Current Events > I have never told any girl that I have feelings for them, but I am going to now.

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Well, not now as is right now, but I am going to tell the girl I like that I like her. The feelings are just too strong, and she is just too great of a girl to not tell her that I have feelings for. I told myself that I should never do this with any girl, but for this girl, I am going to make an exception.

CEgals, how would you react if some guy that you knew just randomly told you that he has feelings for you?!?

EDIT: We watch movies together (in a group, though) a lot, and usually talk for a bit every day. We are FAR from being strangers to each other.
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Go for it.
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Irc, you haven't actually hung out with this girl or anything though right? Rather than say you have feelings for her, just ask her to hang... she'll get the fact that you like her by just asking

TheDarkCircle posted...

Irc, you haven't actually hung out with this girl or anything though right? Rather than say you have feelings for her, just ask her to hang... she'll get the fact that you like her by just asking

I have hung out with her quite a few times. Also, I have asked her to hang out a few times, and I even gave her a b-day card with 20 bucks. Maybe she already knows, but I think I want to tell her.

I have been emotionally down because of this crush and the fact that I have to watch the days pass without her knowing. This could be selfish on my part, but I think I need to do it.
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If you haven't hung out with this girl one on one, DO NOT DO THIS.

If you HAVE gone on actual dates with this women in the past (ONE ON ONE) STILL DO NOT SAY anything like "I LIKE YOU"

BEST course of action is to not even mention your feelings, ask her to a movie or to dinner or something. If she says "like a date" just play it off and say "sure."
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Just saying "I like you" out of the blue is a stupid way to go about things past like 8th grade.

If you ask someone out it is implied that you are interested in them, and rejection in those cases is much less severe. I liked my wife for a few months before I worked up the nerve to ask her out, and if I just said "I like you" with it would have put her in an awkward place.

And someone doesn't necessarily have to like you to be willing to give dating a shot so it keeps things a little more manageable than simply saying "I like you", where if it isn't mutual you're left feeling stupid.
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Dustin1280 posted...

If you haven't hung out with this girl one on one, DO NOT DO THIS.

If you HAVE gone on actual dates with this women in the past (ONE ON ONE) STILL DO NOT SAY anything like "I LIKE YOU"

BEST course of action is to not even mention your feelings, ask her to a movie or to dinner or something. If she says "like a date" just play it off and say "sure."

lol, don't listen to this guy. I told a female friend I liked her and she became my first girlfriend.
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Pepys Monster posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

If you haven't hung out with this girl one on one, DO NOT DO THIS.

If you HAVE gone on actual dates with this women in the past (ONE ON ONE) STILL DO NOT SAY anything like "I LIKE YOU"

BEST course of action is to not even mention your feelings, ask her to a movie or to dinner or something. If she says "like a date" just play it off and say "sure."

lol, don't listen to this guy. I told a female friend I liked her and she became my first girlfriend.

Pepys is a known incel women hater, if there is anyone you shouldn't be listening to, it's him
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PiOverlord posted...

TheDarkCircle posted...

Irc, you haven't actually hung out with this girl or anything though right? Rather than say you have feelings for her, just ask her to hang... she'll get the fact that you like her by just asking

I have hung out with her quite a few times. Also, I have asked her to hang out a few times, and I even gave her a b-day card with 20 bucks. Maybe she already knows, but I think I want to tell her.

I have been emotionally down because of this crush and the fact that I have to watch the days pass without her knowing. This could be selfish on my part, but I think I need to do it.

Yeah I wouldn't say it's selfish, but she definitely knows you like her.

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

I know her, and she knows me, why can't that be enough?!?
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Dustin1280 posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

If you haven't hung out with this girl one on one, DO NOT DO THIS.

If you HAVE gone on actual dates with this women in the past (ONE ON ONE) STILL DO NOT SAY anything like "I LIKE YOU"

BEST course of action is to not even mention your feelings, ask her to a movie or to dinner or something. If she says "like a date" just play it off and say "sure."

lol, don't listen to this guy. I told a female friend I liked her and she became my first girlfriend.

Pepys is a known incel women hater, if there is anyone you shouldn't be listening to, it's him

I don't hate women, except for one of my fake ass friends. I'm friends with a lot of very nice (and hot) women.
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PiOverlord posted...

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

I know her, and she knows me, why can't that be enough?!?

No it's not enough..

Serious question.

Have you gone on a one on one date with her? Either to dinner, movie, or some other activity?
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Dustin1280 posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

I know her, and she knows me, why can't that be enough?!?

No it's not enough..

Serious question.

Have you gone on a one on one date with her? Either to dinner, movie, or some other activity?

Nah, and I can't really do that...because she has a boyfriend.
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PiOverlord posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

I know her, and she knows me, why can't that be enough?!?

No it's not enough..

Serious question.

Have you gone on a one on one date with her? Either to dinner, movie, or some other activity?

Nah, and I can't really do that...because she has a boyfriend.

Then don't tell her you like her! WTF?
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PiOverlord posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

I know her, and she knows me, why can't that be enough?!?

No it's not enough..

Serious question.

Have you gone on a one on one date with her? Either to dinner, movie, or some other activity?

Nah, and I can't really do that...because she has a boyfriend.

Then you REALLY shouldn't admit your feelings... I guarantee it will just make it awkward and you might even lose her as a friend.

It might suck to keep them bottled up, but if you let her know what you are thinking, it will not end well for either of you.
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Lol yeah don't even ask her out in that case. Real life isn't like tv. She isn't going to go "oh you're the one I should really be with" and break up with her boyfriend.
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This boyfriend is a bum though.

Tbh, I feel eventually she will leave my life, I only have 3 months to do this before my 2nd year of College ends. She will move out, and I will still be in the dorms. If I lose her as a friend, then it just makes the inevitable happen sooner and I can move on earlier.
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PiOverlord posted...

This boyfriend is a bum though.

Tbh, I feel eventually she will leave my life, I only have 3 months to do this before my 2nd year of College ends. She will move out, and I will still be in the dorms. If I lose her as a friend, then it just makes the inevitable happen sooner and I can move on earlier.

Alright, but you have been warned.

It's just going to make things awkward between you two.
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PiOverlord posted...

This boyfriend is a bum though.

It doesn't matter what you think of him. She obviously likes him if he's her boyfriend.
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Awkward is my middle name.

I can handle it.
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PiOverlord posted...

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

So don't go along with it.
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Pepys Monster posted...

PiOverlord posted...

This boyfriend is a bum though.

It doesn't matter what you think of him. She obviously likes him if he's her boyfriend.

I don't really think she is fully invested in him. It sounds like a relationship she is wanting to get out of, but at the same time, the boy is a little clingy (which she outright said she hates), and she doesn't know if she wants to be single.
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dave_is_slick posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I hate this new age stuff of having to play stupid for a few months before you can go ahead and tell a girl you like her.

So don't go along with it.

I don't want to.

I can't be the only one that thinks I don't sound crazy right now. Telling her I like her is not something terrible, right?!? CE, please be on my side here.
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If a shorty hasn't shown really obvious signs within a week or two of talking to you, it's not happening.
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DoctorVader posted...

If a shorty hasn't shown really obvious signs within a week or two of talking to you, it's not happening.

I just want her to know that I like her, I know the feelings are not mutual.
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Honestly it sounds like you are deadset on doing this regardless and I cannot overstate how bad of an idea this is.

You might as well go for broke though.

Ask her if she wants to see a movie or grab some dinner @ <insert place here> (pick one, don't give her an option)

When she says she has a boyfriend. Play it off and say so, wanna <insert activity> anyway?

EDIT:

Wait you know she doesn't hold those feelings for you? Then I guarantee she already knows you like her. Telling her will just bring what she already knows forward and make it awkward. Even more reason NOT to do this...
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TC, this is like when Obi-Wan told Anakin "Don't try it."
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Dustin1280 posted...

Honestly it sounds like you are deadset on doing this regardless and I cannot overstate how bad of an idea this is.

You might as well go for broke though.

Ask her if she wants to see a movie or grab some dinner @ <insert place here> (pick one, don't give her an option)

When she says she has a boyfriend. Play it off and say so, wanna <insert activity> anyway?

EDIT:

Wait you know she doesn't hold those feelings for you? Then I guarantee she already knows you like her. Telling her will just bring what she already knows forward and make it awkward. Even more reason NOT to do this...

If she actually appreciates him at all and she doesn't feel the same everything should just stay normal unless he acts weird about it. I've had friendships where Id tell them I wanted more but at the same time Id respect that they didn't and it just stayed mildly flirty cause I didn't act jaded over it. 2 responsible adults can form many of relationships. It doesn't have to be all or nothing all the time
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There is this thing that girls do (guys do to, though not as often).

If you have shown interest in this girl, they usually already are full aware you like them (not ALWAYS, but most of the time). But as long as it is not brought up in conversation, they can pretend they are unaware and keep a working relationship with you.

As soon as you "admit your feelings," they can no longer play it off w/o it being completely awkward. Usually it results in disaster and that person distancing themselves from you.

@Lost_All_Senses

Well I can't argue with that, but usually such a conversation does not work out well. Pi at least needs to go into it knowing full well that he is risking even the friendship. As long as he is mentally prepared for the worst outcome, I guess it's okay...
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Also, knowing she knew made me feel better cause it didn't feel like I was a coward that just wasn't trying. However some people can't take rejection in healthy ways like that
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Dustin1280 posted...

There is this thing that girls do (guys do to, though not as often).

If you have shown interest in this girl, they usually already are full aware you like them (not ALWAYS, but most of the time). But as long as it is not brought up in conversation, they can pretend they are unaware and keep a working relationship with you.

As soon as you "admit your feelings," they can no longer play it off w/o it being completely awkward. Usually it results in disaster and that person distancing themselves from you.

@Lost_All_Senses

Well I can't argue with that, but usually such a conversation does not work out well. Pi at least needs to go into know he is risking even the friendship. As long as he is mentally prepared for the worst outcome, I guess it's okay...

That wouldn't work with me. I don't know why, but I'm very good at picking up on lies so to me it would feel like they don't value our friendship. Like they need to put up a front.
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TC is going to do this regardless, so just be mentally prepared and if it works out for the better, hurrah!

EDIT:
For the record TC, it's nothing against you as a person, I have just seen this situation play out poorly oh so many times...
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It'll finally give me the motivation to cut her out of my life if it goes badly.

It's not a total loss whatever way it goes.
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Alright, good luck then sir, hopefully it all works out for the best!
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Dustin1280 posted...

There is this thing that girls do (guys do to, though not as often).

If you have shown interest in this girl, they usually already are full aware you like them (not ALWAYS, but most of the time). But as long as it is not brought up in conversation, they can pretend they are unaware and keep a working relationship with you.

As soon as you "admit your feelings," they can no longer play it off w/o it being completely awkward. Usually it results in disaster and that person distancing themselves from you.

@Lost_All_Senses

Well I can't argue with that, but usually such a conversation does not work out well. Pi at least needs to go into it knowing full well that he is risking even the friendship. As long as he is mentally prepared for the worst outcome, I guess it's okay...

I guess. I will admit I have a lot of subtleties in the way I communicate with people that might make something work for me that doesn't for others. It's hard to give a definite way to go about it without knowing exactly how their relationship is.
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dave_is_slick posted...

Dustin1280 posted...

There is this thing that girls do (guys do to, though not as often).

If you have shown interest in this girl, they usually already are full aware you like them (not ALWAYS, but most of the time). But as long as it is not brought up in conversation, they can pretend they are unaware and keep a working relationship with you.

As soon as you "admit your feelings," they can no longer play it off w/o it being completely awkward. Usually it results in disaster and that person distancing themselves from you.

@Lost_All_Senses

Well I can't argue with that, but usually such a conversation does not work out well. Pi at least needs to go into know he is risking even the friendship. As long as he is mentally prepared for the worst outcome, I guess it's okay...

That wouldn't work with me. I don't know why, but I'm very good at picking up on lies so to me it would feel like they don't value our friendship. Like they need to put up a front.

You very well could be misinterpretating tho. If you don't feel entitled to her than her rejecting you shouldn't change any of your feelings towards her
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Okay, I didn't tell her today as it was Superbowl Sunday and I never got the chance.

As soon as it is just me and her, it will happen. Nervous just thinking about it, and I am questioning myself, but I gotta do it. I have no idea what her reaction will be, but oh well. Life sucks, then you pi.
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PiOverlord posted...

Okay, I didn't tell her today as it was Superbowl Sunday and I never got the chance.

As soon as it is just me and her, it will happen. Nervous just thinking about it, and I am questioning myself, but I gotta do it. I have no idea what her reaction will be, but oh well. Life sucks, then you pi.

Her reaction will probably be, "you mean SO much to me. I really care and appreciate you as a friend. Thank you for telling me."

Then she'll go suck her bfs dick

I hope it works out for you tho

TheDarkCircle posted...

PiOverlord posted...

Okay, I didn't tell her today as it was Superbowl Sunday and I never got the chance.

As soon as it is just me and her, it will happen. Nervous just thinking about it, and I am questioning myself, but I gotta do it. I have no idea what her reaction will be, but oh well. Life sucks, then you pi.

Her reaction will probably be, "you mean SO much to me. I really care and appreciate you as a friend. Thank you for telling me."

Then she'll go suck her bfs dick

I hope it works out for you tho

Yup. Lol.

Actually, I don't think she will be as enthusiastic about me telling her as you put it, but she will be friendly to me, but of course, that is just her character.

I try my best to avoid the thought of her doing sexual things with other guys though.
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Shoot, I had my first chance, and I was so nervous. I was going to tell her a few minutes in, but then this one girl I know pops in and decides to ruin my opportunity as the girl I was going to tell left eventually.
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PiOverlord posted...

I was going to tell her a few minutes in, but then this one girl I know pops in and decides to ruin my opportunity as the girl I was going to tell left eventually.

maybe you should go for the other girl instead
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Makio posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I was going to tell her a few minutes in, but then this one girl I know pops in and decides to ruin my opportunity as the girl I was going to tell left eventually.

maybe you should go for the other girl instead

Nah. That girl is kind of mean. I don't need that in my life.
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PiOverlord posted...

Makio posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I was going to tell her a few minutes in, but then this one girl I know pops in and decides to ruin my opportunity as the girl I was going to tell left eventually.

maybe you should go for the other girl instead

Nah. That girl is kind of mean. I don't need that in my life.

oh yeah if she's mean then that's not good
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