Poll of the Day > What would you do if your ex threatened suicide unless you take them back?

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The_Dusk 10/14/20 9:13:26 PM #1:	And you love them and want to be friends but they swear to cut you off from their life forever if you shared this information --- And you will go toe to toe like David and Goliath, who will be Goliath? And will you throw the stone? -Streetlight Manifesto <cite>The_Dusk posted [p:945864344] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>And you love them and want to be friends but they swear to cut you off from their life forever if you shared this information </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 10/14/20 9:17:41 PM #2:	Sounds like you have three main choices: 1. Get back together to keep them from suicide even though you don't want to and live a miserable life. 2. Don't get back together and they were either bluffing or really takes their life. 3. Tell others so they can't commit suicide (or have a harder time with it) and get cut out of their life. 3 Would be the best. Technically, there are some others choices, though... Also, it would probably be the best. They are alive. And even though you are out of your life, they probably won't try to give you another ultimatum... You can both move on. Might be the healthiest option for both of you... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:945864514] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Sounds like you have three main choices: 1. Get back together to keep them from suicide even though you don't want to and live a miserable life. 2. Don't get back together and they were either bluffing or really takes their life. 3. Tell others so they can't commit suicide (or have a harder time with it) and get cut out of their life. 3 Would be the best. Technically, there are some others choices, though... Also, it would probably be the best. They are alive. And even though you are out of your life, they probably won't try to give you another ultimatum... You can both move on. Might be the healthiest option for both of you...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 10/14/20 9:24:38 PM #3:	Get back together but treat your ex like shit and act like you're not together when you're apart. Move on and make them want to move on. --- Doctor Foxx posted... The demonizing of soy has a lot to do with xenophobic ideas. <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:945864761] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Get back together but treat your ex like shit and act like you're not together when you're apart. Move on and make them want to move on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shadowbird_RH 10/14/20 9:37:42 PM #4:	Have a nice death! Seriously, if someone wants to pull a "do it or I'll hurt/kill myself!", I'd probably lose any and all value I had in that person. Fair odds I'd even egg them on. "Oh no, please don't! Not until I get the camera, I want watch this over and over again for years!!" --- Fail, and we all face a tyrannical age of pizza the likes of which sentient life has never known. - Sun'barac, Xenoblade Chronicles X <cite>Shadowbird_RH posted [p:945865217] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Have a nice death! Seriously, if someone wants to pull a "do it or I'll hurt/kill myself!", I'd probably lose any and all value I had in that person. Fair odds I'd even egg them on. "Oh no, please don't! Not until I get the camera, I want watch this over and over again for years!!" </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Metalsonic66 10/14/20 9:52:40 PM #5:	--- PSN/Steam ID: Metalsonic_69 Big bombs go kabang. <cite>Metalsonic66 posted [p:945865730] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WhiskeyDisk 10/14/20 10:00:11 PM #6:	Been there, done that. Call their bluff, let the chips fall as they may. I left you for a reason. I'll end up leaving you again for the same reasons. You have to work on yourself, I'm not the solution to your problems. --- The SBA has closed for business, we thank you for your patronage Assassins. ~there's always free cheese in a mousetrap. <cite>WhiskeyDisk posted [p:945866020] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Been there, done that. Call their bluff, let the chips fall as they may. I left you for a reason. I'll end up leaving you again for the same reasons. You have to work on yourself, I'm not the solution to your problems. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 10/14/20 10:07:33 PM #7:	take out a life insurance claim on em --- The Betrayer <cite>Mead posted [p:945866258] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>take out a life insurance claim on em </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus_LLC 10/14/20 10:12:22 PM #8:	I'd ask them to text me it or record it, then I'd call the cops and report the suicide threat so professionals could deal with it. WhiskeyDisk posted... Been there, done that. Call their bluff, let the chips fall as they may. I left you for a reason. I'll end up leaving you again for the same reasons. You have to work on yourself, I'm not the solution to your problems. But if you called their bluff and they went through with it, wouldn't you feel a hint of remorse? At the very least, you should get the cops involved. --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| <cite>Zeus_LLC posted [p:945866422] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>I'd ask them to text me it or record it, then I'd call the cops and report the suicide threat so professionals could deal with it. WhiskeyDisk posted... </cite> <quote>Been there, done that. Call their bluff, let the chips fall as they may. I left you for a reason. I'll end up leaving you again for the same reasons. You have to work on yourself, I'm not the solution to your problems.</quote> But if you called their bluff and they went through with it, wouldn't you feel a hint of remorse? At the very least, you should get the cops involved. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CaptainStrong 10/14/20 10:16:03 PM #9:	Take her back, have her committed, then leave her again. <cite>CaptainStrong posted [p:945866535] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Take her back, have her committed, then leave her again. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WhiskeyDisk 10/14/20 10:21:18 PM #10:	Zeus_LLC posted... I'd ask them to text me it or record it, then I'd call the cops and report the suicide threat so professionals could deal with it. But if you called their bluff and they went through with it, wouldn't you feel a hint of remorse? At the very least, you should get the cops involved. ask me this after you've been emotionally manipulated and emotionally blackmailed by a heroin addict for a dozen years Zeus. there comes a point where a non-trivial part of you just wishes they would get it over with so you can get on with your life. --- The SBA has closed for business, we thank you for your patronage Assassins. ~there's always free cheese in a mousetrap. <cite>WhiskeyDisk posted [p:945866707] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Zeus_LLC posted... </cite> <quote>I'd ask them to text me it or record it, then I'd call the cops and report the suicide threat so professionals could deal with it. But if you called their bluff and they went through with it, wouldn't you feel a hint of remorse? At the very least, you should get the cops involved.</quote> ask me this after you've been emotionally manipulated and emotionally blackmailed by a heroin addict for a dozen years Zeus. there comes a point where a non-trivial part of you just wishes they would get it over with so you can get on with your life. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DirtBasedSoap 10/14/20 10:23:33 PM #11:	fuck her to death --- what that means? <cite>DirtBasedSoap posted [p:945866779] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>fuck her to death </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Entity13 10/14/20 10:23:52 PM #12:	Of the exes I've had, I can only assume one of them would do a thing like this. I'd ask her how she got my contact info, being all friendly, while I had the call traced and help (read: social worker) sent her way. Two other exes, a gal and a guy, both have enough contact info for me because they're cool enough still that they wouldn't do this nor require such action. Everyone else? lol... We dropped off contact with one another for various reasons, so I doubt this would occur with them. --- http://i207.photobucket.com/albums/bb179/EntityXIII/entityfn7.jpg <cite>Entity13 posted [p:945866790] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Of the exes I've had, I can only assume one of them would do a thing like this. I'd ask her how she got my contact info, being all friendly, while I had the call traced and help (read: social worker) sent her way. Two other exes, a gal and a guy, both have enough contact info for me because they're cool enough still that they wouldn't do this nor require such action. Everyone else? lol... We dropped off contact with one another for various reasons, so I doubt this would occur with them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WhiskeyDisk 10/14/20 10:24:47 PM #13:	CaptainStrong posted... Take her back, have her committed, then leave her again. When you go to the local psych unit at the hospital for the third time that year, and the Nurse behind the counter just asks "which one is it this time" because you're there to sign someone in for a 72 hour hold and you've been there 3 or 4 times a year for 4ish years... --- The SBA has closed for business, we thank you for your patronage Assassins. ~there's always free cheese in a mousetrap. <cite>WhiskeyDisk posted [p:945866818] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>CaptainStrong posted... </cite> <quote>Take her back, have her committed, then leave her again.</quote> When you go to the local psych unit at the hospital for the third time that year, and the Nurse behind the counter just asks "which one is it this time" because you're there to sign someone in for a 72 hour hold and you've been there 3 or 4 times a year for 4ish years... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The_Dusk 10/14/20 10:30:00 PM #15:	Zeus_LLC posted... I'd ask them to text me it or record it Perhaps you have it on several text messages over multiple times trying to get out of the relationship --- And you will go toe to toe like David and Goliath, who will be Goliath? And will you throw the stone? -Streetlight Manifesto <cite>The_Dusk posted [p:945866973] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Zeus_LLC posted... </cite> <quote>I'd ask them to text me it or record it</quote> Perhaps you have it on several text messages over multiple times trying to get out of the relationship </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jen0125 10/14/20 10:34:55 PM #16:	Tell them to get therapy and don't get back with them --- https://imgur.com/4ihiyS2 "I am not gay! Can't you get that through your head? I am very much aroused at the site of a naked woman!" - Dan0429 <cite>Jen0125 posted [p:945867128] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Tell them to get therapy and don't get back with them </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 10/14/20 10:40:31 PM #17:	Contact their family. --- Society is built on a mass hallucination. <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:945867281] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Contact their family. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WhiskeyDisk 10/14/20 10:43:55 PM #18:	SunWuKung420 posted... Contact their family. that would have worked if her father didn't literally give me a courtesy call to let me know they kicked her out and to lock my doors. she still got into my place thru a second story bathroom window. i was not happy when i got home from a 14 hour day to find her passed out in my bathtub. --- The SBA has closed for business, we thank you for your patronage Assassins. ~there's always free cheese in a mousetrap. <cite>WhiskeyDisk posted [p:945867383] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>SunWuKung420 posted... </cite> <quote>Contact their family.</quote> that would have worked if her father didn't literally give me a courtesy call to let me know they kicked her out and to lock my doors. she still got into my place thru a second story bathroom window. i was not happy when i got home from a 14 hour day to find her passed out in my bathtub. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
YoukaiSlayer 10/14/20 10:49:59 PM #19:	Depends on the person and situation. Getting back together with them long term is obviously only going to result in disaster. If they are relying on your relationship to keep them going, they will be right back in the same situation once they realize the relationship just isn't good. I find generally when someone is suicidal, logic isn't going to really help so I'd just try to deescalate things in most cases and give noncommittal responses. Something like "right now you seem really emotional, we shouldn't make any decisions right now when you are like this, let's just talk and I promise to go over our relationship tomorrow". It won't be the worst case they were expecting but it won't be a good result either. Hopefully that will make it a little less them vs me and prompt them to open up about why they feel that suicidal over this. All this assumes I trust the person is really feeling that awful and they aren't just lying to manipulate me and that I don't think they are a physical danger to me and realistically even after that my exact response is going to depend on what our relationship was like. Generally though, I'd try to help them through it but I wouldn't get back with them. --- I'm ninja (you can't see me) <cite>YoukaiSlayer posted [p:945867575] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Depends on the person and situation. Getting back together with them long term is obviously only going to result in disaster. If they are relying on your relationship to keep them going, they will be right back in the same situation once they realize the relationship just isn't good. I find generally when someone is suicidal, logic isn't going to really help so I'd just try to deescalate things in most cases and give noncommittal responses. Something like "right now you seem really emotional, we shouldn't make any decisions right now when you are like this, let's just talk and I promise to go over our relationship tomorrow". It won't be the worst case they were expecting but it won't be a good result either. Hopefully that will make it a little less them vs me and prompt them to open up about why they feel that suicidal over this. All this assumes I trust the person is really feeling that awful and they aren't just lying to manipulate me and that I don't think they are a physical danger to me and realistically even after that my exact response is going to depend on what our relationship was like. Generally though, I'd try to help them through it but I wouldn't get back with them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The_Dusk 10/14/20 11:01:54 PM #20:	She has burned all bridges with her family members for doing the same thing to then when she gets drunk and goes psycho. I can see the good in her but she is mentally unstable. The worst part about it is that I introduced her to my children and she played like she wasn't crazy for nearly a year and my kids like her and are asking about her... --- And you will go toe to toe like David and Goliath, who will be Goliath? And will you throw the stone? -Streetlight Manifesto <cite>The_Dusk posted [p:945867936] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>She has burned all bridges with her family members for doing the same thing to then when she gets drunk and goes psycho. I can see the good in her but she is mentally unstable. The worst part about it is that I introduced her to my children and she played like she wasn't crazy for nearly a year and my kids like her and are asking about her... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SunWuKung420 10/14/20 11:15:34 PM #21:	@WhiskeyDisk Sometimes there is no deterrent. I'm sorry you went through that. --- Society is built on a mass hallucination. <cite>SunWuKung420 posted [p:945868402] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>@WhiskeyDisk Sometimes there is no deterrent. I'm sorry you went through that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WhiskeyDisk 10/14/20 11:28:34 PM #22:	SunWuKung420 posted... @WhiskeyDisk Sometimes there is no deterrent. I'm sorry you went through that. it is what it is. a semi-rational mind can never properly interface with a truly broken mind. i can second guess a dozen crossroads along the way, but dwelling on the past is largely counter productive. part of me will always love her, and part of me would love to put her out of her misery for the good of both of us. thank Eris we both agreed on never wanting kids. having a kid in the crossfire would have completely broken me. either way, she'd have...extreme difficulty finding me these days. i just learned to accept that the girl i loved died long ago and the...thing wearing her skin currently and for over 20 years now is a wraith. --- The SBA has closed for business, we thank you for your patronage Assassins. ~there's always free cheese in a mousetrap. <cite>WhiskeyDisk posted [p:945868820] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>SunWuKung420 posted... </cite> <quote>@WhiskeyDisk Sometimes there is no deterrent. I'm sorry you went through that.</quote> it is what it is. a semi-rational mind can never properly interface with a truly broken mind. i can second guess a dozen crossroads along the way, but dwelling on the past is largely counter productive. part of me will always love her, and part of me would love to put her out of her misery for the good of both of us. thank Eris we both agreed on never wanting kids. having a kid in the crossfire would have completely broken me. either way, she'd have...extreme difficulty finding me these days. i just learned to accept that the girl i loved died long ago and the...thing wearing her skin currently and for over 20 years now is a wraith. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The_Dusk 10/15/20 12:58:12 AM #23:	What if you know they have an easy way out that they keep by their nightstand and you know they don't know trigger safety --- And you will go toe to toe like David and Goliath, who will be Goliath? And will you throw the stone? -Streetlight Manifesto <cite>The_Dusk posted [p:945870939] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>What if you know they have an easy way out that they keep by their nightstand and you know they don't know trigger safety </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JigsawTDC 10/15/20 1:01:51 AM #24:	Seek professional help. I've been in this scenario before. If you truly love and care about them, they need help. If they do cut you out of their life as a result of this, it's better than them being dead. And maybe one day they'll be able to appreciate it. I've been suicidal, had friends commit suicide, and have had exes threaten suicide. It's never an easy or comfortable thing to deal with. Finding them the help they need is their best chance at getting better. <cite>JigsawTDC posted [p:945871015] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Seek professional help. I've been in this scenario before. If you truly love and care about them, they need help. If they do cut you out of their life as a result of this, it's better than them being dead. And maybe one day they'll be able to appreciate it. I've been suicidal, had friends commit suicide, and have had exes threaten suicide. It's never an easy or comfortable thing to deal with. Finding them the help they need is their best chance at getting better. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DocDelicious 10/15/20 5:54:29 AM #25:	Call the cops to do a wellness check, then cut her out of my life forever. I'm losing a friend either way, might as well attempt to make sure they get the help they need. --- o7 Let strength be granted so the world might be mended. <cite>DocDelicious posted [p:945875144] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Call the cops to do a wellness check, then cut her out of my life forever. I'm losing a friend either way, might as well attempt to make sure they get the help they need. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JixHedgehog 10/15/20 9:23:56 AM #26:	She's on the other side of the planet with no way to contact me, I think I'm safe Had a close call with a friend there thou, the local authorities got to her pretty quickly thankfully --- Not changing my sig until Nintendo announces the Switch XL 1/12/2017 <cite>JixHedgehog posted [p:945878493] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>She's on the other side of the planet with no way to contact me, I think I'm safe Had a close call with a friend there thou, the local authorities got to her pretty quickly thankfully </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 10/15/20 9:45:47 AM #27:	Kyuubi4269 posted... Get back together but treat your ex like shit and act like you're not together when you're apart. Move on and make them want to move on. Everything you post is just awful. You need help, too. Anyway, call the suicide prevention hotline to ask for guidance. Call her family. Even if things are bad with her immediate family, she can't have a bad relationship with all of them. DO NOT GET BACK INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. You clearly can't help them if you're here asking for assistance. Ask friends or your family for contacts you can go to to help from a distance. DocDelicious posted... Call the cops to do a wellness check, then cut her out of my life forever. I'm losing a friend either way, might as well attempt to make sure they get the help they need. Don't do this, because all cops do now is just shoot anyone they do a wellness check on. --- Official Former King of Black People(Lost to Joe Biden) http://imgur.com/a/yNvXsJe <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:945879001] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Kyuubi4269 posted... </cite> <quote>Get back together but treat your ex like shit and act like you're not together when you're apart. Move on and make them want to move on.</quote>Everything you post is just awful. You need help, too. Anyway, call the suicide prevention hotline to ask for guidance. Call her family. Even if things are bad with her immediate family, she can't have a bad relationship with all of them. DO NOT GET BACK INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. You clearly can't help them if you're here asking for assistance. Ask friends or your family for contacts you can go to to help from a distance. DocDelicious posted... </cite> <quote>Call the cops to do a wellness check, then cut her out of my life forever. I'm losing a friend either way, might as well attempt to make sure they get the help they need.</quote>Don't do this, because all cops do now is just shoot anyone they do a wellness check on. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ChimeraBlue 10/15/20 10:07:45 AM #28:	Police. Restraining order, if necessary. Threatening suicide to avoid abandonment is a hallmark trait of Borderline Personality Disorder. --- This is a signature. <cite>ChimeraBlue posted [p:945879583] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Police. Restraining order, if necessary. Threatening suicide to avoid abandonment is a hallmark trait of Borderline Personality Disorder. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Metalsonic66 10/15/20 3:11:04 PM #29:	I know what you should do! Threaten suicide right back! --- PSN/Steam ID: Metalsonic_69 Big bombs go kabang. <cite>Metalsonic66 posted [p:945889896] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>I know what you should do! Threaten suicide right back! </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GunslingerGunsl 10/15/20 4:50:10 PM #30:	Probably talk to them and offer them support and resources to prevent suicide. Getting back with them wouldn't help anyone. <cite>GunslingerGunsl posted [p:945893934] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>Probably talk to them and offer them support and resources to prevent suicide. Getting back with them wouldn't help anyone. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gaawa_chan 10/15/20 5:20:51 PM #31:	ChimeraBlue posted... Police. Restraining order This happened to my 2nd sister, btw. When the cops got to his house, he was chilling out and smoking weed, and he blamed her for his getting caught with it. Moron. --- Hi <cite>Gaawa_chan posted [p:945895149] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>ChimeraBlue posted... </cite> <quote>Police. Restraining order</quote>This happened to my 2nd sister, btw. When the cops got to his house, he was chilling out and smoking weed, and he blamed her for his getting caught with it. Moron. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The_Dusk 10/16/20 11:44:18 PM #32:	She twisted my arm so to speak and I agreed to meet and talk with her... --- And you will go toe to toe like David and Goliath, who will be Goliath? And will you throw the stone? -Streetlight Manifesto <cite>The_Dusk posted [p:945948895] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>She twisted my arm so to speak and I agreed to meet and talk with her... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 10/17/20 8:57:45 AM #33:	She might try and kill you or herself, good luck. --- Official Former King of Black People(Lost to Joe Biden) http://imgur.com/a/yNvXsJe <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:945956968] in What would... [t:79040918]...</cite> <quote>She might try and kill you or herself, good luck. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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