Current Events > What is your biggest fear with asking a girl out?

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Like whats the worst case scenario you feel could still realistically happen to you?

"Let's just stay friends"

That she would reject me and proceed to tell others about the situation and how I was rejected.

immediate laughter, followed by her talking to her friends about how big a loser I am

or perhaps a look of disgust, followed by her talking to her friends about how big a creep I am

both would be pretty bad NGL

that she says yes

I don't have this fear as I will never ask anyone if they want to go out with me

I have literally nothing to offer

If I look or feel stupid/awkward in the moment.

It's not that bad but it kinda effects my confidence at some type.

I asked the woman I've been texting with the past two months if we could meet and I'm going over her house Thursday (she has her own place, I have my own car, it makes sense).
The worst that could happen is that she would say no, of course. She did the first time I proposed meeting up, because she was immunocompromised at the time (her immune system has apparently gotten better) and it was the dead of winter (i.e. meeting outside would have been unpleasant).

LordYeezus posted...

"Let's just stay friends"

It's quite sad men fear that.

I have 2. That I'll embarrass myself, she'll tell people she knows, they'll judge me and I'll never be able to show my face again out of fear that someone is judging me.

Also...
g0ldie posted...

that she says yes

This. Like, what would I need to do after that point? I have no idea.

that she would end up being someone who wants to have kids and/or would turn out to be a trump supporter

That my wife would find out

She says yes. And then I actually have to take a person somewhere in hopes that they enjoy it. And likely feed them. And hold numerous konversations. And most, if not all, of this will be komming out of my pocket. And she might even want to do it again. Numerous times. I don't like this.

Meteors probably. Like, I ask her out and a meteor hits my car and debris hits my junk.

g0ldie posted...

that she says yes

Dammit, Gold, stop being so relatable and faster than me all the time.

The biggest fear is the rejection itself. It still hurts when I feel like I have a shot, but she still rejects me. Doesn't stop me from trying though.

That my girlfriend will find out (just kidding).

Nothing comes to mind.

That she will shoot me in the pecker with a shotgun

I need a hint or something that would make me think shes interested. Thats why you have normal conversations. An interested girl will show interest while others wont.

You know: basic human interactions.

CRON posted...

That she would reject me and proceed to tell others about the situation and how I was rejected.

If they are mutual friends and/or people youd see and interact with every day (like at school or work), sure I get the fear of people snickering behind your back. But if its people you dont know and will never meet or see, I dont really care who says what.

LordMarshal posted...

I need a hint or something that would make me think shes interested. Thats why you have normal conversations. An interested girl will show interest while others wont.

You know: basic human interactions.

Lol. I speak from experience when I say it's not always that easy.

The_Korey posted...

Dammit, Gold, stop being so relatable and faster than me all the time.

lol

I think finding out she has a boyfriend is worse than rejection tbh. Its just awkward

Protopet posted...

Lol. I speak from experience when I say it's not always that easy.

No. Its always that easy. Youre dealing with immature girls with social issues otherwise and i ignore those.

EffectAndCause posted...

If they are mutual friends and/or people youd see and interact with every day (like at school or work), sure I get the fear of people snickering behind your back. But if its people you dont know and will never meet or see, I dont really care who says what.

This is one of my biggest mental health hurdles. I have horrible anxiety and paranoia as a result of some awful experiences.