Current Events > I think it's funny how every man does carpet bombing on dating apps

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Girls know it too, but every girl gets bombarded by messages too.

If you're unaware, carpet bombing is swiping right on everyone regardless of what app you're on, then messaging every single match you're attracted to.

It's just funny how every guy does it, even stereotypically hot guys. My gay friend tells me it's the case on Grindr too lol. It works though.
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Why wouldn't you do that? Its easy and effective

TheGreatGeno6 posted...

Why wouldn't you do that? Its easy and effective

It's what every guy does.
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pres_madagascar posted...

TheGreatGeno6 posted...

Why wouldn't you do that? Its easy and effective

It's what every guy does.

Because it's easy and effective

TheGreatGeno6 posted...

Why wouldn't you do that? Its easy and effective

I feel like weve pared down dating to a procedure.
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Solid Sonic posted...

TheGreatGeno6 posted...

Why wouldn't you do that? Its easy and effective

I feel like weve pared down dating to a procedure.

Because it is now. Meeting people in the real world is basically dead. Men do carpet bombing, and women do triage.

totalnerdken posted...

I've done that in the past for swiping only, but I won't bother msging every girl that swipes right on me. Feels like a waste of time. I just msg the ones with most common interest or hot (or hopefully, both).

I'm just average, so I have to be a bit more proactive, but I don't message every girl, just the ones I find attractive. But I always steer clear of the "country girls".
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Well yeah, if you're not one to typically get any attention from girls, you're damn right I'm gonna swipe right on (almost) anyone and immediately try to pursue any matches I find attractive. Shit doesn't happen that easy for some people.

And if I held back or was more picky, then I'd just be in the same position I was in before, except now I've got even more narrowed options.
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Dont the algorithms punish you for swiping right on everyone?

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A while back I saw some data sheet some guy did using tinder. He did 12k something right swipes, only ended up with 100 somryhing matches, of those matches only something like 20 had conversations with him, and only 5 met him. Something like that, lemme go track it down, it's hilarious.
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pkmnlord posted...

Well yeah, if you're not one to typically get any attention from girls, you're damn right I'm gonna swipe right on (almost) anyone and immediately try to pursue any matches I find attractive. Shit doesn't happen that easy for some people.

And if I held back or was more picky, then I'd just be in the same position I was in before, except now I've got even more narrowed options.

Same here lol
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vbty3 posted...

Dont the algorithms punish you for swiping right on everyone?

Not on tinder, Bumble, and POF
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Here it is lol


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My success rate on tinder went up dramatically once I started being brutal in my choices and stopped carpet bombing.

Go figure, tinder knows about carpet bombing and have programmed their algorithm to screw you if you're one of those guys.

Here's my tip:

1. Don't set any distance parameters. Make it 100miles even.
2. Swipe left on all the uber hotties. Seriously, if she's the partner of a law firm and looks like alexandria daddario, don't try and match with her. Same goes for most thots that are just look for instagram followers. They will never match with you, they play tinder for sport.
3. Match with girls you actually take the time to look through their photos and profile. Think to yourself, "would I actually bang/date this person, or am I just looking for a match for validation?" If it's the first, then match. If it's the second, don't match.

As this goes on, start paying attention to the distance of people's profiles. If they're like 50 miles away, it's almost certainly not going to be a mutual match. However, if they're like 2 miles away, you know they probably already matched you first. In that case, go to step 3 and seriously consider them. A strange anomaly is if they're 1500 miles away or something ridiculous - that is very likely already a match.

They say on tinder one match a day is a good average for men. I get around 5-10.
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pres_madagascar posted...

vbty3 posted...

Dont the algorithms punish you for swiping right on everyone?

Not on tinder, Bumble, and POF

Definitely not on OkCupid but I definitely they think do on tinder, even if that's just you being bottom of the pile of suitors.
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pinky0926 posted...

pres_madagascar posted...

vbty3 posted...

Dont the algorithms punish you for swiping right on everyone?

Not on tinder, Bumble, and POF

Definitely not on OkCupid but I definitely they think do on tinder, even if that's just you being bottom of the pile of suitors.

Admittedly, tinder dramatically limits your daily right swipes, I think it's like 15 or 20 per day unless you pay.

Bumble has no limit and won't stop you since women have the power on it so they want men on it interacting. POF is the anything goes wild west of dating apps.

Tinder is king and can afford to be different.
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pinky0926 posted...

My success rate on tinder went up dramatically once I started being brutal in my choices and stopped carpet bombing.

Go figure, tinder knows about carpet bombing and have programmed their algorithm to screw you if you're one of those guys.

Here's my tip:

1. Don't set any distance parameters. Make it 100miles even.
2. Swipe left on all the uber hotties. Seriously, if she's the partner of a law firm and looks like alexandria daddario, don't try and match with her. Same goes for most thots that are just look for instagram followers. They will never match with you, they play tinder for sport.
3. Match with girls you actually take the time to look through their photos and profile. Think to yourself, "would I actually bang/date this person, or am I just looking for a match for validation?" If it's the first, then match. If it's the second, don't match.

As this goes on, start paying attention to the distance of people's profiles. If they're like 50 miles away, it's almost certainly not going to be a mutual match. However, if they're like 2 miles away, you know they probably already matched you first. In that case, go to step 3 and seriously consider them. A strange anomaly is if they're 1500 miles away or something ridiculous - that is very likely already a match.

They say on tinder one match a day is a good average for men. I get around 5-10.

Tinder is also the one I have the least luck with. I do fine on pof and Bumble, but not tinder. I get like 3 matches a week on tinder, on a good week. But I didn't know those tips, particularly your third point. Pof I swim in matches, Bumble I get like 5ish a week, but Bumble is different.
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It might be as simple as this: People who get more matches go up on a hidden numerical scale of attractiveness. This scale is used to better match people together of the same "hotness" number.

So if you carpet bomb and statistically get a very low percentage of matches, you're going to be very unhot. If you are selective and get a higher percentage of matches, tinder may pick up on that and present you to hotter people in response.
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pinky0926 posted...

It might be as simple as this: People who get more matches go up on a hidden numerical scale of attractiveness. This scale is used to better match people together of the same "hotness" number.

So if you carpet bomb and statistically get a very low percentage of matches, you're going to be very unhot. If you are selective and get a higher percentage of matches, tinder may pick up on that and present you to hotter people in response.

That makes a lot of sense. It's kind of wild that tinder uses stuff like that, but none of the others do.

Though, I live in the 5th most populous city in America, there's 5 million something people in the city and surrounding suburbs. I wonder if that gets factored in in any way.
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Also, what sucks about online dating here is fucking Scottsdale. That place fucks up everything and is notorious. Basically a shit load of attractive, rich people.

To put it into perspective, imagine if you lived in London, and a significant chunk of the pool consisted of people from soho/west end. Or if you lived in LA and a huge chunk consisted of Beverly hills people.
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I honestly think it's harder in less populous towns, where people don't even really use tinder or if they do they're looking to immediately settle down and have 3 kids.

Remember that there's gonna be a shitload of people like you and me on tinder too, not everyone is a 6 figure salary lawyer who crossfits in their free time. And critically, you probably don't want to match with someone like that if you're also not like that.

It's funny but honestly the best way to be successful at tinder is to actually be genuine and earnest in what you're looking for, instead of trying to maximise your matches for the sake of validation.
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