Poll of the Day > Can we agree that Sex is weird?

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Or is that just me? Like overall Id say I like having sex, I think Ive got a reasonably healthy sex life.

But its kind of a strange thing at the same time. Maybe because its such a primal thing and we spend most of our time feeling that we are mostly in control of our thoughts and our urges

During sex though its like you just kinda let yourself become an animal again or whatever preceded us

Good. and weird.

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Mead posted...

its like you just kinda let yourself become an animal again or whatever preceded us

That's how I live my life in all regards. Most of my actions are most fueled by the Id

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EvilMegas posted...

That's how I live my life in all regards. Most of my actions are most fueled by the Id

wow thats very different compared to how I live and think, Im not sure I can even imagine it

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Sex is gloriously disgusting

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Mead posted...

wow thats very different compared to how I live and think, Im not sure I can even imagine it

It's just going with your gut for most things. I try not to overthink things because of anxiety.

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EvilMegas posted...

I try not to overthink

I understand that concept, but it is alien to me

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Mead posted...

But its kind of a strange thing at the same time.

Doesn't seem weird to me. It's part of our basis design. And for most people it's just a case of Tab A into Slot B, which makes perfect sense.

Some fetishes can definitely be weird, though.



Mead posted...

During sex though its like you just kinda let yourself become an animal again or whatever preceded us

Depends on how you're having sex, honestly.

But if we're just talking primal urges, you can throw things like breathing and hunger in there as well, because those are things where the reptile part of your brain comes crawling and screaming to the surface if you stop doing them.

And if we want to get a bit philosophical, you could probably throw things like anger or laughter in to the mix. And blind panic. And crippling grief. Maybe even yawning. Things where we basically lose control to aspects of behavior that existed before we were human.
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As someone who has, kind of awkwardly, written a few sex scenes in a couple of my stories, I can confirm it's kind of weird. There's varying levels of pleasure, desire, communication, etc., only so any ways two or three people can do an act together (assuming they're working together on it), it's messy, sometimes loud, and good gods does it pervert the meaning of so much else going on that isn't sex. It's something so wanted by so many people, regardless of experience at it, and yet society expects little to no talk of it as if it were an act of pure evil rather than something inappropriate for the general social setting (btw, the act in itself is not evil).

Like, yeah, holy shit it's weird. "Hey, we're having a nice time doing stuff and all, but let's take a couple hours out of our day to be as sloppy and all over one another as possible."

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I guess Im naturally very reluctant to give any control to the reptilian part of my mind. Im distrustful of it.

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ParanoidObsessive posted...

for most people it's just a case of Tab A into Slot B

There's a few more slots, if they can Imagineer it!

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There's also more than one tab...

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Entity13 posted...

There's also more than one tab...

( )

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sometimes things get shipped with the wrong parts and require alterations

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I just think it's funny tbh. Fun and funny

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In theory, I find it hilarious to make jokes and quips about it.
In practice, it's really weird and I don't like it.

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Mead posted...

I understand that concept, but it is alien to me

This is my response to the topic.

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KogaSteelfang posted...

This is my response to the topic.

Same and when anyone talks about sex and relationships outside of family. It's interesting observing human nature though.

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VioletMassacre posted...

have you ever had a good nights sleep?

What is that?

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I find it disgusting and even more disgusting is how pervasive it is in society, like everyone is obsessed with it and can't stop, its gross and I find it's a major mood killer. It also bothers me when people try to tell me about thier hookups, I had an ex who tried to tell me about all her sexual acts and it was major yikes, ended that quickly.

I also feel like relationships can't be pure anymore.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I also feel like relationships can't be pure anymore.

they can, you just gotta fully be honest in all things and find someone that accepts you and appreciates you for who you are, and if you can truly understand them and appreciate them in the same way then youve got something genuinely special.

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Cruddy_horse posted...

I find it disgusting and even more disgusting is how pervasive it is in society, like everyone is obsessed with it and can't stop, its gross and I find it's a major mood killer.

It does bother me how some folk are obsessed with it. Some can't even fathom that some people in this world don't put that much emphasis on it if any at all. Sure I've not tried it (can at any point) but I don't spend every waking moment thinking about it nor do I actually care what other choose to do providing it's legal.


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The idea of sex does weird me out. Like, I cant explain it, but the thought of it legitimately grosses me out.

Im probably just an abnormality though.

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If Im having a really good orgasm, Ill bite her for the duration.

Usually its the arms. Some, after they know this, willfully give me their forearm to bite. And yes, I have bit some titties.

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i think some of our social rituals around it are a bit weird, considering the act itself isn't really a big deal. i think more people would have healthy relationships to sex if it felt like there was any education past what little you get in school

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Kanatteru posted...

i think more people would have healthy relationships to sex if it felt like there was any education past what little you get in school

I got all the education you need right 'ere!

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far-queue that's like the third time you've joke-flirted with me, if you have something to say just say it

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Let's make impossible joke babies Kana bow-chicka-wow-wow

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Kanatteru posted...

i think some of our social rituals around it are a bit weird, considering the act itself isn't really a big deal. i think more people would have healthy relationships to sex if it felt like there was any education past what little you get in school

Hard disagree, this is entirely up to an individual. This is the reason I find it gross, how people are so casual about it.

Cruddy_horse posted...

Hard disagree, this is entirely up to an individual.

it's not really, the act of sex in itself is just something humans do and have always done. societies have created a bunch of rituals around it that make it seem like a big thing but it's just a thing you do that sometimes makes babies. and yeah everyone has their own baggage and hangups and bad previous experiences which complicates things, which is part of the point i was making. i can definitely understand considering it a formative experience though because that's kind of what our society presents it as. basically there's nothing wrong with wanting it or not wanting it either

Cruddy_horse posted...

This is the reason I find it gross, how people are so casual about it.

i guess i don't know what you mean by casual. you don't have to be into hookups or casual sex but they are not inherently gross or bad either. i think you should probably examine your relationship with sexuality (and that's not a dig, everyone should do that)

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What more education do you need outside of school, internet and porn save for actually having sex and learning with other people?

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wwinterj25 posted...

What more education do you need outside of school, internet and porn save for actually having sex and learning with other people?

the internet as a whole and porn are terrible ways to learn about sex

Its a big part of life for many, if not most, people. Yet very little is done to actually educated people about it.

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I dunno bout weird but its definitely nasty. Whether it's the good nasty or bad nasty depends on personal hygiene and how skilled you are. But I don't think it's being done right unless its nasty to some degree. As for me I can either take it or leave it. I've gone through years where I had tons of sex and others where I had zero. Right now I haven't done any in 2 years and it's like whatever. Given my pattern it's only a matter of time before I have lots again. It doesn't bother me because I don't put sex on a pedestal. It's not a big deal unless you trying to have a baby. People that idealize it either end up desperate or doomed to be disappointed.

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Mead posted...

the internet as a whole and porn are terrible ways to learn about sex

Its a big part of life for many, if not most, people. Yet very little is done to actually educated people about it.

Sounds like a contradiction to me. The internet can educate people and doesn't seem that much different than someone stood in a classroom telling you about it outside of you can specifically search for what you're curious about right away. What do you suppose is done to teach people about sex other than the options we already have?

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You shouldn't have to go to the internet for basic sex education. School either for that matter. Thats your parents job but many fail at the task. Then expect teachers or computers to raise their children for them.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

Thats your parents job but many fail at the task.

Sure if you're lucky enough to have both parents in your life. However what could they possibly tell kids what kids can't learn elsewhere?


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wwinterj25 posted...

Sure if you're lucky enough to have both parents in your life. However what could they possibly tell kids what kids can't learn elsewhere?

You are giving children way too much credit. Sure they can watch porn and stuff but are they actually taking in important information or only getting off. It should not shock you how many young people are utterly ignorant of basic contraception for example.

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wwinterj25 posted...

What do you suppose is done to teach people about sex other than the options we already have?

More education about the science of sexual experiences, attraction, psychological dynamics. What is taught in schools really doesnt come even close to helping people understand the nuances of sex, and a lot of people seem to tie their entire personality into knots over their frustrations with it.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

Thats your parents job

terrible outlook imo

most people are shitheads

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Mead posted...

terrible outlook imo

most people are shitheads

How is it terrible. Using your assertion there it would also be a waste of time having schools do it too since most teachers are terrible.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

How is it terrible. Using your assertion there it would also be a waste of time having schools do it too since most teachers are terrible.

teachers shouldnt decide the curriculum

a teacher at least has an education. all you have to do to be a parent is bump uglies.

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Mead posted...
teachers shouldnt decide the curriculum

You're not making any sense. Regardless of how good/bad the curriculum is it's the teachers job to enforce it. If your assertion is that most people are "shitheads" then obviously this includes said teachers and whoever in government is deciding the curriculum. A lot of these people are parents themselves. It seemed you disagreed with me only to be contrarian. I already said most parents are failures.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

You are giving children way too much credit. Sure they can watch porn and stuff but are they actually taking in important information or only getting off. It should not shock you how many young people are utterly ignorant of basic contraception for example.

Contraception was taught at school for me. Now that I didn't already know what a condom is based on porn. Still just because they know something doesn't mean they will put it into practice. I feel you're giving adults too much credit really considering the amount of folk that pop out kids that are not planned like confetti.

Mead posted...

More education about the science of sexual experiences, attraction, psychological dynamics.

So the internet can't do this? Youtube videos for example that are designed to educate.

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wwinterj25 posted...

Contraception was taught at school for me. Now that I didn't already know what a condom is based on porn. Still just because they know something doesn't mean they will put it into practice. I feel you're giving adults too much credit really considering the amount of folk that pop out kids that are not planned like confetti.

It's a chicken and egg thing right. The reason most people are bad parents with sex is because they themselves weren't educated properly on this stuff as children. I think it's the parents that should be targeted for education. Like programs for young couples. Expecting the internet or schools to raise children is absolving parents of their responsibility. Not saying schools shouldn't have sex ed but that should just be reinforcement for what children should already get. Not the main source.

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I was thinking the other day it would be weird if we met aliens who were cultured and intelligent but had a very animal like attitude towards sex, where they just fuck wherever and don't see it as shameful or private at all.

That said there are animals that will only fuck privately, I think one of the reasons we never bred zebras in captivity is they won't fuck in front of people.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

It's a chicken and egg thing right. The reason most people are bad parents with sex is because they themselves weren't educated properly on this stuff as children. I think it's the parents that should be targeted for education. Like programs for young couples.

I really doubt any adult would attend a further education class on sex when they will know all this already.

Expecting the internet or schools to raise children is absolving parents of their responsibility. Not saying schools shouldn't have sex ed but that should just be reinforcement for what children should already get. Not the main source.

Again this is all well and good if you have both parents in your life. Schools educate because not every kid has such a luxury of a great parent that will teach them about the birds of the bees.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

Mead posted...
teachers shouldnt decide the curriculum

You're not making any sense. Regardless of how good/bad the curriculum is it's the teachers job to enforce it. If your assertion is that most people are "shitheads" then obviously this includes said teachers and whoever in government is deciding the curriculum. A lot of these people are parents themselves. It seemed you disagreed with me only to be contrarian. I already said most parents are failures.

ew why are you talking like ben shapiro and making nonsense points

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wwinterj25 posted...

I really doubt any adult would attend a further education class on sex when they will know all this already.

most adults actually have a very juvenile understanding of sex

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Mead posted...

ew why are you talking like ben shapiro and making nonsense points

So no argument then. I'm not sure what you were even trying to argue in the first place. My initial statement was that most parents are failures. Then you came in telling me most people are shitheads while seeming to think that magically excluded teachers or people writing policy.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

I'm not sure what you were even trying to argue in the first place.

I wasnt trying to argue a point. I just made a statement and you got real weird about it.

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