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haloiscoolisbak 04/02/22 11:42:03 PM #1:	Some brief context. About a year ago a girl I hadn't spoken to in years (but was once a very close friend - though nothing more as she was my best friends girlfriend - though we all met together at uni and me and her were a legitimate close friends who hung out alone a lot) hit me up out of the blue. We had a long catchup conversation for several hours, and agreed we should watch some movies we reccemended to each other and get back to each other about what we thought about them. We didn't make any plans to catch up, due to the fact we were both dating people, and I also was living with her ex, my best friend. They had a bad breakup and I think we both thought it could lead to problems for her to come chill, even platonically, so the conversation kinda fizzled out, but pleasantly enough https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/4/AAHjeiAADGCI.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/5/AAHjeiAADGCJ.jpg She wished me a happy birthday a few months later, I'd since moved out and decided I would now be keen to see her, so I thanked her and asked about the movie Id reccemended to her to get the convo going. That got ghosted, then a happy birthday message I sent to her a month later got ghosted, and I thought oh well. Probably should have just asked her to catch up during that initial convo. Live and learn https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/6/AAHjeiAADGCK.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/7/AAHjeiAADGCL.jpg Then last night at 3am she hits me up with the above. I was a bit drunk(and am thinking she probably was too) and wasn't sure if she was asking if we should go see her favourite rapper together or actually asking if she wanted to discuss who the best rapper is. Either option seemed a bit strange considering we haven't seen each other in person in 5 years and have only had that one chat in 2020. Anyway after I asked Gambino? (I'm thinking it was Kendrick now, I know she liked both but was just taking a guess ) I put my phone down for 5 minutes and I guess she got anxious that maybe she'd seemed weird and apologised and yeah that's where we're at. I just tried to brush off that "soz" but maybe should have addressed it anyway. Anyway, what now lol? I don't want to send a double message but like, this seems so silly as I'm sure if we hung out it'd be like old times --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963978302] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Some brief context. About a year ago a girl I hadn't spoken to in years (but was once a very close friend - though nothing more as she was my best friends girlfriend - though we all met together at uni and me and her were a legitimate close friends who hung out alone a lot) hit me up out of the blue. We had a long catchup conversation for several hours, and agreed we should watch some movies we reccemended to each other and get back to each other about what we thought about them. We didn't make any plans to catch up, due to the fact we were both dating people, and I also was living with her ex, my best friend. They had a bad breakup and I think we both thought it could lead to problems for her to come chill, even platonically, so the conversation kinda fizzled out, but pleasantly enough https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/4/AAHjeiAADGCI.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/5/AAHjeiAADGCJ.jpg She wished me a happy birthday a few months later, I'd since moved out and decided I would now be keen to see her, so I thanked her and asked about the movie Id reccemended to her to get the convo going. That got ghosted, then a happy birthday message I sent to her a month later got ghosted, and I thought oh well. Probably should have just asked her to catch up during that initial convo. Live and learn https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/6/AAHjeiAADGCK.jpg https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/4/7/AAHjeiAADGCL.jpg Then last night at 3am she hits me up with the above. I was a bit drunk(and am thinking she probably was too) and wasn't sure if she was asking if we should go see her favourite rapper together or actually asking if she wanted to discuss who the best rapper is. Either option seemed a bit strange considering we haven't seen each other in person in 5 years and have only had that one chat in 2020. Anyway after I asked Gambino? (I'm thinking it was Kendrick now, I know she liked both but was just taking a guess ) I put my phone down for 5 minutes and I guess she got anxious that maybe she'd seemed weird and apologised and yeah that's where we're at. I just tried to brush off that "soz" but maybe should have addressed it anyway. Anyway, what now lol? I don't want to send a double message but like, this seems so silly as I'm sure if we hung out it'd be like old times </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 12:20:26 AM #2:	Bump. --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963979366] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Bump. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Strider102 04/03/22 12:23:04 AM #3:	Charge your phone --- Last Cloudia ID: 188850453 <cite>Strider102 posted [p:963979418] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Charge your phone </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 04/03/22 12:32:06 AM #4:	If you want to hang out then ask her if shed be interested in making plans to. The ghosting last summer is kind of a mixed signal but there could be an explanation. You seem to be on her mind if shes just texting you out of the blue. Worst case scenario shell make some excuse not to or shell flake. In which case you can put what ifs behind you and move forward. Also if youre romantically interested you should make that clear. Dont go in with some false pretext of reconnecting as friends if those arent really your intentions --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:963979574] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>If you want to hang out then ask her if shed be interested in making plans to. The ghosting last summer is kind of a mixed signal but there could be an explanation. You seem to be on her mind if shes just texting you out of the blue. Worst case scenario shell make some excuse not to or shell flake. In which case you can put what ifs behind you and move forward. Also if youre romantically interested you should make that clear. Dont go in with some false pretext of reconnecting as friends if those arent really your intentions </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Questionmarktarius 04/03/22 12:32:33 AM #5:	Strider102 posted... Charge your phone <cite>Questionmarktarius posted [p:963979591] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Strider102 posted... </cite> <quote>Charge your phone</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
kage_53 04/03/22 12:35:12 AM #6:	She ghosted you because she was fucking someone but no longer has that luxury. Youre pretty much her back up option. Hit it and leave it. <cite>kage_53 posted [p:963979655] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>She ghosted you because she was fucking someone but no longer has that luxury. Youre pretty much her back up option. Hit it and leave it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jiek_Fafn 04/03/22 12:38:24 AM #7:	This is what Id do Me: I've been playing a lot of Elden Rings and it's really hard. Wait like a minute Send dick pics. A lot of dick pics because it's a very hard game --- I don't believe in belts. There should be no ranking system for toughness. <cite>Jiek_Fafn posted [p:963979711] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>This is what Id do Me: I've been playing a lot of Elden Rings and it's really hard. Wait like a minute Send dick pics. A lot of dick pics because it's a very hard game </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 04/03/22 12:40:06 AM #8:	kage_53 posted... She ghosted you because she was fucking someone but no longer has that luxury. Youre pretty much her back up option. Hit it and leave it. definitely dont listen to incel shit like this --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:963979744] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>kage_53 posted... </cite> <quote>She ghosted you because she was fucking someone but no longer has that luxury. Youre pretty much her back up option. Hit it and leave it.</quote> definitely dont listen to incel shit like this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
viewmaster_pi 04/03/22 12:40:51 AM #9:	how are you... going? --- It's your turn, beloved. It's your flesh I wear <cite>viewmaster_pi posted [p:963979759] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>how are you... going? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 12:41:10 AM #10:	kage_53 posted... She ghosted you because she was fucking someone but no longer has that luxury. Youre pretty much her back up option. Hit it and leave it. Makes sense, except that little "soz" she sent after her attempt at being funny, after I hadn't even opened the message yet(it had been 5 minutes lol) has made mee think she's maybe a little anxious. She always had fairly bad anxiety More importantly, she hasn't responded to my message last night lol. Like wouldn't you at least respond to that after hitting someone up out of the blue. Confusing --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963979766] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>kage_53 posted... </cite> <quote>She ghosted you because she was fucking someone but no longer has that luxury. Youre pretty much her back up option. Hit it and leave it.</quote> Makes sense, except that little "soz" she sent after her attempt at being funny, after I hadn't even opened the message yet(it had been 5 minutes lol) has made mee think she's maybe a little anxious. She always had fairly bad anxiety More importantly, she hasn't responded to my message last night lol. Like wouldn't you at least respond to that after hitting someone up out of the blue. Confusing </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 12:43:16 AM #11:	viewmaster_pi posted... how are you... going? I already asked that! Waiting on the response from that lol but it's like, she's hit me up twice now since we last saw each other 5 years ago - I actually think maybe a double message isn't that weird here --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963979811] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>viewmaster_pi posted... </cite> <quote>how are you... going?</quote> I already asked that! Waiting on the response from that lol but it's like, she's hit me up twice now since we last saw each other 5 years ago - I actually think maybe a double message isn't that weird here </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
kage_53 04/03/22 12:54:10 AM #12:	Solid Snake07 posted... definitely dont listen to incel shit like this Thats not incel stuff. Its reality. haloiscoolisbak posted... Makes sense, except that little "soz" she sent after her attempt at being funny, after I hadn't even opened the message yet(it had been 5 minutes lol) has made mee think she's maybe a little anxious. She always had fairly bad anxiety More importantly, she hasn't responded to my message last night lol. Like wouldn't you at least respond to that after hitting someone up out of the blue. Confusing Just ignore her then. Chicks that play mind games are too much trouble. <cite>kage_53 posted [p:963980013] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Solid Snake07 posted... </cite> <quote>definitely dont listen to incel shit like this</quote> Thats not incel stuff. Its reality. haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>Makes sense, except that little "soz" she sent after her attempt at being funny, after I hadn't even opened the message yet(it had been 5 minutes lol) has made mee think she's maybe a little anxious. She always had fairly bad anxiety More importantly, she hasn't responded to my message last night lol. Like wouldn't you at least respond to that after hitting someone up out of the blue. Confusing</quote> Just ignore her then. Chicks that play mind games are too much trouble. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 04/03/22 12:57:12 AM #13:	kage_53 posted... Thats not incel stuff. Its reality. immediately jumping to she was probably up to some whorish shit, you should just hit it and quit it is absolutely some incel logic --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:963980071] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>kage_53 posted... </cite> <quote>Thats not incel stuff. Its reality.</quote> immediately jumping to she was probably up to some whorish shit, you should just hit it and quit it is absolutely some incel logic </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kalznaburn923 04/03/22 12:59:11 AM #14:	Who's the guy in her profile picture? --- "Officer! Arrest yourself!" - Wengar R.I.P. Reuben Kee (1984-2007) <cite>Kalznaburn923 posted [p:963980114] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Who's the guy in her profile picture? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 1:03:07 AM #15:	Solid Snake07 posted... If you want to hang out then ask her if shed be interested in making plans to. The ghosting last summer is kind of a mixed signal but there could be an explanation. You seem to be on her mind if shes just texting you out of the blue. Worst case scenario shell make some excuse not to or shell flake. In which case you can put what ifs behind you and move forward. Also if youre romantically interested you should make that clear. Dont go in with some false pretext of reconnecting as friends if those arent really your intentions I don't even know what I want. I had pretty much forgotten about her (or at least like, wasn't losing any sleep that we weren't in each other's lives anymore ya know) before both times she'd hitten me up like this. And both times I've been flattered she still thinks about me lol. I'd like to see her again and see where it leads. It's been 5 years, we're a lot older, I'm not too worried about falling in a friend zone or whatever. But if she ghosts me I can't even get into any zone to even worry about it being romantic or friendly ya know --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963980194] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Solid Snake07 posted... </cite> <quote>If you want to hang out then ask her if shed be interested in making plans to. The ghosting last summer is kind of a mixed signal but there could be an explanation. You seem to be on her mind if shes just texting you out of the blue. Worst case scenario shell make some excuse not to or shell flake. In which case you can put what ifs behind you and move forward. Also if youre romantically interested you should make that clear. Dont go in with some false pretext of reconnecting as friends if those arent really your intentions</quote> I don't even know what I want. I had pretty much forgotten about her (or at least like, wasn't losing any sleep that we weren't in each other's lives anymore ya know) before both times she'd hitten me up like this. And both times I've been flattered she still thinks about me lol. I'd like to see her again and see where it leads. It's been 5 years, we're a lot older, I'm not too worried about falling in a friend zone or whatever. But if she ghosts me I can't even get into any zone to even worry about it being romantic or friendly ya know </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 1:06:36 AM #16:	Kalznaburn923 posted... Who's the guy in her profile picture? It's her female friend lol(she had short hair), who actually passed away in a car crash in December(was all over the news and I have them both still on Facebook so found out about it.) I actually considered sending a text to her about that at the time, saying I'm sorry to hear and stuff, but the fact I'd been ghosted twice made me think it'd maybe be unwelcomd Confusing stuff all around --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963980280] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Kalznaburn923 posted... </cite> <quote>Who's the guy in her profile picture?</quote> It's her female friend lol(she had short hair), who actually passed away in a car crash in December(was all over the news and I have them both still on Facebook so found out about it.) I actually considered sending a text to her about that at the time, saying I'm sorry to hear and stuff, but the fact I'd been ghosted twice made me think it'd maybe be unwelcomd Confusing stuff all around </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 1:14:02 AM #18:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] And that's okay to do right now even though I've currently been left on read from last night? Like should I at least wait a day? I'd like to do it right --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963980421] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> And that's okay to do right now even though I've currently been left on read from last night? Like should I at least wait a day? I'd like to do it right </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Guerrilla Soldier 04/03/22 1:17:57 AM #20:	what would i do? well, i'd get anxious, like you. but i'd wait a week to see if she actually responds at all. if she does, then continue the conversation but lightly until she furthers it. however, she probably won't. if she doesn't, just ask if she wants to hang out or meet up or spend time or something. whatever floats your boat. after a week, you'll be calmer and less anxious/excited and it will come naturally. if she ghosts that, too, then don't bother anymore. she's not gonna either. but, and i mean no offense, but she ghosted you for like a year. even though she texts out of the blue a year later, it isn't really a sign that things are alright. don't overthink it, you're not even close to being there yet. --- Disclaimer: There's a good chance the above post could be sarcasm. Die-hard Oakland A's fan --- Keep the A's in Oakland! <cite>Guerrilla Soldier posted [p:963980491] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>what would i do? well, i'd get anxious, like you. but i'd wait a week to see if she actually responds at all. if she does, then continue the conversation but lightly until she furthers it. however, she probably won't. if she doesn't, just ask if she wants to hang out or meet up or spend time or something. whatever floats your boat. after a week, you'll be calmer and less anxious/excited and it will come naturally. if she ghosts that, too, then don't bother anymore. she's not gonna either. but, and i mean no offense, but she ghosted you for like a year. even though she texts out of the blue a year later, it isn't really a sign that things are alright. don't overthink it, you're not even close to being there yet. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 04/03/22 1:18:22 AM #21:	haloiscoolisbak posted... I don't even know what I want. I had pretty much forgotten about her (or at least like, wasn't losing any sleep that we weren't in each other's lives anymore ya know) before both times she'd hitten me up like this. And both times I've been flattered she still thinks about me lol. I'd like to see her again and see where it leads. It's been 5 years, we're a lot older, I'm not too worried about falling in a friend zone or whatever. But if she ghosts me I can't even get into any zone to even worry about it being romantic or friendly ya know well, I guess what Im trying to say is be honest with her(and yourself) about what you actually want here. And if youre not sure thats fine, but if you decide that that you are interested as more than a friend the sooner you make that obvious the better. --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:963980504] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>I don't even know what I want. I had pretty much forgotten about her (or at least like, wasn't losing any sleep that we weren't in each other's lives anymore ya know) before both times she'd hitten me up like this. And both times I've been flattered she still thinks about me lol. I'd like to see her again and see where it leads. It's been 5 years, we're a lot older, I'm not too worried about falling in a friend zone or whatever. But if she ghosts me I can't even get into any zone to even worry about it being romantic or friendly ya know</quote> well, I guess what Im trying to say is be honest with her(and yourself) about what you actually want here. And if youre not sure thats fine, but if you decide that that you are interested as more than a friend the sooner you make that obvious the better. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 1:18:42 AM #22:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Well it's my birthday again on April 9th lol so I could see if she wishes me a happy birthday again like last year --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963980512] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Well it's my birthday again on April 9th lol so I could see if she wishes me a happy birthday again like last year </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 1:24:55 AM #24:	Guerrilla Soldier posted... what would i do? well, i'd get anxious, like you. but i'd wait a week to see if she actually responds at all. if she does, then continue the conversation but lightly until she furthers it. however, she probably won't. if she doesn't, just ask if she wants to hang out or meet up or spend time or something. whatever floats your boat. after a week, you'll be calmer and less anxious/excited and it will come naturally. if she ghosts that, too, then don't bother anymore. she's not gonna either. but, and i mean no offense, but she ghosted you for like a year. even though she texts out of the blue a year later, it isn't really a sign that things are alright. don't overthink it, you're not even close to being there yet. It's only because this is the second time she's done this out of the blue text that has got me so anxious. I'm not really used to people from my past doing this kind of stuff, like I never text people I haven't seen for years --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963980630] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Guerrilla Soldier posted... </cite> <quote>what would i do? well, i'd get anxious, like you. but i'd wait a week to see if she actually responds at all. if she does, then continue the conversation but lightly until she furthers it. however, she probably won't. if she doesn't, just ask if she wants to hang out or meet up or spend time or something. whatever floats your boat. after a week, you'll be calmer and less anxious/excited and it will come naturally. if she ghosts that, too, then don't bother anymore. she's not gonna either. but, and i mean no offense, but she ghosted you for like a year. even though she texts out of the blue a year later, it isn't really a sign that things are alright. don't overthink it, you're not even close to being there yet.</quote> It's only because this is the second time she's done this out of the blue text that has got me so anxious. I'm not really used to people from my past doing this kind of stuff, like I never text people I haven't seen for years </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Xedhadeaus 04/03/22 1:30:41 AM #25:	Just do whatever you would do. If advice doesn't work you're going to wish you did whatever you thought of, or nothing. So you might as well do whatever. --- https://discord.gg/R4KDE9NK6J (Discord) https://www.guilded.gg/i/2ZvQZXL2 (Guilded) <cite>Xedhadeaus posted [p:963980725] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Just do whatever you would do. If advice doesn't work you're going to wish you did whatever you thought of, or nothing. So you might as well do whatever. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 04/03/22 1:49:56 AM #26:	Xedhadeaus posted... Just do whatever you would do. If advice doesn't work you're going to wish you did whatever you thought of, or nothing. So you might as well do whatever. My initial thought was just trying to clarify what she even meant last night with that rapper stuff. Now I think it's better I just jump straight to the point and ask if she wants to catch up soon. I'm also thinking maybe in a few days I might not even care at all and it's more dignified to not double message lol. so I don't even know what I would do here --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:963981033] in What would... [t:79970209]...</cite> <quote>Xedhadeaus posted... </cite> <quote>Just do whatever you would do. If advice doesn't work you're going to wish you did whatever you thought of, or nothing. So you might as well do whatever.</quote> My initial thought was just trying to clarify what she even meant last night with that rapper stuff. Now I think it's better I just jump straight to the point and ask if she wants to catch up soon. I'm also thinking maybe in a few days I might not even care at all and it's more dignified to not double message lol. so I don't even know what I would do here </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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