Poll of the Day > is it normal for 30+ year olds to live with parents in 2018

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All of the jobs that paid well in my area moved to areas where they could get away with paying less, or were bought out by companies that slashed benefits so that the tenured employees would get fed up and quit, to be replaced with people who would work half as well, for a third of the pay.
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I dont know if Id deem it normal or not normal. It is certainly an indication that a grown adult has failed to launch, no matter how much millennials try and explain it away or make excuses for it.

I'm almost 30 and I live with my parents right now. They let me live in my old bedroom, don't make me pay rent, and I get to eat good food. My commute to work is about 30-40 minutes but beats having to pay rent. I make good money but I wouldn't have anything to gain by having my own place and paying $1300/mo. My parents and I get along so why not? Going to move out next year though when my girlfriend moves here.

If you have a good relationship with your family, have a job and aren't an immature leech then there's nothing wrong with living with your parents at pretty much any age. People who say otherwise are either jealous or insecure about something.
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Super_Thug44 posted...

I'm almost 30 and I live with my parents right now. They let me live in my old bedroom, don't make me pay rent, and I get to eat good food. My commute to work is about 30-40 minutes but beats having to pay rent. I make good money but I wouldn't have anything to gain by having my own place and paying $1300/mo. My parents and I get along so why not? Going to move out next year though when my girlfriend moves here.

If you have a good relationship with your family, have a job and aren't an immature leech then there's nothing wrong with living with your parents at pretty much any age. People who say otherwise are either jealous or insecure about something.

Yes. As long as you have a job then you're not a leech if you still live with your parents at that age.
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Revelation34 posted...

Super_Thug44 posted...

I'm almost 30 and I live with my parents right now. They let me live in my old bedroom, don't make me pay rent, and I get to eat good food. My commute to work is about 30-40 minutes but beats having to pay rent. I make good money but I wouldn't have anything to gain by having my own place and paying $1300/mo. My parents and I get along so why not? Going to move out next year though when my girlfriend moves here.

If you have a good relationship with your family, have a job and aren't an immature leech then there's nothing wrong with living with your parents at pretty much any age. People who say otherwise are either jealous or insecure about something.

Yes. As long as you have a job then you're not a leech if you still live with your parents at that age.

Or less of a leech.
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Zeus posted...

You know, there's an option between "live on your own" and "live with your parents" >_>

Personally I still find living with roommates to be a waste of money. At least by paying my mother "rent", the money is still going toward her house, that my sister and I will probably inherent. To me, paying for rent on an apartment/house whether alone or with roommates is a complete waste of money and would be a last resort.

I would rather live at home with my mom and contribute to the utility, house insurance, and property tax first. Following that I would consider a house/condo if I can afford it. After all this if living at home and getting my own house/condo is not an option then I would consider renting an apartment/house either by myself or with roommates. Regardless of your stance of living with your parents or living away, the money one pays when renting does nothing for us in the long run.

BeerOnTap posted...

It is certainly an indication that a grown adult has failed to launch

Launch in terms of what though? There's more to being "successful" than just living on your own in opinion. It's why I mentioned earlier what good is living on your own if you're living paycheck to paycheck, and have nothing saved up. What is said person trying to prove and to whom? Of course there's more at factor than just because said person is living on their own (i.e. low paying job, high cost of living, etc.)

BeerOnTap posted...

no matter how much millennials try and explain it away or make excuses for it.

You suggest someone need to waste money on rent to "prove their worth"?

vocedelmorte posted...

Yeah, bur if you live alone, then you will be more motivated to get a better job

So one should waste money on renting to encourage themselves to get a better job so they can continue wasting said money on rent? Why not instead being actually smart with said money, minimizing spending by living at home, get a better job, and use said money toward a condo/house?

Granted yes, living at home does give us a lot of cushion and it is easy to get too comfortable and not try and further improve yourself. Personally I feel if said person lack the will to improve themselves, wasting away money on rent isn't going to change that.
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Zeus posted...

Revelation34 posted...

Super_Thug44 posted...

I'm almost 30 and I live with my parents right now. They let me live in my old bedroom, don't make me pay rent, and I get to eat good food. My commute to work is about 30-40 minutes but beats having to pay rent. I make good money but I wouldn't have anything to gain by having my own place and paying $1300/mo. My parents and I get along so why not? Going to move out next year though when my girlfriend moves here.

If you have a good relationship with your family, have a job and aren't an immature leech then there's nothing wrong with living with your parents at pretty much any age. People who say otherwise are either jealous or insecure about something.

Yes. As long as you have a job then you're not a leech if you still live with your parents at that age.

Or less of a leech.

Explain how one is a leech when paying his own way.
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Person106 posted...

Explain how one is a leech when paying his own way.

Depending on what Super_Thug44 is or is not contributing to his parents, he may or may not be entirely "paying his own way." Some folks may be living rent free at home and eating whatever food said parents are buying/making. But they may also be paying for their own gas, car insurance, cellphone bill, etc. which is probably what Zeus meant by less of a leech.
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InfestedAdam posted...

Depending on what Super_Thug44 is or is not contributing to his parents, he may or may not be "paying his own way." Some folks may be living rent free at home and eating whatever food said parents are buying/making. But they may also be paying for their own gas, car insurance, cellphone bill, etc. which is probably what Zeus meant by less of a leech.

If they have a job they are probably also helping with food bills.
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InfestedAdam posted...

Personally I still find living with roommates to be a waste of money. At least by paying my mother "rent", the money is still going toward her house, that my sister and I will probably inherent. To me, paying for rent on an apartment/house whether alone or with roommates is a complete waste of money and would be a last resort.

I would rather live at home with my mom and contribute to the utility, house insurance, and property tax first. Following that I would consider a house/condo if I can afford it. After all this if living at home and getting my own house/condo is not an option then I would consider renting an apartment/house either by myself or with roommates. Regardless of your stance of living with your parents or living away, the money one pays when renting does nothing for us in the long run.

By that same logic, woudln't living on your own *also* be a waste of money? >_> If you're arguing that there are more benefits to living with mom & dad and paying down what you're going to inherit, that's essentially an argument for staying there until your folks die.

Person106 posted...

Zeus posted...

Revelation34 posted...

Super_Thug44 posted...

I'm almost 30 and I live with my parents right now. They let me live in my old bedroom, don't make me pay rent, and I get to eat good food. My commute to work is about 30-40 minutes but beats having to pay rent. I make good money but I wouldn't have anything to gain by having my own place and paying $1300/mo. My parents and I get along so why not? Going to move out next year though when my girlfriend moves here.

If you have a good relationship with your family, have a job and aren't an immature leech then there's nothing wrong with living with your parents at pretty much any age. People who say otherwise are either jealous or insecure about something.

Yes. As long as you have a job then you're not a leech if you still live with your parents at that age.

Or less of a leech.

Explain how one is a leech when paying his own way.

You're paying a portion of your way, not your own way. And if you're living with your folks, you're almost certainly going to be getting a lot of fringe benefits whether it's some free meals, access to services you aren't expected to chip in on, etc. After all, if it wasn't strictly a better deal than living on your own or with roommates, you would just live on your own or with roommates.
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Zeus posted...

By that same logic, woudln't living on your own *also* be a waste of money? >_> If you're arguing that there are more benefits to living with mom & dad and paying down what you're going to inherit, that's essentially an argument for staying there until your folks die.

Maybe. If you are going to inherit it. But it also depends on other things. Like if your job is close enough to commute everyday. Or if you are going to start a family or get married soon. Maybe you were with someone, but now you split. But you don't want to get rid of the house that is mostly paid for. There are benefits to staying home. But there are benefits to moving out. You do get more privacy. Some may think it's weird to have relations with parents in the house. Or, while living in the house your parents own...

Zeus posted...

You're paying a portion of your way, not your own way. And if you're living with your folks, you're almost certainly going to be getting a lot of fringe benefits whether it's some free meals, access to services you aren't expected to chip in on, etc. After all, if it wasn't strictly a better deal than living on your own or with roommates, you would just live on your own or with roommates.

Depends. I mean, you may get some free meals. Or maybe you all just chip in an amount and go shopping together. If it's the latter, then I wouldn't count eating whatever against them. Even with roommates, you can get free meals. When I had a roommates, we would eat take turns making dinner and such for each other sometimes.

You may have some services for free, but you may chip in on everything. It could still be a better deal than living with roommate, since sometimes services give out discounts to long term customers. So, it could be cheaper splitting bills with you parents because on you own, or with a roommate, you might still have to pay more.

But it could also be because you're lonely. Maybe you don't want to live alone. And maybe you don't want to live with strangers. There's that, too...
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Zeus posted...

By that same logic, woudln't living on your own *also* be a waste of money? >_>

Apology for any confusion but I meant specifically paying rent on an apartment/house, when living on your own, as a waste of money.
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Revelation34 posted...

InfestedAdam posted...

Depending on what Super_Thug44 is or is not contributing to his parents, he may or may not be "paying his own way." Some folks may be living rent free at home and eating whatever food said parents are buying/making. But they may also be paying for their own gas, car insurance, cellphone bill, etc. which is probably what Zeus meant by less of a leech.

If they have a job they are probably also helping with food bills.

Lol I don't help pay for anything in terms of food or the bills my parents pay. My parents are well off and all my siblings are on their own so they have all this money and nothing to spend on (I don't really add significantly to their expenses anyway). I could easily move out and get my own place but even my own parents think that'd be unwise financially. But I pay for pretty much anything that isn't provided for at home: gas, phone bill, car payments, any personal purchases or food from restaurants.

It's a frickin sweet deal and I would recommend to anyone who has a good relationship with their parents and want to save money easily. Of course not permanently, maybe a couple years tops and then move out. Gotta go solo at some point (or find a significant other).
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