Current Events > Dating in your thirty you only have two option for Women.

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xmenhavok posted...

I think people are right that you lived up to the name, but whatever you still made a valid point.

Oh, I definitely got a few screws loose and jumble up my thoughts a lot. I'm not educated at all. I learned everything from the backseat, listening to others in every day life. But I pride myself on the few gems amongst all the nonsense lol.

DespondentDeity posted...

I like how you put it, that most people compare the best parts of themselves to the worst parts of everyone else. No one wants to take responsibility for their own misery. I'm struggling with dating too but it's way more about the way I put myself out there (er, more often the way I DON'T put myself out there) than anything to do with potential partners.

Same man. If I was to die today, my prime in the dating game was awhile ago. I killed it before everyone got aspirations and shit >_>. Now it's just a lack of effort in seeking out someone who is happy for the same reasons I can be. But having some self awareness puts you ahead of the game because when you do get in there, you only have to make mistakes once. These guys pushing it all off on the women will just keep making the same mistakes and history will repeat itself. I see it with too many of my cousins.

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rivers posted...

Whoa, sup G. Cool to see catch you here.
edit: @Autocraticus adding this @ because idk if replies notify

@rivers sorry man, I hate to pull this card but do I know you?

yeah from high school
you may recall that my mom looked like one of the aim emoticons

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As someone who recently left their wife and 31, it's been nothing but girls in their 20s hitting me up.

But I work out everyday, have a job that pays 80k yearly, own a house and 2 cars, etc

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hyperpowder posted...

a job that pays 80k yearly

lol @ the poors

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hyperpowder posted...

As someone who recently left their wife and 31, it's been nothing but girls in their 20s hitting me up.

But I work out everyday, have a job that pays 80k yearly, own a house and 2 cars, etc

My boy living it up get that young puss.

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Questionmarktarius posted...

or date a cougar whose kids are old enough to be out of the picture.

Or better yet, date the cougar's daughter.

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KogaSteelfang posted...

I wouldn't mind a single mom. Pre-made family? Heck ya!

As if you'd want to raise a SOCK.

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TreyFlowers posted...

As if you'd want to raise a SOCK.

Come on you don't know that. That kid could be the best thing that happen to you.

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Nah man, I could only ever truly love my own. Adopting, entering a relationship with a single mum, that ain't me.

Luckily I'm married. If for some reason it doesn't work out, that'd be it for me. I'd stay single forever.

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rivers posted...

yeah from high school
you may recall that my mom looked like one of the aim emoticons

Sorry, doesn't ring a bell.

TreyFlowers posted...

Nah man, I could only ever truly love my own.

Are you saying that you don't truly love your wife? You don't truly love any of your friends? You don't truly love any person on this planet?

Autocraticus posted...

Sorry, doesn't ring a bell.

Perhaps you'll recall the assistance I provided in building the DJ Fruity Buddy Icons website in 2001

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Tenlaar posted...

Are you saying that you don't truly love your wife? You don't truly love any of your friends? You don't truly love any person on this planet?

My own kids. Of course I truly love my wife. I could love an adopted kid but deep down, there'd be a part of me saying "you're not mine".

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TreyFlowers posted...

My own kids. Of course I truly love my wife. I could love an adopted kid but deep down, there'd be a part of me saying "you're not mine".

He got a point.

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Im not raising some other dudes kids, fuck that.

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Fuck

You're right

Idk, I felt the same way until one of my best friends adopted his stepdaughter and seeing how genuine their love for one another is just instantly shattered my worldview.

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DespondentDeity posted...

Idk, I felt the same way until one of my best friends adopted his stepdaughter and seeing how genuine their love for one another is just instantly shattered my worldview.

That's really great, it is. I say that without being condescending. My view is my personal view, it's not something that I imagine everybody would have.

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Yeah theres this chick Im seeing who is 33 I think... learning slowly she is crazy

as in desperate/horny to keep me around


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TreyFlowers posted...

Nah man, I could only ever truly love my own. Adopting, entering a relationship with a single mum, that ain't me.

What if the kid was 18 years old or older and independent? Meaning you didn't have to raise them? Would that make a difference?

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Probably, yeah, it would, if I were older.

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Gamerguymass posted...

Or better yet, date the cougar's daughter.

Better still, nab the MILF *and* the adult daughter as a package deal.
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@rivers

Perhaps you'll recall the assistance I provided in building the DJ Fruity Buddy Icons website in 2001

Oh, hey, glad you're alive! Thought your Scandinavian family may have taken you.

Autocraticus posted...

@rivers

Oh, hey, glad you're alive! Thought your Scandinavian family may have taken you.

thanks! and likewise pleased to infer from upthread that you're doing well, engaged and all that. who kept the nes games, you or bigic?

didn't get kidnapped by scandinavians, but i've been reconnecting a bit after some time away...reading a biography of julius caesar in swedish, and there are always some scandinavians closeby. living in wisconsin right now for some reason

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Where is this data coming from? People are getting married later and later as time goes on. If you're finding single moms, that's just girls who made bad choices. Girls who work or aren't actively seeking relationships don't fit into the two options.

Also you know, they could just be getting off of a bad relationship

Unless we're talking like mid-thirties then you're probably right

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legendarylemur posted...

Where is this data coming from? People are getting married later and later as time goes on. If you're finding single moms, that's just girls who made bad choices. Girls who work or aren't actively seeking relationships don't fit into the two options.

Also you know, they could just be getting off of a bad relationship

Unless we're talking like mid-thirties then you're probably right

Really I'm 31.

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Wrong topic creator, men in their 30s and up simply date women in their 20s now that they have money, and have establish themselves.

Your doing it wrong if your dating single mothers as they come with all kinds of crap you dont need in your life.

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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Wrong topic creator, men in their 30s and up simply date women in their 20s now that they have money, and have establish themselves.

Your doing it wrong if your dating single mothers as they come with all kinds of crap you dont need in your life.

I can always travel again. Wanting to go to Canada again and maybe Peru to visit fam.

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This is how I feel. It probably doesn't help that I'm an introvert recluse who wasted much of my 20's.

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Just avoid the low hanging fruit, and yes you can always travel and explore fun places.

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This isnt actually how it is.

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The misogynist circle jerk started early today I see

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@Solar_Crimson
Most men do not have much in their 20s, its when you start making decent money in your 30s that you can actually do fun stuff since your not dirt poor any longer and finally establishing yourself in a good career.

Never settle when you have not even begun to actually enjoy life, men have a slow start and struggle but it only gets better as you get your career off the ground.

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Jumping in to the dating scene after a 12 year relationship at 37.
Im excited right now. Not thinking im going to just easily kill it out there, but, excited to learn and get stories.
Also im NOT looking for long term

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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

@Solar_Crimson
Most men do not have much in their 20s, its when you start making decent money in your 30s that you can actually do fun stuff since your not dirt poor any longer and finally establishing yourself in a good career.

Never settle when you have not even begun to actually enjoy life, men have a slow start and struggle but it only gets better as you get your career off the ground.

Exactly I wanted money in my twenties that I pursue that.

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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

@Solar_Crimson
Most men do not have much in their 20s, its when you start making decent money in your 30s that you can actually do fun stuff since your not dirt poor any longer and finally establishing yourself in a good career.

Never settle when you have not even begun to actually enjoy life, men have a slow start and struggle but it only gets better as you get your career off the ground.

This is what im hoping as i am in a great financial position at the moment.
I just have to make sure im not taken advantage of at this point

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If your a well to do man and want to get into the dating game just dress down, wear less fancy clothes and dont flaunt your wealth so you dont attract a gold digger.

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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

If your a well to do man and want to get into the dating game just dress down, wear less fancy clothes and dont flaunt your wealth so you dont attract a gold digger.

Im not THAT well to do. Ive got 6 figures in the bank and make about $80k per year

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That is still decent money and you want to keep it safe from a gold digger, no one wants to attract someone only looking for an easy pay day.

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how about impressionable 18 years olds?

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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

That is still decent money and you want to keep it safe from a gold digger, no one wants to attract someone only looking for an easy pay day.

This is true. I like to think ill be able to avoid this

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Bump.

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