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EnragedSlith 05/16/20 4:24:56 AM #51:	Yeah, I see homeless people all the time but I dont invite them into my home. --- ultimate milf hunter https://imgur.com/lCEdce6 https://imgur.com/2N1Ezia https://imgur.com/ukJ6sPJ https://youtu.be/IDYaHvDiTr4 <cite>EnragedSlith posted [p:939235511] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, I see homeless people all the time but I dont invite them into my home. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 4:26:17 AM #52:	cjsdowg posted... She can try to get emancipated . https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html Yes, this is definitely something Ill be looking into. Based on her experience and the literal finger bruises around her neck, Im sure she wont have to fight too hard to get emancipated --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939235533] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>cjsdowg posted... </cite> <quote>She can try to get emancipated . https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html</quote>Yes, this is definitely something Ill be looking into. Based on her experience and the literal finger bruises around her neck, Im sure she wont have to fight too hard to get emancipated </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Alteres 05/16/20 4:26:29 AM #53:	cjsdowg posted... She can try to get emancipated . https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html This might be a good idea, but only if she can find a way to support herself. Which might be difficult, especially now. I'm not sure foster care for a year is all that great of a fallback position, but it certainly is another option. --- ........the ghost in the machine... IGN: Fox, FC: 5344-2646-0982 <cite>Alteres posted [p:939235535] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>cjsdowg posted... </cite> <quote>She can try to get emancipated . https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html</quote>This might be a good idea, but only if she can find a way to support herself. Which might be difficult, especially now. I'm not sure foster care for a year is all that great of a fallback position, but it certainly is another option. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
P1nkP1ckle 05/16/20 4:26:52 AM #54:	Why do that? Would she bring a fat homeless old man home? --- I'm kind of a big dill <cite>P1nkP1ckle posted [p:939235542] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Why do that? Would she bring a fat homeless old man home? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EzeDoesIt 05/16/20 4:28:13 AM #55:	LightningAce11 posted... Why'd you make the og topic like that if this was the case? Harpie posted... Wow I could not have been more wrong if I tried LOL --- "Beef is when I quote you, guaranteed to break the TOU." -The Notorious Shablagoo <cite>EzeDoesIt posted [p:939235567] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>LightningAce11 posted... </cite> <quote>Why'd you make the og topic like that if this was the case?</quote> Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>Wow I could not have been more wrong if I tried LOL</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 4:29:09 AM #56:	Alteres posted... This might be a good idea, but only if she can find a way to support herself. Which might be difficult, especially now. I'm not sure foster care for a year is all that great of a fallback position, but it certainly is another option. Washington is really good about support and social services. There are programs available that will pay her rent, food and help her go to school for free They might even help with the emancipation process too --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939235580] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Alteres posted... </cite> <quote>This might be a good idea, but only if she can find a way to support herself. Which might be difficult, especially now. I'm not sure foster care for a year is all that great of a fallback position, but it certainly is another option.</quote>Washington is really good about support and social services. There are programs available that will pay her rent, food and help her go to school for free They might even help with the emancipation process too </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BatmanWTtP 05/16/20 4:32:36 AM #57:	Tag --- I'll never let you win, never. <cite>BatmanWTtP posted [p:939235634] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Tag </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EzeDoesIt 05/16/20 4:34:46 AM #58:	Harpie posted... Luckily I'm neither of those She has a history of running away (when she was a few years younger), and has been flagged as the rebellious adopted kid who'll lie for attention. I won't be calling CPS. It's backfired for her badly before It's backfired for me too. When I was around her age, I called the police because I thought my dad was going to kill me. He had pinned me against a wall and choked me it felt like my airways would collapse.. then he proceeded to beat me like a ragdoll. I was literally bloody and bruised and the police did nothing because I was made out to be crazy. My dad was so angry... and he made sure to let me know with his fists. I have nightmares from that night still :( The police are so dumb. They once told me, essentially, that they werent allowed to do anything when it came to familial disputes. Even though my brother was 2x bigger than me and had been doing hardcore drugs and exhibiting violence toward my mother and I for months which culminated in a fist fight between him and I in the kitchen. I was like wtf what does it matter that we are blood-related the motherfucker attacked me.... --- "Beef is when I quote you, guaranteed to break the TOU." -The Notorious Shablagoo <cite>EzeDoesIt posted [p:939235665] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>Luckily I'm neither of those She has a history of running away (when she was a few years younger), and has been flagged as the rebellious adopted kid who'll lie for attention. I won't be calling CPS. It's backfired for her badly before It's backfired for me too. When I was around her age, I called the police because I thought my dad was going to kill me. He had pinned me against a wall and choked me it felt like my airways would collapse.. then he proceeded to beat me like a ragdoll. I was literally bloody and bruised and the police did nothing because I was made out to be crazy. My dad was so angry... and he made sure to let me know with his fists. I have nightmares from that night still :(</quote> The police are so dumb. They once told me, essentially, that they werent allowed to do anything when it came to familial disputes. Even though my brother was 2x bigger than me and had been doing hardcore drugs and exhibiting violence toward my mother and I for months which culminated in a fist fight between him and I in the kitchen. I was like wtf what does it matter that we are blood-related the motherfucker attacked me.... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CosmicShadows 05/16/20 4:34:47 AM #59:	Don't let vegy get wind of this topic. <__< --- I can't think of a new sig. <cite>CosmicShadows posted [p:939235666] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Don't let vegy get wind of this topic. <__<</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 2:12:18 PM #60:	blogfaqs update This morning was the first time Ive had a panic attack in months.. This whole thing is really triggering my anxiety bad. I feel so confused and conflicted because I want to help her, but at the same time its like Im back in my old abusive home and because Im a fuckin nervous anxious wreck already this is uh not fun. Ive taken my meds tho so maybe theyll kick in later and Ill feel better I woke up to my roommate chatting with the girl, and apparently theyre both dead set against contacting any social workers, lawyers etc. I asked my rm what she woulf rather do instead and shed rather keep her for a while idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. now Im holed up in my room and and trying not to lose it. I havent been in this shitty of a mental space in over a year and I hate it. I keep getting waves of memories from my dad and him beating me and being really afraid TLDR Im an anxious wreck.. sorry for the book here i feel like I have no one to talk to --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939251736] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>blogfaqs update This morning was the first time Ive had a panic attack in months.. This whole thing is really triggering my anxiety bad. I feel so confused and conflicted because I want to help her, but at the same time its like Im back in my old abusive home and because Im a fuckin nervous anxious wreck already this is uh not fun. Ive taken my meds tho so maybe theyll kick in later and Ill feel better I woke up to my roommate chatting with the girl, and apparently theyre both dead set against contacting any social workers, lawyers etc. I asked my rm what she woulf rather do instead and shed rather keep her for a while idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. now Im holed up in my room and and trying not to lose it. I havent been in this shitty of a mental space in over a year and I hate it. I keep getting waves of memories from my dad and him beating me and being really afraid TLDR Im an anxious wreck.. sorry for the book here i feel like I have no one to talk to </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FortuneCookie 05/16/20 2:16:12 PM #61:	bow-chika-bow-wow music intensifies --- 2020 going to be a CE kind of year ~ Panthera <cite>FortuneCookie posted [p:939251905] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>bow-chika-bow-wow music intensifies </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
cjsdowg 05/16/20 2:22:30 PM #62:	Harpie posted... blogfaqs update.. No you don't let them do this to you. You are literally risking everything with her being here. Hell even if she is not lying you are still risking a lot. Tell them either call for help or get a hotel since it not right for them to risk your freedom. --- Bender: Well, everybody, I just saved a turtle. What have you done with your lives? <cite>cjsdowg posted [p:939252196] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>blogfaqs update..</quote> No you don't let them do this to you. You are literally risking everything with her being here. Hell even if she is not lying you are still risking a lot. Tell them either call for help or get a hotel since it not right for them to risk your freedom. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AirFresh 05/16/20 2:24:46 PM #63:	Harpie posted... blogfaqs update This morning was the first time Ive had a panic attack in months.. This whole thing is really triggering my anxiety bad. I feel so confused and conflicted because I want to help her, but at the same time its like Im back in my old abusive home and because Im a fuckin nervous anxious wreck already this is uh not fun. Ive taken my meds tho so maybe theyll kick in later and Ill feel better I woke up to my roommate chatting with the girl, and apparently theyre both dead set against contacting any social workers, lawyers etc. I asked my rm what she woulf rather do instead and shed rather keep her for a while idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. now Im holed up in my room and and trying not to lose it. I havent been in this shitty of a mental space in over a year and I hate it. I keep getting waves of memories from my dad and him beating me and being really afraid TLDR Im an anxious wreck.. sorry for the book here i feel like I have no one to talk to I think you need to get the minor to the authorities because if she really wanted help and had a case then they would not just put her back. Remember, she is 17 and 17 year olds have a tendency of making things up or being over dramatic. Not saying this is the case but this is really just not your buisness and it's being forced upon you pretty much. For all you really know this is a petty squabble and her parents are worried sick. Not only that but I am pretty sure since she is under 18 (WA laws could be different) and you have no blood relation then you two can be in a bad situation since the parents would have legal right to claim kidnapping on you. Get social services involved and let them do their job is my personal advice. I don't know the whole situation of course. --- AirFresh - Voted the hottest content creator on The FAQs' #KeepItFresh <cite>AirFresh posted [p:939252269] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>blogfaqs update This morning was the first time Ive had a panic attack in months.. This whole thing is really triggering my anxiety bad. I feel so confused and conflicted because I want to help her, but at the same time its like Im back in my old abusive home and because Im a fuckin nervous anxious wreck already this is uh not fun. Ive taken my meds tho so maybe theyll kick in later and Ill feel better I woke up to my roommate chatting with the girl, and apparently theyre both dead set against contacting any social workers, lawyers etc. I asked my rm what she woulf rather do instead and shed rather keep her for a while idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. now Im holed up in my room and and trying not to lose it. I havent been in this shitty of a mental space in over a year and I hate it. I keep getting waves of memories from my dad and him beating me and being really afraid TLDR Im an anxious wreck.. sorry for the book here i feel like I have no one to talk to</quote>I think you need to get the minor to the authorities because if she really wanted help and had a case then they would not just put her back. Remember, she is 17 and 17 year olds have a tendency of making things up or being over dramatic. Not saying this is the case but this is really just not your buisness and it's being forced upon you pretty much. For all you really know this is a petty squabble and her parents are worried sick. Not only that but I am pretty sure since she is under 18 (WA laws could be different) and you have no blood relation then you two can be in a bad situation since the parents would have legal right to claim kidnapping on you. Get social services involved and let them do their job is my personal advice. I don't know the whole situation of course. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Monolith1676 05/16/20 2:25:32 PM #64:	The mom is still the legal guardian and can seek prosecution against the both of you in this situation. --- Gears of War 1 Assassination Legend <cite>Monolith1676 posted [p:939252307] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>The mom is still the legal guardian and can seek prosecution against the both of you in this situation. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mr_Karate_II 05/16/20 2:29:59 PM #65:	Monolith1676 posted... The mom is still the legal guardian and can seek prosectution against the both of you in this situation. This --- Currently Playing: Resident Evil 4 Mercenaries Mode,Resident Evil 6 Mercenaries Mode & Call of Duty Ghosts <cite>Mr_Karate_II posted [p:939252506] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Monolith1676 posted... </cite> <quote>The mom is still the legal guardian and can seek prosectution against the both of you in this situation.</quote>This </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
a-c-a-b 05/16/20 2:30:15 PM #66:	Why are so many people suggesting to call the cops? It's a shitty situation but I believe 17 year olds are old enough to make the decision to leave home. Especially if there's abuse. --- Save for your doomed future <cite>a-c-a-b posted [p:939252520] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Why are so many people suggesting to call the cops? It's a shitty situation but I believe 17 year olds are old enough to make the decision to leave home. Especially if there's abuse.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
P1nkP1ckle 05/16/20 2:31:31 PM #67:	Just woke up, all our stuff is gone and she shit in the sink! --- I'm kind of a big dill <cite>P1nkP1ckle posted [p:939252580] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Just woke up, all our stuff is gone and she shit in the sink! </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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P1nkP1ckle 05/16/20 2:35:00 PM #69:	JustMyOpinion posted... Are you Harpie? Is this rhetorical? --- I'm kind of a big dill <cite>P1nkP1ckle posted [p:939252737] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>JustMyOpinion posted... </cite> <quote>Are you Harpie?</quote> Is this rhetorical? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Monolith1676 05/16/20 2:36:37 PM #71:	JustMyOpinion posted... Please answer the question and stop making snide remarks. It is not Harpie because Harpie updated like 30 min ago. --- Gears of War 1 Assassination Legend <cite>Monolith1676 posted [p:939252825] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>JustMyOpinion posted... </cite> <quote>Please answer the question and stop making snide remarks.</quote>It is not Harpie because Harpie updated like 30 min ago. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
P1nkP1ckle 05/16/20 2:37:06 PM #72:	JustMyOpinion posted... Please answer the question and stop making snide remarks. snide? that word, I dont think you know what it means --- I'm kind of a big dill <cite>P1nkP1ckle posted [p:939252847] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>JustMyOpinion posted... </cite> <quote>Please answer the question and stop making snide remarks.</quote> snide? that word, I dont think you know what it means </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ThePrinceFish 05/16/20 2:39:14 PM #74:	Lol at wording things like you found a lost dog. "she'd rather we just keep her for a little while" lmao --- Then shall the righteous shine forth as the sun in the kingdom of their Father. Who hath ears to hear, let him hear. <cite>ThePrinceFish posted [p:939252950] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Lol at wording things like you found a lost dog. "she'd rather we just keep her for a little while" lmao </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
P1nkP1ckle 05/16/20 2:40:43 PM #75:	JustMyOpinion posted... Oh, it's just some random person shitposting? Good to know. are you me? --- I'm kind of a big dill <cite>P1nkP1ckle posted [p:939253015] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>JustMyOpinion posted... </cite> <quote>Oh, it's just some random person shitposting? Good to know.</quote> are you me? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Number090684 05/16/20 2:43:29 PM #76:	Mr_Karate_II posted... This. This. Also lock all of your valuable shit up. She could try to steal some of it. Regardless if she is in a bad situation and you feel empathic towards her she is still a stranger and you don't know her true character yet. Err on the side of caution. --- US N Switch "Number" FC SW-3804-3177-9797 US PS3 / PS4 / PS Vita PSN: Number090684 <cite>Number090684 posted [p:939253146] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Mr_Karate_II posted... </cite> <quote>This.</quote> This. Also lock all of your valuable shit up. She could try to steal some of it. Regardless if she is in a bad situation and you feel empathic towards her she is still a stranger and you don't know her true character yet. Err on the side of caution. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
So_Hajile 05/16/20 2:44:36 PM #77:	Harpie posted... blogfaqs update This morning was the first time Ive had a panic attack in months.. This whole thing is really triggering my anxiety bad. I feel so confused and conflicted because I want to help her, but at the same time its like Im back in my old abusive home and because Im a fuckin nervous anxious wreck already this is uh not fun. Ive taken my meds tho so maybe theyll kick in later and Ill feel better I woke up to my roommate chatting with the girl, and apparently theyre both dead set against contacting any social workers, lawyers etc. I asked my rm what she woulf rather do instead and shed rather keep her for a while idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. now Im holed up in my room and and trying not to lose it. I havent been in this shitty of a mental space in over a year and I hate it. I keep getting waves of memories from my dad and him beating me and being really afraid TLDR Im an anxious wreck.. sorry for the book here i feel like I have no one to talk to You don't deserve to be placed into a situation in which you're having a breakdown. Worse yet is, if allowed to continue, will be for however long the girl stays. Add on top of that you don't know the girl and you could be putting yourself at risk. She cannot stay. Keeping her there for "a while" doesn't solve anything. She's not a pet and this is a situation in which you don't have time on your side. As others have said, there could be legal consequences. That aside, neither you or your roommate are prepared / equipped to do anything to help her situation other than bringing in an outside source whose job is to do that. Doesn't want to talk to the police? No child protective services? Then get legal advice. Talk to a lawyer. This is above you and your roommates means. The next step needs to be taken. Also, what's the update with her boyfriend's mom? Why didn't the girl go to her boyfriend? Why didn't she go to the boyfriend's mom? --- Reading up on the Bat-Family: https://bit.ly/2Us5RhG <cite>So_Hajile posted [p:939253213] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>blogfaqs update This morning was the first time Ive had a panic attack in months.. This whole thing is really triggering my anxiety bad. I feel so confused and conflicted because I want to help her, but at the same time its like Im back in my old abusive home and because Im a fuckin nervous anxious wreck already this is uh not fun. Ive taken my meds tho so maybe theyll kick in later and Ill feel better I woke up to my roommate chatting with the girl, and apparently theyre both dead set against contacting any social workers, lawyers etc. I asked my rm what she woulf rather do instead and shed rather keep her for a while idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. now Im holed up in my room and and trying not to lose it. I havent been in this shitty of a mental space in over a year and I hate it. I keep getting waves of memories from my dad and him beating me and being really afraid TLDR Im an anxious wreck.. sorry for the book here i feel like I have no one to talk to</quote>You don't deserve to be placed into a situation in which you're having a breakdown. Worse yet is, if allowed to continue, will be for however long the girl stays. Add on top of that you don't know the girl and you could be putting yourself at risk. She cannot stay. Keeping her there for "a while" doesn't solve anything. She's not a pet and this is a situation in which you don't have time on your side. As others have said, there could be legal consequences. That aside, neither you or your roommate are prepared / equipped to do anything to help her situation other than bringing in an outside source whose job is to do that. Doesn't want to talk to the police? No child protective services? Then get legal advice. Talk to a lawyer. This is above you and your roommates means. The next step needs to be taken. Also, what's the update with her boyfriend's mom? Why didn't the girl go to her boyfriend? Why didn't she go to the boyfriend's mom? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Politics 05/16/20 2:46:27 PM #78:	Corrupt_Power posted... Damn. What part of WA are you in? I'm in the greater Tacoma area. Oh shit I just realized TC is Harpie, no wonder you're cool Edit: and absolutely get the police involved if you can convince her that it's a good idea - the fact that she didn't herself makes me think she may not want to I lived in Tacoma for half a year, Hilltop neighborhood. --- (= <cite>Politics posted [p:939253315] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Corrupt_Power posted... </cite> <quote>Damn. What part of WA are you in? I'm in the greater Tacoma area. Oh shit I just realized TC is Harpie, no wonder you're cool Edit: and absolutely get the police involved if you can convince her that it's a good idea - the fact that she didn't herself makes me think she may not want to</quote> I lived in Tacoma for half a year, Hilltop neighborhood. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KookyCouture 05/16/20 2:48:25 PM #79:	@Harpie, I know this isn't the same situation but I saw this on reddit last night and perhaps the links in the post I'll copy / paste below may be useful: https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gkf6ac/myself_16f_and_sisters_17f_and_14fran_away_from/fqr8tha/ --- Drink up me hearties, yo ho <cite>KookyCouture posted [p:939253415] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>@Harpie, I know this isn't the same situation but I saw this on reddit last night and perhaps the links in the post I'll copy / paste below may be useful: https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gkf6ac/myself_16f_and_sisters_17f_and_14fran_away_from/fqr8tha/</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SwordMaster13X 05/16/20 2:50:24 PM #80:	Wait a minute if they are dead set on contacting social workers, then why did she contact her bf's mom is who is a social worker unless the girl didn't tell the bf's mom much? --- Ask me about my community board https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1072-the-underground-garden <cite>SwordMaster13X posted [p:939253503] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Wait a minute if they are dead set on contacting social workers, then why did she contact her bf's mom is who is a social worker unless the girl didn't tell the bf's mom much? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Tenlaar 05/16/20 2:52:21 PM #81:	Harpie posted... idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack.. I just want to focus on this part here for a second. I really understand how hard it can be to truly feel comfortable somewhere, and I also understand how terrible it is to feel like that is suddenly taken away without you having any say or control over it. Please, do not feel selfish for not wanting to let your roommate completely rip your feeling of comfort and security in your own home away from you. It is important and it's something that you deserve to have and you shouldn't feel bad about making sure that your roommate understands that and that they don't have the right to just decide to take it away from you. <cite>Tenlaar posted [p:939253607] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>idk I feel really selfish because that there sent me immediately into a panic attack..</quote>I just want to focus on this part here for a second. I really understand how hard it can be to truly feel comfortable somewhere, and I also understand how terrible it is to feel like that is suddenly taken away without you having any say or control over it. Please, do not feel selfish for not wanting to let your roommate completely rip your feeling of comfort and security in your own home away from you. It is important and it's something that you deserve to have and you shouldn't feel bad about making sure that your roommate understands that and that they don't have the right to just decide to take it away from you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 3:39:14 PM #82:	When your little sister has much more composure and common sense than you do LOL Thank you guys for talking to me and giving me advice I really really appreciate it. Im a wreck of a person and its hard to see things objectively for what they are sometimes Imma take a shower, calm down, and then tell my roommate that either we call social services or she cant keep staying here. Ive done a bit of research, and theres almost no way shed go back to her home. She may even be able to get emancipated and get assistance for living alone too --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939255663] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote> When your little sister has much more composure and common sense than you do LOL Thank you guys for talking to me and giving me advice I really really appreciate it. Im a wreck of a person and its hard to see things objectively for what they are sometimes Imma take a shower, calm down, and then tell my roommate that either we call social services or she cant keep staying here. Ive done a bit of research, and theres almost no way shed go back to her home. She may even be able to get emancipated and get assistance for living alone too </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
teepan95 05/16/20 3:41:07 PM #83:	Best of luck Harpie! I realise this could be hard for you, but you have to put your foot down! --- https://imgur.com/NlyIzM6 ~ Lara Croft and I, as drawn by Harpie! 'I'm gonna pound a 400 lb woman just to prove teep wrong' - NigerianKnight <cite>teepan95 posted [p:939255739] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Best of luck Harpie! I realise this could be hard for you, but you have to put your foot down!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pus_N_Pecans 05/16/20 3:43:01 PM #84:	indica posted... If this is real and you really don't want to contact the police, then I would definitely contact social services. She's going to need ongoing support that I doubt you can provide. I'd spend the rest of night looking up local programs that you can contact in the morning to help her. I'd probably do this tbh. You can give her a place in the short term, but she likely needs more help than any one person (or two) could give. Also, Harpie, have you ever been to therapy yourself for any of your own experiences? --- My arts- https://www.deviantart.com/bleakcreep <cite>Pus_N_Pecans posted [p:939255811] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>indica posted... </cite> <quote>If this is real and you really don't want to contact the police, then I would definitely contact social services. She's going to need ongoing support that I doubt you can provide. I'd spend the rest of night looking up local programs that you can contact in the morning to help her.</quote>I'd probably do this tbh. You can give her a place in the short term, but she likely needs more help than any one person (or two) could give. Also, Harpie, have you ever been to therapy yourself for any of your own experiences? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 3:48:02 PM #85:	So_Hajile posted... Doesn't want to talk to the police? No child protective services? Then get legal advice. Talk to a lawyer. This is above you and your roommates means. The next step needs to be taken. Also, what's the update with her boyfriend's mom? Why didn't the girl go to her boyfriend? Why didn't she go to the boyfriend's mom? Youre right, thank you for writing this all out. I needed it haha The girl doesnt want to go to her bfs because his mom is a mandated reporter. Shes really digging in her heels when it comes to contacting anyone KookyCouture posted... @Harpie, I know this isn't the same situation but I saw this on reddit last night and perhaps the links in the post I'll copy / paste below may be useful: https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gkf6ac/myself_16f_and_sisters_17f_and_14fran_away_from/fqr8tha/ Its relevant enough, thank you! There are a lot of resources there that I think could be helpful.. SwordMaster13X posted... Wait a minute if they are dead set on contacting social workers, then why did she contact her bf's mom is who is a social worker unless the girl didn't tell the bf's mom much? Honestly I dont know. The situation is confusing and even Im not getting clear answers. The bfs mom knows everything and even recommended to take pictures of the marks, but apparently advised her not to come there if she didnt want CPS called But isnt a mandated reporter supposed to blow the whistle when they hear of anything like this? Regardless or not of actually being physically present? Yeah, not sure. Ill ask more.. the girl is seemingly reluctant to say much about it --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939255996] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>So_Hajile posted... </cite> <quote>Doesn't want to talk to the police? No child protective services? Then get legal advice. Talk to a lawyer. This is above you and your roommates means. The next step needs to be taken. Also, what's the update with her boyfriend's mom? Why didn't the girl go to her boyfriend? Why didn't she go to the boyfriend's mom?</quote>Youre right, thank you for writing this all out. I needed it haha The girl doesnt want to go to her bfs because his mom is a mandated reporter. Shes really digging in her heels when it comes to contacting anyone KookyCouture posted... </cite> <quote>@Harpie, I know this isn't the same situation but I saw this on reddit last night and perhaps the links in the post I'll copy / paste below may be useful: https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gkf6ac/myself_16f_and_sisters_17f_and_14fran_away_from/fqr8tha/</quote>Its relevant enough, thank you! There are a lot of resources there that I think could be helpful.. SwordMaster13X posted... </cite> <quote>Wait a minute if they are dead set on contacting social workers, then why did she contact her bf's mom is who is a social worker unless the girl didn't tell the bf's mom much?</quote>Honestly I dont know. The situation is confusing and even Im not getting clear answers. The bfs mom knows everything and even recommended to take pictures of the marks, but apparently advised her not to come there if she didnt want CPS called But isnt a mandated reporter supposed to blow the whistle when they hear of anything like this? Regardless or not of actually being physically present? Yeah, not sure. Ill ask more.. the girl is seemingly reluctant to say much about it </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FaytlessHearts 05/16/20 3:49:06 PM #86:	Captain_Qwark posted... She's 17 Call the fucking police This. Someone should seriously involve authorities. --- Lel <cite>FaytlessHearts posted [p:939256050] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Captain_Qwark posted... </cite> <quote>She's 17 Call the fucking police</quote> This. Someone should seriously involve authorities. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Patchwork 05/16/20 4:17:50 PM #87:	EzeDoesIt posted... The police are so dumb. They once told me, essentially, that they werent allowed to do anything when it came to familial disputes. Even though my brother was 2x bigger than me and had been doing hardcore drugs and exhibiting violence toward my mother and I for months which culminated in a fist fight between him and I in the kitchen. I was like wtf what does it matter that we are blood-related the motherfucker attacked me.... Sounds like a textbook domestic violence case to me. Also sounds like, barring factors not mentioned, you had a poor luck of the draw with the officer who handled the incident. Inexperienced, poorly trained, or outright lazy. --- The mind is its own place, and in itself Can make a heav'n of hell, a hell of heav'n. <cite>Patchwork posted [p:939257172] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>EzeDoesIt posted... </cite> <quote>The police are so dumb. They once told me, essentially, that they werent allowed to do anything when it came to familial disputes. Even though my brother was 2x bigger than me and had been doing hardcore drugs and exhibiting violence toward my mother and I for months which culminated in a fist fight between him and I in the kitchen. I was like wtf what does it matter that we are blood-related the motherfucker attacked me....</quote> Sounds like a textbook domestic violence case to me. Also sounds like, barring factors not mentioned, you had a poor luck of the draw with the officer who handled the incident. Inexperienced, poorly trained, or outright lazy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WallStreetWolf 05/16/20 4:20:26 PM #88:	Just wanted to say it's incredibly gracious of you to take someone in like this. Good people still do exist Also, are the bruises from her boyfriend or members of her family? I haven't read every post here --- "I'm 38 and nearly lost it last night when I thought I'd lost my Minecraft world." - DSP <cite>WallStreetWolf posted [p:939257296] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Just wanted to say it's incredibly gracious of you to take someone in like this. Good people still do exist Also, are the bruises from her boyfriend or members of her family? I haven't read every post here </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
So_Hajile 05/16/20 5:17:00 PM #89:	Harpie posted... Youre right, thank you for writing this all out. I needed it haha The girl doesnt want to go to her bfs because his mom is a mandated reporter. Shes really digging in her heels when it comes to contacting anyone Its relevant enough, thank you! There are a lot of resources there that I think could be helpful.. Honestly I dont know. The situation is confusing and even Im not getting clear answers. The bfs mom knows everything and even recommended to take pictures of the marks, but apparently advised her not to come there if she didnt want CPS called But isnt a mandated reporter supposed to blow the whistle when they hear of anything like this? Regardless or not of actually being physically present? Yeah, not sure. Ill ask more.. the girl is seemingly reluctant to say much about it Sounds like you're not getting the full story in regards to the boyfriend's mother. I figure the reasoning would have been it's the first place her parents would look for her. Like you said, if the mother already knows about it then it's her job to report it. If anything, it probably should have been reported before now which makes me suspect something isn't quite right. Also, and I know CE can also be a cesspool at times, but if you need a venue to speak out and keep yourself calm, you can continue to post here like you've been doing. Sometimes it helps just to write everything out. --- Reading up on the Bat-Family: https://bit.ly/2Us5RhG <cite>So_Hajile posted [p:939259706] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Harpie posted... </cite> <quote>Youre right, thank you for writing this all out. I needed it haha The girl doesnt want to go to her bfs because his mom is a mandated reporter. Shes really digging in her heels when it comes to contacting anyone Its relevant enough, thank you! There are a lot of resources there that I think could be helpful.. Honestly I dont know. The situation is confusing and even Im not getting clear answers. The bfs mom knows everything and even recommended to take pictures of the marks, but apparently advised her not to come there if she didnt want CPS called But isnt a mandated reporter supposed to blow the whistle when they hear of anything like this? Regardless or not of actually being physically present? Yeah, not sure. Ill ask more.. the girl is seemingly reluctant to say much about it</quote>Sounds like you're not getting the full story in regards to the boyfriend's mother. I figure the reasoning would have been it's the first place her parents would look for her. Like you said, if the mother already knows about it then it's her job to report it. If anything, it probably should have been reported before now which makes me suspect something isn't quite right. Also, and I know CE can also be a cesspool at times, but if you need a venue to speak out and keep yourself calm, you can continue to post here like you've been doing. Sometimes it helps just to write everything out. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
furb 05/16/20 5:24:29 PM #90:	Go here and report the situation. Sorry if this has been posted before. https://www.missingkids.org/HOME --- You know how fads are. Today it's brains, tomorrow, pierced tongues. Then the next day, pierced brains. -Jane Lane <cite>furb posted [p:939260043] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Go here and report the situation. Sorry if this has been posted before. https://www.missingkids.org/HOME </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CoDWarzone 05/16/20 5:36:11 PM #91:	Calling the police shouldve been the first thing to do. This is like in the movies when main characters make stupid ass decisions that come biting them in the ass. Use common sense <cite>CoDWarzone posted [p:939260583] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Calling the police shouldve been the first thing to do. This is like in the movies when main characters make stupid ass decisions that come biting them in the ass. Use common sense </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Machete 05/16/20 7:48:21 PM #92:	even though the situation was much different than you initially anticipated, that naked golf suggested would still have been an awesome choice. In fact, the change of circumstances may have even made it contextually better because more lulz could have been had. but on a serious note, hopefully things turn out okay and you can help her any way you can and she's willing to help herself in any way she can also. You got out of a bad situation so hopefully at the very least, she'll be hopeful and motivated that she can as well --- Who can @ Mention me? -Nobody- <cite>Machete posted [p:939266119] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>even though the situation was much different than you initially anticipated, that naked golf suggested would still have been an awesome choice. In fact, the change of circumstances may have even made it contextually better because more lulz could have been had. but on a serious note, hopefully things turn out okay and you can help her any way you can and she's willing to help herself in any way she can also. You got out of a bad situation so hopefully at the very least, she'll be hopeful and motivated that she can as well </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 8:18:11 PM #93:	update She's gone. After I took a shower and collected myself, I started talking with her about her options more seriously. My roommate became super paranoid and was freaking out over anything to do with getting help, so I took control over the situation. I spent a few hours calling anonymous case workers and shelters, and there's somewhere she can go on Thursday. I called he bf's mom too, and she's gonna be housing the girl until Thursday. We also have her set up with someone who can represent and be an advocate for her. He'll be able to help in securing her a place in the shelter, getting a protection order, making sure CPS can't force her anywhere, possibly getting emancipated, etc etc Her bf picked her up a little while ago, so I think she's in safe hands now. She hadn't met his mom before this, so that's an interesting way to get to know each other haha But yeah, I'm really surprised at how quickly we were able get a game plan going. I have her contact info, so hopefully I'll be getting updates on how things are going. But she seemed hopeful by the time she was leaving. She was really scared and unwilling to talk to anyone (her dad's a cop), but now she feels safe enough to start getting legal action. Since she's 17, she has a lot of say in where she wants to go or wants to do. While she doesn't have full independence like an 18 year old, she at least has a lot more control than say, a 13 year old --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939267448] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>update She's gone. After I took a shower and collected myself, I started talking with her about her options more seriously. My roommate became super paranoid and was freaking out over anything to do with getting help, so I took control over the situation. I spent a few hours calling anonymous case workers and shelters, and there's somewhere she can go on Thursday. I called he bf's mom too, and she's gonna be housing the girl until Thursday. We also have her set up with someone who can represent and be an advocate for her. He'll be able to help in securing her a place in the shelter, getting a protection order, making sure CPS can't force her anywhere, possibly getting emancipated, etc etc Her bf picked her up a little while ago, so I think she's in safe hands now. She hadn't met his mom before this, so that's an interesting way to get to know each other haha But yeah, I'm really surprised at how quickly we were able get a game plan going. I have her contact info, so hopefully I'll be getting updates on how things are going. But she seemed hopeful by the time she was leaving. She was really scared and unwilling to talk to anyone (her dad's a cop), but now she feels safe enough to start getting legal action. Since she's 17, she has a lot of say in where she wants to go or wants to do. While she doesn't have full independence like an 18 year old, she at least has a lot more control than say, a 13 year old </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SpaceBear_ 05/16/20 8:36:18 PM #94:	Your roommate seems like a really shitty person to me. --- - God bless, downtime and TheSlinja. YNWA GameFAQs' Favourite Sons. - Official Barman Of Champion Pub <cite>SpaceBear_ posted [p:939268162] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Your roommate seems like a really shitty person to me. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
So_Hajile 05/16/20 8:52:49 PM #95:	Wow, that all fell into place rather nicely. Good work. Harp! She was really scared and unwilling to talk to anyone (her dad's a cop) I can understand the paranoia coming from her towards the legal system then. It's also a good thing you contacted authorities when you did rather than wait until later. Imagine her cop father finding out you and your roommate were stowing his daughter away. I could see that getting messy. --- Reading up on the Bat-Family: https://bit.ly/2Us5RhG <cite>So_Hajile posted [p:939268892] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Wow, that all fell into place rather nicely. Good work. Harp! <quote>She was really scared and unwilling to talk to anyone (her dad's a cop)</quote>I can understand the paranoia coming from her towards the legal system then. It's also a good thing you contacted authorities when you did rather than wait until later. Imagine her cop father finding out you and your roommate were stowing his daughter away. I could see that getting messy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Alteres 05/16/20 8:52:52 PM #96:	Hmmm, the fact that her dad is a cop probably plays a very large part in everything. Especially her distrust of authorities and her extreme reluctance to contact any of them, and lack of faith in any productive consequences. --- ........the ghost in the machine... IGN: Fox, FC: 5344-2646-0982 <cite>Alteres posted [p:939268895] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>Hmmm, the fact that her dad is a cop probably plays a very large part in everything. Especially her distrust of authorities and her extreme reluctance to contact any of them, and lack of faith in any productive consequences. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
cjsdowg 05/16/20 9:37:51 PM #97:	I am glad she is gone, there was literally a case where a cop had a arm posse going around trying to get into people houses looking for a run a way. --- Bender: Well, everybody, I just saved a turtle. What have you done with your lives? <cite>cjsdowg posted [p:939270695] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>I am glad she is gone, there was literally a case where a cop had a arm posse going around trying to get into people houses looking for a run a way. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Tyranthraxus 05/16/20 9:40:38 PM #98:	ChainedRedone posted... Well most states 17 is legal. So it's not that illegal? But yeah if your parents claim your roommate kidnapped her...problem. Get the fuck away In no state in America is 17 considered not a minor. You cannot have legal guardianship of her and the police need to be called or else your ass could go to jail for kidnapping. --- It says right here in Matthew 16:4 "Jesus doth not need a giant Mecha." https://imgur.com/dQgC4kv <cite>Tyranthraxus posted [p:939270807] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>ChainedRedone posted... </cite> <quote>Well most states 17 is legal. So it's not that illegal? But yeah if your parents claim your roommate kidnapped her...problem. Get the fuck away</quote> In no state in America is 17 considered not a minor. You cannot have legal guardianship of her and the police need to be called or else your ass could go to jail for kidnapping. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Harpie 05/16/20 9:41:51 PM #99:	SpaceBear_ posted... Your roommate seems like a really shitty person to me. I mean, she did what she thought was right. And it ended up working out okay in the end So_Hajile posted... Wow, that all fell into place rather nicely. Good work. Harp! I can understand the paranoia coming from her towards the legal system then. It's also a good thing you contacted authorities when you did rather than wait until later. Imagine her cop father finding out you and your roommate were stowing his daughter away. I could see that getting messy. Well, I dont want to count my chickens before they hatch. She still needs to get in contact with her advocate on Monday, and make sure that shes secured a spot in a safe place. But honestly things are as good as theyre probably gonna get right now so thats good ^^ Thank you I agree, its super understandable. Hes used his powers as a cop in the past to explain away domestic violence situations with her. Its corrupt how much the police will look out for each other instead of the well being of others Alteres posted... Hmmm, the fact that her dad is a cop probably plays a very large part in everything. Especially her distrust of authorities and her extreme reluctance to contact any of them, and lack of faith in any productive consequences. Yep, this. She had alluded to it last night, but I didnt really know until today when she told me Makes sense --- no <cite>Harpie posted [p:939270849] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>SpaceBear_ posted... </cite> <quote>Your roommate seems like a really shitty person to me.</quote>I mean, she did what she thought was right. And it ended up working out okay in the end So_Hajile posted... </cite> <quote>Wow, that all fell into place rather nicely. Good work. Harp! I can understand the paranoia coming from her towards the legal system then. It's also a good thing you contacted authorities when you did rather than wait until later. Imagine her cop father finding out you and your roommate were stowing his daughter away. I could see that getting messy.</quote>Well, I dont want to count my chickens before they hatch. She still needs to get in contact with her advocate on Monday, and make sure that shes secured a spot in a safe place. But honestly things are as good as theyre probably gonna get right now so thats good ^^ Thank you I agree, its super understandable. Hes used his powers as a cop in the past to explain away domestic violence situations with her. Its corrupt how much the police will look out for each other instead of the well being of others Alteres posted... </cite> <quote>Hmmm, the fact that her dad is a cop probably plays a very large part in everything. Especially her distrust of authorities and her extreme reluctance to contact any of them, and lack of faith in any productive consequences.</quote>Yep, this. She had alluded to it last night, but I didnt really know until today when she told me Makes sense </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Reis 05/16/20 9:42:55 PM #100:	CoDWarzone posted... Calling the police shouldve been the first thing to do cops are useless in America so this is a lol worthy post <cite>Reis posted [p:939270883] in My roommat... [t:78692931]...</cite> <quote>CoDWarzone posted... </cite> <quote>Calling the police shouldve been the first thing to do</quote> cops are useless in America so this is a lol worthy post </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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