Current Events > Girl Told Me She's Had Sex With More Than 35 Men. Is This Normal?

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35 isnt even a lot

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BeantownHero posted...

I just find it funny that men are still equating number of sexual partners with an ability to be in a stable relationship in 2020

As much as I hate the trad/incelly/random-ass baseless theories about women, it does appear to be the case that more partners means less relationship stability, although it's not a consistently proportionate scale, which is pretty weird.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability

It's surprisingly difficult to come across material on this, but I can't find any scholarly material at all saying the opposite.

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BeantownHero posted...

I just find it funny that men are still equating number of sexual partners with an ability to be in a stable relationship in 2020

Thats youre argument? You find it funny?
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3 a year roughly, that isn't that many. If you want to hear about many, there's a gay guy that shows up in one set of videos(I forget what the channel is called. Could have been Jubilee or Facts or something), that slept with over 3000 men by the age 30.

girls be having sex with multiple dudes in one night and these folks think 25 is alot lol

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There's a bunch of surveys on this type of thing. Even though there's a fair bit of variation by location, age, gender (though that's probably men/women over/under reporting), average is typically 5 - 10. There's no data to say 35 is particularly common.

I am lucky #10 for my wife and I thought that was a bit high, but I have weird views on sex (long term relationship, emotionally in love, etc.). I don't hold it against her in any way shape or form and we've been together 7+ years. Hell, I'm a newb compared to her and I am the only one she's actually enjoyed being in bed with.

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Kaldrenthebold posted...

I am the only one she's actually enjoyed being in bed with.

lol keep believing that.

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krazychao5 posted...

@MyBirthRight

Hey, so did you tell her how many chicks you slept with? Usually when a chick tells me her number, she requests I giver her mine as well.

Also, how many chicks you slept with?

Ive slept with only 2. I'm 27 and lost my virginity last year

And yes I informed her of this

Its her life. If she's protected herself, who cares?

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MyBirthRight posted...

Ive slept with only 2. I'm 27 and lost my virginity last year

And yes I informed her of this

Nice man, well good luck going for number three!

Best advice I can give is to live in the moment. No need to judge her for what she did in the past. Build a healthy relationship and you won't need to worry about who is in her rearview

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I did like 50 men in a year, but only active 6 months. So its not a hard feat if you can get laid easilly.

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Bananana posted...

Good lord at the misogyny and bitterness itt

No kidding. I mean, I'm not surprised (look at where we're at), but Jesus...

If she's using protection and gets tested (two things that anyone whom is sexually active should be doing, regardless of their gender), then there shouldn't be an issue.

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The simple answer: If having that many previous partners is a turn off for you then you're free to not pursue her and don't let anyone else tell you different. You're allowed to have your own set of standards. But you can do that without name calling or shaming. No need for that.

If it doesn't bother you then go ahead.
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Guide posted...

As much as I hate the trad/incelly/random-ass baseless theories about women, it does appear to be the case that more partners means less relationship stability, although it's not a consistently proportionate scale, which is pretty weird.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintuitive-trends-in-the-link-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability

It's surprisingly difficult to come across material on this, but I can't find any scholarly material at all saying the opposite.

Of course. Anyone who has a decent amount of experience with women gets this. But in today's "discourse" its in vogue to deny easily provable lived experience/reality in favor of empty buzzwords and accusations.

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35 by 25 does seem exceedingly high, especially given what women have told me about how much sex theyve had.

Men are uncomfortable with this because lets face it; less than 2% of men are having that much sex and the ones that are, are exceptionally attractive. Last year even during my hoe phase I think I only slept with 6 girls and that was very extreme for me.

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krazychao5 posted...

lol keep believing that.

Oh I will, when you get full body quakes and nonsense gibberish out of a woman, you're doing things completely right. Good luck!

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Yes

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fire_bolt posted...

Real answer: 35 is a lot at 25, someone likes to play. While I don't think there's anything wrong with that I definitely wouldn't get involved with someone with that deep a history because, if nothing else, it implies pretty seriously she can't have a stable relationship. The math works out to more than 3 guys per year unless she started hella, hella early. I'm not looking to help anyone unpack that much baggage

Or, she doesn't want a relationship at a young age. Sleeping with one different guy every 3 months is not that much. Especially once you can go out clubbing.

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35 guys (or more) lol, even with a protection, the chance of you getting an STD is insanely high

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krazychao5 posted...

Damn, y'alls are real insecure.

From what I've seen in my life, and the girls I have slept with and talked about numbers, 35 is on the medium/low end.

Chicks get around. They just don't broadcast it.

XD

Find someone that values sex the same as you. If you dont want someone that has a new partner every month thats fine. Just keep it moving as there is no real normal.

For me it simply depends on the time frame.

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legendarylemur posted...

35 guys (or more) lol, even with a protection, the chance of you getting an STD is insanely high

yeah thats why disease is rampant right now in the usa

legendarylemur posted...

35 guys (or more) lol, even with a protection, the chance of you getting an STD is insanely high

some are curable, and if you use protection correctly, the chances are much lower.

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Clerks is such a good movie

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its the new normal

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onedarksoul posted...

Of course. Anyone who has a decent amount of experience with women gets this. But in today's "discourse" its in vogue to deny easily provable lived experience/reality in favor of empty buzzwords and accusations.

For the record, lived experience is just anecdotal evidence, and is quite nearly worthless in this context. I've had personal experience that correlates, sure, but I can't prove it any.

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Normal if shes a massive whore

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If shes clean who cares lol

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I4NRulez posted...

If shes clean who cares lol

Attractive women attract more sex. Facts.

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Average =/= Normal

Heavy people are above average in weight, but aren't considered 'abnormal' people.

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I haven't had too many partners but I consider myself sexually active. I know some dudes who bang a different girl a week sitcom style and they're still flighty. Really depends tbh.

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Wii_Shaker posted...

Attractive women attract more sex. Facts.

Tend to attract more sex. Important distinction.

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a lot if incel, sex shaming, and sexist ignorance in this topic

Only worrisome if you're insecure and have unrealistic standards when it comes to women. Some girls fuck, get over it.

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It's stupid to shame women for doing their thing, but it's stupid to shame people for holding to their own standards. I have nothing against the girl who slept with 35 guys, but it is perfectly understandable that some people wouldn't pursue her knowing that.

Note that having standards doesn't need to include shaming people, for the incels in the topic.

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to most white men,if none of those 35 were black,shes still good.

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RainShower posted...

to most white men,if none of those 35 were black,shes still good.

I am offended on the part of the many decent white men I know. Shut up.

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Flockaveli posted...

Only worrisome if you're insecure and have unrealistic standards when it comes to women. Some girls fuck, get over it.

Why do they have to get over it?

Everyone has a dealbreaker. Whats yours? Maybe you should get over it.

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Why do they have to get over it?

Everyone has a dealbreaker. Whats yours? Maybe you should get over it.

because it literally doesnt affect you. If she doesnt tell you, it would literally not change anything

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greencheek posted...

a lot if incel, sex shaming, and sexist ignorance in this topic

buzzword bingo

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FWB material, don't pass it up. Make sure she is on birth control and always have a condom on hand just in case.


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If a man has sex with more than 35 guys, he's probably gay.

It's been normal since the beginning of time.

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RainShower posted...

to most white men,if none of those 35 were black,shes still good.

https://youtu.be/KRB-iHGHSqk
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That is a lot.

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Mark_DeRosa posted...

because it literally doesnt affect you. If she doesnt tell you, it would literally not change anything

You can apply that to almost anything. Would you be upset if you found out that your fianc was a convicted child molester, and she forgot to tell you? If she had moved and was trying to lay low, it wouldnt affect you, right?

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

You can apply that to almost anything. Would you be upset if you found out that your fianc was a convicted child molester, and she forgot to tell you? If she had moved and was trying to lay low, it wouldnt affect you, right?

but thats ethically wrong though. Its not a against the law to have consensual sex

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I4NRulez posted...

but thats ethically wrong though. Its not a against the law to have consensual sex

it is if you're not married, and even then it has to be dark in the missionary position for the sole purpose of procreation otherwise you'll burn in hell

Its a pretty fair amount higher than average, but not necessarily among people that get around. If youre single for a while, but still pursue sex, itll rack up steadily.

What isnt normal is broadcasting it like its something worth sharing. It understandably puts people off and is generally irrelevant with regards to your intentions.

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