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umax555 06/15/19 2:08:05 PM #1: |
I like her a lot but she can't go past second base right now due to the mental trauma. She was assaulted like 6-7 years ago and has gotten much better since then, but still hasn't been able to have sex. What would you do CE?
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Tryhaptaward 06/15/19 2:08:42 PM #2: |
Wait until she's ready.
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QuantumTheory 06/15/19 2:09:19 PM #3: |
If you truly care for her youll wait however long it takes for her to be ready.
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SpriteLimit 06/15/19 2:10:01 PM #4: |
Personally I'd dump her, but I am an asshole so you probably shouldn't do that
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CRON 06/15/19 2:10:30 PM #6: |
Respect how she processes and views sexuality and go from there.
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Pus_N_Pecans 06/15/19 2:12:35 PM #8: |
Tryhaptaward posted...
Wait until she's ready. This, and also ask her if there's anything you could do to make her feel more comfortable or safe during intimacy. --- My arts- http://gopherguy.deviantart.com/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lebronwon 06/15/19 2:12:58 PM #9: |
7 years and she still won't have sex with anyone. I'd dump her and move on. Life too short when there are so many other women out there.
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FrisbeeDude 06/15/19 2:13:09 PM #10: |
Personally, I'd probably break it off until she was in better state of mind. While you shouldnt pressure her, you're not obligated to wait it out either
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Prismsblade 06/15/19 2:23:54 PM #11: |
I'd avoid anything serious with her personally. Without intimacy its doubtful most relationship like this would last if she doeasnt overcome her trauma fast enough.
Idk what her feelings toward you are exactly tc but expecting most guys to completely cut off the sex for her is a unrealistic dream no matter how you look at it. Maybe intimacy toward woman though would help her toward healing? --- 3DS FC:3368-5403-9633 Name: Kaizer PSN: Blackkaizer ... Copied to Clipboard!
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HashtagTartarus 06/15/19 2:25:15 PM #12: |
Get a side bitch.
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sktgamer_13dude 06/15/19 2:28:46 PM #13: |
QuantumTheory posted...
If you truly care for her youll wait however long it takes for her to be ready. --- https://imgur.com/jWVrg9U https://imgur.com/g2efUtT https://imgur.com/5dOwhaP https://imgur.com/LVdqu8J Go Cougs and M's #DI4B ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Bloodychess 06/15/19 2:28:49 PM #14: |
QuantumTheory posted...
If you truly care for her youll wait however long it takes for her to be ready. --- "Everyone attack." - The man in the back ... Copied to Clipboard!
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masticatingman 06/15/19 2:29:46 PM #15: |
Speaking from personal experience, without regular sex, relationships are near utterly pointless.
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QuantumTheory 06/15/19 2:29:55 PM #16: |
Prismsblade posted...
I'd avoid anything serious with her personally. Without intimacy its doubtful most relationship like this would last if she doeasnt overcome her trauma fast enough. Great way to go from sexual assault to lesbianism. Next youll be suggesting MFF. --- Nothing is real. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Guide 06/15/19 2:32:06 PM #17: |
Unless you're all into this, like, with intention to retire with her, feast or famine, just break it off now.
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Lebronwon 06/15/19 2:33:58 PM #18: |
If TC returns I have two questions for you...
How old are both of you? How long have you been together? --- Not 1, not 2, not 3, not 4, not 5, not 6, not 7 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Blue_Inigo 06/15/19 2:34:11 PM #19: |
Guide posted...
Unless you're all into this, like, with intention to retire with her, feast or famine, just break it off now. --- "This is your last dance." ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mesiah21 06/15/19 2:34:44 PM #20: |
Here will be the sad possibility though. You'll wait for her until she's ready. You'll be super supportive for her. But she'll be able to tell that she is hurting you. So she will break up with you because she's can't have sex. You'll find out two or three weeks later that she's already sleeping with a new guy she just started to date.
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umax555 06/15/19 2:44:30 PM #22: |
Lebronwon posted...
If TC returns I have two questions for you... 26 A little over a month. Not official yet but we've spent a handful of nights together and she's open to something more serious. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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HairyThotter 06/15/19 2:44:56 PM #23: |
SpriteLimit posted...
Personally I'd dump her, but I am an asshole so you probably shouldn't do that Lebronwon posted... 7 years and she still won't have sex with anyone. I'd dump her and move on. Life too short when there are so many other women out there. FrisbeeDude posted... Personally, I'd probably break it off until she was in better state of mind. While you shouldnt pressure her, you're not obligated to wait it out either All this^ If you're 'seeing her' but you two aren't, and can't, have sex... then you're practically just friends. Are you saying you can do other things besides sex, or does she stop you at making out (if you can even go that far)? --- "With cheese in either hand, anything is possible" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lebronwon 06/15/19 2:47:32 PM #24: |
umax555 posted...
Lebronwon posted...If TC returns I have two questions for you... Definitely get out. If it had been something longer I could understand sticking it out but you only know her a month. Run away bro. --- Not 1, not 2, not 3, not 4, not 5, not 6, not 7 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 06/15/19 2:55:31 PM #25: |
Does she care if you seek out sex other places?
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KINDERFELD 06/15/19 2:55:51 PM #26: |
TC it may not be the right option for you and that doesn't make you a bad person it that's the case.
It may be best for her to not date till she's dealt with her issues and sorted them out. Why bring all of that to a new relationship? --- the polyfilla way look strong in the weakness of the gaps ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Master_Bass 06/15/19 2:59:51 PM #28: |
Has seen a professional about this? It sounds like it may benefit her to talk to a professional about this since it's already been 7 years and she still is traumatized by her assault.
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Mr_Karate_II 06/15/19 3:09:15 PM #29: |
Sex isn't everything, despite what some people say. If you really care about her, stick it out and be there for her.
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Pepys Monster 06/15/19 3:11:45 PM #30: |
She has things she needs to work through and isn't ready for a relationship. You should be friends with her. Is she going to therapy?
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Lost_All_Senses 06/15/19 3:14:48 PM #31: |
Mr_Karate_II posted...
Sex isn't everything, despite what some people say. If you really care about her, stick it out and be there for her. Yeah, but if you're someone with a sex drive that needs the stimulation then it's gonna come out in your tone if you can't satisfy that. I think it's selfish to not have sex with the person you're in a relationship with and expect them to just accept a sexless life. Even when the circumstances are fucked up. You should care about the person you're with enough to not want to take sex away from them completely --- Name checks out ... Copied to Clipboard!
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JimCarrysToe 06/15/19 3:21:11 PM #32: |
QuantumTheory posted...
Prismsblade posted...I'd avoid anything serious with her personally. Without intimacy its doubtful most relationship like this would last if she doeasnt overcome her trauma fast enough. Idk, if that happened to me I might feel more safe having another woman in the room, seeing how comfortable she is doing sexual things. But I don't recommend even thinking about asking her about that, could veeeeery easily end badly for ya lol. --- "GET YOUR CLAWS OFF ME! YOU GOD DAMN BULLY DINOSAUR!" <{\^/}>DEVOUT WORSHIPER OF THE MELON GODDESS<{\^/}> |`~=-_+*+_-=~`| ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tupacrulez 06/15/19 3:30:24 PM #33: |
Some fully and completely stupid shit in this topic.
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KINDERFELD 06/15/19 3:48:34 PM #34: |
What would be really fucked up but quite possible is that she wants dick from everyone else except you so she sells you that BS story.
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MabusIncarnate 06/15/19 4:14:27 PM #35: |
First thing that I consider is it's already been 6-7 years and she isn't really close. Can you stick it out and maintain a healthy relationship if it takes 3+ more years? Are you capable of getting close, having her change her mind in an instant, and not get frustrated or irritated with the situation, while trying to remain supportive?
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marthsheretoo 06/15/19 4:18:06 PM #36: |
Maybe see if she's open to non-monogamy? If you want to be with her but gotta satisfy those sexual urges, seeing other people (ethically) could be a decent middle ground.
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Ultima Dragon 06/15/19 4:21:02 PM #37: |
Pretty sure she is just gonna be broken for life, tbh. If she's made so very little progress for seven years and is already 26 it doesn't seem like she will ever be in a position to fully enjoy sex again. You might just get some awkward duty sex out of her once in a while and that's it. Who knows when or if that'll happen before the relationship goes sour.
I wouldn't do it unless I was totally undateable/unfuckable and had literally no other options (because then what have you really got to lose right?) --- "We know things can move faster than the speed of light because liberal tears are on the ground before something offensive even happens" - Coffeebeanz ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Fam_Fam 06/15/19 4:24:56 PM #38: |
3 "good" options imo
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pfh1001 06/15/19 4:25:10 PM #39: |
Lebronwon posted...
7 years and she still won't have sex with anyone. I'd dump her and move on. Life too short when there are so many other women out there. This. Especially since you've only been seeing her a month. If she is still this traumatized 7 years later, then she needs some serious therapy at best. Lost_All_Senses posted... I think it's selfish to not have sex with the person you're in a relationship with and expect them to just accept a sexless life. Even when the circumstances are fucked up. You should care about the person you're with enough to not want to take sex away from them completely Could not agree more. Maybe she needs to find someone who is asexual. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Pus_N_Pecans 06/15/19 5:41:00 PM #40: |
The people in this topic who automatically assume that their girlfriends are sleeping around if she hasnt put out after a month of dating need to stfu. You guys arent fit to give any sort of relationship advice.
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Questionmarktarius 06/15/19 5:50:16 PM #41: |
Suggest "revenge roleplay" and see where it goes.
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Vita_Aeterna 06/15/19 5:52:35 PM #43: |
Tryhaptaward posted...
Wait until she's ready. --- "Death is so terribly final, while life is full of possibilities." ... Copied to Clipboard!
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deanshow 06/15/19 6:00:51 PM #44: |
Mr_Karate_II posted...
Sex isn't everything, despite what some people say. If you really care about her, stick it out and be there for her. Im going with this. Sex is one component to a relationship. If its the most important one for you, Id suggest leaving --- Will not change this sig until Tommy Wiseau wins an Oscar (Started 12-21-2014) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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trappedunderice 06/15/19 6:20:29 PM #46: |
Does she have long black hair
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CellBlock7 06/15/19 6:26:14 PM #47: |
Girl, bye.
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FL81 06/15/19 7:29:28 PM #48: |
QuantumTheory posted...
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OmegaPillow 06/15/19 7:33:47 PM #49: |
If her dramatic ass dont give it up in a week, dump her
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orangefire25 06/15/19 7:34:22 PM #50: |
FrisbeeDude posted...
Personally, I'd probably break it off until she was in better state of mind. While you shouldnt pressure her, you're not obligated to wait it out either --- Peanut butter ain't gonna go without his Jam. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MutantJohn 06/15/19 7:36:18 PM #51: |
That's a lot of baggage. It's okay to not be able to handle it. Assault is a horrific thing
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EpicKingdom_ 06/15/19 7:49:00 PM #52: |
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Number090684 06/15/19 7:54:40 PM #53: |
FrisbeeDude posted...
Personally, I'd probably break it off until she was in better state of mind. While you shouldnt pressure her, you're not obligated to wait it out either --- US N Switch "Number" FC SW-3804-3177-9797 US PS3 / PS4 / PS Vita PSN: Number090684 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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