Current Events > Depressed people may kill themselves due to feeling alone, right?

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So all I have to do is relate to the depressed person, let them know I'm with them and won't leave [emotionally/mentally]. Is that a good plan or is there a something I'm neglecting

Creepy, leave her alone
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Thats all good to say, but the issue probably cuts deeper than that. Professional help and as big a social net (family, friends) is advised for sure
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sLaCkEr408___RJ posted...

So all I have to do is relate to the depressed person, let them know I'm with them and won't leave [emotionally/mentally]. Is that a good plan or is there a something I'm neglecting

You're assuming they'll believe you or just happen to feel suddenly better. It's honestly almost insulting to think that someone's depression could be so easily helped.
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As someone who's dealt with a lot of suicidal people in my personal life I think it's actually the best plan. The hard part is just keeping them engaged so they don't forget you're there. They don't necessarily have to feel better. Sometimes it's enough just to know that someone wants you to feel better. You have to make them believe it, though, and that you're not just angling for something that you want from them.

Of course every situation is different and sometimes it's not even a matter of depression, but in general it's a good place to start.
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sLaCkEr408___RJ posted...

So all I have to do is relate to the depressed person, let them know I'm with them and won't leave [emotionally/mentally]. Is that a good plan or is there a something I'm neglecting

Your soul, if your plan is to specifically target depressed chicks lmao

Also keep in mind that they're probably going to try extra hard to push you away or piss you off. Sometimes it's sincere but I think most times it's just to test your sincerity, even if they're not doing it consciously. It sucks to admit it, but it's a really nice feeling when you try everything to push someone away and they still won't give up on you.
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The times I seriously felt like doing that was because I felt worthless, unloved, and unwanted. So it seems obvious that the company of a caring person would help, but it really doesn't. It might serve as a temporary solution, but they'll just circle back to thinking it's only a matter of time until you abandon them too, or that you don't know the real person and if you get closer it'll just hurt you both.

It's going to be a big investment to commit to. That person will need a lot from you, especially if you're the only source of companionship in their life.They might get upset or scared and try pushing you away. Sometimes, even with a support network, things fail anyway.
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I know myself would hate to ask someone to be there for me straight up. Like if i were feeling suicidal I would not want to tell people i need someone with me for comfort. It kinda... taints the action, if you know what i mean. Like it will feel fake to me if i ask someone to care. It's also embarassing. I know it must be the depression telling me that, but that's the way it is.

So this is why I want to be proactive, and others to be proactive in caring.

But there is also the issue of pushing those who would help away. Like if someone randomly comes up to me trying to "help", then I'd feel like they were pitying me.

KogaSteelfang posted...

The times I seriously felt like doing that was because I felt worthless, unloved, and unwanted. So it seems obvious that the company of a caring person would help, but it really doesn't. It might serve as a temporary solution, but they'll just circle back to thinking it's only a matter of time until you abandon them too, or that you don't know the real person and if you get closer it'll just hurt you both.

It's going to be a big investment to commit to. That person will need a lot from you, especially if you're the only source of companionship in their life.They might get upset or scared and try pushing you away. Sometimes, even with a support network, things fail anyway.

yeah but support from others is a good kickstart
in the end, though, it depends on how that person managed to stand on his/her ownself

You are neglecting something. Depression distorts your thinking. You 'being there for them' isn't necessarily going to be interpreted that way by them. If they are someone you are close to, just be there for them, and encourage them to seek professional help.

Depression is a scary thing. I've lost two friends to it. One was very obvious that he had issues. And the other was very good at hiding it. Nobody had any idea.
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You can't help people walk but sometimes you can help pick them up.
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Everyone has depression for different reasons. Ypur right that it can stem from veing alone. But other sources can also create it.

My depression doesn't come from heing alone. My depression vomes from feeling like a failure and veing useless. Most of the time, people have no idea that i am depressed or going through it. I learned how to mask it and pretend i am doing awesome. Even when i am not. But deep down inside i jsut want to end it. My cousin is similar but hers is also from being alone. Unfortunaye for us, depression runs in our family and is part of our genes.

Bipolar can be a form of depression. Usually know as manic depression/ bipolar 2, where you go through highs, extremely happy and energetic, to lows, extremely low energy and sad.

My point being is if you really want to help them. Learn who they are and find out what can be causing their depression. Assuming anything about them or trying to put then in a catagory is only gonna cause things to get worse. Depression is an individual experience and needs to be handle on a person by person basis.
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