Current Events > Well, my grandmother is probably going to pass away by the end of the week.

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She's been in rehab and they just moved her to the Alzheimer's unit. My brother visited her last night and I guess she said to him that she "wants to be with him" and she "wants to kiss him again because it's been so long" ....

She's eating like a bird. She's hardly talking. My brother broke down last night and my uncle who has been taking care of her obviously is getting hit hard.

My mother believes she is waiting for someone to tell her it is okay to go.

God, I'm not ready for this.
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Sucks, but it sounds like she led a full life and she's ready.
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It is. My parents are going to see her today. I am at work right now. I just fear that when I get home, they are going to tell me she is gone. They refuse to call me at work since my job is face-to-face all day for 12 hours. They know it would be a bad idea.

But when my grandfather on the other side of the family died, that's what happened. I got picked up from work, my father was silent for a few minutes..... awkwardly silent, then said "He's gone." ....

My family has so much terrible shit in our history. Hemochromatosis got my grandfather and I too, have it. Alzheimer's for my grandmother. My grandfather got hit by cancer.

I just hope if I keep working on making sure my mind is healthy..... keeping up with progressing myself mentally, I could ward off those mind-altering diseases down the line. At the rate of my family, I'll probably live till 60-70. My grandmother is 84, but let's be honest. I don't have two x chromosomes. I'm almost destined to die earlier.

Good thing is, I don't drink (which is terrible for hemochromatosis) and I don't smoke.... so I hope to get a lot out of this life.
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One of my grandmothers died from altzheimers. Terrible way to go, my condolenses.
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I read that people who speak more than one language are half as likely to develop alzheimers

So you better get to learning, tc
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Colorahdo posted...

I read that people who speak more than one language are half as likely to develop alzheimers

So you better get to learning, tc

Honestly, I am learning Japanese right now. I have a friend learning Mandarin who is willing to help me learn that too.

To be honest, I want to try to master a few Asian languages. I think it could really help finding a job in the city, since there are sections that deal with the Asian communities. Of course, most of those communities speak Canto, so I'll have to focus on a class for that upon finishing Japanese.
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I don't really have anything to contribute or wise to say but you sincerely have my sympathy, empathy, and condolences. You've always been nice when I've interacted with you and I've dealt with Alzheimer's as it runs in my family and it's extremely hard to experience a loved one going through so I'm sorry you and your family are going through that. Losing a loved one is already hard enough even if it happens in a "good" way, but it's even worse when it's preceded by something like Alzheimer's.
I'd say I hope she does better but I know there's not really any coming back from Alzheimer's, I'd say I hope she makes it longer than you're expecting but honestly the quality of life you're experiencing is so fucked when Alzheimer's sets in I think the best thing I can wish for you is that she's comfortable, in as little pain as possible, and passes peacefully when it happens.
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Gamer99z posted...

I don't really have anything to contribute or wise to say but you sincerely have my sympathy, empathy, and condolences. You've always been nice when I've interacted with you and I've dealt with Alzheimer's as it runs in my family and it's extremely hard to experience a loved one going through so I'm sorry you and your family are going through that. Losing a loved one is already hard enough even if it happens in a "good" way, but it's even worse when it's preceded by something like Alzheimer's.
I'd say I hope she does better but I know there's not really any coming back from Alzheimer's, I'd say I hope she makes it longer than you're expecting but honestly the quality of life you're experiencing is so fucked when Alzheimer's sets in I think the best thing I can wish for you is that she's comfortable, in as little pain as possible, and passes peacefully when it happens.

Thank you for your kind words.

Yeah, it sucks. Again, I am at work and thinking about it kind of has me on the verge of crying, but I am keeping face.

She's such a sweetie too. You know, I am happy to say that when she was of a less-severe state, I was able to get her to draw a little stick figure of herself. That picture is going to be with me as long as I live.

When I went there on Thanksgiving, she seemed peaceful enough. Laying there, watching Golf. Just nearly endlessly staring at the TV. My brother however, brought his baby son and it got her to light up. They had him lay down with her and she for the first time in a while, gave a huge smile. She loves that baby to death and even in this state, she still loves him and smiles seeing him. All we can do is have my brother keep bringing the baby to see her.
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condolences TC. losing someone really sucks

already lost my parents in this lifetime.
Dad due to a stroke in brain
mom due to COPD and a heart attack (was sick for a long time).
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Zodd3224 posted...

One of my grandmothers died from altzheimers. Terrible way to go, my condolenses.

Thank you. And I am sorry for your loss too. I mean, it is life, but man. The emotional attachment with it all.... and always around the holidays for us. My grandfather died just two days before Thanksgiving.

kingdrake2 posted...

condolences TC. losing someone really sucks

already lost my parents in this lifetime.
Dad due to a stroke in brain
mom due to COPD and a heart attack (was sick for a long time).

Damn. My parents are still young. (In their early/mid 50s) I still have a lot of time with them as long as nothing just..... spawns out of nowhere, which is possible. Losing them.... I mean, it's going to kill me. I almost lost my father years back. He was having a leg problem and got it examined. The doctor called personally and said "come to my office and see me right away."

Apparently, my father's had (well, has) Factor V and developed a huge blood clot that was about to break off in his leg. The doctor said that 10 more hours and it could have went straight to the heart and killed him.

I thankfully don't have Factor V, but my youngest brother got hit with like... everything. Factor V, Asthma, Hemochromatosis.... and God knows what else he has.
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Its an awful disease. For my grandma, watching her go from fun loving woman to unable to get out of her chair, change herself, or do anything but repeat the same sounds over and over again, it was painful.
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Watching someone close to you losing themselves like that sucks.

When i lost my granda, i was kinda too young and never notice, but i am afraid when it is my remaining granparents turn or even my parents.

Anyway, my condolences.
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I'm very sorry. :(

Thanks everyone. That's life. The thing with me is, I am sort of fine right now, but I know I'll be unable to control myself soon.

My childhood friend's dad passed away about two months ago. I haven't seen him in ages. I went to the wake and even after all those years, I knelled before him and couldn't stop crying.

It's worse with someone family. I always saw him like a father figure long ago too. Very sweet man.

But you know. You can't help but lose it. As the saying goes... you don't know what you got till it's gone. I believe that saying goes to people too.
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