Current Events > Im pudgy, balding, 32 years old and has yet to be in a relationship.

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It really sucks when youre not good looking and you dont know how to make women laugh and/or pick up women.

Really pisses me off tbh. Good thing i aint never been suicidal.
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make a change to your life then
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MrK3V posted...

make a change to your life then

Yeah, thats what my friend kept telling me. But im already at my 30s. I already gave up. Its fucking pointless already.

Im still doing mt workouts coz i hate to see myself become a disgusting fat fuck
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30 is young as fuck my man.
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Iirc, you don't look bad at all
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MrK3V posted...

30 is young as fuck my man.

32. And no, its aint young AF. Late 20s, now thats still kinda young.

And im oblivious towards women. I dont know what to say to them. Its either i try to make them laugh and fail or not talk to them at all.

Except to women that i know.
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So you decided to save women from that uncomfortable feeling from you flirting with them? That's kind of you.

I can share vegy with u
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TheGrindery posted...

So you decided to save women from that uncomfortable feeling from you flirting with them? That's kind of you.

I just gave up. I reached that point where i told myself "why bother?"
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you shouldn't treat women as an alien species and think knowledge of their strange customs is needed to get closer to them.

you like what you like and you try to find women who share similar interests. look for a friend / companion that just happens to have a vagina. that's all it is (to get started at least).
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time to hang up the dignity, become a truck driver and marry a lot lizard.
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dolomedes posted...

view women as people and you won't have such issues

Well i dont have problem with women that i know or arent attracted to. I can talk to them just fine.

Its just with women that im into tbh. The lack of practise talking to such women has never prepared me.
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dolomedes posted...

JxOxNxIxCxS posted...

I just gave up. I reached that point where i told myself "why bother?"

from the sounds of it, you never bothered to begin with.

TBH, i did. A couple of times.

But of all those tries, not once did i even had a tiny hope of succeeding. It fucking broke me tbh.
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Btw whe im talking about "women im attracted to", i wasnt talking about just hot women.

I aint shallow hal.
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Lower your standards. Maybe you are aiming too high, with your statement about being fine talking to women you aren't into as much. If you are an average looking guy, stop thinking you are getting the hot girl you are into. If you legit want to not be alone, lower your standards and start dating a girl you can talk to and have stuff in common with, and come to a realization that you might have to settle on a decent or average looking girl that you can see yourself with long term.
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See, my standards aint exactly high. One of the reasons i gave up at this point in my life is that i dont have anything to show for to them(sorry if i didn state this earlier)
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You can control the pudgy part. My advice to anyone who can't get a date is to just find ways to interact with more females but only on a friend level. It'll build your confidence and girls know other girls, so you'll end up casting a wider net and meet somebody that takes an interest. The trick is just not to pursue but to be known.

Here's the most inspirational TRUE story I've seen so far: my buddy's boss was a chubby, nerdy guy that worked retail. He got really sick and lost a bunch of weight. When he got better, he had a new positive outlook on life and decided to make his health a bigger priority. He got into shape and quit retail to become an underwear model. Sounds like BS, but it's not. Yeah, some hardships had to motivate him to get the life he wanted, but everybody has a different one. Find it and let it power you to change.
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I don't think most people here understand how hopeless it feels to be in your 30's and never having a relationship. It's ridiculous how bad it feels.
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

Here's the most inspirational TRUE story I've seen so far: my buddy's boss was a chubby, nerdy guy that worked retail. He got really sick and lost a bunch of weight. When he got better, he had a new positive outlook on life and decided to make his health a bigger priority. He got into shape and quit retail to become an underwear model. Sounds like BS, but it's not. Yeah, some hardships had to motivate him to get the life he wanted, but everybody has a different one. Find it and let it power you to change.

Is that the dude on the news who grew out a beard?
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I don't think most people here understand how hopeless it feels to be in your 30's and never having a relationship. It's ridiculous how bad it feels.

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TheCyborgNinja posted...

You can control the pudgy part. My advice to anyone who can't get a date is to just find ways to interact with more females but only on a friend level. It'll build your confidence and girls know other girls, so you'll end up casting a wider net and meet somebody that takes an interest. The trick is just not to pursue but to be known.

Here's the most inspirational TRUE story I've seen so far: my buddy's boss was a chubby, nerdy guy that worked retail. He got really sick and lost a bunch of weight. When he got better, he had a new positive outlook on life and decided to make his health a bigger priority. He got into shape and quit retail to become an underwear model. Sounds like BS, but it's not. Yeah, some hardships had to motivate him to get the life he wanted, but everybody has a different one. Find it and let it power you to change.

Respect.
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Check out r/redpill...you may find what you've been looking for on that site
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My advice:

- Shave your head every day
- Do those workouts that you were skiing last year
- Make some guy friends
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

Here's the most inspirational TRUE story I've seen so far: my buddy's boss was a chubby, nerdy guy that worked retail. He got really sick and lost a bunch of weight. When he got better, he had a new positive outlook on life and decided to make his health a bigger priority. He got into shape and quit retail to become an underwear model. Sounds like BS, but it's not. Yeah, some hardships had to motivate him to get the life he wanted, but everybody has a different one. Find it and let it power you to change.

Even though you didn't post his pics or anything, I still feel compelled to say:

Awesome pics. Great size. Look thick. Solid. Tight. Keep us all posted on your continued progress with any new progress pics or vid clips. Show us what you got man. Wanna see how freakin' huge, solid, thick and tight you can get. Thanks for the motivation.
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TC all you need to do is get really sick and the weight will come off by itself. Then when you get better you will have a positive outlook on life and you can make your health a priority. You can get into shape and become an underwear model. It sounds like BS but you can do it.
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pojr posted...

My advice:

- Shave your head every day
- Do those workouts that you were skiing last year
- Make some guy friends

Im still working out. I dont plan on stopping because its the only thing that keeps my somewhat happy. And netflix.
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DifferentialEquation posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

Here's the most inspirational TRUE story I've seen so far: my buddy's boss was a chubby, nerdy guy that worked retail. He got really sick and lost a bunch of weight. When he got better, he had a new positive outlook on life and decided to make his health a bigger priority. He got into shape and quit retail to become an underwear model. Sounds like BS, but it's not. Yeah, some hardships had to motivate him to get the life he wanted, but everybody has a different one. Find it and let it power you to change.

Even though you didn't post his pics or anything, I still feel compelled to say:

Awesome pics. Great size. Look thick. Solid. Tight. Keep us all posted on your continued progress with any new progress pics or vid clips. Show us what you got man. Wanna see how freakin' huge, solid, thick and tight you can get. Thanks for the motivation.

It's not about me, but cool, be Comic Book Guy... I'm sure that's a popular way to live.

I don't remember the guy's name and this happened like 12 years ago
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

It's not about me, but cool, be Comic Book Guy... I'm sure that's a popular way to live.

Huh? I was posting that because it's a popular meme response that's used when people post impressive progress pictures from their working out.
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DifferentialEquation posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

It's not about me, but cool, be Comic Book Guy... I'm sure that's a popular way to live.

Huh? I was posting that because it's a popular meme response that's used when people post impressive progress pictures from their working out.

Oh, my bad. Thought you were breaking balls. Carry on!
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Im 27 and my love life is as follows

- a girl or two had a crush on me in Elementary and middle school

- literally zero girls liked me in HS. Got told on a daily basis how ugly I am and some outright told me to kill myself

- when a girl finally liked me it was an over dramatic emo girl who I barely knew and was telling me disturbing shit she wanted to do to me (drinking my blood etc)

- that made me scared of people because when I told her to leave me alone in the nicest way I could she had a complete tantrum and that basically being one of my first experiences with romance made me scared of dating

- I gave up and accepted I was dying alone in my mid to late teens

- when I was 21 a girl showed interest in me. I knew she was kinda weird and eh looking but I was desperate. Went on one date, realised I didnt like her, my first ever kiss sucked. She was confessing her love to me and planning her future with me after one fucking date, it was creepy. Literally telling me she cant wait to be a mom and Im the one after one date.

- I got my first kiss out of the way and then I relaxed a bit. Started playing guitar, being more active etc

- at 23 another girl showed interest. Went out with her for 10 months, worst mistake of my life, I was used for money, emotionally abused and on one occasion physically abused.

- at 24 I went out with one girl 3 times and ended up with a stalker when I said I wasnt interested. Literally multiple messages and missed phone calls

- Im now 27 and havent dated since but my shitty experiences made me realise how much I liked being single. If I meet someone tomorrow, in 10 years or whatever then cool but I dont base my life around relationships. In the best shape of my life, enjoy my hobbies and working so whatever.