Current Events > So this "friend" that's an addict ....asked a favor

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To stay here for a week. I said sure you can use my "bedroom" cause I typically sleep living room on couch...

She basically moved in my room LoL and I'm going to have to turn to asshole mode and tell her to move along.

Also to claify I've never had sexual relations with this woman either nor do I want too I think???

So what should I do CE? I'm sure out of the crazyness in response I might find a solution

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Tell her to keep it movin. But post pics for CE

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Addict to what? You have to alter your approach depending on what their poison is. An alcoholic and a heroin addict would need different types of approach, for example.

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Has it been a week?

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Oh boy You made a huge mistake TC.

JK-Dobbins posted...

Oh boy You made a huge mistake TC.

Yes I regret my decision after 4 days.

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SystemEgo posted...

Addict to what? You have to alter your approach depending on what their poison is. An alcoholic and a heroin addict would need different types of approach, for example.

Meth. Yes shoot me now for having heart to help but yeppers...... terrible

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I wouldnt even let a friend on meth stay at my house let alone whatever friend means

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FinalBraveNUT posted...

Meth. Yes shoot me now for having heart to help but yeppers...... terrible

you did this for the possibility of hooking up, dont lie

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Expect your belongings to get stolen

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If it's been four days, you'd better start dropping hints that she's gotta go. You said you'd help her for a week, and that's approaching fast.

As a sign of good faith, you can help her find somewhere else to live. But you had an agreement, and you shouldn't be guilted into breaking that agreement.

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dj1200 posted...

Tell her to keep it movin. But post pics for CE

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drugs warp people's sense of time

by week she meant an eon

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Shezarr posted...

I wouldnt even let a friend on meth stay at my house let alone whatever friend means

I wouldn't let a friend on meth or any addictive illegal/hallucinogenic/expensive drug in my house.

Sorry but I don't want to be murdered because a bad trip or have my stuff stolen for more drugs. I can't fuck with that stuff.

And no I don't consider Marijuana or reasonable amounts of alcohol in that category.

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pikachupwnage posted...

I wouldn't let a friend on meth or any addictive illegal/expensive drug in my house.

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FinalBraveNUT posted...

Meth. Yes shoot me now for having heart to help but yeppers...... terrible

Ah...move?

Honestly, if it were me, I'd wait for them to be in a fairly reasonable mood and ask them when they would be going. They will probably um and ah, let them know you're doing you're best to help but they can't stay forever and give them an extended deadline (up to you; would seriously avoid more than a fortnight though).

Be firm with yourself wrt the deadline; speak to them a few days prior to ask about it and on the day if it looks like they're not budging. If that's failed, then surreptitiously find as many local locksmiths as possible and, next time they go out, call all the locksmiths and hire the first one who's immediately available to come round and change the locks.

Wait outside, with 999 pre-typed on your phone so you just have to hit 'dial' if the shit hits the fan, and explain to them when they return what you've done and why (they're not trying to help themselves/they're taking the piss/etc.) and hope to God they take it reasonably well.

Obviously I don't know what this person is like normally so this may not be an option you want to take (or can't for some reason), but...well...it really depends on them as to how this plays out so you are in a better place than anyone to know how to handle it. Hopefully someone will come up with something that gives you a 'Eureka!' moment though. Good luck!

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Lol I didn't give this bitch no keys so .....but yeah I know it's a mistake now that my room smells terrible. I hope it's some kind of asian food (she's asian) that she has in there or she packing up today

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You should have established a timeline before you let her stay. But since I'm assuming you didn't you need to ask her what her plans are and how long she plans on staying without letting her dodge answering and hold her to what she says.

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FinalBraveNUT posted...

Lol I didn't give this bitch no keys so .....but yeah I know it's a mistake now that my room smells terrible.

Congrats, now you have a meth room.

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BuT iS sHe hOT?!??!?!!?

I'd just ask her when she's leaving, if it's not soon enough, go ahead and make up some excuse as to why you'll need the room(any relatives you can ask to come over for a few hours to play make-believe? Friends?).

If that don't work, you're just gonna have to be firm and ask her to leave.
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