Current Events > Man shames woman on first date after she sent his car plate number to a friend

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http://www.msn.com/en-au/lifestyle/smart-living/how-this-man-shamed-a-woman-on-their-first-date-proves-exactly-why-she-was-right/ar-AApkgXb?li=AA2FZ8I&ocid=ientp

According to a screenshot shared on Twitter, one male user posted, "I had a chick go behind my car and text my plate number to her homegirl before she got in the car with me."

This simple action took minimal time and shouldn't have offended her date. It was simply added security that the woman needed to feel comfortable on the date or give peace of mind to her loved one. However, this man didn't see it that way — most likely because he's never had to worry about the same things women have in these situations.

When another Twitter user asked if he ended up enjoying the date, he wrote, "I left her a-- there and went home lol. Not taking no woman nowhere that's doin all that."

Not only was there nothing funny about his response, but his reaction only proves why women feel the need to do this: there are guys out there who think this is a joke and don't even comprehend why a woman needs to always be concerned about her safety. Many tweeted in support of the woman, who was simply looking out for herself and her safety.

Thoughts CE?
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Umm that woman is a little paranoid but I wouldn't have freaked out. As someone who has experience doing potentially dangerous work, I don't blame people for taking extra precautions to cover their own asses.
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If you aren't going to throw her body into a swamp why would you be mad about this
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if the woman was racist, i'd understand his frustration

People like this guy are usually the ones who go: "Well, should have known better and taken better precautions!"

Then the moment a woman does take precautions, they go all "Man, how ridiculous! How dare they not instantly give me the benefit of the doubt and trust me!"
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Yea, I would have left her as well. That's a big red flag. You don't have any idea what kind of information she could be looking for. Time for that guy to change his plates.
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Kajagogo posted...

Yea, I would have left her as well. That's a big red flag. You don't have any idea what kind of information she could be looking for. Time for that guy to change his plates.

What can you get with a plate number?
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"don't mind me just taking a picture of your car in case you're a rapist"

way to set the tone for the date
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iosifsvoboda posted...

If you aren't going to throw her body into a swamp why would you be mad about this

He was likely wanting to throw her body in a swamp by the end of the night.
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What a douchebag. :/ That girl is way better off.

Also it's more like "man shames himself."
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Darmik posted...

Not only was there nothing funny about his response, but his reaction only proves why women feel the need to do this: there are guys out there who think this is a joke and don't even comprehend why a woman needs to always be concerned about her safety. Many tweeted in support of the woman, who was simply looking out for herself and her safety.

Yeah I'd say that guy did a good job at reinforcing the idea that women should do this

Yeah. I'd have ditched her too.

"Just gonna take a quick pic of your license plate in case you rape and murder me tonight."

Get the fuck outta here.

Also, the article title is misleading. Does nothing to "prove exactly why she is right".
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Esrac posted...

Also, the article title is misleading. Does nothing to "prove exactly why she is right".

The point is he doesn't get why she's doing it and takes it like a personal insult.
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Big red flag for batshit crazy.

I'd of canceled as well. I wouldn't have insulted or left her stranded but there will be crazy attached to that one for sure.

Being a woman is the hardest job in the world.

Don't you know how oppressed women are?
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Darmik posted...

The point is he doesn't get why she's doing it and takes it like a personal insult.

Nothing in the article shows him taking it as an insult. Even he did it doesn't explain why she was right to do it.

iosifsvoboda posted...

If you aren't going to throw her body into a swamp why would you be mad about this

Who was mad? Her actions show that she is overly paranoid and has trust issues. The guy was smart enough to not waste his time with someone like that.
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misogynyFAQs in full effect

iosifsvoboda posted...

If you aren't going to throw her body into a swamp why would you be mad about this

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CE really showing its ignorance tonight ITT, bravo.
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JE19426 posted...

Darmik posted...

The point is he doesn't get why she's doing it and takes it like a personal insult.

Nothing in the article shows him taking it as an insult. Even he did it doesn't explain why she was right to do it.

It's just a precaution. We want to be safe. Y'all always telling us to be careful, but when we do, it's a problem. Why is that?

Yea there are plenty of ways of being safe without telling your date you think he a creep.

The latter quote is from the guy.
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I'd understand and won't hold it against her.
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I can see both sides of the issue here.


If a guy was about to be with a woman , and said please sign this contract to say that you consented, and then said He just wanted to protect himself from a false rape charge people would think he was a d-bag.

Maybe drive yourself until you trust the person you are going to hang with.
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cjsdowg posted...

If a guy was about to be with a woman , and said please sign this contract to say that you consented, and then said He just wanted to protect himself from a false rape charge people would think he was a d-bag.

Heh I don't think that would work very well considering you could force someone to sign it under duress.

cjsdowg posted...

Maybe drive yourself until you trust the person you are going to hang with.

Isn't that even more extreme than the scenario in the article?
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Why even go on a date with a guy you're not sure about? Like you're actually going to go behind a dude's car while he's watching you, snap a shot, and then text it to someone who've you likely already informed of what's going on. I'd be offended too. Good on the dude for ditching her.
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Darmik posted...

The latter quote is from the guy.

No it's not. Boogiebankss made the original post. That quote is from another person.

Darmik posted...

Isn't that even more extreme than the scenario in the article?

No.

Darmik posted...

Isn't that even more extreme than the scenario in the article?

It think that would be better . On the first dates with some girl, we meet at places.
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StucklnMyPants posted...

Why even go on a date with a guy you're not sure about?

Not sure about what? That he's a good guy? That's kinda the point of going on a date with someone.

That he's gonna rape or murder you? I hate to tell you this but a lot of guys can manipulate people into vulnerable scenarios and there's no way to know who that is going to be. Taking precautions like this and letting people know exactly where you are is always a safe thing to do no matter who it is.
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Darmik posted...

StucklnMyPants posted...

Why even go on a date with a guy you're not sure about?

Not sure about what? That he's a good guy? That's kinda the point of going on a date with someone.

That he's gonna rape or murder you? I hate to tell you this but a lot of guys can manipulate people into vulnerable scenarios and there's no way to know who that is going to be. Taking precautions like this and letting people know exactly where you are is always a safe thing to do no matter who it is.

This is true. I mean I personally know a girl that got ditched on the side of the road because the guy pulled over and told her to give him head or get out

JE19426 posted...

Darmik posted...

The latter quote is from the guy.

No it's not. Boogiebankss made the original post. That quote is from another person.

Darmik posted...

Isn't that even more extreme than the scenario in the article?

No.

My bad. I thought he was replying to people.

But in the license plate scenario they're in the same car together and he's likely gonna get laid. They're also in the same vehicle together.

In the latter scenario she's either going right home after the date or she needs to awkwardly state that she won't get in the car with him if it's offered. Also means she'll refuse to get picked up.

I consider both okay. I don't see why one would be but the other one isn't. Both can cause offense but they're both precautions.
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Darmik posted...

But in the license plate scenario they're in the same car together and he's likely gonna get laid. They're also in the same vehicle together.

In the latter scenario she's either going right home after the date or she needs to awkwardly state that she won't get in the car with him if it's offered. Also means she'll refuse to get picked up.

Where I live it's pretty normal to meet your date at the wherever the date is at, rather than pick them up.

They both took precautions.

She made sure somebody would know the license plate in case something happened to her.

He made sure not to get with someone who's paranoid.

We've all learned something here today.
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I don't blame her for checking out the guy, since I do that with chicks before we go out also. I'll always find their Facebook page and then do a Google search to make sure they aren't criminals or lying about something they told me.

With that said, I never tell the girls about this, and that's the issue here. This girl was way too blatant about it. Doing something like that in a person's face is insulting, and it just shows horrendous social skills on a date.
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JE19426 posted...

Darmik posted...

But in the license plate scenario they're in the same car together and he's likely gonna get laid. They're also in the same vehicle together.

In the latter scenario she's either going right home after the date or she needs to awkwardly state that she won't get in the car with him if it's offered. Also means she'll refuse to get picked up.

Where I live it's pretty normal to meet your date at the wherever the date is at, rather than pick them up.

Which is fine. But it still changes from person to person and it still leads to that "You mean you think I'm a rapist?!" offended mentality. People taking precautions on a first date like this is smart.
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How much of a white knight do you have to think the guy did anything wrong here? There's nothing wrong with the girl taking precautions, but do it discreetly. It's idiotic to think you can basically tell someone to their face that you think they might rape or murder you and not expect them to react negatively to it.

Also that article is the most biased trash I've read all week
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so how did he exactly shame her? by not going on a date after her action? by answering a question someone else asked on twitter?

if you don't see her actions and lack of tact as setting a bad tone for a date, then you really are socially clueless
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Sativa_Rose posted...

Umm that woman is a little paranoid but I wouldn't have freaked out. As someone who has experience doing potentially dangerous work, I don't blame people for taking extra precautions to cover their own asses.

Basically this. Especially if it was an internet hook up or a blind date. I mean, it probably came off a bit weird, but I can totally see why she would do it.

Senta posted...

People like this guy are usually the ones who go: "Well, should have known better and taken better precautions!"

Then the moment a woman does take precautions, they go all "Man, how ridiculous! How dare they not instantly give me the benefit of the doubt and trust me!"

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YourDrunkFather posted...

How much of a white knight do you have to think the guy did anything wrong here? There's nothing wrong with the girl taking precautions, but do it discreetly. It's idiotic to think you can basically tell someone to their face that you think they might rape or murder you and not expect them to react negatively to it.

Also that article is the most biased trash I've read all week

So it's fine if she took a picture and he didn't notice?

Xeno14 posted...

so how did he exactly shame her? by not going on a date after her action? by answering a question someone else asked on twitter?

if you don't see her actions and lack of tact as setting a bad tone for a date, then you really are socially clueless

It's referring to the tweet.

No idea how it went down though. Is it rude if she told him what she was doing or is it rude if she tried to be sneaky about it? Or is it something that she shouldn't have done period?
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YourDrunkFather posted...

How much of a white knight do you have to think the guy did anything wrong here? There's nothing wrong with the girl taking precautions, but do it discreetly. It's idiotic to think you can basically tell someone to their face that you think they might rape or murder you and not expect them to react negatively to it.

Also that article is the most biased trash I've read all week

Literally sitting here advocating it's okay to leave a girl stranded on her own because she was letting a friend know how to find her, just in case.

Fuck all of you people.
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she sounds like a loony. He was right to shame her.
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Darmik posted...

Which is fine. But it still changes from person to person and it still leads to that "You mean you think I'm a rapist?!" offended mentality. People taking precautions on a first date like this is smart.

No it's doesn't. You tell you other person you wish to meet them at wherever the date is because you prefer to drive.

Edit: Assuming they asked.

Leanaunfurled posted...

Literally sitting here advocating it's okay to leave a girl stranded on her own because she was letting a friend know how to find her, just in case.

Fuck all of you people.

She isn't stranded.

I dont see the issue with what she did.

hell if i buy something on craigslist i have them meet me somewhere in public and i tell people where im going
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I wouldn't use Uber if they didn't send all of their details to my phone and account and it wasn't significantly monitored. Surely I'm not the only one.

I don't consider this that different.
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The issue is she should have checked up on him on his Facebook, his Instagram, his Twitter or whatever the fuck.

But instead, like a nutcase, she takes a pic of his plate. If that's the very first thing my date did I wouldn't go for the date either. Like seriously I've dated actual crazies who didn't try something that blatant and rude.

That said leaving her stranded was kinda dickish.
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JE19426 posted...

Darmik posted...

Which is fine. But it still changes from person to person and it still leads to that "You mean you think I'm a rapist?!" offended mentality. People taking precautions on a first date like this is smart.

No it's doesn't. You tell you other person you wish to meet them at wherever the date is because you prefer to drive.

Just seems weird that apparently they can only take precautions if they lie about them being precautions. Even then they aren't guaranteed to avoid offending people.
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What's with this stranded talk? He said this happened before she got in his car. So it's not like he took her somewhere and then left her. He let her stay exactly where she already was.
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Darmik posted...

Just seems weird that apparently they can only take precautions if they lie about them being precautions.

I think telling your date you think they could be a murderer and/or rapist is likely to ruin the date even if it's true. Maybe you disagree and that's fine.

Darmik posted...

YourDrunkFather posted...

How much of a white knight do you have to think the guy did anything wrong here? There's nothing wrong with the girl taking precautions, but do it discreetly. It's idiotic to think you can basically tell someone to their face that you think they might rape or murder you and not expect them to react negatively to it.

Also that article is the most biased trash I've read all week

So it's fine if she took a picture and he didn't notice?

That would have been a smarter way to go about it ya. Or just check the dudes social media like everyone else does.
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JE19426 posted...

Darmik posted...

Just seems weird that apparently they can only take precautions if they lie about them being precautions.

I think telling your date you think they could be a murderer and/or rapist is likely to ruin the date even if it's true. Maybe you disagree and that's fine.

If you're using Tinder and you get offended that a girl is taking precautions about meeting a guy she doesn't know then you shouldn't be on Tinder.
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