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Joker98 posted...

So I guess Joker98 is my deadname now... gotta come up with a new one XD XD XD XDD

I thought NB people keep there birth name and just use they-them-their??

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SamsungGearS2 posted...

I thought NB people keep there birth name and just use they-them-their??

Buddy's clearly trolling. Not to mention what on earth would the Gamefaqs username have to do with anything

Tagged tc as "they" so I don't forget

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Okay, noted. That being said, they/them is my least favorite of the new ways of identifying a single person impartially as it feels clumsy and weird unless someone is indeed multiple people sharing a single physical form (I'm not beyond being convinced this is the case). I prefer just using people's names anyway so....

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u should put it in your sig tc

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HypnospaceInlaw posted...

Buddy's clearly trolling. Not to mention what on earth would the Gamefaqs username have to do with anything

it's called a fucking joke mr. 10 karma

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Choco posted...

it's called a fucking joke mr. 10 karma

Ah yes joking about shit actual transgender people don't find funny. Rofl xd

Congrats on getting a better sense of your identity. I had a feeling you were headed somewhere with all those gender polls.

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Ok, snowflake.

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sevihaimerej posted...

Okay, noted. That being said, they/them is my least favorite of the new ways of identifying a single person impartially as it feels clumsy and weird unless someone is indeed multiple people sharing a single physical form (I'm not beyond being convinced this is the case). I prefer just using people's names anyway so....

Honestly that's why I use Thon; it's a very old term to refer to a person who's gender was irrelevant/unknown. It's short hand for "That One". But who am I to make that call for others. If they wanna be called they/them, I'll respect their wishes.

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Joker98 posted...

So I guess Joker98 is my deadname now... gotta come up with a new one XD XD XD XDD

well, your account is past the 10 year mark by a while. You do qualify for a "just because I feel like it" username change if you want to do that >_>

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SolidShadow3 posted...

Honestly that's why I use Thon; it's a very old term to refer to a person who's gender was irrelevant/unknown. It's short hand for "That One". But who am I to make that call for others. If they wanna be called they/them, I'll respect their wishes.

Thon would work beautifully, and to clarify I don't really care that people want to be called they it just feels wrong to my brain lol

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mooreandrew58 posted...

I mostly use it for people I wish to refrain from interacting with in the future as I dont use block or ignore features. I typically use "asshat" unless there is a super specific reason I dont wanna talk to them then i find a word to remind me of said reason

Yeah there's so many trolls I would've tagged by now.

Thanks for the support everyone

to the people who dont like they/them pronouns, then dont use them for yourself XD but you dont get to tell other people their pronouns, and stating that you think they/them sounds clumsy makes you a ****

To the people who think me joking about Joker98 being my deadname is offensive to trans people, I am literally trans people. I would probably be in a better position to make that call than you. By making that comment I was alluding to an actual desire to use a different username and name IRL and was hoping to lead into a conversation about that

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SamsungGearS2 posted...

I thought NB people keep there birth name and just use they-them-their??

This.

I started to identify as neutral/nb like 8 years ago but I kept my birth name. I just replace man with person, and he with they when referring to myself.

Outside of my wife though, no one actually uses the right pronouns :/

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To say all non-binary people keep their name and use they/them pronouns is much too rigid. Thats like saying all cis people keep their name, however Ive known countless cis people who have changed their name to better align with their identity.


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Same, only fully accepted my identity as non-binary for about a year, but Im ready to come out to everyone including my bigoted family.

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DespondentDeity posted...

Same, only fully accepted my identity as non-binary for about a year, but Im ready to come out to everyone including my bigoted family.

Congrats! Best of luck

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My name is Jesse but Im changing the spelling to Jessie

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DespondentDeity posted...

My name is Jesse but Im changing the spelling to Jessie

That is a much better spelling

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Since when was they/them clumsy to use? I use those pronouns all the time when I don't know the gender of a customer

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Blue_Dream87 posted...

Since when was they/them clumsy to use? I use those pronouns all the time when I don't know the gender of a customer

Its not clumsy, that user was just using a microaggression

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Joker98 posted...

Its not clumsy, that user was just using a microaggression

It sounds clumsy to me, in my own subjective opinion, to use a word that I'm used to using to describe a plurality of people to refer to a single person...

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sevihaimerej posted...

It sounds clumsy to me, in my own subjective opinion, to use a word that I'm used to using to describe a plurality of people to refer to a single person...

They/them have been used singularly before you were even alive

HypnospaceInlaw posted...

They/them have been used singularly before you were even alive

I'm not making any objective statements, you folks are getting weird and culty if I from my own experience of never using the word like that feel weird using the word like that. Thon sounds more elegant imo, chill lol (again, still use they when people ask me, perfectly fine XD)

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No you're just acting very weird. They/them is also commonly used to refer to a singular person whose gender isn't known. It's not difficult to use.

HypnospaceInlaw posted...

No you're just acting very weird. They/them is also commonly used to refer to a singular person whose gender isn't known. It's not difficult to use.

I'm not trying to be combative...I think the word pancreas sounds weird too, is holding that opinion also now suddenly forbidden? I don't care if people say nothing but pancreas around me for weeks, I just absolutely harmlessly think it doesn't flow as elegantly as other words (possibly even brand new words or revived archaic words) potentially could, I'm just finding it really weird that such a harmless opinion is being perceived as some kinda attack is all...is it somehow offensive to tell you folks to lighten up and enjoy life a little? Being upset all the time must be exhausting af :(

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sevihaimerej posted...

I'm not trying to be combative...I think the word pancreas sounds weird too, is holding that opinion also now suddenly forbidden? I don't care if people say nothing but pancreas around me for weeks, I just absolutely harmlessly think it doesn't flow as elegantly as other words (possibly even brand new words or revived archaic words) potentially could, I'm just finding it really weird that such a harmless opinion is being perceived as some kinda attack is all...is it somehow offensive to tell you folks to lighten up and enjoy life a little? Being upset all the time must be exhausting af :(

I think you want to feel attacked

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Joker98 posted...

I think you want to feel attacked

??? Nah, I feel fine you guys just seem a little tightly wound is all. I could share some of my special jazz cigarettes if you care to indulge :)
Would it help convey the intended chill tone I'm actually going for if you imagine it all being recited by Dazed n Confused era Matthew McConaughey? Or The Dude?

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sevihaimerej posted...

??? Nah, I feel fine you guys just seem a little tightly wound is all. I could share some of my special jazz cigarettes if you care to indulge :)
Would it help convey the intended chill tone I'm actually going for if you imagine it all being recited by Dazed n Confused era Matthew McConaughey? Or The Dude?

You came into a topic where someone says they want to use they/them pronouns to share your contribution that you think they/them pronouns are weird. Then when people got annoyed with you, you made it seem like its not a big deal and only your opinion, and that rather than have any social wherewithal not to make dumb comments such as I think your pronouns are weird, you tell the other people that they need to relax. To me, it seems like you are either subconsciously or consciously trying to get a rise out of people because you knew on some level that sharing your opinion would make people annoyed, and that would give you an opportunity to tell them to relax.

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Is this why you're constantly posting only these kind of topics every other fucking week, tc?

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Noted but I'll probably forget I don't mean to offend if I do

Vicious_Dios posted...

Is this why you're constantly posting only these kind of topics every other week, tc?

why so aggressive?

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Go for it!

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Joker98 posted...

You came into a topic where someone says they want to use they/them pronouns to share your contribution that you think they/them pronouns are weird. Then when people got annoyed with you, you made it seem like its not a big deal and only your opinion, and that rather than have any social wherewithal not to make dumb comments such as I think your pronouns are weird, you tell the other people that they need to relax. To me, it seems like you are either subconsciously or consciously trying to get a rise out of people because you knew on some level that sharing your opinion would make people annoyed, and that would give you an opportunity to tell them to relax.

Not defending him or anything but..

sevihaimerej posted...

(again, still use they when people ask me, perfectly fine XD)

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Joker98 posted...

You came into a topic where someone says they want to use they/them pronouns to share your contribution that you think they/them pronouns are weird. Then when people got annoyed with you, you made it seem like its not a big deal and only your opinion, and that rather than have any social wherewithal not to make dumb comments such as I think your pronouns are weird, you tell the other people that they need to relax. To me, it seems like you are either subconsciously or consciously trying to get a rise out of people because you knew on some level that sharing your opinion would make people annoyed, and that would give you an opportunity to tell them to relax.

Um...don't relax then? I apologize? Is it not normally fine to go into a topic and, not even disagree in any substantial way, just "weird, but okay, cool cool cool" essentially? Never mind, I'll go find some actually friendly people to chat with, I hope you have a pleasant evening tho

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Can do, TC.

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ive been openly nb since like 2016 or so and i dont use my deadname anywhere other than irl

also how have so many people itt never heard of the singular they

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HypnospaceInlaw posted...

They/them have been used singularly before you were even alive

I still use it in reference to ex boyfriends when talking to people im not comfortable being open around. So far no one has openly questioned it.

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Joker98 posted...

why so aggressive?

Not aggression, just an observation.

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wonderful. will definitely tag you. im glad they/them makes you happy! my partner recently came out as non binary and they were insanely happy using a different name and they/them pronouns, so seeing someone else just as excited about it makes me really happy.
also i use she/they pronouns. getting some cool earrings that say she/they on monday :)
and to everyone who thinks that they/them is not cool- singular they has been around longer than anyone on this site has been around. and if you think singular they is stupid, then just look at singular you....
language evolves. it changes to go with the times. dont be rude and just respect peoples pronouns. its not going to affect you, so why care?

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Eliza-Schuyler posted...

wonderful. will definitely tag you. im glad they/them makes you happy! my partner recently came out as non binary and they were insanely happy using a different name and they/them pronouns, so seeing someone else just as excited about it makes me really happy.
also i use she/they pronouns. getting some cool earrings that say she/they on monday :)
and to everyone who thinks that they/them is not cool- singular they has been around longer than anyone on this site has been around. and if you think singular they is stupid, then just look at singular you....
language evolves. it changes to go with the times. dont be rude and just respect peoples pronouns. its not going to affect you, so why care?

Thank you!! Im also really happy for you and your partner!

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Joker98 posted...

Thank you!! Im also really happy for you and your partner!

thank you, i appreciate that :)

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