Current Events > Calling out of work makes me feel like crap

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I do it like... once a year, but I still feel bad about it. What is wrong with me, CE?

Same for me. It's really just got to a point where I had to accept I'd feel guilty, even if calling in was the right choice.

My old boss was a swell lady and quelled my anxiety about it.

I only feel bad if it's a Friday or a day I know is going to be really busy. Otherwise I'm more than confident in either my team, or the slowness of the branch. Plus it helps to have a manager who encourages everyone to take their full time off.

Hey, if you need the time off then take it. The business will be just fine.

I worked some shit retail jobs, even as a manager, even with a legitimate reason I still hated it too.

Now it's simply call or text with "Taking a personal day" or "Taking a sick day" with no further questioned asked, no reason or excuse needed.

youre a corporate suck up thats why

If they actually cared about your well being they wouldnt make you feel guilty for calling in

I was tempted to take a day because I feel somewhat burnt out but I just shouldered on because I don't feel right just bailing on work if I'm not unable to show up.

you got tricked into thinking its your fault your coworkers are overworked

We hate society based around work while rich people go on excursions and the world

Kloe_Rinz posted...

you got tricked into thinking its your fault your coworkers are overworked

That ain't it. The workload around here is pretty fair.

I just hold myself to some personal responsibility if I don't want to go in and I have to weigh that.

Solid_Sonic posted...

I just hold myself to some personal responsibility

thats something you deluded to yourself. thats not a reality

I feel the same way, but gotta realize that its a bit of Stockholm syndrome.

I've feel a lot better about it since I've been managing other staff. I always try to make sure they don't feel guilty about being off and tell them to take the time they need, and am trying to follow my own advice a bit. If I'm too unwell to work, I'm too unwell.

Kloe_Rinz posted...

thats something you deluded to yourself. thats not a reality

What did I do to deserve being talked down to?

Being a sheeple.

Solid_Sonic posted...

What did I do to deserve being talked down to?

what is your opinion of someone who takes a mental health day on a busy friday?

Their lack of staffing is not your fault.

I used to feel bad too, this was before my mental health issues caused by a narcissistic manager. I am now under new management and worked through those issues around my mental health due to narcissistic abuse patterns and I confidently take a day or more when I need too. I learned through my recovery that work issues are not my issues, it is the jobs problem if they can't schedule with time included for people potentially being ill or taking a day here or there.

Kloe_Rinz posted...

what is your opinion of someone who takes a mental health day on a busy friday?

That's fine if they think their mental state would impede their productivity and usefulness. That is someone is at their limit and needs to stop for the best interests of everyone.

I'm just saying I don't really have that, I'm only feeling somewhat run down but I could still do my job capably and reasonably, just maybe not with the best spirits.

Really I think I'm just operating on less sleep than I'd like so this is mostly my own fault for trying to stretch out my nights to make the most of my personal time.

Same, even though my supervisor has given me no reason to believe that its a problem. Earlier this year I had a series of funerals and related troubles to attend, and I felt bad the whole time, like shed think Im faking it or something. I have no idea why. In a team meeting she even told us herself that theres nothing wrong with a mental health day.

Chicken posted...

If they actually cared about your well being they wouldnt make you feel guilty for calling in

This is the first job I've had that does care.

MabusIncarnate posted...

I worked some shit retail jobs, even as a manager, even with a legitimate reason I still hated it too.

Now it's simply call or text with "Taking a personal day" or "Taking a sick day" with no further questioned asked, no reason or excuse needed.

This is how things are for me now. Just still not shaking the old ways from my mind I guess.

AbstraktProfSC2 posted...

youre a corporate suck up thats why

lol that is definitely not it

Lonestar2000 posted...

Their lack of staffing is not your fault.

That's the thing. I no longer work somewhere where that's happens. In fact, I was basically hired to be the redundancy, on top of a properly staffed pharmacy.

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I'm sorry to hear that. Deliberate understaffing should be a crime and instead it's the norm among big business.

AloneIBreak posted...

Same, even though my supervisor has given me no reason to believe that its a problem. Earlier this year I had a series of funerals and related troubles to attend, and I felt bad the whole time, like shed think Im faking it or something. I have no idea why. In a team meeting she even told us herself that theres nothing wrong with a mental health day.

Yeah, my general anxiety is definitely a big factor. My current bosses have been nothing but supportive and trusting the entire time I've been here. Yet I still feel like I'm some fast food employee calling out for the 8th time this month when I'm 5 minutes late.

I used to care back then. Now not really anymore.

Solid_Sonic posted...

That's fine if they think their mental state would impede their productivity and usefulness

what if its not about "productivity and usefulness"?

Well why else would you go to work? I assume you're not just filling a seat but are there to do something.

If you feel you're out of sorts to a degree that you're going to suffer in your output (or obviously have something that would keep you from coming in, that should go without saying) then bail and come back when you're feeling more able.

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This basically. You're conditioned to think you're committing a great sin by taking time off for any reason in most workplaces

when i worked for other people i didn't mind calling in when it was a big corporation i worked for. before i had my own business i worked for a friend and haven't called in in at least 7-8 years but luckily i haven't gotten sick beyond like a minor head cold in that time and scheduled planned absences way in advance

I used to feel bad about it but my managers when I used worked at Disney of all places told me never to feel bad about calling out or taking time off.

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*Co-workers

Solid_Sonic posted...

Well why else would you go to work? I assume you're not just filling a seat but are there to do something.

If you feel you're out of sorts to a degree that you're going to suffer in your output (or obviously have something that would keep you from coming in, that should go without saying) then bail and come back when you're feeling more able.

So if they have anything else going on in their life that they need to take a day off for, but it doesnt impact their "productivity", what is your opinion on that?

Your a simp to a billion dollar company that doesn't give a shit about you. You are replaceable in the plantation you work at.
Remember that.

???

Like what? This topic was just discussing calling out of work on one's own volition, not having something else that called the person away.

Are you just saying no one should feel bad for taking a day off from work for no other reason than they have better things to be doing than slumming it at the office -- no overriding reason?

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I was just making sure you weren't confused as to what your relationship actually is with these people.

you were asking why you were being "talked down to", and all your posts smell of bootlickery
so far you haven't shed the stench

Solid_Sonic posted...

Well maybe because I actually enjoy working at a company. I can earn money without the pressure of having to make a lot of decisions about what is in my best interest for success. I don't think I'm cut out to be my own boss so I let someone else carry that weight and I just offer my talents and skills in a way that is beneficial to the organization.

most people just work to get paid and it isn't their responsibility to shoulder extra work because management is running a skeleton crew and cant handle someone taking a day off
nor should they be forced to feel guilty for taking a day off just because their coworkers will be busy because management purposely understaffed them

I had 3-4 weeks once where I was so stressed out that I had to call in almost every Friday.
It was a medication issue, but I was more worried that I would do something to lose me job while I was there than I was about calling in.

Kloe_Rinz posted...

most people just work to get paid and it isn't their responsibility to shoulder extra work because management is running a skeleton crew and cant handle someone taking a day off

I...agree? Nothing you said there was wrong.

I personally just want to take time off with the knowledge that I'm doing so in good faith is all, not because I think being at the office today would suck and it can eat shit because that's my mood. I would feel some guilt about that because I'm just skipping out because I only care about myself.

metallica846 posted...

We have been indoctrinated by management to feel bad about it. Nobody wants to make waves in this economy and possibly lose favor with the managers.

Its sad.

Nobody cares about the managers when you call out. It's just empathy for your coworkers.

Solid_Sonic posted...

I personally just want to take time off with the knowledge that I'm doing so in good faith is all, not because I think being at the office today would suck and it can eat shit because that's my mood. I would feel some guilt about that because I'm just skipping out because I only care about myself.

again, thats a mindset management pushes onto employees to get them to work more and complain less. its not a feeling normal people should have

I remember when I used to care when I was young. Now who gives a fuck. Your work wouldn't care if you died. They'd just put your job up and look for someone else to hire.

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Quit worrying about people that don't give a fuck about you.

neccis posted...

Quit worrying about people that don't give a fuck about you.

Sounds like all of you.

Solid_Sonic posted...

Sounds like all of you.

I don't give a fuck