Current Events > Asked a girl out today

Topic List
Page List: 1
lincoln002
07/10/20 10:28:26 PM
#1:


Through DM on fb, she's a local girl, a few years younger than me, no children, very cute, Italian girl.

I'm going to a bar she frequents and asked her if she would like to join me. Hopefully she says yes.



---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
Blue_Dream87
07/10/20 10:28:47 PM
#2:


Tag

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
DocileOrangeCup
07/10/20 10:29:07 PM
#3:


... Copied to Clipboard!
Solution_45
07/10/20 10:29:48 PM
#4:


dm through fb is beta

you cant in person?
... Copied to Clipboard!
R1masher
07/10/20 10:30:13 PM
#5:


the bars are open in Italy?

---
R1R1R1R1R1R1
... Copied to Clipboard!
Blue_Dream87
07/10/20 10:30:15 PM
#6:


Solution_45 posted...
dm through fb is beta

you cant in person?

Nobody asks people out in person in 2020

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
Weezy_Tha_Don
07/10/20 10:31:52 PM
#7:


Solution_45 posted...
dm through fb is beta

you cant in person?

tis covid season, playa

---
https://imgur.com/hwZyGuA - courtesy of the homie United_World
I speak my mind, cause biting my tongue hurts.
... Copied to Clipboard!
REMercsChamp
07/10/20 10:33:42 PM
#8:


Tag

---
JOBS!
Come check out my community board for NEET discussions: https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1467-neet-discussions
... Copied to Clipboard!
Solution_45
07/10/20 10:36:39 PM
#9:


Weezy_Tha_Don posted...
tis covid season, playa

so bring a mask

they will meet in person anyways if she says yes
... Copied to Clipboard!
inloveanddeath0
07/10/20 10:37:32 PM
#10:


... Copied to Clipboard!
#11
Post #11 was unavailable or deleted.
lincoln002
07/10/20 10:40:42 PM
#12:


I have a feeling she's not going to reply :(

If she doesn't reply my next move is to ask her on an actual date instead of to a slimy bar, I just figured she would feel most comfortable there to meet one another in person to feel each other out before committing to a more formal meeting.

---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
DespondentDeity
07/10/20 10:48:24 PM
#13:


Is this your first interaction with her or do you chat her up in comments and shit? If so, anything flirty?

If she doesn't reply, idk man, I personally don't think you should send a second message.

---
https://imgur.com/8DBAEJJ | https://imgur.com/U2ZWTrH
I never be, I never see, I never know
... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses
07/10/20 10:50:25 PM
#14:


DocileOrangeCup posted...
lTALIAN??

Maybe he'll get...an Italian Job

---
Name checks out
"Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone
... Copied to Clipboard!
soulunison2
07/10/20 10:50:54 PM
#15:


Shes getting blasted by Giuseppe and Marco
... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses
07/10/20 10:51:37 PM
#16:


lincoln002 posted...
I have a feeling she's not going to reply :(

If she doesn't reply my next move is to ask her on an actual date instead of to a slimy bar, I just figured she would feel most comfortable there to meet one another in person to feel each other out before committing to a more formal meeting.

Did you just send it 20 minutes ago or way earlier?

---
Name checks out
"Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone
... Copied to Clipboard!
CosmicShadows
07/10/20 10:52:23 PM
#17:


in local news a gamefaqs.com. user. >__>
---
Your human level has changed to GOD.
... Copied to Clipboard!
The_Scarecrow
07/10/20 10:53:01 PM
#18:


You held a conversation with her first, right my guy?

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo
07/10/20 10:53:21 PM
#19:


Solution_45 posted...
dm through fb is beta


yeah sorry op this is so weak


---
Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all
... Copied to Clipboard!
dj1200
07/10/20 10:53:31 PM
#20:


any pics?

---
"It was so ridiculous and I have so many feelings about it."
-Virtual Energies
... Copied to Clipboard!
dj1200
07/10/20 10:53:52 PM
#21:


and dont mind the haters. i've gotten plenty of girls through dming them.

---
"It was so ridiculous and I have so many feelings about it."
-Virtual Energies
... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002
07/10/20 10:54:24 PM
#22:


DespondentDeity posted...
Is this your first interaction with her or do you chat her up in comments and shit? If so, anything flirty?

If she doesn't reply, idk man, I personally don't think you should send a second message.

I've expressed interest in her pretty bluntly a few months back when I added her and she caught my attention and she responded fairly positively. I've messaged her several times after that and got no responses, it was silly stuff to make small talk. I leave comments on her statuses and sometimes she replies, she almost always leaves a emoji to my stuff, it's kind of annoying cuz what I say is usually not funny. We haven't flirted, at least not that I'm aware of.

---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
inloveanddeath0
07/10/20 10:55:30 PM
#23:


Lost_All_Senses posted...
Maybe he'll get...an Italian Job
Booooooooooooooooooooooooo

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
dj1200
07/10/20 10:57:59 PM
#24:


lincoln002 posted...
I've expressed interest in her pretty bluntly a few months back when I added her and she caught my attention and she responded fairly positively. I've messaged her several times after that and got no responses, it was silly stuff to make small talk. I leave comments on her statuses and sometimes she replies, she almost always leaves a emoji to my stuff, it's kind of annoying cuz what I say is usually not funny. We haven't flirted, at least not that I'm aware of.

its not sounding good, man.

---
"It was so ridiculous and I have so many feelings about it."
-Virtual Energies
... Copied to Clipboard!
No_U_L7
07/10/20 11:07:08 PM
#25:


lincoln002 posted...


I've expressed interest in her pretty bluntly a few months back when I added her and she caught my attention and she responded fairly positively. I've messaged her several times after that and got no responses, it was silly stuff to make small talk. I leave comments on her statuses and sometimes she replies, she almost always leaves a emoji to my stuff, it's kind of annoying cuz what I say is usually not funny. We haven't flirted, at least not that I'm aware of.


so you messaged her, she didn't reply and you thought "i'll ask for something even more, then she'll respond!" and if (more likely when) that doesn't work, your solution is "i'll ask her for something even bigger!"

do you see the issue there? as a seduction expert, the term we use is that you've exceeded your social capital. no point in asking for B when she wouldn't even give you A first

your issue isn't that you didn't ask her out or express enough interest. it's that you don't have enough value that she considers you worthy enough to respond to. so if she doesn't consider you worthy enough to respond to, what makes you think she'll consider meeting up with you in person? by violating that tenent of social capital, all you're ensuring is she'll never go out with you as you're illustrating your lack of social understanding and lack of value

what you need to do is address your root issue and get her to respond and build up the convo. and im willing to bet the reason she doesn't respond is because your texts are just absolutely terrible and give you 0 value (and probably even takes away any value you previously had)
---
... Copied to Clipboard!
#26
Post #26 was unavailable or deleted.
Solution_45
07/10/20 11:10:04 PM
#27:


see this is why you shoulve talked to at the bar when you saw her
... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002
07/10/20 11:13:03 PM
#28:


dj1200 posted...
its not sounding good, man.

I can see if she opens my message and ignores it, so far she hasn't checked her DMs, if she ignores it I'll still be going to the bar and who knows maybe she'll be there, after that I'll wait til September and send a voice message asking her out on a formal date, if she ignores that, then I think I might remove her from my list.

---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
Blue_Dream87
07/10/20 11:15:56 PM
#29:


lincoln002 posted...
I can see if she opens my message and ignores it, so far she hasn't checked her DMs, if she ignores it I'll still be going to the bar and who knows maybe she'll be there, after that I'll wait til September and send a voice message asking her out on a formal date, if she ignores that, then I think I might remove her from my list.

Yikes

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002
07/10/20 11:18:25 PM
#30:


No_U_L7 posted...
so you messaged her, she didn't reply and you thought "i'll ask for something even more, then she'll respond!" and if (more likely when) that doesn't work, your solution is "i'll ask her for something even bigger!"

do you see the issue there? as a seduction expert, the term we use is that you've exceeded your social capital. no point in asking for B when she wouldn't even give you A first

your issue isn't that you didn't ask her out or express enough interest. it's that you don't have enough value that she considers you worthy enough to respond to. so if she doesn't consider you worthy enough to respond to, what makes you think she'll consider meeting up with you in person? by violating that tenent of social capital, all you're ensuring is she'll never go out with you as you're illustrating your lack of social understanding and lack of value

what you need to do is address your root issue and get her to respond and build up the convo. and im willing to bet the reason she doesn't respond is because your texts are just absolutely terrible and give you 0 value (and probably even takes away any value you previously had)

Dog, if she doesn't like me now and doesn't show compassion and understanding towards me and the situation I'm in then she's not worth my time at all. I'm not looking for a 1 night stand, I'm looking for a girl that is going to accept me for me and not because I have "value". If she doesn't like me then she doesn't like me, no point in manipulating her into bed with me, that's gross guy.

---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
dj1200
07/10/20 11:18:54 PM
#31:


lincoln002 posted...
I can see if she opens my message and ignores it, so far she hasn't checked her DMs, if she ignores it I'll still be going to the bar and who knows maybe she'll be there, after that I'll wait til September and send a voice message asking her out on a formal date, if she ignores that, then I think I might remove her from my list.

Bro, this is cringe city. You think a voice message would be better? Why?

---
"It was so ridiculous and I have so many feelings about it."
-Virtual Energies
... Copied to Clipboard!
No_U_L7
07/10/20 11:24:45 PM
#32:


lincoln002 posted...


Dog, if she doesn't like me now and doesn't show compassion and understanding towards me and the situation I'm in then she's not worth my time at all. I'm not looking for a 1 night stand, I'm looking for a girl that is going to accept me for me and not because I have "value". If she doesn't like me then she doesn't like me, no point in manipulating her into bed with me, that's gross guy.


"If she likes me she likes me, if she doesn't she doesnt" doesn't apply because...she doesn't know you. Look at it this way: you could be the perfect person for her, but if you cant properly convey that, how is she supposed to know you're perfect for her?

And if you just wanna drop it if she isn't into you (based off what little she knows)...she has already clearly subcommunicated that she doesn't like you...do you literally need her to spell it out for you?

Anything worth doing is worth doing properly. If you want to seduce her....do it properly otherwise you're just wasting the time of everyone involved

What I'm suggesting is not manipulation...its learning the art of communication, of which you seem quite oblivious to
---
... Copied to Clipboard!
The_Scarecrow
07/10/20 11:25:54 PM
#33:


Id say just cut your losses, lincoln. There are other women out there who will respond to you.

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
Damn_Underscore
07/10/20 11:26:59 PM
#34:


send her a quick "please respond" if she hasn't answered yet, it's been awhile...

---
Shenmue II = best game of all time
Shenmue = 2nd best game of all time
... Copied to Clipboard!
DespondentDeity
07/10/20 11:28:45 PM
#35:


Don't send any more messages, she's not into you and it doesn't sound salvageable. Realize that she's inundated with men asking her out, it sounds like you two have way different goals to begin with, and it's a mistake to approach this in a transactional way (an exchange of your attention for her understanding and compassion). You don't know this girl, and she clearly doesn't want that to change, it's beyond time to move on. Don't let it get to you, just keep focusing on your goals and your self improvement, learn from this and approach things differently next time.

---
https://imgur.com/8DBAEJJ | https://imgur.com/U2ZWTrH
I never be, I never see, I never know
... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002
07/10/20 11:29:28 PM
#36:


dj1200 posted...
Bro, this is cringe city. You think a voice message would be better? Why?

What's so cringe about a guy who has a crush on a local girl?

I'm just trying to demonstrate that I am legit interested in her and that I am not afraid of the feelings I have for her so that if she says yes, I'll know the feelings are reciprocated back.

Maybe a video would be better than a voice DM.

---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
No_U_L7
07/10/20 11:30:40 PM
#37:


lincoln002 posted...


What's so cringe about a guy who has a crush on a local girl?

I'm just trying to demonstrate that I am legit interested in her and that I am not afraid of the feelings I have for her so that if she says yes, I'll know the feelings are reciprocated back.

Maybe a video would be better than a voice DM.


Ok this guy is just trolling now
---
... Copied to Clipboard!
Blue_Dream87
07/10/20 11:33:09 PM
#38:


lincoln002 posted...
What's so cringe about a guy who has a crush on a local girl?

I'm just trying to demonstrate that I am legit interested in her and that I am not afraid of the feelings I have for her so that if she says yes, I'll know the feelings are reciprocated back.

Maybe a video would be better than a voice DM.

You don't even fucking know her and she doesn't know you. You're just some creep orbiter working himself up. Open a dating app or something dude

---
... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses
07/10/20 11:35:48 PM
#39:


inloveanddeath0 posted...
Booooooooooooooooooooooooo

Fair.

---
Name checks out
"Stupidity is a spectrum, and we're all on it" - OfDustandBone
... Copied to Clipboard!
Weezy_Tha_Don
07/10/20 11:35:51 PM
#40:


this sounds like some shit in middle school expect with MySpace

---
https://imgur.com/hwZyGuA - courtesy of the homie United_World
I speak my mind, cause biting my tongue hurts.
... Copied to Clipboard!
KingArthur3D
07/10/20 11:36:38 PM
#41:



... Copied to Clipboard!
EnragedSlith
07/10/20 11:38:30 PM
#42:


This is a little weird and invasive, man.

---
I can't leave without my buddy, Superfly.
... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002
07/10/20 11:38:59 PM
#43:


Blue_Dream87 posted...
You don't even fucking know her and she doesn't know you. You're just some creep orbiter working himself up. Open a dating app or something dude

What a white knight. You know her less than me and you're already trying to protect her from my supposed creepiness, how pathetic.

---
In this world, is the destiny of man controlled by some transcendental entity or law? Is it like the hand of God hovering above?
... Copied to Clipboard!
solosnake
07/10/20 11:39:31 PM
#44:


lincoln002 posted...
What's so cringe about a guy who has a crush on a local girl?

I'm just trying to demonstrate that I am legit interested in her and that I am not afraid of the feelings I have for her so that if she says yes, I'll know the feelings are reciprocated back.

Maybe a video would be better than a voice DM.
why not just go to her house or work at that point

---
"We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade
https://imgur.com/MYYEIx5 https://imgur.com/WGE12ef
... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems
07/10/20 11:43:04 PM
#45:


Topic starting to git gud

---
Common sense is the most uncommon thing in the world-some dude.
... Copied to Clipboard!
#46
Post #46 was unavailable or deleted.
#47
Post #47 was unavailable or deleted.
Topic List
Page List: 1