Board 8 > Would you ever consider dating a woman who already had a kid with another man?

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I already have and came extremely close to marrying her and adopting her daughter. I still would.
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The results here are going to be very age-dependent. If you're 25, the answer is probably "ick, no." If you're 35, you're going to be severely limiting your options, though. As in, like, every woman at that age is either married, has kids, or there's a good reason why neither has happened. So yeah, as much as I don't like the idea, there's not much of a choice.

I saved it for marriage so she would've had to convince me she could handle an abstinent relationship. Other than that, I don't think it would've been an issue. I actually slightly pursued such a girl once.
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I'm learning that I don't really like other peoples' kids, so no. My mind might change after I have kids.
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In that case it's a package deal. So, only if I like the kid. (This isn't too hard. I tend to like kids. But having a bratty/obnoxious kid would be a dealbreaker.)
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Gatarix posted...

So, only if I like the kid. (This isn't too hard. I tend to like kids. But having a bratty/obnoxious kid would be a dealbreaker.)

this is also true
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Considering the fact that I too have a kid, I would have to expect them to do the same.
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Only if he was dead.
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I don't like kids.
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I would date a hot 45 year old who had a hot 20 year old daughter.
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No at the moment, but only because I'm not ready to have a kid in my life. I'd probably prefer just jumping into having an older kid than going through all the baby stuff to be honest. Even though my current partner doesn't want kids anytime soon I'm still kinda terrified for the time when she's ready.
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I don't like women.
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Uh why not. It's just a date, not marriage.
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I already did.
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foolm0r0n posted...

Uh why not. It's just a date, not marriage.

as if an hour of your time isn't super valuable?

#fakerich
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azuarc posted...

The results here are going to be very age-dependent. If you're 25, the answer is probably "ick, no." If you're 35, you're going to be severely limiting your options, though. As in, like, every woman at that age is either married, has kids, or there's a good reason why neither has happened. So yeah, as much as I don't like the idea, there's not much of a choice.

This. I'm 27 and at this point, I'd rather not date someone with a kid. But 10 years from now, I probably wouldn't care.
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Prior to having my own, probably not. no way I was ready for a kid
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Zachnorn posted...

I'm 27 and at this point, I'd rather not date someone with a kid. But 10 years from now, I probably wouldn't care.

Same here. Although my previous girlfriend had a kid, and I was willing to become a step-father at some point. But since that ended, I realized I really would not have been ready for that at all, I'm not convinced I'll ever even want kids of my own now.
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SmartMuffin posted...

as if an hour of your time isn't super valuable?

#fakerich

It's really not but I give the perception that it is. That's what being rich is about. You're a sucker being overworked by actual rich people who don't do s***.
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Date, probably. Get serious with - I doubt it. I don't want to be a parental figure right now, and even then, I can't see myself being "a-ok" with raising another dude's kid.
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In response to the age thing:

I was 26 when I fell madly in love with a single mother. Her daughter was two. I wouldn't call it an ideal situation, but I fell in love with her too. Eventually, the girl decided the best thing for her daughter was to stay with her father.

I'm not sure I was "ready" to raise a child at that point, but it was in no way a deterrent for me. It ended up being a positive in the time we were together.
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thundersheep posted...

I'd probably prefer just jumping into having an older kid than going through all the baby stuff to be honest.

This too. Babies are bleh. If I could just skip to having a 4-year-old or something, that would be way better.
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^ 4yos aren't that much better. Can be annoying as f*** w/ the 110 questions about everything.
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I find that kind of thing cute

probably less so if I was living with one, but eh
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There is a girl I know where we had a brief thing going on but we broke it off but remained friends because it was never serious. A few years later she had a kid with some guy who abbondoned them. She's basically the only one I'd really consider for the question and even then I'd be unsure about it.
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I have several times
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No way. But if I had a kid as well I probably would because I'm no hypocrite. But as of now no way
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I have before but don't think I would again.
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Vanessa had 4 kids and was helping to raise 2 of her husbands. So yeah I would. I just want to know how involved the father is.
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