Current Events > what one negative quality do people say you are irl?

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I'm considered eccentric
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catboy0_0 posted...

YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...

>one

you're supposed to pick the overwhelming one

>one
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haloiscoolisbak posted...

ClockworkHare posted...

what one negative quality do people say you are irl?

I'm considered "too neutral" on certain subjects. I'm very boring to debate with in person due to a lack of interest and a lean towards individual pragmatism, not communal.

People who feel a need to validate themselves through stirring up debates, rallying to slay "dragons", craving competition, or looking for a philosophical echo can't stand being around me for long. My nonchalant behavior tends to make me pretty popular with folk in need of a pick-me-up and sanctuary. However, argumentative people typically veer away from any social oasis I habitually create. They're constantly looking for validation and life answers. I'm not. I have very little to offer them.

You can lead a horse to water, but...

this sounds like it'd only be a problem online, maybe even exclusively on CE. i can't imagine my friends IRL ever thinking my non-extreme views would be annoying or a negative trait

You'd be surprised nowadays. Everyone seems to have a cause to champion for the greater good.

Parappa09 posted...

Kineth posted...

Man, you know some slang I've never heard of. What's that mean?

Wait.. black people time? >_>

lol yeah

british people time
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YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...

catboy0_0 posted...

YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...

>one

you're supposed to pick the overwhelming one

>one

>youhavenohope
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immature
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I guess like "i thought you were weird when i first met you/until i got to know you" I have a very deadpan sense of human that usually takes people a while to warm to.
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EpicMickeyDrew posted...

I have a very deadpan sense of human

that made me lol

EpicMickeyDrew posted...

Parappa09 posted...

Kineth posted...

Man, you know some slang I've never heard of. What's that mean?

Wait.. black people time? >_>

lol yeah

british people time

i conform to both depending on who im meeting
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I can't think of a single negative quality that people say I have. And I know I have loads of them. So.. I guess I don't spend enough time around people.
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Im a lil shy when I first meet people
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haloiscoolisbak posted...

ClockworkHare posted...

what one negative quality do people say you are irl?

I'm considered "too neutral" on certain subjects. I'm very boring to debate with in person due to a lack of interest and a lean towards individual pragmatism, not communal.

People who feel a need to validate themselves through stirring up debates, rallying to slay "dragons", craving competition, or looking for a philosophical echo can't stand being around me for long. My nonchalant behavior tends to make me pretty popular with folk in need of a pick-me-up and sanctuary. However, argumentative people typically veer away from any social oasis I habitually create. They're constantly looking for validation and life answers. I'm not. I have very little to offer them.

You can lead a horse to water, but...

this sounds like it'd only be a problem online, maybe even exclusively on CE.

Nope.
I'm talking exclusively offline.

I don't really bother with debate topics online. CE is terrible for it because most of the posts are just trolls on their alts trying to trigger everybody. Insightful on-topic posts often get overlooked under the tidal wave of trigger posts spawned by trolls who just want to see other posters mad.

Offline everybody has their own personal initiatives for acting the way they do, but a very common one is boosting injured self esteem. Most people tend to be emotional and it can impact their choices and goals very quickly. There's a ton of people out in the world who take one hit to the feels feels and then habitually seek out someone they can challenge to reassert a belief of dominance over their own lives.

You ever had friends over and you all usually have a great time until one of them just has to randomly start debates whenever things get too calm? Because due to their dysfunctional history they don't how the fuck to function in a peaceful environment. They didn't grow up in a healthy home and that's why they're now always looking to start shit for that familiar feeling of chaos. It's like a pacifier to them.

You ever been one of the popular people in a group because everyone thinks you're awesome to be around and then one asshole has to challenge you out of the blue? Like you didn't start any shit with them, they just had an enormous urge to 1-up you to prove a fragile little point to themselves.

Or how about that super rebellious friend who's constantly bringing up social issues and passive aggressively shames you for not being as interested in their impractical protests as they are? Some people really do want to support good in the world and spread positive messages. Some other people just want to sedate their inferiority complex by saying they're at least better than someone else because <insert political reasons>.

These types of people tend to be very argumentative by nature, online and offline, because they get off on that surge of validation after believing they've won a self-laid challenge. And a lot of them don't like me because I refuse to play the game, I'm not as thirsty for validation, and I encourage other people to look on the bright side.
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Parappa09 posted...

that made me lol

that's how i getcha ;p
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They don't say it, but I would guess complaining about my appearance.
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One of a million different aspects of my personality, I'm guessing.

It's interesting what things you learn about people's perspective on you without hearing it directly. I take lots of pictures of my cat and some of my coworkers love seeing them. One of those coworkers told a manager (who then relayed it to me because she thought it was hilarious) that she loves how eager I am to show the pictures to her because it makes me seem "more human."
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I've been told I talk about myself a lot
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LinksLiege posted...

I am to show the pictures to her because it makes me seem "more human."

you do remind me of data from star trek TNG

Too stubborn and too quiet mostly
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Condescending
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Parappa11 posted...

LinksLiege posted...

I am to show the pictures to her because it makes me seem "more human."

you do remind me of data from star trek TNG

>_>
How...?
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aloof probably
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Stubborn is your middle name.
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too quiet
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too cocky

Lack of empathy
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bump

why are you warned parappa

Flaky as fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
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Alcoholic
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Reis posted...

why are you warned parappa

because of my joke topic 'how do you sleep with straight guys'

Carlbertomfg posted...

Flaky as fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

where does being flaky stem from?

Reserved, unapproachable

Parappa11 posted...

Carlbertomfg posted...

Flaky as fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

where does being flaky stem from?

It's getting a little better as I age. Most of it is just pure selfishness. Going out always sounded good until it was time to go out. I don't remember what comedian it was but he had a bit about canceling plans and how it was the best feeling in the world. I identified with that quite a bit. Not to say I didn't enjoy the occasional night on the town or par-tay - but the reality is I would almost always prefer just getting zooted at home with a pint of ice cream and youtube.
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Carlbertomfg posted...

It's getting a little better as I age. Most of it is just pure selfishness. Going out always sounded good until it was time to go out. I don't remember what comedian it was but he had a bit about canceling plans and how it was the best feeling in the world. I identified with that quite a bit. Not to say I didn't enjoy the occasional night on the town or par-tay - but the reality is I would almost always prefer just getting zooted at home with a pint of ice cream and youtube.

how would you feel if people did the same thing but to you, for a night that you organised?

e.g. it was your birthday, you booked go karting but then a few people dropped out because they wanted to stay indoors instead

Parappa11 posted...

Carlbertomfg posted...

It's getting a little better as I age. Most of it is just pure selfishness. Going out always sounded good until it was time to go out. I don't remember what comedian it was but he had a bit about canceling plans and how it was the best feeling in the world. I identified with that quite a bit. Not to say I didn't enjoy the occasional night on the town or par-tay - but the reality is I would almost always prefer just getting zooted at home with a pint of ice cream and youtube.

how would you feel if people did the same thing but to you, for a night that you organised?

e.g. it was your birthday, you booked go karting but then a few people dropped out because they wanted to stay indoors instead

Oh buddy my karma has already bit me in the ass. I organize weekly get togethers for me and some friends to play a few games and I've been left high and dry many a time. Been doing it for a few years now. Almost assuredly why I've gotten better about flat out telling someone it's just not something I'm interested in or just forcing myself to go when I said I would.
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Carlbertomfg posted...

Almost assuredly why I've gotten better about flat out telling someone it's just not something I'm interested in or just forcing myself to go when I said I would.

i respect that tbh

bump
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Parappa11 posted...

because of my joke topic 'how do you sleep with straight guys'

I got modded for a joke in that topic.

I'm a young account, just trying to get by, and you were supposed to look out for me! How am I supposed to get that lost karma back?

I get angry, I think CE and the Mods already know that about me already.

Though nowadays not so much, I can still be somewhat harsh at times.
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"evil" whatever the hell that means.
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I don't really get a lot of people telling me I have negative qualities.

I've been told by people at work to smile, that I don't look happy, etc. Does that count?
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Teachers and instructors have said one of my more frustrating traits is that i can't be motivated to put any hard work into anything that i wasn't already interested in to some degree.

Friends tell me something i already know all too well for myself - i can be horribly self-destructive.
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lo and behold I proved myself again on the FFXIV Forums, got temporarily banned until later tonight.

Those people are such tools to the machine over there.
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Bossy. Its not a consistent trait but I cant really help that it comes out sometimes. I just like to control my immediate surroundings. Especially if Im actually busy I dont really try to be nice. It could be worse. Sometimes you gotta show that youre serious.
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Hot tempered
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Probably that I have a hard time filtering what I say and just saying whats on my mind even if its not appropriate. Use to be a lot worse pretty much got it under wraps now.
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Too quiet and withdrawn. It's honestly pretty accurate. I do tend to be like that around people who aren't longtime friends.

It's something I should work on.

Too many to list
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I'm bad at multitasking
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I don't show enough emotion and I'm too nuetral
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