Poll of the Day > How the fuck did the 40 year old virgin become reality for so many

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Mead 07/16/21 2:19:35 AM #1:	I mean I liked that movie too but I went and got myself a girlfriend anyways --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956133371] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>I mean I liked that movie too but I went and got myself a girlfriend anyways </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FatalAccident 07/16/21 2:41:47 AM #2:	some people just struggle, it happens --- walks away <cite>FatalAccident posted [p:956133664] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>some people just struggle, it happens </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zareth 07/16/21 3:16:18 AM #3:	Some people have autism --- In my opinion, all slavery is wrong, even the really fancy kind - Mead <cite>Zareth posted [p:956134089] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Some people have autism </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlackScythe0 07/16/21 4:04:23 AM #4:	A majority of women are attracted to a minority of confident men. <cite>BlackScythe0 posted [p:956134717] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>A majority of women are attracted to a minority of confident men. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Judgmenl 07/16/21 5:34:22 AM #5:	I've never seen the film, I'm just not in a position in my life where I could ever have a relationship, and don't really want one. --- You're a regular Jack Kerouac Reality is overrated <cite>Judgmenl posted [p:956135637] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>I've never seen the film, I'm just not in a position in my life where I could ever have a relationship, and don't really want one. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SomeUsername529 07/16/21 9:10:04 AM #6:	BlackScythe0 posted... A majority of women are attracted to a minority of confident men. If this were true then polygyny would be rampant. The sort of girls that get swooped by dudebros at the club aren't representative of reality. <cite>SomeUsername529 posted [p:956138703] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>BlackScythe0 posted... </cite> <quote>A majority of women are attracted to a minority of confident men.</quote>If this were true then polygyny would be rampant. The sort of girls that get swooped by dudebros at the club aren't representative of reality. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blightzkrieg 07/16/21 9:42:18 AM #7:	It didn't become reality because in the film Steve Carell did not resent women or feel a desire or entitlement to sex. --- https://imgur.com/1XbPahR <cite>Blightzkrieg posted [p:956139489] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>It didn't become reality because in the film Steve Carell did not resent women or feel a desire or entitlement to sex. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 10:16:46 AM #8:	Blightzkrieg posted... It didn't become reality because in the film Steve Carell did not resent women or feel a desire or entitlement to sex. which is why ~~he isnt a virgin by the end of the movie~~ --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956140323] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Blightzkrieg posted... </cite> <quote>It didn't become reality because in the film Steve Carell did not resent women or feel a desire or entitlement to sex.</quote> which is why he isnt a virgin by the end of the movie </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoorsLight 07/16/21 11:06:04 AM #9:	People live on the internet now and don't know how to communicate with each other and just watch a bunch of porn instead, it's sad <cite>CoorsLight posted [p:956141693] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>People live on the internet now and don't know how to communicate with each other and just watch a bunch of porn instead, it's sad </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blightzkrieg 07/16/21 11:20:41 AM #10:	CoorsLight posted... People live on the internet now and don't know how to communicate with each other and just watch a bunch of porn instead, it's sad Do you think inter racial pornography promotes harmful beliefs and stereotypes about different cultures or do you think it helps develop a more accepting and well rounded attitude towards other groups. --- https://imgur.com/1XbPahR <cite>Blightzkrieg posted [p:956142106] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>CoorsLight posted... </cite> <quote>People live on the internet now and don't know how to communicate with each other and just watch a bunch of porn instead, it's sad</quote>Do you think inter racial pornography promotes harmful beliefs and stereotypes about different cultures or do you think it helps develop a more accepting and well rounded attitude towards other groups. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ParanoidObsessive 07/16/21 11:39:24 AM #11:	CoorsLight posted... People live on the internet now and don't know how to communicate with each other and just watch a bunch of porn instead, it's sad Was going to say, if you think it's bad now, wait until the generation(s) that grew up with constant Internet access start hitting 40. Porn is certainly a factor, but the inability to interact with other humans as a whole is a much bigger issue. It's why we're seeing so many people who just want to avoid having to ever talk to other people in the course of their life (ordering kiosks, self-checkouts, delivery, work-from-home, etc). Most of our modern push towards convenience goes hand-in-hand with isolating ourselves from almost anyone we might ever socialize with. The growth of parasocial relationships online doesn't really help either. People who feel like the people they're watching on Twitch or YouTube are their best friends aren't really going to know how to make friends or interact with potential love interests in the real world. We might be heading for a future where the only way anyone ever dates or gets laid is by signing up for stuff like eHarmony or Tinder, letting computers match us up with other people because we've forgotten how to do it ourselves. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family <cite>ParanoidObsessive posted [p:956142660] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote><cite>CoorsLight posted...</cite> <quote>People live on the internet now and don't know how to communicate with each other and just watch a bunch of porn instead, it's sad</quote> Was going to say, if you think it's bad now, wait until the generation(s) that grew up with constant Internet access start hitting 40. Porn is certainly a factor, but the inability to interact with other humans as a whole is a much bigger issue. It's why we're seeing so many people who just want to avoid having to ever talk to other people in the course of their life (ordering kiosks, self-checkouts, delivery, work-from-home, etc). Most of our modern push towards convenience goes hand-in-hand with isolating ourselves from almost anyone we might ever socialize with. The growth of parasocial relationships online doesn't really help either. People who feel like the people they're watching on Twitch or YouTube are their best friends aren't really going to know how to make friends or interact with potential love interests in the real world. We might be heading for a future where the only way anyone ever dates or gets laid is by signing up for stuff like eHarmony or Tinder, letting computers match us up with other people because we've forgotten how to do it ourselves.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoorsLight 07/16/21 12:04:11 PM #12:	Tinder and co. are already a really weird and unhealthy way to approach dating, and they will probably only get worse over time <cite>CoorsLight posted [p:956143380] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Tinder and co. are already a really weird and unhealthy way to approach dating, and they will probably only get worse over time </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 07/16/21 12:07:40 PM #13:	CoorsLight posted... Tinder and co. are already a really weird and unhealthy way to approach dating, and they will probably only get worse over time tbf, I feel most of history courtship has been pretty messed up. Before, all you had to do to get a date was give a goat to her dad. I'll take tinder and co. over that. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:956143499] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>CoorsLight posted... </cite> <quote>Tinder and co. are already a really weird and unhealthy way to approach dating, and they will probably only get worse over time</quote> tbf, I feel most of history courtship has been pretty messed up. Before, all you had to do to get a date was give a goat to her dad. I'll take tinder and co. over that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ParanoidObsessive 07/16/21 12:10:28 PM #14:	CoorsLight posted... Tinder and co. are already a really weird and unhealthy way to approach dating, and they will probably only get worse over time I agree, but if enough people become dependent on that sort of thing it will become normalized as a behavior, and then the weirdos will be the people who actually try to date by talking to people and getting to know them. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family <cite>ParanoidObsessive posted [p:956143579] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote><cite>CoorsLight posted...</cite> <quote>Tinder and co. are already a really weird and unhealthy way to approach dating, and they will probably only get worse over time</quote> I agree, but if enough people become dependent on that sort of thing it will become normalized as a behavior, and then the weirdos will be the people who actually try to date by talking to people and getting to know them.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 12:11:22 PM #15:	We are gonna make way better pets than how we are doing on our own --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956143615] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>We are gonna make way better pets than how we are doing on our own </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Metalsonic66 07/16/21 12:19:04 PM #16:	ParanoidObsessive posted... I agree, but if enough people become dependent on that sort of thing it will become normalized as a behavior, and then the weirdos will be the people who actually try to date by talking to people and getting to know them. This was legitimately a plot point in Upload --- PSN/Steam ID: Metalsonic_69 Big bombs go kabang. <cite>Metalsonic66 posted [p:956143817] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>ParanoidObsessive posted... </cite> <quote>I agree, but if enough people become dependent on that sort of thing it will become normalized as a behavior, and then the weirdos will be the people who actually try to date by talking to people and getting to know them.</quote>This was legitimately a plot point in Upload </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ParanoidObsessive 07/16/21 12:26:17 PM #17:	Metalsonic66 posted... This was legitimately a plot point in Upload When I think about it, my mind tends to go more to this instead: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Naked_Sun#Physical_distancing --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family <cite>ParanoidObsessive posted [p:956144049] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote><cite>Metalsonic66 posted...</cite> <quote>This was legitimately a plot point in Upload</quote> When I think about it, my mind tends to go more to this instead: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Naked_Sun#Physical_distancing</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Greenfox111 07/16/21 12:38:51 PM #18:	Is it a problem for you that other men don't have as much sex as you --- Don't ask. <cite>Greenfox111 posted [p:956144357] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Is it a problem for you that other men don't have as much sex as you </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cruddy_horse 07/16/21 12:49:11 PM #19:	Nowhere near 40, but my first and only romantic partner was a close friend when I was younger and was the only person I trusted with some issues I had, eventually they admitted their feelings for me and I did too, then they said mine were unimportant more or less and they'd rather date their current partner than me, a year later they said they wanted to be with me for real and then we dated for about 4 days before they dumped me and I figured out they were cheating on me and another person. So yeah that kinda fucked me up pretty hard and it's been over half a decade, I have very little trust for anybody anymore(and I had little to begin with) especially seeing how getting cheated on/abused seemingly runs in my family. <cite>Cruddy_horse posted [p:956144660] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Nowhere near 40, but my first and only romantic partner was a close friend when I was younger and was the only person I trusted with some issues I had, eventually they admitted their feelings for me and I did too, then they said mine were unimportant more or less and they'd rather date their current partner than me, a year later they said they wanted to be with me for real and then we dated for about 4 days before they dumped me and I figured out they were cheating on me and another person. So yeah that kinda fucked me up pretty hard and it's been over half a decade, I have very little trust for anybody anymore(and I had little to begin with) especially seeing how getting cheated on/abused seemingly runs in my family. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
faramir77 07/16/21 1:26:02 PM #20:	I'm not a virgin but I haven't dated in over a decade, and I can't see myself choosing to date anytime in the near future. I don't like the concept of conditional relationships. The only way I'd get in a relationship now is if I unintentionally become best friends with a woman and a relationship develops naturally from that. Some people don't need romantic love in their life. That's a really hard pill to swallow for people that do need it in their life. --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCtAUrZbUk -- Defeating the Running Man of Ocarina of Time in a race since 01/17/2009. -- <cite>faramir77 posted [p:956145934] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>I'm not a virgin but I haven't dated in over a decade, and I can't see myself choosing to date anytime in the near future. I don't like the concept of conditional relationships. The only way I'd get in a relationship now is if I unintentionally become best friends with a woman and a relationship develops naturally from that. Some people don't need romantic love in their life. That's a really hard pill to swallow for people that do need it in their life. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 1:28:48 PM #21:	faramir77 posted... I don't like the concept of conditional relationships. what does that mean? --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956146035] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>faramir77 posted... </cite> <quote>I don't like the concept of conditional relationships.</quote> what does that mean? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
faramir77 07/16/21 1:46:14 PM #22:	Mead posted... what does that mean? Most romantic relationships require effort. Each person needs to work towards maintaining the relationship. Organizing dates, keeping things new and interesting, lots of frequent contact, etc. You'll still hear this from couples that have been together for decades. I don't see that as authentic. My friends aren't a conditional relationship, there aren't set parameters or expectations to meet for them to continue being your friend. I recognize that my opinion is unpopular and particularly strikes a nerve with people that are married or are in long term relationships. But I can't commit to a relationship that is dependent on what I contribute. I have times where I need space, and this isn't particularly compatible with conditional relationships. Basically, I don't want a relationship that is conditional to what I (or she) puts into it. --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCtAUrZbUk -- Defeating the Running Man of Ocarina of Time in a race since 01/17/2009. -- <cite>faramir77 posted [p:956146596] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Mead posted... </cite> <quote>what does that mean?</quote> Most romantic relationships require effort. Each person needs to work towards maintaining the relationship. Organizing dates, keeping things new and interesting, lots of frequent contact, etc. You'll still hear this from couples that have been together for decades. I don't see that as authentic. My friends aren't a conditional relationship, there aren't set parameters or expectations to meet for them to continue being your friend. I recognize that my opinion is unpopular and particularly strikes a nerve with people that are married or are in long term relationships. But I can't commit to a relationship that is dependent on what I contribute. I have times where I need space, and this isn't particularly compatible with conditional relationships. Basically, I don't want a relationship that is conditional to what I (or she) puts into it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrMelodramatic 07/16/21 1:53:23 PM #23:	All relationships are conditional though. Certainly if your friends didnt meet your conditions for friendship (whatever those are), you wouldnt be their friend --- Forever Momo; <cite>MrMelodramatic posted [p:956146855] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>All relationships are conditional though. Certainly if your friends didnt meet your conditions for friendship (whatever those are), you wouldnt be their friend </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 07/16/21 1:54:51 PM #24:	A lot of them are losers. --- The first person to be fully vaccinated on GameFaQs. Boobs are life, ass is hometown Kenichiro Takaki. <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:956146899] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>A lot of them are losers. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
faramir77 07/16/21 1:58:03 PM #25:	MrMelodramatic posted... All relationships are conditional though. Certainly if your friends didnt meet your conditions for friendship (whatever those are), you wouldnt be their friend Yes, but those conditions are typically based on personality. I would lose my friends if I stopped being who I am. I totally understand when romantic relationships end when one person changes who they are. --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCtAUrZbUk -- Defeating the Running Man of Ocarina of Time in a race since 01/17/2009. -- <cite>faramir77 posted [p:956147006] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>MrMelodramatic posted... </cite> <quote>All relationships are conditional though. Certainly if your friends didnt meet your conditions for friendship (whatever those are), you wouldnt be their friend</quote> Yes, but those conditions are typically based on personality. I would lose my friends if I stopped being who I am. I totally understand when romantic relationships end when one person changes who they are. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 2:50:53 PM #26:	faramir77 posted... Most romantic relationships require effort. Each person needs to work towards maintaining the relationship. Organizing dates, keeping things new and interesting, lots of frequent contact, etc. You'll still hear this from couples that have been together for decades. I don't see that as authentic. well, I did ask didnt I --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956148594] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>faramir77 posted... </cite> <quote>Most romantic relationships require effort. Each person needs to work towards maintaining the relationship. Organizing dates, keeping things new and interesting, lots of frequent contact, etc. You'll still hear this from couples that have been together for decades. I don't see that as authentic.</quote> well, I did ask didnt I </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Greenfox111 07/16/21 2:57:01 PM #27:	faramir77 posted... Most romantic relationships require effort. Each person needs to work towards maintaining the relationship. Organizing dates, keeping things new and interesting, lots of frequent contact, etc. You'll still hear this from couples that have been together for decades. I don't see that as authentic. My friends aren't a conditional relationship, there aren't set parameters or expectations to meet for them to continue being your friend. I recognize that my opinion is unpopular and particularly strikes a nerve with people that are married or are in long term relationships. But I can't commit to a relationship that is dependent on what I contribute. I have times where I need space, and this isn't particularly compatible with conditional relationships. Basically, I don't want a relationship that is conditional to what I (or she) puts into it. so you don't feel that maintaining a relationship should require any effort at all? --- Don't ask. <cite>Greenfox111 posted [p:956148779] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>faramir77 posted... </cite> <quote>Most romantic relationships require effort. Each person needs to work towards maintaining the relationship. Organizing dates, keeping things new and interesting, lots of frequent contact, etc. You'll still hear this from couples that have been together for decades. I don't see that as authentic. My friends aren't a conditional relationship, there aren't set parameters or expectations to meet for them to continue being your friend. I recognize that my opinion is unpopular and particularly strikes a nerve with people that are married or are in long term relationships. But I can't commit to a relationship that is dependent on what I contribute. I have times where I need space, and this isn't particularly compatible with conditional relationships. Basically, I don't want a relationship that is conditional to what I (or she) puts into it.</quote>so you don't feel that maintaining a relationship should require any effort at all? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
faramir77 07/16/21 2:57:23 PM #28:	Mead posted... well, I did ask didnt I Yup. I'm not here to shit on people for their life choices. --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCtAUrZbUk -- Defeating the Running Man of Ocarina of Time in a race since 01/17/2009. -- <cite>faramir77 posted [p:956148791] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Mead posted... </cite> <quote>well, I did ask didnt I</quote> Yup. I'm not here to shit on people for their life choices. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
faramir77 07/16/21 2:59:41 PM #29:	Greenfox111 posted... so you don't feel that maintaining a relationship should require any effort at all? If you have to put a conscious effort into maintaining a relationship, your partner doesn't love you. It should come naturally. Maybe that's unrealistic but I wouldn't accept anything less for myself. --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCtAUrZbUk -- Defeating the Running Man of Ocarina of Time in a race since 01/17/2009. -- <cite>faramir77 posted [p:956148868] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Greenfox111 posted... </cite> <quote>so you don't feel that maintaining a relationship should require any effort at all?</quote> If you have to put a conscious effort into maintaining a relationship, your partner doesn't love you. It should come naturally. Maybe that's unrealistic but I wouldn't accept anything less for myself. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 3:57:17 PM #30:	faramir77 posted... If you have to put a conscious effort into maintaining a relationship, your partner doesn't love you. It should come naturally. what led you to this bizarre notion? --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956150748] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>faramir77 posted... </cite> <quote>If you have to put a conscious effort into maintaining a relationship, your partner doesn't love you. It should come naturally.</quote> what led you to this bizarre notion? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sycophant 07/16/21 4:07:49 PM #32:	More people have relationships than do not. Acting like having a relationship or intercourse is some grandiose achievement is obtuse and disingenuous of reality. <cite>Sycophant posted [p:956151082] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>More people have relationships than do not. Acting like having a relationship or intercourse is some grandiose achievement is obtuse and disingenuous of reality. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blightzkrieg 07/16/21 4:09:31 PM #33:	I can't wait til daddy Google adds achievements to IRL. Imagine having Zuckerberg blast out an "achievement unlocked" notification to all your friends that you blew your load into a breathing being for the first time in your life. --- https://imgur.com/1XbPahR <cite>Blightzkrieg posted [p:956151128] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>I can't wait til daddy Google adds achievements to IRL. Imagine having Zuckerberg blast out an "achievement unlocked" notification to all your friends that you blew your load into a breathing being for the first time in your life. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrMelodramatic 07/16/21 4:09:46 PM #34:	Not trying to argue, but dont you think someone putting an effort into your relationship means they care more about you than someone who puts no effort into you at all? --- Forever Momo; <cite>MrMelodramatic posted [p:956151136] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Not trying to argue, but dont you think someone putting an effort into your relationship means they care more about you than someone who puts no effort into you at all? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ogurisama 07/16/21 4:10:21 PM #35:	You mom stopped putting out thats why ~~sorry~~ --- http://cdn-android.apptap.com/img/870/mobi.colortrilogy.bitlink/267135850.png https://i.chzbgr.com/completestore/12/10/5/uv4r7nGyrE6ylt2lHGWpiQ2.gif <cite>Ogurisama posted [p:956151157] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>You mom stopped putting out thats why sorry </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ParanoidObsessive 07/16/21 4:26:54 PM #36:	faramir77 posted... My friends aren't a conditional relationship, there aren't set parameters or expectations to meet for them to continue being your friend. There absolutely are, you're just less consciously aware of them because you spend less time with them and don't share personal resources (start a business or share a bank account with your friends and see how long it is because things start feeling really "conditional"). Every social interaction in human history has implicit expectations and requirements built in regardless of whether or not you're aware of them. The sad thing is, the relationships that tend to be the least demanding are also the ones that are the most shallow and casual. If you truly have friends who expect absolutely nothing, I'd argue that you don't actually have friends at all, merely "acquaintances". faramir77 posted... If you have to put a conscious effort into maintaining a relationship, your partner doesn't love you. It should come naturally. This is not, nor has it ever been for the entirety of human history, how the concept of "love" works. Even parents who swear they love their children unconditionally can find that love strained (or outright dying) if their kids act like total shits. Obligation is hard-coded into every social interaction for anyone who isn't an absolute doormat with zero self-esteem (which is incredibly unhealthy in its own way). This premise actually touches on something I've complained about in the past though, which is that a lot of media (especially Disney) have sort of established this idea that "true love" is a thing, that everyone has a "soulmate" who is a magically perfect match, and that "the one" exists for everyone. Combine that with concepts like "love at first sight", and it can lead to incredibly destructive attitudes and lead to toxic relationships, because people (like you) are utterly unwilling to compromise in any way and assume the instant you have a conflict in your relationship that you're just with the wrong person and should break up immediately. Or that if you don't have instant and powerful chemistry with someone the moment you first meet, that you're not "destined" to be together. That's a very modern way of thinking - and it's a very psychologically unhealthy one. faramir77 posted... Maybe that's unrealistic but I wouldn't accept anything less for myself. Have fun being alone forever. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family <cite>ParanoidObsessive posted [p:956151669] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote><cite>faramir77 posted...</cite> <quote>My friends aren't a conditional relationship, there aren't set parameters or expectations to meet for them to continue being your friend.</quote> There absolutely are, you're just less consciously aware of them because you spend less time with them and don't share personal resources (start a business or share a bank account with your friends and see how long it is because things start feeling really "conditional"). Every social interaction in human history has implicit expectations and requirements built in regardless of whether or not you're aware of them. The sad thing is, the relationships that tend to be the least demanding are also the ones that are the most shallow and casual. If you truly have friends who expect absolutely nothing, I'd argue that you don't actually have friends at all, merely "acquaintances". <cite>faramir77 posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to put a conscious effort into maintaining a relationship, your partner doesn't love you. It should come naturally.</quote> This is not, nor has it ever been for the entirety of human history, how the concept of "love" works. Even parents who swear they love their children unconditionally can find that love strained (or outright dying) if their kids act like total shits. Obligation is hard-coded into every social interaction for anyone who isn't an absolute doormat with zero self-esteem (which is incredibly unhealthy in its own way). This premise actually touches on something I've complained about in the past though, which is that a lot of media (especially Disney) have sort of established this idea that "true love" is a thing, that everyone has a "soulmate" who is a magically perfect match, and that "the one" exists for everyone. Combine that with concepts like "love at first sight", and it can lead to incredibly destructive attitudes and lead to toxic relationships, because people (like you) are utterly unwilling to compromise in any way and assume the instant you have a conflict in your relationship that you're just with the wrong person and should break up immediately. Or that if you don't have instant and powerful chemistry with someone the moment you first meet, that you're not "destined" to be together. That's a very modern way of thinking - and it's a very psychologically unhealthy one. <cite>faramir77 posted...</cite> <quote>Maybe that's unrealistic but I wouldn't accept anything less for myself. </quote> Have fun being alone forever.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ParanoidObsessive 07/16/21 4:27:47 PM #37:	Mead posted... what led you to this bizarre notion? TV and movies, probably. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family <cite>ParanoidObsessive posted [p:956151694] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote><cite>Mead posted...</cite> <quote>what led you to this bizarre notion?</quote> TV and movies, probably.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
faramir77 07/16/21 4:32:41 PM #38:	That's an interesting perspective, PO. I'll think about that one. --- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XiCtAUrZbUk -- Defeating the Running Man of Ocarina of Time in a race since 01/17/2009. -- <cite>faramir77 posted [p:956151846] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>That's an interesting perspective, PO. I'll think about that one. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RCtheWSBC 07/16/21 4:36:04 PM #39:	@ParanoidObsessive : this may be a "Mandela effect" memory, but for some reason I remember thinking you have an advanced degree in psychology. Am I wrong about that? --- https://imgur.com/HZf4bFJ the White-Sounding Black Chick <cite>RCtheWSBC posted [p:956151953] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>@ParanoidObsessive : this may be a "Mandela effect" memory, but for some reason I remember thinking you have an advanced degree in psychology. Am I wrong about that? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blightzkrieg 07/16/21 4:39:34 PM #40:	He works for the department of defense --- https://imgur.com/1XbPahR <cite>Blightzkrieg posted [p:956152068] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>He works for the department of defense </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoorsLight 07/16/21 4:40:52 PM #41:	He only has an unadvanced degree in psychology <cite>CoorsLight posted [p:956152111] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>He only has an unadvanced degree in psychology </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 5:15:12 PM #42:	Sycophant posted... More people have relationships than do not. Acting like having a relationship or intercourse is some grandiose achievement is obtuse and disingenuous of reality. You arent wrong. I think thats also a good thing to keep in mind for those that feel hopeless about finding someone. Chances are there really are people out there that you would like and they would like you, but it can take a long time to find them and there are no guarantees. --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956153206] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Sycophant posted... </cite> <quote>More people have relationships than do not. Acting like having a relationship or intercourse is some grandiose achievement is obtuse and disingenuous of reality.</quote> You arent wrong. I think thats also a good thing to keep in mind for those that feel hopeless about finding someone. Chances are there really are people out there that you would like and they would like you, but it can take a long time to find them and there are no guarantees. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Judgmenl 07/16/21 5:17:13 PM #43:	What happened to chewy working in a nursing home? --- You're a regular Jack Kerouac Reality is overrated <cite>Judgmenl posted [p:956153263] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>What happened to chewy working in a nursing home? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/16/21 5:18:04 PM #44:	Judgmenl posted... What happened to chewy working in a nursing home? he just posted you can probably ask him if you want --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956153289] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Judgmenl posted... </cite> <quote>What happened to chewy working in a nursing home?</quote> he just posted you can probably ask him if you want </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 07/16/21 5:48:01 PM #45:	Sycophant posted... More people have relationships than do not. Acting like having a relationship or intercourse is some grandiose achievement is obtuse and disingenuous of reality. Hey, for some of us it is --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:956154173] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Sycophant posted... </cite> <quote>More people have relationships than do not. Acting like having a relationship or intercourse is some grandiose achievement is obtuse and disingenuous of reality.</quote>Hey, for some of us it is </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoorsLight 07/16/21 9:09:58 PM #46:	Judgmenl posted... What happened to chewy working in a nursing home? What are talking about? <cite>CoorsLight posted [p:956160346] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Judgmenl posted... </cite> <quote>What happened to chewy working in a nursing home?</quote> What are talking about? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mead 07/16/21 9:30:54 PM #48:	Kotenks posted... This article can give you some insight https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/ people that are content being on their own are not at all what this topic is about --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956161020] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Kotenks posted... </cite> <quote>This article can give you some insight https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/</quote> people that are content being on their own are not at all what this topic is about </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 07/17/21 3:06:15 PM #49:	One aspect of that movie that they absolutely nailed is the whole thing with bad dating experiences can have a negative effect on people and future dating. Thats exactly whats happened to me. Ive had nothing but bad experiences when its come to dating and now I want absolutely nothing to do with it. --- Bah weep grannah weep ni ni bon <cite>rexcrk posted [p:956181243] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>One aspect of that movie that they absolutely nailed is the whole thing with bad dating experiences can have a negative effect on people and future dating. Thats exactly whats happened to me. Ive had nothing but bad experiences when its come to dating and now I want absolutely nothing to do with it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 07/17/21 3:10:47 PM #50:	rexcrk posted... One aspect of that movie that they absolutely nailed is the whole thing with bad dating experiences can have a negative effect on people and future dating. Thats exactly whats happened to me. Ive had nothing but bad experiences when its come to dating and now I want absolutely nothing to do with it. statistically youre bound to have a good date eventually on accident --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:956181370] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>rexcrk posted... </cite> <quote>One aspect of that movie that they absolutely nailed is the whole thing with bad dating experiences can have a negative effect on people and future dating. Thats exactly whats happened to me. Ive had nothing but bad experiences when its come to dating and now I want absolutely nothing to do with it.</quote> statistically youre bound to have a good date eventually on accident </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 07/17/21 3:16:04 PM #51:	Mead posted... statistically youre bound to have a good date eventually on accident Maybe someday. I know Im being a bit over dramatic here, but I kind of feel like its too late even though Im only 33. Its surprisingly damaging. --- Bah weep grannah weep ni ni bon <cite>rexcrk posted [p:956181551] in How the fu... [t:79566977]...</cite> <quote>Mead posted... </cite> <quote>statistically youre bound to have a good date eventually on accident</quote>Maybe someday. I know Im being a bit over dramatic here, but I kind of feel like its too late even though Im only 33. Its surprisingly damaging. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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