Current Events > does it make me a bad person to go after a girl thats in a relationship?

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like i would never do anything with her while shes still with her boyfriend but i want to be with her and want to ask her out badly, the way she acts its like she wants out but needs motivation >_>
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Is the guy she's with abusive?

If no, then yes. Yes it does.
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When she's single it's you vs the world but in your scenario it's you vs one
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littlebro07 posted...

Yes it does.

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Nah dude. As long as you respect her intentions and recuse yourself from the situation if she tells you no and to back off.

Sometimes you gotta try cause the heart wants what the heart wants.
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No but your not a good person trying to get a woman already in a relationship unless the relationship is abusive.
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putting out the offer is fine.

giving her "motivation" is not.

as long as i let it known i want her?
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you sound like you wanna cuck

so yea youre a bad person

I am in the process of developing a 5th crush on a girl that told me she had a boyfriend. It sucks, but you have to deal with it. The signs might say she wants out, but that could easily be you thinking she wants out to make yourself feel better.
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It's generally taken that if you "steal her" from someone, presumably by being a better match for her, then that provides evidence that she'd do the same to you if she met someone else while you two were dating. After all, you'll virtually never score the woman who wouldn't do that for obvious reasons.

But this is just an assumption. Human beings are complex and multidimensional. It's not fair to lump people on single behavior. But, really, if that happens to you too don't act surprised. Because you did have some evidence, even if it wasn't perfect evidence.

"good person" is subjective. It would cause some degree of pain from either or a single party that is counter balanced by presumably what you think would be a good match between you two.

Realistically however, I'm putting my money on you not really knowing how much of a match you are and just being infatuated with someone. You'd just be expending mental/emotional energy on a lost cause. But hey. Don't let me stop you. Some people hit double zero sometimes.
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she said she was about to break up with him recently because hes too jealous and controlling but of course is still with him.
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Hmmmm she's talking to other guys while she is still with him? Gtfo
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Sounds like she is not worth having if she is claiming she will break up with him for legit reasons and then doesn't. She is stringing you along like a sucker and looking to monkey branch.
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Awesome posted...

she said she was about to break up with him recently because hes too jealous and controlling but of course is still with him.

If she's thinking out loud to you willy-nilly about this and doesn't follow through, what makes you think she wouldn't do the same with another guy when you were together? How does the prospect of her assessing you with another guy down the road sound?

And if you're just trying to hit that, why expend triple the effort compared to someone who is single?
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yeah you guys are right
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So I met this doctor...
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Not unless she's married, living with him, or has a kid with him. Oh and if the guy's a friend of yours but that goes without saying.

Girls don't leave relationships unless they have another guy lined up, how do you think that happens?
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If they cheat for you, they'll cheat on you.

ImPickleRick posted...

If they cheat for you, they'll cheat on you.

This is 100% true.
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jk!
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