Current Events > So i have been talking to this girl and i am too pussy to do anything.

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Not in that way. I have no problems actually attracting and talking to girls. I talked with her hours yesterday basically. My friend gave me her number and we actually connect well.

It's just i don't feel it's good for me to go into relationships as all my previous ones (not just romantic mind you) ended with burning bridges deal and after so many times i just don't find the effort trying to get attached to anything again. I dunno. Maybe ill just die alone.

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apolloooo posted...

It's just i don't feel it's good for me to go into relationships as all my previous ones (not just romantic mind you) ended with burning bridges deal and after so many times i just don't find the effort trying to get attached to anything again. I dunno. Maybe ill just die alone.

You probably will with your attitude on things. Try to reframe your thinking to be open to relationships with new people and learn from what went wrong in the past. Otherwise, what else are you going to do in your life?

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AlCalavicci posted...

You probably will with your attitude on things. Try to reframe your thinking to be open to relationships with new people and learn from what went wrong in the past. Otherwise, what else are you going to do in your life?

Dunno. The prospects just terrifies me. I can't even hold a stable relationship for a few years. I can't imagine for life. There's also dealing with her side of family and such. To be involved with a single person is multitudes the relationship from the extended webs they carry with them. I am scared.

At the same time i haven't enioyed talking to someone in years like that. I would just end up ghosting everyone again. Fuck this shit. I should just refused the introduction.

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I am probably thinking too far with it. We still technically barely know each other. Sorry i am just venting.

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Just keep talking to her. Don't ghost her. You can just be friends, and enjoy a meaningful friendship. And if it turns out that you are really into her and she's really into you, your thoughts on this may change and you may find it worth it.

Don't let fear make you run away from something that could be good for you. Not everything will turn out as bad as your mind wants to convince you it will. Living life is about actually living your life.

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If all of your relationships end up that way, romantic and non, then there's really something you need to work on. Do you have any theories on why things always end up this way with people?

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apolloooo posted...

I am probably thinking too far with it. We still technically barely know each other. Sorry i am just venting.

Hey! Don't ever apologize for venting - that's part of what CE is for, especially since you do it so rarely.

You've probably heard this already but you are putting the cart too far ahead..if you enjoyed the talk just do more of it - nasicfgszdfg

Sorry Obie insisted on contributing by sitting on my phone keyboard. Keep doing what you enjoy of talking to her..maybe meet for something you both enjoy anime..video games... burgers.. cats..anime about cats playing the I can haz cheeseburger video game.

Even if you do think far ahead look at the other times you thought things might not work out but did it anyways - Silver initially running off when Rivel scared her.

goldenBoi45 posted...

If all of your relationships end up that way, romantic and non, then there's really something you need to work on. Do you have any theories on why things always end up this way with people?

Part of it is my anger issue (which has been seen to professional) part of it is i have been too proud to apologize whatsoever. The best relationships i got so far is the one where i maintain some kind of distance. Not too attached but kind of trade favors. Like the one friend who introduced her to me.

The more i am invested to something usually the worse the fallout is.

Ruvan22 posted...

Hey! Don't ever apologize for venting - that's part of what CE is for, especially since you do it so rarely.

You've probably heard this already but you are putting the cart too far ahead..if you enjoyed the talk just do more of it - nasicfgszdfg

I guess. I'll keep talking for now.

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Somebodys probably already rearranging her cervix anyway

Ruvan22 posted...

Sorry Obie insisted on contributing by sitting on my phone keyboard. Keep doing what you enjoy of talking to her..maybe meet for something you both enjoy anime..video games... burgers.. cats..anime about cats playing the I can haz cheeseburger video game.

Even if you do think far ahead look at the other times you thought things might not work out but did it anyways - Silver initially running off when Rivel scared her.

I guess. Thanks.

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why not go on a date w her

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I feel you, TC.

Any time I feel like I like a girl, I just think of the absolute hell that dating / attempting dating has put me through and how Im definitely not emotionally ok enough to deal with it and I snap back to reality and think its better to not bother lol

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You're bound to fail at more relationships than you'll succeed in. It's why people go through numerous partners. If it fails, things are all going according to plan really. Onto the next one. No skin off my back.

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jon1012 posted...

why not go on a date w her

we will probably meet in the meatspace when we have time. she runs a canteen that's open 4-10 PM i could go there after work i guess.

rexcrk posted...

I feel you, TC.

Any time I feel like I like a girl, I just think of the absolute hell that dating / attempting dating has put me through and how Im definitely not emotionally ok enough to deal with it and I snap back to reality and think its better to not bother lol

same. i just feel i can't deal with with all the crap
Flockaveli posted...

You're bound to fail at more relationships than you'll succeed in. It's why people go through numerous partners. If it fails, things are all going according to plan really. Onto the next one. No skin off my back.

not if everyone kinda chips away at you until you feel nothing left.

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Why you giving them that? You literally fall in love with everyone you date?

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Flockaveli posted...

Why you giving them that? You literally fall in love with everyone you date?

Not really. Again it's not only romantic shit. I did it in my previous work, college, high school. You name it.

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