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2 days ago I was speaking with someone who was pretty sad about the way he was made. He has a passion for basketball, I could always tell. Recently I noticed whenever something to do with basketball, or sports in general, he would get somewhat noticeably sad and or angry.

Anyway, I asked him about it, & that's when he layed it on me. He's 5'7 in height, and as a kid he wanted nothing more than to play basketball professionally. (He's also had issues with the way he looks, as he isn't the most attractive, but I already knew that) He's actually pretty good btw, which probably hurts him even more so

Every since that convo, everytime I do something i'm passionate in, I can't help but think what it would be like If I couldn't participate due to genetic factors/mental factors that are out of my control

Hell, same could be said with looks. Some people like certain height, as well as some people are just born with a... 'disadvantaged' face, or a unfortunate mental condition. It really does suck when you are unwillingly bought into a world, find something or someONE you have a passion for, just so you can fail due to shit you can't control

Have you guys or someone you know, ever realized you wouldn't be able to do/participate in something you love, due to genetic and or mental factors you have no control over?

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yes, and then you die.

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I agree with both poll options.

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Why the fuck would being 5'7 prevent anyone from playing basketball?

Just be fucking glad both your legs work.

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Life is unfair, but it's also what you make it.

You can have next to nothing and be happy/content, while on the opposite end, you could have everything this world can offer, but still yern for more.

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Umbreon posted...

Why the fuck would being 5'7 prevent anyone from playing basketball?

Just be fucking glad both your legs work.

Yeah

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Simon_Petrikov posted...

yes, and then you die.

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I picked the first option. The 2nd with the context of being here while being asked, makes me feel like it's the whiney option. People here say life isn't fair because they make no effort and things don't just fall into their lap.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I picked the first option. The 2nd with the context of being here while being asked, makes me feel like it's the whiney option. People here say life isn't fair because they make no effort and things don't just fall into their lap.

No amount of "effort" erases being born with a physical or mental issue. Infant shoes don't come with bootstraps.

That said while life is unfair, that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to make the best of it. One can accept the cruelty of life while not laying down and waiting to die.

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RedWhiteBlue posted...

You're a part of the problem.

How so?

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Simon_Petrikov posted...

yes, and then you die.

Life isnt "unfair" because that would mean somehow it's supposed to be. The universe doesnt care. You get what you get and you should aspire to be kind, but sometimes the nicest people die first and the shitty people get rich.

No one deserves anything. Life just is.

Life is ridiculously unbalanced but you can still do some cool stuff with a terrible build.

Its both. Everyone has different circumstances in life starting out. But in the end the quality of your is on you mostly. Its the difference between its everyone elses fault my life is what it is people and those that find happiness with the cards life has dealt them.

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linid0t posted...

Life isnt "unfair" because that would mean somehow it's supposed to be. The universe doesnt care. You get what you get and you should aspire to be kind, but sometimes the nicest people die first and the shitty people get rich.

No one deserves anything. Life just is.

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Simon_Petrikov posted...

yes, and then you die.

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RedWhiteBlue posted...

Just be glad he has his legs? You sound like someone who'd tell someone there are staving kids in Africa if they said they were hungry.

And 5'7" is a huge disadvantage in the NBA.

No. I hate people who play suffering bingo or whatever it's called. All I am saying is that there is nothing wrong with being 5'7. You have no health problems whatsoever. You should have few difficulties in life due to being that height.

Yes, you are at an disadvantage compared to taller players, but it is far from impossible. If both his legs work and he had no health problems then it is possible for him to join the NBA (It won't be easy obviously).

Compare that to any kid who dreamt about joining the NBA... but was born with only one leg. Your dream is dead on arrival.

There are players shorter than 5'7 in the NBA, aren't they? You may be at a disadvantage, but at least you have a fucking chance.

We all have difficulties in life. I don't deny that. I also don't deny that we all tackle our issues differently.


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Umbreon posted...

No amount of "effort" erases being born with a physical or mental issue. Infant shoes don't come with bootstraps.

That said while life is unfair, that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to make the best of it. One can accept the cruelty of life while not laying down and waiting to die.

I am one of those born with a disease and disability >_>. But I was born into a family that drowns me in unconditional love. So, how unlucky was I really?

I just decided to put my worth into how I treat others and not my physical effort. It's really just never black and white. None of us have more than one persons perspective.

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Mongo only pawn in game of life

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I am one of those born with a disease and disability >_>. But I was born into a family that drowns me in unconditional love. So, how unlucky was I really?

I just decided to put my worth into how I treat others and not my physical effort. It's really just never black and white. None of us have more than one persons perspective.

True. While we experience similar things, no one life is truly exactly the same as another's. There's always some details that changes things ever so slightly.

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Umbreon posted...

True. While we experience similar things, no one life is truly exactly the same as another's. There's always some details that changes things ever so slightly.

I do also realize that my attitude is something I needed to adapt to keep optimism in my life tho. It could influence delusion lol. I refuse to be a "woe is me" type person.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I do also realize that my attitude is something I needed to adapt to keep optimism in my life tho. It could influence delusion lol. I refuse to be a "woe is me" type person.

I have trouble with this sometimes. I try to stay positive. I understand on a fundamental level that giving up doesn't solve anything.

But then I get those episodes where I... well not "break down" but all the motivation leaves all St once and it's an absolute bitch to make myself snap our of it.

Thankfully things are slowly getting better, so one more positive to focus on.

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Umbreon posted...

I have trouble with this sometimes. I try to stay positive. I understand on a fundamental level that giving up doesn't solve anything.

But then I get those episodes where I... well not "break down" but all the motivation leaves all St once and it's an absolute bitch to make myself snap our of it.

Thankfully things are slowly getting better, so one more positive to focus on.

I don't mind when others vent to me or anything. I just always liked to approach my problems with humor. So when I voice problems with others, Im usually throwing self deprecating jokes in. I do it here constantly. I also usually only bring up "woe is me" stuff if it's mutual and I think someone might benefit off my take.

Like I said tho, my lack of being physically helpful, makes me try extra hard at being helpful to people mentally. People constantly help me with stuff so I gotta do something lol

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Yeah genetics for sure can play a big part. Even if I trained as hard as I could I could never match Usain Bolt in his prime if even in his retirement because he's got such a gifted body for that. However I can still do my best with what I have and become my best self at something I'm passionate about.
Even if you don't have good legs you can find something else to do. It's like dating. It sucks when you break up with the supposedly perfect woman(in this case, a Hobby) but you have plenty of time and chances to find a new passion.
Basically what I'm saying is, do the best with what you got and improve what you got is the ultimate moral of this topic. Amen.

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I most certainly am not.

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