Current Events > im black. my gf is asian. she has a sister who is dating a white man.

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im worried that when my gf and i have kids, her family will like her sisters kids better because they'll be part white and ours will be part black.
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It would make some amusing family reunions.
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Can't worry about what her family will think, man. Either they'll be cool, or they won't. Nothing much you can really do to change it.

If you have kids, love them, do your best for them, and your family will be fine. Everything else usual works itself out.

none of those people are real TC

now do interracial foursome.
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this is made up. Also you used to claim you were half korean. what happened to that?

So you could say her family got some Yin and Yang.
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They will, get over it
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It's like an interracial neapolitan sundae.
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Reasonable fear TC. This is why it's imperative that if you have kids, you focus on developing their identity and personalities as people you want to be around. Don't let their skin color overwhelmingly define who they are. I say this as someone who's darker skinned than most people around me (especially among my family). What I take pride in is how sociable I can be, to the point where I can change an instance where guys would be rushing at me with fear that I was breaking into their car to us altogether cracking jokes in a split moment.

I've been fortunate enough to live in a predominantly black community and I don't live in the states, but the impression I get from the black stateside community is that the sentiment is "Accept us for who we are, but don't bother us" and that's an unfair wish. You can't have both exclusivity and selective inclusivity at the same time. Not when people have a limited pool of where they can devote their empathy to.

I'm rambling a bit more than I should, but this is something I do dwell on, in the rare occasion that I have kids on my own (I do joke to myself that Imma die alone), how would I move forward if they were as dark skinned as me. No one really talks about it or admits to it, but the darker you are, the harder you need to work. In every culture, not just limited to black culture, lighter complexion is more highly prized.
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So? Don't marry her then.
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Thought you said you were Korean
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Sad_Face posted...

Reasonable fear TC. This is why it's imperative that if you have kids, you focus on developing their identity and personalities as people you want to be around. Don't let their skin color overwhelmingly define who they are. I say this as someone who's darker skinned than most people around me (especially among my family). What I take pride in is how sociable I can be, to the point where I can change an instance where guys would be rushing at me with fear that I was breaking into their car to us altogether cracking jokes in a split moment.

I've been fortunate enough to live in a predominantly black community and I don't live in the states, but the impression I get from the black stateside community is that the sentiment is "Accept us for who we are, but don't bother us" and that's an unfair wish. You can't have both exclusivity and selective inclusivity at the same time. Not when people have a limited pool of where they can devote their empathy to.

I'm rambling a bit more than I should, but this is something I do dwell on, in the rare occasion that I have kids on my own (I do joke to myself that Imma die alone), how would I move forward if they were as dark skinned as me. No one really talks about it or admits to it, but the darker you are, the harder you need to work. In every culture, not just limited to black culture, lighter complexion is more highly prized.

Where do you live?
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Anti-245 posted...

So? Don't marry her then.

Hell most likely see her parents twice a year though.
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

Where do you live?

Caribbean.
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