Current Events > If a wife wants 3 kids and the husband only wants 2

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They already have a son and daughter. The wife wants another child, either sex. The husband does not. The husband is using condoms and wants his wife to get on some form of birth control because he doesn't want another child.

Would she be wrong to divorce him because he is failing to province her with another child(due to a lack of trying)?

That done should say son

Yes she is wrong since the husband probably doesn't want a third child due to a lack of funds needed to support that child, most men who start a family want 2 or 3 children that I have met, only when resources or money is a struggle do they not want an additional child. This guy would probably need to get another job or work more hours and clearly he does not want to do that(who the fuck can blame him).

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It's something they should have decided on before they got married. If they did and she changed her mind and wanted another, I'd say that it's on her.

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One of my exes told me when we were together that she wanted to have eight children, whereas I only wanted two, max.

I managed to talk her down to three.

Since then, she's already reached three kids.

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Marriage is nothing but compromises

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The person you marry should want you the most. If she wants 3 kids more than she wants you personally, then its a bad idea.

Vice versa, you should want your partner personally and not ideas over them.

Im rambling but this is always something i look for in a girl.

In this scenario if the girl really wanted the guy shed be fine with 2 versus 3 but it sounds like she wants another child more...

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Offworlder1 posted...

Yes she is wrong since the husband probably doesn't want a third child due to a lack of funds needed to support that child, most men who start a family want 2 or 3 children that I have met, only when resources or money is a struggle do they not want an additional child. This guy would probably need to get another job or work more hours and clearly he does not want to do that(who the fuck can blame him).

Let's say there is no financial concern.

Also, there is the emotional toll and general stress of having children around. You can have billions and not want more than 2 kids

You just have to compromise and cut the third child in half

And also i dont know what shes compromising and or financial issues.

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Third child should be a pet.

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Definitely and to get a divorce would be a killer to the 2 other kids. Totally wrong.

cut the baby in half

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I mean, she could still have that third kid without involving the husband in the creation process >_>

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MachineJaipur posted...

The husband is using condoms and wants his wife to get on some form of birth control because he doesn't want another child.

So why can't he get a vasectomy?

FL81 posted...

I mean, she could still have that third kid without involving the husband in the creation process >_>

Cheating is a big ol no no tho

Offworlder1 posted...

Yes she is wrong since the husband probably doesn't want a third child due to a lack of funds needed to support that child, most men who start a family want 2 or 3 children that I have met, only when resources or money is a struggle do they not want an additional child. This guy would probably need to get another job or work more hours and clearly he does not want to do that(who the fuck can blame him).

It's largely why my wife and I decided not to have a second child. We just can't afford it due to everything that has happened over the last 2 years or so.

We decided that we would need $100,000cdn in savings and it would have to be before my 37th birthday. Well, I recently turned 35 and we are pretty much broke (lost everything due to covid). So, I doubt it will happen. Day after my 37th birthday I'll get a vasectomy.

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This was my scenario except experiencing two kids immediately changed her mind lmao

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There is way too many nuances to this for me to touch it. I'd need at least a 10 minute conversation with the couple. Then Id side with the dude regardless anyway, cause bros over hos.

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They should compromise and have a 3rd kid and cut him in half so they inly have 2.5 kids

R1masher posted...

Marriage is nothing but compromises

Nailed it. She's neither right or wrong. She wants what she wants and the couple just needs to communicate on this. If they cannot compromise, it is what it is.

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