Poll of the Day > i really hate when people call me on the phone when they know i don't like it

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I have anxiety so I understand the anxiety that everyone else feels. Anyone that doesnt do what I do is simply weak.

People are not different in any way.
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GanglyKhan posted...

Yeah, that's something I tend to forget. I feel like with how personal anxiety is, a lot of us always feel like we have it the worst, and that's really not the case.

It's common to think that yes and also common to think "nobody understands" when some folk understand more than you think. However when the mental heath care is useless in my case at getting to the bottom of my condition it's easy to think that.

GanglyKhan posted...

It's easy for me to fly off the handle on stuff like this and I need to chill my jets from time to time. I still don't like it when people use it as an excuse, but in this case, I was in the wrong for assuming as much.

For some folk what seems minor to you is a big deal to them so it isn't a "excuse" period. Some folk don't seem to actually understand what comes natural and easy to them might not for some folk and visa versa. Nobody wants a mental health problem. What irks me though is when folk trivialise mental health issues and some folk do actually fake it. Enabling said mental health issues doesn't help too. I only wish I known my "trigger" then I could get to the bottom of my issue quicker. Unfortunately I have no answers.
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Please tell me you're at least a quick texter so planning things isn't a fucking chore

I would rather take a 60 second phone call to set up some plans over texting intermittently back and forth for an hour.
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wwinterj25 posted...

For some folk what seems minor to you is a big deal to them so it isn't a "excuse" period.

Hey man, I'm trying to meet you halfway there, so let's give me some benefit of the doubt too, yeah? I have had friendships go south before because the person continued to fall back on "I know I have XYZ and I can't help it so you can't blame me" and that was their actual justification at being shitty to everyone around them. wwinterj25 posted...

What irks me though is when folk trivialise mental health issues

And that's what I'm trying to grasp at by asking questions. You've lived with your problems your entire life. I've done the same with mine. Neither of us are going to fully understand 2+ decades of personal history through six posts on a video game message board. It would have been easy for me to say some intentionally cruel things and look down on people, but I didn't.

GanglyKhan posted...

Hey man, I'm trying to meet you halfway there, so let's give me some benefit of the doubt too, yeah?

Nope. That's not how this works. You're wrong and that's that.

GanglyKhan posted...

I have had friendships go south before because the person continued to fall back on "I know I have XYZ and I can't help it so you can't blame me" and that was their actual justification at being shitty to everyone around them.

Nothing wrong with accepting your condition and for all you know said condition could effect them in such a way that they believe their behaviour is acceptable. At the end of the day people with mental disorders don't have a choice in how their brain acts. However this doesn't mean they have a free pass to do whatever they want though so if they do something wrong or say something wrong they will always be told that.

GanglyKhan posted...

You've lived with your problems your entire life.

I've never once said this.

GanglyKhan posted...

Neither of us are going to fully understand 2+ decades of personal history through six posts on a video game message board. It would have been easy for me to say some intentionally cruel things and look down on people, but I didn't.

No you just mocked someones condition and then suddenly claim you have said condition too when you're called out on it.
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Muffinz0rz posted...

Please tell me you're at least a quick texter so planning things isn't a fucking chore

I would rather take a 60 second phone call to set up some plans over texting intermittently back and forth for an hour.

I'm an extremely fast texter and I reply a soon as I get a text as long as it's not one I'm trying to avoid. But if I wanted to avoid you I'd be avoiding you regardless of the means of communication. If I know what you want because we texted about it and it's something that we can resolve quickly over the phone I'll be more amenable to a quick phone call. I really just don't like having a call sprung on me.

Or if we're meeting and I'm calling you quick to say hey I'm pulling in the parking lot or you're calling me to tell me that that's fine too.
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wwinterj25 posted...

Nope. That's not how this works. You're wrong and that's that.

So others are supposed to have patience and understanding, but you don't have to? What's the reasoning for that? Again, I could have just been slanderous and not have tried to hear things in a way that I would learn, but I came back and realized I was wrong on some accounts.

wwinterj25 posted...

I've never once said this.

It was a generalized statement. Like, you've been you your whole life, and I've been me. There's no way we're going to be able to know the why and how behind each other's thinking easily is what the message was. Sorry for making it muddled.

wwinterj25 posted...

No you just mocked someones condition and then suddenly claim you have said condition too when you're called out on it.

I feel like there's a lot of underlying context here that I don't want to infer incorrectly so I'll just say that I'm sorry for mocking.