Current Events > Melissa Benoist shares story of domestic violence Ex broke her nose and tore eye

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Supergirl star Melissa Benoist is speaking out about domestic violence after what she describes as months of domestic abuse. In a vulnerable, 14-minute Instagram video posted on Wednesday, the actor declared upfront, "I am a survivor of domestic violence, or IPV, intimate partner violence." In the story, Benoist, 31, describes meeting the alleged perpetrator at a time in her life when she had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't eager to get into another. After becoming friends, she says, they started dating and the relationship immediately felt like a "runaway freight train." She says the abuse began as emotional manipulation, and that her partner was often jealous, looked at her devices, got angry when she spoke to other men, asked her to change clothes so others wouldn't look at her and got angry when she did romantic scenes at work.

The first incident of violence occurred five months in, she says in the video, when the partner allegedly threw a smoothie at her face. She kept the incident a secret out of shame, fear of again being abused and reluctance to admit it was happening to her. "I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard I felt the wind go out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head-butted, pinched until my skin broke, slammed against he wall so hard the drywall broke, choked," she said. When she locked herself in rooms, she said, the door was broken down, and she learned not to value property or "myself." A turning point occurred when the partner threw an iPhone at her face, allegedly tearing her iris to the point where it nearly ruptured her eyeball and breaking her nose, an injury such that her vision changed forever. She lied to the nurses and police about how she got the injuries but soon mustered the courage to be able to confide in a friend who asked her about her partner's controlling behavior. "The more people I let in, the more I was bolstered," she said. She says she then broke off relations with the partner. Ending her story, Benoist says, "None of this is salacious news, it was my reality. What I went through caused a tectonic shift in my outlook on life."

That Fallon interview where she said she tore iris falling down stairs so depressing now that it been revealed to have been a cover story for the abuse.
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Are you really copy pasting this

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inloveanddeath0 posted...

Are you really copy pasting this

That's your takeaway?

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That's messed up.
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Is it that glee guy she was with?

This puddle of magma is searing hot. Let me step out.

Sucks to hear. Just wonder why people let themselves stay in this situation though,I guess I can't fully understand because i've never been a victim of domestic violence, or an abuser. I guess they prey on insecurities, and the victim feels like no one would ever love them?

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Akagami_Shanks posted...

Sucks to hear. Just wonder why people let themselves stay in this situation though,I guess I can't fully understand because i've never been a victim of domestic violence, or an abuser. I guess they prey on insecurities, and the victim feels like no one would ever love them?

Yes. Abusers are manipulators. They consistently lower their victim's self esteem until it is next to nothing. They slowly make the victim dependent on them and only them. It can be extremely difficult for the victim to get out of this situation if they feel like they have nowhere to go.

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jborgan posted...

Yes. Abusers are manipulators. They consistently lower their victim's self esteem until it is next to nothing. They slowly make the victim dependent on them and only them. It can be extremely difficult for the victim to get out of this situation if they feel like they have nowhere to go.

It's also possible for victims to fear further reprisal. "If you try and leave I'll find you and kill you" isn't nearly as rare as you think. And the number of times it happens to come true, well. It's terrifying. Either leave and risk total death or stay and suffer.

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jborgan posted...

Akagami_Shanks posted...

Sucks to hear. Just wonder why people let themselves stay in this situation though,I guess I can't fully understand because i've never been a victim of domestic violence, or an abuser. I guess they prey on insecurities, and the victim feels like no one would ever love them?

Yes. Abusers are manipulators. They consistently lower their victim's self esteem until it is next to nothing. They slowly make the victim dependent on them and only them. It can be extremely difficult for the victim to get out of this situation if they feel like they have nowhere to go.

Weird. Im watching this movie where a couple have a girl locked in a box under their bed and thats precisely what they do to her.
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