Current Events > Would you want your future wife to take your last name?

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Why or why not

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Yes because it is good

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i don't care. she's still my wife. if her not taking your name makes you feel like less of a man you got some issues tbh.

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Yes, both of them.

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doesn't matter to me.

in my culture, at least traditionally, there isn't a surname, and instead it's just two names, so no one in my immediate family shares the same last name.

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Where's the "idc" option? Lol

TheVipaGTS posted...

i don't care. she's still my wife. if her not taking your name makes you feel like less of a man you got some issues tbh.

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True. I should have had an I dont care option

flopic

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I dunno

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Up to her.

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My current wife didn't take mine. It would be a little unfair to expect my next wife to take it.
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Id rather change my own last name to Ocasio-Cortez.

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If she has a cool last name like Murder or Icepunch then I'm taking hers.

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I mean it seems like the default still but I dont care.

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Depends on how cool her last name is

I legitimately couldnt care less

Yes, it's ethnic.
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I wanted her to hyphenate it actually, but she decided to just take my last name instead
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I mean personally, for just the convenience of it all, I would like her to take my last name, but I otherwise don't care and if she wanted to keep her last name I would have zero issue with it.

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Compsognathus posted...

I mean personally, for just the convenience of it all, I would like her to take my last name, but I otherwise don't care and if she wanted to keep her last name I would have zero issue with it.

So then take hers

for the convenience

MICHALECOLE posted...

So then take hers

for the convenience

I love it maggle

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I would assume it would happen like that. Though I'm rather flexible.

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Depends. My last name is pretty cool. She'd have to have a cooler one.
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yes by force and crush it to dust

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I don't particularly give a fart either way.

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For all the Yes answers- what will you do if she doesn't want to take your name? Will you take her name? Why or why not

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AlCalavicci posted...

For all the Yes answers- what will you do if she doesn't want to take your name? Will you take her name? Why or why not

Immediately launch her out of a cannon.
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Preferably I would take hers

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I could go either way it's so common once you take it, you wouldn't be able to find yourself on google unless you were famous because there'd be too many other people with that same first/last name unless she had a unique first name.

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yeah and there's gonna be some "problems" if she doesnt

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AlCalavicci posted...

For all the Yes answers- what will you do if she doesn't want to take your name? Will you take her name? Why or why not

That's a good question I actually never thought of this as a outcome.

It would depend on the relationship but this would be brought up immediately if she really had a problem with it otherwise it's a problem if she brings it up later.

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If my current wife dies or divorces me there won't be another.

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AlCalavicci posted...

For all the Yes answers- what will you do if she doesn't want to take your name? Will you take her name? Why or why not

It would have to be a pretty good reason.

Marriage is about commitment and sacrifice. If you don't to take my last name just because that's the first sign of a red flag.

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im not 13 posted...

Marriage is about commitment and sacrifice. If you don't to take my last name just because that's the first sign of a red flag.

if she doesnt want to take your name, would you take her last name ?

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I honestly couldn't care less about it being my last name, but I do think married couples having the same last name is a good practice. Dogmatically sticking to the importance of "family legacy" and all the nonsense can go away though.

i don't give a shit

who fucking cares

I would. My gf is pretty traditional, so I don't think there will be any issues with that

It would make passing on a last name to our kids a lot easier. Unless odd kids take one of our names and even kids the other's. And don't even bring up hyphenating. If hyphenating surnames was the norm people'd be walking around with dozens, or many, many more last names. At a certain point you have to pick, so why create the situation to begin with.

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Whatever her preference is. I don't care either way.

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AlCalavicci posted...

For all the Yes answers- what will you do if she doesn't want to take your name? Will you take her name? Why or why not

see if she wants to hyphen our last names. if she still says no then call off the marriage

masterbarf posted...

It would make passing on a last name to our kids a lot easier. Unless odd kids take one of our names and even kids the other's. And don't even bring up hyphenating. If hyphenating surnames was the norm people'd be walking around with dozens, or many, many more last names. At a certain point you have to pick, so why create the situation to begin with.

So you dont like hyphened names

Lets say she doesnt want to take your name

in the interest of making it easier for your kids to have one name, would you take her name ?


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Sheeeeesh posted...

see if she wants to hyphen our last names. if she still says no then call off the marriage

would you take her name as part of the hyphen or only she should take your name ?

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Yes. I'm a traditionalist.

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AlCalavicci posted...

in the interest of making it easier for your kids to have one name, would you take her name ?

Only if she owns more land than me. Serious answer: No. I'm keeping my name, if she wants to keep hers too, that's fine. We'd just have to figure something out for our kids.

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Forgive the idiot single never married guy question here but can you still be married with the husband keeping his last name and the wife keeping hers?

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Yes. Wives taking husband's names is just a tradition.

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I don't care, but she wants to take my name.

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Sure but I would consider creating a new name or even taking her name if she had a better one than mine.

Anything to avoid hyphenated names

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masterbarf posted...

Only if she owns more land than me. Serious answer: No. I'm keeping my name, if she wants to keep hers too, that's fine. We'd just have to figure something out for our kids.

An amalgamation of both!

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