Poll of the Day > I have gotten to the point where I'm starting to hate everything

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It is extremely hard to make friends in my opinion at places like Work, School, or random places overall.

Finding a hobby you can do in groups is the best way to meet people by far, examples are..

Board gaming
Collectible Card Games
Role Playing Games
Golf
Bowling
Etc...

Once you start to play these things once Covid is over you will find it's very easy to talk to people about the hobby then over time that friendship can become something more. I spend a great deal of time alone, but I still have quite a few friends because of playing MTG and slowly over time meeting people at tournaments.

Monopoman posted...

It is extremely hard to make friends in my opinion at places like Work, School, or random places overall.

Finding a hobby you can do in groups is the best way to meet people by far, examples are..

Board gaming
Collectible Card Games
Role Playing Games
Golf
Bowling
Etc...

Once you start to play these things once Covid is over you will find it's very easy to talk to people about the hobby then over time that friendship can become something more. I spend a great deal of time alone, but I still have quite a few friends because of playing MTG and slowly over time meeting people at tournaments.

I have actually made a decent chunk of my friends at work, and used to play heroclix with my cousins, and we would go to tournaments, which were fun but didn't make any friends

Probably because they were all turbo nerds that only cared about nerdy things while me and my cousins had more varied interests such as sports and music, but that might just be that Fandom

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Hey I used to play a lot of Heroclix locals.

I still have like three boxes of them a closet somewherez.

Those were fun days.

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muscles never acknowledges the good advice, which reminds me of the topics where icoyar used to do this for attention, ok?

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Muscles posted...

I have actually made a decent chunk of my friends at work, and used to play heroclix with my cousins, and we would go to tournaments, which were fun but didn't make any friends

Probably because they were all turbo nerds that only cared about nerdy things while me and my cousins had more varied interests such as sports and music, but that might just be that Fandom

I think work is hit or miss some work places have slim pickings for potential friends, or they are a place where it's super busy. Pretty hard to have time to talk to people if you are constantly dealing with customers every 2 seconds.

ClarkDuke posted...

muscles never acknowledges the good advice, which reminds me of the topics where icoyar used to do this for attention, ok?

ClarkDuke seems like he's always around here just to post some negativity, ok?

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ClarkDuke posted...

muscles never acknowledges the good advice, which reminds me of the topics where icoyar used to do this for attention, ok?

Sorry that I hurt your feelings by not responding to your post, but I already know I have to change my diet, in fact I did when I started my job about 2 years ago and lost 30 lbs since then, but it has stalled out a bit the last few months and I should get even better

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Muscles posted...

Sorry that I hurt your feelings by not responding to your post, but I already know I have to change my diet, in fact I did when I started my job about 2 years ago and lost 30 lbs since then, but it has stalled out a bit the last few months and I should get even better

silly muscles, its the fact that needs to be rubbed in for you to even acknowledge one of your first steps should be dietary and relationship changes, ok?

but i apologize if my post wasnt candid enough for you, causing you mistake my tone as mirroring your own, ok?

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I know I need dietary changes, I have already made some and it worked out for a while, and I know I got to get better but I'm on an upward trajectory

Not sure what you mean by me needing relationship changes though

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by relationship changes, im referencing you deciding to take at least a year solo. with absolutely zero plans, or desires for sex or a relationship, ok?

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Pick the bong up muscles

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ClarkDuke posted...

by relationship changes, im referencing you deciding to take at least a year solo. with absolutely zero plans, or desires for sex or a relationship, ok?

I have done that in the past, but eventually it gets to the point where I'm like "ok I'm cool with myself, I'm feeling good, maybe now I'll start looking for someone again" and then get rejected some more

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Your problem sounds like you're actively pursuing them and probably going in too hard.
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Muscles posted...

I have done that in the past, but eventually it gets to the point where I'm like "ok I'm cool with myself, I'm feeling good, maybe now I'll start looking for someone again" and then get rejected some more

well theres your problem, you are using yourself as the gauge to go by, ok? dont.

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So how should I gauge when I'm ready to start looking again?

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Muscles posted...

So how should I gauge when I'm ready to start looking again?

give yourself a year at the very least, if you start thinking about relationships or the need, start over, ok?

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Well I'm shooting 0.000 already so it couldn't hurt

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Muscles posted...

Well I'm shooting 0.000 already so it couldn't hurt

exactly my point, take this time to work on improvement, and keep the idea of relationships shelved for a year, ok?

see how much it can improve your life, and realize you just need to learn to be content with yourself first and foremost, ok?

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ClarkDuke posted...

exactly my point, take this time to work on improvement, and keep the idea of relationships shelved for a year, ok?

see how much it can improve your life, and realize you just need to learn to be content with yourself first and foremost, ok?

Well I am content with myself, the pursuit of a relationship was never about it needing to make me better/whole/whatever or because some sort of outside expectation, I just wanted a relationship because I like women and want to do all the fun stuff that comes with relationships

That being said, being content with myself isn't enough, I don't want to be just good enough, I want to be the best I can

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Muscles posted...

I just wanted a relationship because I like women and want to do all the fun stuff that comes with relationships

this added part shows the above is you attempting to fool yourself, ok?

its of zero benefit for me to point this out, so either you admit it and try, or you can continue down this path and grow older and the behavior becomes inappropriate, ok? by that point, secluding yourself further and further.

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For most of my life I was not content at all with myself, on bad days (like the day I made this topic) I still sometimes fall back to that. Mostly I am though, it's still something I need to work on for sure, but I'm a lot better than I was in my teens and early 20s

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Hopefully that gets easier as you get older. You dont need to be some perfect person. As long as you feel ok and youre treating others with respect and kindness, then youre doing alright.

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Mead posted...

Hopefully that gets easier as you get older. You dont need to be some perfect person. As long as you feel ok and youre treating others with respect and kindness, then youre doing alright.

That's what I am doing, I have always treated people with respect and kindness even when I hated myself

I just feel like I could be better, I don't feel like I have to be perfect though

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Getting rejected isn't that bad (assuming you're not being inappropriate with how/who/when you ask), some guys don't even have the confidence to ask, so that's a good start

Muscles posted...

For most of my life I was not content at all with myself, on bad days (like the day I made this topic) I still sometimes fall back to that. Mostly I am though, it's still something I need to work on for sure, but I'm a lot better than I was in my teens and early 20s

feeling like youre being better, doesnt make you better, ok?

progress isnt instantaneous, and can take years, but the first step is acknowledging and making the improvement a priority, ok?

unless youre strikingly handsome or youre flush with cash, you need to put in the work, ok?

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ClarkDuke posted...

feeling like youre being better, doesnt make you better, ok?

progress isnt instantaneous, and can take years, but the first step is acknowledging and making the improvement a priority, ok?

unless youre strikingly handsome or youre flush with cash, you need to put in the work, ok?

I know, I'm just part way there and need to put in the work to get better

@CoorsLight I know that, I have gotten rejected a lot, and never once has any girl been mean about it also you can just move on instead of wondering if you should take a shot or not

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