Poll of the Day > My relationship of just over a year is likely coming to an end. AMA.

(+) Yeah! (+)

By "likely" I mean that I'm probably best to rip the bandaid off now rather than wait any longer.
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What happened
Sounds like the time to stick through it.
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He/she hot?
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Zangulus posted...

Why?

pedro45 posted...

What happened
Sounds like the time to stick through it.

Preface: Long Distance Relationship.

Basically, the girlfriend has had doubts as to whether this relationship will remain viable in the future, and has had those doubts for a few months now. This has coincided with her running with a new circle of friends who she hangs with pretty much all the time. There weren't any problems until then, and I travel a lot so I've seen her rather often as LDRs go. Mind, she is 1100 miles away, so it's not a trivial distance, but I've spent at least half the year physically with her.

There's no sticking through it, she's pretty much made up her mind that something about being in a relationship is preventing her from doing the things she wants to do. Take that as you will, I sure haven't at face value.
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Smarkil posted...

He/she hot?

She's cute.
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I don't think I've ever heard of a long-distance relationship working. I'm surprised people expect any different.

How'd you make the distance work?
My current relationship is partially long distance. It's a few hours of travel only, so we see each other most weekends. I think it's like 120 miles one way for us.
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pedro45 posted...

How'd you make the distance work?

We stayed in contact pretty closely. We're always working on hobby things so we would show the other what we'd done that day. For her it was art. For me, it's music, dance, car stuff, and DIY around the house projects. Distance doesn't bother me, I don't really notice it that much. She seemed to be handling it relatively well up until she made these new friends of hers.
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Does she have any hot friends
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Do you believe in Bigfoot?
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Kislevic posted...

Does she have any hot friends

Yeah.

Stupid Pirate Guy posted...

Do you believe in Bigfoot?

I've met him.
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YonicBoom posted...

Stupid Pirate Guy posted...

Do you believe in Bigfoot?

I've met him.

Pics.
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YonicBoom posted...

Preface: Long Distance Relationship.

say no more. here's some advice from someone who attempted two different long distance relationships when i was much younger: DON'T DO IT. they're the worst; they actively create distrust, plus at your age you should be experiencing someone close, not far away, ok?

do yourself a favor, end it and make each other much happier people, ok?
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I'm sorry for your hurt & pain, and that it isn't working for you.
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ZiggiStardust posted...

YonicBoom posted...

Preface: Long Distance Relationship.

say no more. here's some advice from someone who attempted two different long distance relationships when i was much younger: DON'T DO IT. they're the worst; they actively create distrust

How so?
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YonicBoom posted...

Preface: Long Distance Relationship.

Basically, the girlfriend has had doubts as to whether this relationship will remain viable in the future, and has had those doubts for a few months now. This has coincided with her running with a new circle of friends who she hangs with pretty much all the time. There weren't any problems until then, and I travel a lot so I've seen her rather often as LDRs go. Mind, she is 1100 miles away, so it's not a trivial distance, but I've spent at least half the year physically with her.

There's no sticking through it, she's pretty much made up her mind that something about being in a relationship is preventing her from doing the things she wants to do. Take that as you will, I sure haven't at face value.

If you have to break it off, do it before it could potentially get bad.

I had one going for 6 years, only for her to cease all contact with me for 2 months, before returning to tell me that she got raped by a guy, impregnated, and married to him.

You can do better than her, if you want to date locally. Far better.

The only successful relationship I've had was long distance based, you just have to commit early on and make a plan
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JixHedgehog posted...

The only successful relationship I've had was long distance based, you just have to commit early on and make a plan

Are you still in it, or did something like what happened to me eventually happen to yours?

TheWorstPoster posted...

If you have to break it off, do it before it could potentially get bad.

I had one going for 6 years, only for her to cease all contact with me for 2 months, before returning to tell me that she got raped by a guy, impregnated, and married to him.

You can do better than her, if you want to date locally. Far better.

Shut the fuck up, icoyar. That's not even fucking funny. Every fucking time I think you can't sink any lower.
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ZiggiStardust posted...

Shut the fuck up, icoyar. That's not even fucking funny. Every fucking time I think you can't sink any lower.

I am not making any jokes. I am not being funny (intentionally). LDRs rarely work out, and the longer they go on, the worse the eventual end of it will be.

ZiggiStardust posted...

they actively create distrust

lol Not even.

LDRs aren't for people with trust issues or are sexually-focused, beside that they work well.
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Sounds like you are making a wise decision. Who we spend time with influences our wants, needs, and thoughts on subject no matter the age. If this new group is mostly single people who like to go out, flirt, and possibly hook up. They could be negatively influence her even if indirectly. Odds are very high in time she would cheat or leave you. Cut the cord sooner than later
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Long distance can work fine. I did it for like 6 years. The girlfriend was in college, I was in another country at the time, moving together was not practical but we were madly in love with each other and a perfect match. We just traveled a lot, spent a lot of time on the computer, video conference, etc. It was a bit harder at the time since videochat wasn't great (when we started we even had 56k modems, lol. Had to fix that fast).

Near the end it got tricky with the wedding and visa issues so there was an entire year we only saw each other once, but we pulled through.

Been married for about a decade now, no issues.

Zangulus posted...

pedro45 posted...

How'd you make the distance work?
My current relationship is partially long distance. It's a few hours of travel only, so we see each other most weekends. I think it's like 120 miles one way for us.

A lot of time on the phone and on the computer talking was about all we really did.

Yeah, it comes down to neither of you being a flighty whore, honestly. And you need a definite end in sight. Ive been with the same person for 12 years and we spent 10 months of that early on doing the long distance thing.
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TheWorstPoster posted...

I had one going for 6 years, only for her to cease all contact with me for 2 months, before returning to tell me that she got raped by a guy, impregnated, and married to him.

6 years you say? So not only were you cheating on her with the girl from school, but also with Claudia.

TheWorstPoster posted...

Except that I would never do a one night stand or a hookup. I myself would like a meaningful relationship

So noble and faithful.
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