesn't matter once you are an adult.
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You guys personally know people in their 30s? I've heard they exist and I've even seen a few suspected 30s in real life, but mostly from a distance. I won't approach them because who knows what they're carrying. This topic is a real eye opener. You're telling me that people in their 30s look and act like the rest of us, and even have similar mannerisms? I'm almost inclined to write this off as SJW talk. Maybe it's okay to speak to them, but just don't marry them.
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I have friends who are a decade older than me and friends who are a decade younger than me (I'm 30). Nothing wrong with that.
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in western culture, specifically american (as i can't really speak outside of that), age stops really mattering when you graduate from high school and college. i'm 27 and in college so a lot of my friends are 5 years or so younger than me. Conversely, I have some friends in their 30s and 40s.
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(nervously) i Have friends too, SHitloads ,

Raka_Putra posted...

Dude, WHAT? And you're not pulling my leg? But why are Westerners seem to be so obsessed with the whole Millenial/Gen X/Baby Boomers segregation then?

Most 30 somethings are millennials too.

Boomers - 45 through early 60s
X - early 60s through late 70s
Millennials - early 80s through mid 90s
Z - late 90s through mid 10s (2016 is a pretty good cut off point thinking about it)

But yes, the generational segregation thing is mostly stupid, and these days has a lot to do with making it easier for marketing
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DK, why did the casual revolution end in 2016?
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Why do you even have to ask?
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I'm writing an article for Bordate Weekly
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Jeff Zero posted...

DK, why did the casual revolution end in 2016?

Trump's election victory was the capstone to the Casual Revolution. We have now entered the next phase, whatever that is (some people say it is the Feelz Before Realz Era).
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Ah, FBR. Thank you, DK. Unlike some people (not pointing fingers or calling out names here or anything but Hardcore_Adult for example) you were willing to confirm my suspicions that it involves Trump, the capstone.

I'll have my 2000-word essay on End Times: Casualties of Revolution by the end of the business day.
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I'm not actually DK, but I'm sure he will confirm for you that Trump was the end of it!
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The Baby Boomer generation was actually a thing, but not really any of the others.
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As a 30 year old that voted yes, no.
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Trump marked the end. Trump won because of social media stupidity (on both sides of the political spectrum tbh, but as somebody whose not a Trump fan its more on the Trump side imo). I mean there is some spillage here and there running into 2017, and some things that ended the era in 2015. Trump winning is just the major event that ended it.

Its kinda like how the Casual Revolution of 2007 began in late 2006 (South Park WoW episode, Youtube bought by Google, stuff like that) and ended early 08 (Pepe the Frog began around this time fwiw - he becomes important on the national stage later on....Iron Man 1 starting the MCU causing "cinematic universe mania" is probably a good cut off point). 2007 was just when the major shit really started (Facebook opening to public, iphone1 beginning current era smartphones, twitter becoming big due to the SXSW conference, Steam's first year of major growth, Netflix streaming begins, and perhaps most importantly the financial collapse, etc). Society as a whole barely changed from 2007 to like 2015....then things really changed to a more anger filled era.

Will the current era make us nostalgic for even the fucking awful Casual Revolution era idk, i lean towards most likely. Sad, but thats the state of affairs.
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What was the casual revolution anyway? I've heard of it but never bothered to find out what it was. Now I'm slightly curious.
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age doesn't matter; interests do

if you and your friends are playing games, watching shows together, etc. then who cares about age

if your friends are all talking about jobs/families/insurance/investments and you feel left out, then it's not great. but I don't really have any advice for that, except keep coming to board 8 where we don't talk about that stuff much
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Gatarix posted...

age doesn't matter; interests do

If you only hang out with friends because of mutual interests maybe (barely could call those "friends" though)
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foolm0r0n posted...

Gatarix posted...

age doesn't matter; interests do

If you only hang out with friends because of mutual interests maybe (barely could call those "friends" though)

And if you hang out with friends only because of their age?
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BowserCuffs posted...

And if you hang out with friends only because of their age?

pedophile
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Oh NFUN I thought GFAQs mods can already a joke from a serious post :(

NioraptH posted...

40 year olds are where it's at.

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Unknown_voter posted...

but yeah idk how serious this topic is because I can't fathom this being a real concern or question. its fine to be friends with people. if its weird to you and bothers you, then its weird. if its not, then its not.

That sounds good. I don't feel it's weird, most of the time.

SgtSphynx posted...

Raka, I'm 35, the oldest of my group of friends is 30, the youngest is 19. Age really doesn't matter once you are an adult.

Oh wow. So you're the oldest one? Do you feel you can connect emotionally with your group of friends?

EndOfDiscOne posted...

You guys personally know people in their 30s? I've heard they exist and I've even seen a few suspected 30s in real life, but mostly from a distance. I won't approach them because who knows what they're carrying. This topic is a real eye opener. You're telling me that people in their 30s look and act like the rest of us, and even have similar mannerisms? I'm almost inclined to write this off as SJW talk. Maybe it's okay to speak to them, but just don't marry them.

I know, right?! It's crazy to even think about it! I mean at least with people 40s and older you can tell, most of the time, so it's safer. But I get your point...just being friends should be okay...I mean as long as I'm discreet about it *crosses fingers*

Gatarix posted...

age doesn't matter; interests do

I agree with this. It's hard enough to find people into musical theatre here, I can't be too choosy...
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Raka_Putra posted...

Oh wow. So you're the oldest one? Do you feel you can connect emotionally with your group of friends?

Yeah, we're friends because we have common interests
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Bump for more insights from 30s people and 30s allies?
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In my 30s and I have friends who range from late 40s all the way down to mid 20s. And it's not like I just have the odd friend at either extreme, I have plenty of friends dotted in between those ranges.

The girl I'm dating is also 24.