Poll of the Day > Are any of your parents' getting on you for not having children?

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Obvs. this is directed at the people who don't have children. Anybody's parents really getting on you for that?
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No. My dad's silent on the issue and my mom thinks it'd be a bad idea. I don't have the patience to tolerate screaming babies. I'd end up in a padded cell.
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My ma calls me once a week to ask me, "Zeus, why don't you find a nice Jewish girl to settle down with and start a family?" and I usually answer, "Because we're not Jewish?"

idk, *maybe* if I was currently married the question would come up. However, what I'm more likely to get when in any serious relationship is "So when are you going to get married?" to which I answer, "The next time I get black-out drunk in Vegas."
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Zeus posted...

"Zeus, why don't you find a nice Jewish girl to settle down with and start a family?" and I usually answer, "Because we're not Jewish?"

lol whut

Nah, they think i'm a 46 year old virgin.
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Kinda but they got four other kids to bother.
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My mom used to, but she's since given up.
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Not from my family. I imagine my family is just surprised that I'm actually married, and moreso that it's to a woman.

On my wife's family, her sister sister (older by >2 years) gets annoying comments from their grandparents occasionally, asking her when she'll get married and have kids. We've gotten a few kids questions from them, but it's rare.

KazGT6 posted...

Are any of your parents' getting on you for not having children?

Nope. I don't have anything todo with my mum and my dad just says stuff like "one day you'll have your own kids". It's nice he holds out hope for that still even though it's futile.

On a side note: My dad knows I've never had sex. I mean I've never outright said it to him but then again I don't really need to.
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Does anybody have a parent (or parents) that care about what race/ethnicity/culture you date/marry/impregnate?
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No, I got siblings, go annoy them instead. They are never gonna get a kid from me.
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they were a little until my brother had 3 of them.
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The world is overpopulated, having children is irresponsible.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

Does anybody have a parent (or parents) that care about what race/ethnicity/culture you date/marry/impregnate?

According to my dad I would be silly to have kids with anyone who isn't white and British. He's dated mixed race girls before himself so it's a bit hypocritical of him. According to him though that's ok as he didn't have kids with them. I've made it clear I'd have kids/date with any race girl if I'm at that point in the relationship with them. Not that that'll ever happen of course.
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people here convincing themselves they won't have kids is cause they can't have sex to begin with can't fool arv
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ArvTheGreat posted...

people here convincing themselves they won't have kids is cause they can't have sex to begin with can't fool arv

So you're saying I secretly get lots of sex and will have many children? Looks like my secret is out.
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No but I can tell they think it's weird I'm not engaged or in a serious relationship
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eh i don't like babies. if i ever found a woman i really connected with and we were married i would consider adoption. but not really feeling raising a brand new baby. rather get a used one.
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No.
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dioxxys posted...

Zeus posted...

"Zeus, why don't you find a nice Jewish girl to settle down with and start a family?" and I usually answer, "Because we're not Jewish?"

lol whut

he tried making a joke
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ssj4supervegeta wrote:

eh i don't like babies. if i ever found a woman i really connected with and we were married i would consider adoption. but not really feeling raising a brand new baby. rather get a used one.

A very good and prudent idea ^.^
especially because the depreciation is much less.
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My father is dead, and even when he was alive he never really cared about the whole idea of "Someone must carry on the family name!" sort of crap (which is probably a good thing, because it technically ends with me).

My mother has probably gotten used to the idea since I've spent the last 20 years or more telling her she was never going to have any grandkids by me. But she already has two via my older half-brother, so she probably got in all of the grandmom-ing she needed anyway.

Also, my girlfriend isn't on speaking terms with her dad (and hasn't been for most of her life), so his opinions don't really factor in. I feel like her mom is kind of conflicted about it, though, because on one hand her daughter didn't make the same mistakes she did and have kids early in life without a stable father figure, but then on some level she'd probably welcome the idea of having at least one grandkid.



wwinterj25 posted...

According to my dad I would be silly to have kids with anyone who isn't white and British. He's dated mixed race girls before himself so it's a bit hypocritical of him.

Or, conversely, there could always be a bit of "LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES!" involved there. After all, if you've dated mixed race girls and every one of those relationships ended poorly in some way, you'd be in a fairly qualified position to discourage other people from going through the same problems.

Then again, you'd probably have faced more societal issues or family stigma for doing it 20+ years ago than you would today, so it's entirely possible the experiences wouldn't necessarily be analogous anyway.


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TheCyborgNinja posted...

Does anybody have a parent (or parents) that care about what race/ethnicity/culture you date/marry/impregnate?

I come from a black family
They said it was alright but everytime I talked about a white girl I just fealt so awkward

Condoritos posted...

The world is overpopulated, having children is irresponsible.

What is with this reoccurring argument? I'm sure no one has kids for the sake of population >_>
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wwinterj25 posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

Does anybody have a parent (or parents) that care about what race/ethnicity/culture you date/marry/impregnate?

According to my dad I would be silly to have kids with anyone who isn't white and British. He's dated mixed race girls before himself so it's a bit hypocritical of him. According to him though that's ok as he didn't have kids with them. I've made it clear I'd have kids/date with any race girl if I'm at that point in the relationship with them. Not that that'll ever happen of course.

Your dad and my mom sound like they'd be BFFs. Before I met my wife, I was getting kind of close to a half-Asian girl and my mom awkwardly fumbled through saying "can't you find a nice British girl?" As her luck would have it, my wife's family is mostly British in origin... She never influenced me though. I'd just follow my heart and she'd accept it. Things just coincidentally went her way.

What's ironic is that my dad's parents are super German, like vault experiment control group German according to the DNA results, so she didn't take her own advice (and I look much more like their side, to put salt in the wound lol). Whenever she gets pissed at either of my dad or I and loses whatever debate there was, the phrase "blinking Germans..." makes its appearance to cap things off...
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Nope. They already have 4 grandkids and I still have 31 days until my wedding.
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KazGT6 posted...

Obvs. this is directed at the people who don't have children. Anybody's parents really getting on you for that?

My dad got on my sister, and then she had a kid.
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It's never come up, actually.

Then again, I've never really dated much either and I'm surprised they've never talked to me about that. I do have a girlfriend now, but we've only been dating about a month and a half so I'm not even thinking about having kids.

I don't know how she feels, but I don't even think I want kids. I'd probably be a great dad but with the world in the state that it's in, it just doesn't seem like a good idea (mainly for any new kids' sake).
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