Current Events > Masturbating to Pornography is Cheating

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Yes. At least a little bit. You're connecting sexually via images. Just like if you webcam with someone and deed to each other. Loyalty remains intact as long as your partner knows what you watch.

If you and your partner allow jacking off to porn, then just know it is a precursor to open relationships. It's not cheating if you agree on it.

Porn scrambles your brain
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What if my partner only gives me sex once a month?

I specified porn in the topic title, but this extends to whatever you jerk it to.

Is there really a difference if she flicks her bean looking at a strangers pics rather than a coworker?

Nidhoggr posted...

What if my partner only gives me sex once a month?

Find a new partner
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My wife and I both watch porn for the same reasons.

When one of us isnt around and the other wants to get off without using their brain too much.
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ffmasterjose posted...

Nidhoggr posted...

What if my partner only gives me sex once a month?

Find a new partner
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Or I could just jerk it to porn a few times and everyone is happy!

EffectAndCause posted...

My wife and I both watch porn for the same reasons.

When one of us isnt around and the other wants to get off without using their brain too much.

Might as well find someone to him up with. More fun.

Nidhoggr posted...

ffmasterjose posted...

Nidhoggr posted...

What if my partner only gives me sex once a month?

Find a new partner
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Or I could just jerk it to porn a few times and everyone is happy!

That's what cheaters think. Sneak around make sure don't get caught and everyone wins! You get sex. Partner doesn't know. Happy relationship.

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

My wife and I both watch porn for the same reasons.

When one of us isnt around and the other wants to get off without using their brain too much.

Might as well find someone to him up with. More fun.

We only want to be with each other, porn is just mindless fodder to use while pleasuring yourself if you dont want to put in the effort to use your inner thoughts.
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EffectAndCause posted...

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

My wife and I both watch porn for the same reasons.

When one of us isnt around and the other wants to get off without using their brain too much.

Might as well find someone to him up with. More fun.

We only want to be with each other, porn is just mindless fodder to use while pleasuring yourself if you dont want to put in the effort to use your inner thoughts.

But you can still be with each other while getting it on. Like if you are not around, she can speed dial her friend for a quickie. What's the difference

Yeeeeeaaaah, youve never been in a relationship.
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EffectAndCause posted...

Yeeeeeaaaah, youve never been in a relationship.

Is this the part where I tell you I have so that you can just not believe me. Why stop a decent convo

Because no one whos been in an actual relationship would use that logic.

Watching random actors have sex in a silly video is the same as calling up a friend for a quickie, whats the difference bro?!
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EffectAndCause posted...

Because no one whos been in an actual relationship would use that logic.

Watching random actors have sex in a silly video is the same as calling up a friend for a quickie, whats the difference bro?!

You'd be wrong in the belief.

But back on topic, what is the point of masturbation? Pleasuring yourself. What's more pleasurable: watching porn which is a fantasy, or call over your down af side chick and live out that fantasy (or as much as you can).

It makes sense man.

C

You should be able to do it without any outside help.
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I have to wonder what goes on in people's mind to be capable of the thought process to think porn is cheating.
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What's more pleasurable: watching porn which is a fantasy, or call over your down af side chick and live out that fantasy (or as much as you can).

The point of masturbation is pleasuring yourself without cheating when youre unable to have proper sex at the moment.

If you and your partner allow jacking off to porn, then just know it is a precursor to open relationships.

LOL JUST SAW THIS, WHAT

Yeah youre either trolling or youve truly never been in a relationship, if you admit to one right now ill continue this conversation.
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KainWind posted...

C

You should be able to do it without any outside help.

Porn is a difficult thing to let go. We've got so used to it that we fool ourselves into believing it's not a form of betrayal. Your normal girlfriend walks in on you tugging one out to gorgeous some with beautiful bodies is not fidelity. No matter how normalized it has become.

Funkydog posted...

I have to wonder what goes on in people's mind to be capable of the thought process to think porn is cheating.

I'm here to discuss that with you.

r25 posted...

Funkydog posted...

I have to wonder what goes on in people's mind to be capable of the thought process to think porn is cheating.

I'm here to discuss that with you.

And I don't get how you are capable of the thought processes you have used without seeing how bizarre they are.
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probably not too thrilled with sex toys either.

both are healthy in a relationship to be open with. get ideas, try it out.
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EffectAndCause posted...

What's more pleasurable: watching porn which is a fantasy, or call over your down af side chick and live out that fantasy (or as much as you can).

The point of masturbation is pleasuring yourself without cheating when youre unable to have proper sex at the moment.

If you and your partner allow jacking off to porn, then just know it is a precursor to open relationships.

LOL JUST SAW THIS, WHAT

Yeah youre either trolling or youve truly never been in a relationship, if you admit to one right now ill continue this conversation.

Cannot admit to either. I'm completely serious. Look at how internet porn potentially created an influx of cuckolds this generation. People are have been conditioned to seeing other people fuck the girl or guy they are lusting for aka the porn star. And there are a lot of porn stars, its not uncommon for any given person to have multiple favorites.

Something about brain chemicals releasing with all the hot naked people we are exposed to. There's studies.

sounds like you read a study somewhere once.
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Again, my wife and I watch porn to get ourselves off when the other one isnt around to have sex.

Sometimes masturbation is simply a stress relief, and porn provides easy fodder to use during masturbation. Its why every sperm bank on Earth provides the donors with porn magazines, and literally nobody says OMG HES CHEATING RIGHT NOW!
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Funkydog posted...

r25 posted...

Funkydog posted...

I have to wonder what goes on in people's mind to be capable of the thought process to think porn is cheating.

I'm here to discuss that with you.

And I don't get how you are capable of the thought processes you have used without seeing how bizarre they are.

Well it's simple. Porn is a fantasy, as in to get away from real life. In real life your partner looks a certain way. In your fantasy, your "partner" looks like an adult performer. It's not faithful. Your mind has wandered.

People let it slide because we have no control over our real life partners. They can fantasize or watch porn all they want. Most people don't want to know because it hurts to know your partner is cumming to someone else.

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EffectAndCause posted...

Again, my wife and I watch porn to get ourselves off when the other one isnt around to have sex.

Sometimes masturbation is simply a stress relief, and porn provides easy fodder to use during masturbation. Its why every sperm bank on Earth provides the donors with porn magazines, and literally nobody says OMG HES CHEATING RIGHT NOW!

Yes, you explained the wife thing and that's fine lol. Like I said, if it's agreed upon then it isn't cheating.

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

Again, my wife and I watch porn to get ourselves off when the other one isnt around to have sex.

Sometimes masturbation is simply a stress relief, and porn provides easy fodder to use during masturbation. Its why every sperm bank on Earth provides the donors with porn magazines, and literally nobody says OMG HES CHEATING RIGHT NOW!

Yes, you explained the wife thing and that's fine lol. Like I said, if it's agreed upon then it isn't cheating.

So you admit youre wrong finally, cool man.
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EffectAndCause posted...

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

Again, my wife and I watch porn to get ourselves off when the other one isnt around to have sex.

Sometimes masturbation is simply a stress relief, and porn provides easy fodder to use during masturbation. Its why every sperm bank on Earth provides the donors with porn magazines, and literally nobody says OMG HES CHEATING RIGHT NOW!

Yes, you explained the wife thing and that's fine lol. Like I said, if it's agreed upon then it isn't cheating.

So you admit youre wrong finally, cool man.

Uh.. k. You've done little more in this topic than assume things. And you don't seem to comprehend or don't want to comprehend when given the chance. How did you get a wife lmao all caps typing ass boi

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

Again, my wife and I watch porn to get ourselves off when the other one isnt around to have sex.

Sometimes masturbation is simply a stress relief, and porn provides easy fodder to use during masturbation. Its why every sperm bank on Earth provides the donors with porn magazines, and literally nobody says OMG HES CHEATING RIGHT NOW!

Yes, you explained the wife thing and that's fine lol. Like I said, if it's agreed upon then it isn't cheating.

So you admit youre wrong finally, cool man.

Uh.. k. You've done little more in this topic than assume things. And you don't seem to comprehend or don't want to comprehend when given the chance. How did you get a wife lmao all caps typing ass boi

...the fuck?

Ill let you guys deal with this creature.
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EffectAndCause posted...

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

r25 posted...

EffectAndCause posted...

Again, my wife and I watch porn to get ourselves off when the other one isnt around to have sex.

Sometimes masturbation is simply a stress relief, and porn provides easy fodder to use during masturbation. Its why every sperm bank on Earth provides the donors with porn magazines, and literally nobody says OMG HES CHEATING RIGHT NOW!

Yes, you explained the wife thing and that's fine lol. Like I said, if it's agreed upon then it isn't cheating.

So you admit youre wrong finally, cool man.

Uh.. k. You've done little more in this topic than assume things. And you don't seem to comprehend or don't want to comprehend when given the chance. How did you get a wife lmao all caps typing ass boi

...the fuck?

Ill let you guys deal with this creature.

What are you confused about man. We can clarify it now if you ask a clear question. I'm here for a discussion, not for whatever bad vibe you're giving out.

No. Fantasy isn't cheating.

Dragonblade01 posted...

No. Fantasy isn't cheating.

How about fantasizing about an ex? A coworker? Your friend?

None of these cross the line? Where is the line

r25 posted...

Where is the line

For me? Actual sexual contact or pursuit.

Dragonblade01 posted...

r25 posted...

Where is the line

For me? Actual sexual contact or pursuit.

Same for me. I think most people go by that. But I believe it's due to the fact we cannot do anything about it without seeming controlling.

Like i know many people don't feel proud that their partner masturbates to other people. But what can you do? Nothing. So instead you allow that little freedom because the alternative seems like imprisoning your partner.

Humans aren't monogamous to begin with so who gives a shit

actual answer: whether or not it is cheating is based on the boundaries/assumptions of your individual relationship. Have a conversation if you are concerned about it. Otherwise, carry on.

There is no universal rule, and transparency is best.

And if you are concerned about telling your S/O that you watch porn, or are concerned/scared about talking to them about their porn watching habits, that should tell you something.

r25 posted...

Dragonblade01 posted...

r25 posted...

Where is the line

For me? Actual sexual contact or pursuit.

Same for me. I think most people go by that. But I believe it's due to the fact we cannot do anything about it without seeming controlling.

Like i know many people don't feel proud that their partner masturbates to other people. But what can you do? Nothing. So instead you allow that little freedom because the alternative seems like imprisoning your partner.

I think it's because it's not a bad thing to fantasize.

Porn is the biggest most disgusting epidemic of this generation.
It's ruining relationships for everyone, It's amazing how we've deluded ourselves into thinking that there's anything normal or natural about it. I wasn't even addicted to it, to the degree some people are, I just jacked to it every once or twice a week, but boy, does it mess your brain up. It's subconscious but you just look at women differently. You sexualize things that have nothing to do with sex.
I feel a hundred times healthier after telling my SO about it and ditching it.
We both have a high libido and we've been long distance for almost 3 years of our 4 years, so there's really no excuse to go for porn.
It's so nice to actually fantasize about her and think about how intimate I want to be with her, instead of looking at some other woman who is getting paid to pretend she's enjoying herself, while getting jackhammered by some dude she's never had a real conversation with. Once you distance yourself from it, and get a real perspective about it, you just see how repulsive the whole thing is.
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clearaflagrantj posted...

Humans aren't monogamous to begin with so who gives a shit

What a lame excuse.
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Masturbating will make you go blind and make your palms hairy, also Jesus and Jesu's mom Mary are watching.

Looks like the wife and I are in an open relationship then. We both wack off to porn regularly. Sometimes together.
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Mister_Spyker posted...

Porn is the biggest most disgusting epidemic of this generation.

(Cont.)

What if I told you that humans had fucked up fetishes since the dawn of time?

Nothing unique has happened in recent times.

clearaflagrantj posted...

Mister_Spyker posted...

Porn is the biggest most disgusting epidemic of this generation.

(Cont.)

What if I told you that humans had fucked up fetishes since the dawn of time?

Nothing unique has happened in recent times.

Started with that one caveman who went 'hey, there's another hole there, wonder if I can put it in', a true hero.

One time my gf told me to watch hentai while she jerked me off.
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It's basically an evolution directly related to the prevalence of polyamory relationships.

Historically, it goes like this:

Porn. You watch people have sex. Fuels your fire for different partners. This potentially opens up to experimentation. When enough couples are successful, it starts trending (kinda like how it is today). Then eventually society will view it as normal.

Porn helped condition the world for this.

r25 posted...

It's basically an evolution directly related to the prevalence of polyamory relationships.

Historically, it goes like this:

Porn. You watch people have sex. Fuels your fire for different partners. This potentially opens up to experimentation. When enough couples are successful, it starts trending (kinda like how it is today). Then eventually society will view it as normal.

Porn helped condition the world for this.

The fuck do you think we were doing when we were cavemen? Going into secluded sex caves alone? We were fucking in the middle of the jungle

clearaflagrantj posted...

The fuck do you think we were doing when we were cavemen? Going into secluded sex caves alone? We were fucking in the middle of the jungle

So, are you advocating we do that again?
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Mister_Spyker posted...

clearaflagrantj posted...

The fuck do you think we were doing when we were cavemen? Going into secluded sex caves alone? We were fucking in the middle of the jungle

So, are you advocating we do that again?

I'm asking how do you measure what a healthy relationship is.

I don't think it's the prudish Christian 1950's exclusively-missionary relationship. If humans are biologically wired to be primarily monogamous but seek out other relationships then that is what we are. You can't deny our nature. Strict monogamy in nature is very rare. You think chimps and dogs have purely monogamous relationships? What makes it an ideal for humans?