Current Events > Yay/Nay: Spanking other people's children? cos my niece just drew on my walls

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and I am wanting to do something if they wont.

sister and her family is staying with me right now and her 2 year old daughter drew on my wall with her makeup pencils. wtf is her problem, all the other nephew's and nieces in the family don't do this drawing on walls shit. neither did me or any of my siblings I thought that was just a tv meme.

does she keep doing it cos they aren't scolding her or disciplining her properly for doing it, I know my sister has mentioned the drawing on the walls issue for some time now.

In that scenario, where its your house and they're misbehaving, yeah, I would totally understand that. If my nieces/nephews did that at my home I'd be fine disciplining them, and if my kids did that at someone else's home, I'd be fine with someone else disciplining them.
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Dude... Don't hit other people's kids.

Or kids in general tbh, but w/e.
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Probably not a good look even if you are her blood uncle. If her mom wont physically discipline her then I dont think shed be ok with you doing it
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Nothing a child does should ever warrant you hitting them.
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You dont put your hands on other peoples kids. If it bothers you and your sister wont do anything about it let her know her kid isnt welcome in your home if they are going to draw on the walls. I know if you dared spank my kid I would drill you in the face and youd never see your niece again.

I have two kids under two. I have some advice.

First, spanking someone else's kid is a big red line for most people. Don't do it.

If things are left within reach of children this age, they will play with them. Since these people are guests in your home, you can establish rules, especially when your property is being damaged. If they do not follow these rules, there are steps that you can take and still keep the peace.

My mother-in-law recently moved in with us (FML). She leaves her stuff everywhere. I asked nicely for her to keep better track of her stuff, but she ignored that. So now, if I catch the little ones with her stuff, if it can hurt them or destroy my property, I either hide it or throw it away. If it cannot hurt them or damage anything, I let the kids have their way with it. This way, I don't lose anything, cannot be blamed, and she learns a lesson.
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don't spank kids, period
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I don't think a two-year-old would even know why the hell they are being spanked
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I wouldn't do it. Wanna spank your kids, that's on you.

Someone else's kids? Heck no. Just report what happened to the parents and go from there.
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just tell them theyve been a bad kid, works every time
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Lord_Wombat posted...

Dude... Don't hit other people's kids.

Or kids in general tbh, but w/e.

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spank their parents instead.
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Garioshi posted...

Nothing a child does should ever warrant you hitting them.

St0rmFury posted...

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i was about to post about The Slap, but you posted the parody version instead >_>
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Hitting children causes long term damage. Don't hit any children. Especially not your own.

Stop this uneducated violence. It doesn't help anyone. Tell the sister and set boundaries.
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don't spank.

I was given permission the day my nephews and nieces were born to spank them if they deserved it. brothers and brothers in law, sister and sisters in law gathered in the hospital to welcome a bundle of joy. the child's father says, if their children deserves a whooping then he granted permission for us. he goes on to say he rather have the spanking from us than others. (he further said a particular time that he rather have his kids spanked by us than his own parents).

so reflect on why do you spank.
I believe you shouldn't spank kids out of anger or impulse from fears. so nothing is productive using fear to control. depending on how theyre raised, the fear will come to a confrontation cause everyone has their breaking point. spanking is punishment thus, the kid need reason for it. i guess it goes: here's the rule. here's what you did to break this rule. you understood the actions lead to consequence. here's the reason why the rule in place again. here's your punishment.

now I didn't ever feel the need to use spanking immediately to correct actions of kids being kids yet. I go into drill sergeant mode and its enough to get a point across.

my nephews and nieces were told a bunch not to write on walls. my sister has like a crafts workshop every month with these lil rascals to put all their craves for writing out creatively. its cool cause their uncles and aunts also help them. one of my nieces godmother always there to support her godchildren whenever she visits from out of town. when theres a workshop, she tries to make it for them. this particular godmother doesnt like kids but she goes out of her way to see my nephews and nieces. she remarks often how good the kids are. you can see it in her eyes how proud she is to be part of their lives.

the crafts thing is nice. you should see how their minds work and they focus on art. they paint on short canvas and they make art of other things. we had them write on walls at times but didn't make a big deal out of it. if it happens, i tell the parents and let them know its not a big deal. we cleaned it off if it happens then make sure paper is available. for us, the wall writing isnt that big of a deal. for the most part, the kids around us are pretty good about not writing on the walls.
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The kid is 2 relax dude
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You bet your arse I would cut off all contact with a family if they hit my children.
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I wouldn't do it. I don't think spanking is straight up abuse like some people do but I still wouldn't do that to someone else's kid even if I were an uncle. Do something else to punish the kid (like taking away her makeup pencils) and then let the mother know.
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Funkydog posted...

You bet your arse I would cut off all contact with a family if they hit my children.

Yeah! Hit your own kids, leave some for me!
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my uncle by marriage whooped my ass for just riling the other kids up and getting them loud
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uhhh thats not "other peoples children" that family.... so its a moot point

skin her behind

and after reading it, they are staying with AND the parents are not doing anything, think the sibling needs a quick tap too...
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ssj-kenobi posted...

2 year old daughter drew on my wall with her makeup pencils

You should spank your sister tbh
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DevsBro posted...

ssj-kenobi posted...

2 year old daughter drew on my wall with her makeup pencils

You should spank your sister tbh

Advocated.
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did folk in miss that he said its his niece?
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BignutzisBack posted...

I don't think a two-year-old would even know why the hell they are being spanked

^Clearly not a father.
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zado19 posted...

did folk in miss that he said its his niece?

How does that change anything?

Regardless, you give a two year old paper to draw on and sit them infront of it. Not hit them ffs.
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Mister_Spyker posted...

BignutzisBack posted...

I don't think a two-year-old would even know why the hell they are being spanked

^Clearly not a father.

"Only child beaters would understand"-Mister_Spyker
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Tc what the fuck man...
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BignutzisBack posted...

Mister_Spyker posted...

BignutzisBack posted...

I don't think a two-year-old would even know why the hell they are being spanked

^Clearly not a father.

"Only child beaters would understand"-Mister_Spyker

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don't listen to these no spank cucks TC.

however don't spank kids not your own. never a good look and bad message to the kid.
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Sue the parents
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I say no. Better to have an adult conversation with the parent instead.
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Only spank your own children....and your wife
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Yell at her and establish not to do it. I've effectively raised other people's kids (as much as I can AKA they behave around me) and I actually don't hit them unless it's dire AKA they could get hurt doing it.

Raising my voice and telling them no usually works. Then again, I'm a big guy who's supposedly intimidating to adults (I've been told, not sure why though) so you may have to do something extra.

TL;DR, discipline them and spank if needed.
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No, you don't hit someone else's kids. You shouldn't hit any kids period.
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I wouldn't even spank my own kids. I don't see a problem with disciplining, though.
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Not without permission, otherwise find other forms of punishment. Ive never once heard of a parent being affronted when told "yeah, your kid's been confined to this area for being a prick"....usually its met with "well next time smack the little shit if you have to" or "oh really? Dont worry, ill take care of him later at home"
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