Current Events > As a gay, kinda shook by how much height is emphasized in straight culture

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Lol saw a TikTok where a bride was letting the single girls know the heights and jobs of the single guys attending the wedding and Im shoookk.

Literally have never cared about the height of a partner

Pretty sure all the guys I've been into are either my height or less (I'm 5'11")

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Well of course not, you are a man yes? Men don't care about their height until some girl says "6 feet please" and he responds "what about my 6 inches" and she says "you need 8".

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It's a stereotype, but all stereotypes are rooted in reality, but many (straight) women prefer their partner to be taller/bigger then they are.

It gives them a sense of security.

The general idea of "How is he going to protect me if he's smaller than me?"

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shockthemonkey posted...

Im in a Facebook group called the cis white gays disappoint me daily or something like that and it still seems like its pretty prevalent, at least among disappointing cis white gay men.

But obviously I dont have the same level of interaction as you and that group is still just about those types of disappointing human beings so prolly not much of a metric

Im also been off the dating market for like 7 years lol sooo I guess I havent had to deal with gay dating and the racism/prejudice that comes with it

shockthemonkey posted...

Im in a Facebook group called the cis white gays disappoint me daily

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Internet douchebags always try to make others feel insecure because they need to feel above others to overcompensate for other things. Just don't play into it. I just see it as these people wearing their shallow redflags as outfits. If they're shallow about this, it's gonna leak into other parts of their perception and they probably won't be a fun person to be around. Or it's just a joke they fell into mimicking and they're not really trying to hurt anyone but they're not compassionate enough to realize they are. I'd only slightly worry about the one's who get defensive when being called out for being shallow.

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yeah some gay guys make a stink about height, but I think it matters way less than in straight relationships, thank god.

tall boyfriends are fun, though

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CruelBuffalo posted...

Lol saw a TikTok where a bride was letting the single girls know the heights and jobs of the single guys attending the wedding and Im shoookk.

shallow women, meet your queen

Women can veer towards signs of strength

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For some reason I feel height is mostly emphasized with white girls. Like a lot will go after any skinny fat loser if he is over 6 feet.

BloodMoon7 posted...

Well of course not, you are a man yes? Men don't care about their height until some girl says "6 feet please" and he responds "what about my 6 inches" and she says "you need 8".

Lmfao

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It seems really clear people are only looking in one direction and acting like everyone outside their current view is any less shallow. It's an instant facepalm when someone acts like one group os more shallow than the next. At least in America. There's enough shallow people in each group that you can easily trip over them online no matter which group you're looking into. The shallow Olympics isn't a game worth judging.

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I'm 5'8", completely average, I've never had height raised as an issue when dating, but I don't go for the shallow bitch types, either.

MARKINGRAM22 posted...

For some reason I feel height is mostly emphasized with white girls. Like a lot will go after any skinny fat loser if he is over 6 feet.

What about a fat fat loser that's about 6f2??

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Most women want men that are taller than they are. Once you meet that
threshold other factors come into play.

Most men are taller than women so it's usually a non issue IRL.

As a gay, kinda shook by how much height is emphasized in straight culture

lmao
This is not new.

Women are some of the biggest size queens in history. Height is not just an anatomical trait, it's also an aspect of appearance. Plenty of women are just as shallow about a partner's size as many men are about a woman's figure. You're not legit about body positivity and discouraging discrimination based on body type if you ignore toxic vitriol casually thrown at shorter people who are not an ideal height. Making fun of or straight up harassing someone for shorter height is just like fat-shaming. If all someone cares about is the latter and they preach body positivity, they're a hypocrite and a fraud.

Speaking as someone who's been an active part of gay communities for years, quite a lot of gay men DON'T actually set as high of a priority on a man's height. We have our shallow priorities too, but height is one of those things plenty of gay men are willing to overlook (especially if the guy in question is attractive in other ways). Yes, there are gay men who set height preferences in their profiles. Guess what: they're not a majority. And many of them will compromise those preferences in a heartbeat the moment they discover the prospective guy is hot in other ways. Most of us are horny as fuck by nature. We celebrate it. None of us want to be the loser in our clique stuck sitting at home with inflated standards and missing out on good dick while everyone else is getting buried in it. When we have a night like that, we always regret it...

That's why whenever I see a token gay guy in some sitcom being hyper fixated on turning down an otherwise cute guy over shorter height, it comes across as super fake. That's more often a superficial female dilemma. More women treat that like a life-or-death issue, not gay guys. The gay male character has been written like a stuck up woman. It's bad lazy uneducated writing and unfortunately not rare in modern media. Gay guys can be superficial too, no shit. But over height? Sorry, far more women have cornered that market for decades.

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BlockAddition posted...

Lmao, this is how some women think

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Breeding is still chasing Darwinism.

If you're just fucking for orgasms, the only real gating is what gets you aroused.

As a straight guy, I never understood the importance of height.

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BlockAddition posted...

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I went on a date with a girl whose only as tall as my shoulder. I mean lot of things didn't line up for us and its def not a significant height diff but I was kinda weirded out by it.

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There's a stigma to a woman being taller than her boyfriend/husband.

Maybe stupid, but it is what it is

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BloodMoon7 posted...

Well of course not, you are a man yes? Men don't care about their height until some girl says "6 feet please" and he responds "what about my 6 inches" and she says "you need 8".

Most guys that claim 8 and what girls are satisfied with are in actuality likely under 7, so I'm quite content with being a 6.5'er lol.

Height for girls is a protection instinct thing. Also a reproduction instinct thing. The bigger animal can theoretically protect the offspring better as well as produce the offspring more efficiently, because typically the bigger the animal the bigger the package. Bigger means you can shove it deeper and be more likely to get things done.

Sorry if that sounds silly but it's true.

It's not an end all be all though. I'm in the middle of perfect height at 6'2 and it draws a lot of girls. Guess what happens when they find out I'm a social reject that doesn't know how to use proper body language. They're gone with no second date every time. So if you're part of the 85% that are shorter than 6 foot, be glad it it doesn't matter much.