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haloiscoolisbak
07/21/22 5:49:04 AM
#56:


ToadallyAwesome posted...
Its weird to me that being called a grown ass man is so frustrating to TC that he takes that a mile to mean he cant have emotions. And I only point this out because TC has brought up that phrase multiple times for some reason.

But I guess I should shut up now.sigh

It is kinda a cringey phrase tbh, especially if she's a white girl. It's like she's lifted it straight from a tv show or hip hop song. But not this unforgivable slur TC is making it out to be

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WrestlinFan
07/21/22 5:50:55 AM
#57:


Bruh please just turn your focus off dating apps for now. Until your first real line isn't "I'm sad" and until your ex isn't a topic of conversation at all. You're coming off as a bit of a messy, emotionally-draining proposition. I think that last string of messages she left was a little cruel but her reasoning is sound.

She's not dissing you for being a grown man with sad emotions. She's dissing you for not taking the intuitive in handling your own mental health.

Do you ever take time to completely unplug from the internet OP? That helped me a lot while I was going through a pretty brutal break up a few months back while simultaneously kicking a hardcore alcohol addiction.

I honestly think there's a lot of good lessons to take away from that exchange if you don't take it personally.

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haloiscoolisbak
07/21/22 5:56:09 AM
#58:


Yeah unplugging is a good idea. Genuinely the worst thing for my mental health after my last breakup was going onto Instagram too much as my algorithm had turned into all this like, breakup advice stuff since I'd clicked on a few images on my feed, hoping it would help me initially.... But the advice was always targeted to a girl and always used the prounouns "he" and"him" in a negative light, such as "you don't owe him an explanation" or "you deserved better than him" and I felt more and more alienated and deserving of the pain I felt. I'd open up Instagram on auto pilot and immediately have my mood shifted into negativity. I really wish there was more gender neutral breakup advice on social media lol.

Tldr: take a break from the internet

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Anony1125
07/21/22 5:58:21 AM
#59:


Sorry things aren't going well for you tc, hope they get better.

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l0bcity
07/21/22 6:15:11 AM
#60:


DocDelicious posted...
I must say "take this time to learn how to enjoy your own company" is about the best way to say "take your sad ass elsewhere" that I've ever seen.
Lmao

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I4NRulez
07/21/22 6:21:18 AM
#61:


electricbugs2 posted...
Now this is a CE topic lmao. Imagine posting this thinking people would take your side.

This happens on CE a lot. Usually someone will back up OPs side and then they'll latch onto it and ignore why it's wrong.

Also a few issues OP. People don't wanna deal with ex drama. You're literally telling them on match you have some and you can't handle how to feel about it.

Secondly, you laid all this on a stranger and got all pissy about it. Imagine you're at a party and you meet someone. Then they just start crying out of nowhere. It's uncomfortable as all hell

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rexcrk
07/21/22 6:31:30 AM
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I clearly tried to change the topic to her work out multiple times and she refused to let me do so. I didnt want to get super deep into my issue, but she pulls me in and then rips me to shreds because I was vulnerable to her, I guess?


you cant seriously think that you werent in the wrong.

Put yourself in her shoes. Imagine some chick on a dating app begins the conversation with Im sad :c Im so pathetic :c wah wah wahhh you cant tell me you wouldnt be extremely put off by that.


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CyricZ
07/21/22 6:32:58 AM
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Quite frankly I'm amazed she let it go as long as it did.

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Unsuprised_Pika
07/21/22 6:35:21 AM
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Crying really is okay though. It can be super cathartic and the notion that men shouldn't cry is harmful.

She could've had more tact but I wouldn't call her a sociopath

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WrestlinFan
07/21/22 6:35:37 AM
#67:


haloiscoolisbak posted...
Tldr: take a break from the internet
It's all so bad for our brains.

Some things I enjoy doing to decompress while unplugged:
-going for walks at my local park
-creating Photoshop edits of my cat
-finding neat one of a kind stuff at thrift stores and writing about them
-writing my feelings down more often in general, about anything in particular
-going to the local library to read instead of doing so at home
-mediatating
-listening to music albums start to finish with good quality headphones

It's less about what you're actually doing and more about what you get out of it. You have to be happy for yourself first mang, you really really do. If not happy, at least mindful. Because even if you luck out and do find someone rn, your relationship would be rooted in unhealthy soil. Just my take.

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EliteGuard99
07/21/22 7:02:38 AM
#68:


Man she really dodged a bullet, I would have just backed the fuck out if this was my first online interaction with someone I didnt know IRL, let alone a dating app.

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haloiscoolisbak
07/21/22 7:04:30 AM
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Some of you are so harsh lol. He's clearing not in the best mental state right now


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FLAMING_EVIL_HOMER
07/21/22 7:17:41 AM
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Thought the girl was the one in yellow sheesh
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Try to changthe subject after 3 messages sounding so cringe.

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TheOnionKnight
07/21/22 7:21:59 AM
#72:


Don't talk about exes with a new partner. Just don't do it. Not until you know each other well enough to explore sensitive topics like that. And especially not as your opener! You're trying to start a healthy new relationship. You don't want to immediately center it around an old broken relationship. It's off-putting and is a red flag.

Yeah she got snippy at the end, which is something she could work on herself. But she was pretty chill at the beginning, all things considered.

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g0ldie
07/21/22 7:22:35 AM
#73:


ngl, I thought the woman was the one with the yellow text...and I was about to agree.

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EliteGuard99
07/21/22 7:33:02 AM
#74:


TheOnionKnight posted...
Don't talk about exes with a new partner. Just don't do it. Not until you know each other well enough to explore sensitive topics like that. And especially not as your opener! You're trying to start a healthy new relationship. You don't want to immediately center it around an old broken relationship. It's off-putting and is a red flag.
Thats what I was saying, what a terrible first impression he made.


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12amMadman
07/21/22 7:35:25 AM
#75:


This reads like the beginning of a true love story. I think she can really fix you.

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LinkFanatic
07/21/22 7:36:45 AM
#76:


Wow, a lot of these people in this topic...you shouldn't listen to. Unless they've been through it themselves, they'd definitely defend someone like the chick you texted.

Mental health awareness is all well and good until it begins to affect you personally. Then they quickly lose their external facades of niceties.

It might not be right, but I don't think something is wrong just because someone gets upset about it. Where is that line? Not sure. I guess it depends on my connection to the person, but I definitely think that some people ITT are going a bit overboard on the guilting stuff. Your feelings are valid, and no matter what they say, that'll always be the case.

But if this is what's supposed to be normal when you unload on strangers, then mental health advocacy isn't quite as good as I thought. The person you confided in handled it completely the wrong way. It's not so much what she said, as how she said it.

Either way, these people are mocking you for their benefit, not yours. If they actually wanted to help you, they would leave personal attacks or ridicule out of it.

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DespondentDeity
07/21/22 7:39:56 AM
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Looks to me like youre just identifying as sad for attention.

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Dat_Cracka_Jax
07/21/22 7:40:44 AM
#78:


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IMO You should have said, "You're right, thank you, that's a great suggestion" or something like that to disentangle yourself from that.

Instead you rebuffed her.
I thought the same thing. That would have allowed you to move past. She still shouldn't have sent those last few texts though

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LinkFanatic
07/21/22 7:41:28 AM
#79:


DespondentDeity posted...
Looks to me like youre just identifying as sad for attention.

Don't listen to this person either.

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LinkFanatic
07/21/22 7:43:37 AM
#80:


But yeah, the love your own company thing is actually good advice. I agree with some others on that.

It's easy to say, though. I still barely know how to do that 10 years into depression. It's definitely not as easy as just making it happen.

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FLAMING_EVIL_HOMER
07/21/22 7:44:15 AM
#81:


Like when she gave the advice the first time, he should have just said " yeah, thanks" then changed subject. Instead, he doubled down and said stuff about crying makes it worst or whatever lol.


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LinkFanatic
07/21/22 7:45:08 AM
#82:


FLAMING_EVIL_HOMER posted...
instead, he doubled down and said stuff about crying makes it worst or whatever lol.

I don't see how that's anything for you to laugh at.

Here's a novel idea: instead of you guys ganging up on the TC, why not explain exactly what you think he did and how to fix it?

This weird tribalistic circlejerking thing is self-serving, not helpful...and you guys all know it is. You're doing this on purpose.

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CellBlock7
07/21/22 7:46:23 AM
#83:


Ya messed up buddy.

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Corrik7
07/21/22 7:47:06 AM
#84:


The TC clearly escalates at multiple points until the girl finally goes 100 on him. It took me awhile to realize that I was supposed to find the girl as the sociopath here.

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LinkFanatic
07/21/22 7:47:32 AM
#85:


Corrik7 posted...
The TC clearly escalates at multiple points until the girl finally goes 100 on him. It took me awhile to realize that I was supposed to find the girl as the sociopath here.

The only sociopath here seems to be you. It's neither one of them.

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Corrik7
07/21/22 7:48:02 AM
#86:


LinkFanatic posted...
The only sociopath here seems to be you. It's neither one of them.
lol um ok?

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Cheetaluv
07/21/22 7:51:08 AM
#87:


No one should defend TC who clearly wanted everyone to attack the girl by calling her a sociopath.

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LinkFanatic
07/21/22 7:55:13 AM
#88:


I've done my job here highlighting how elitist everyone ITT is being (well, a lot of them). I also sent the TC a message telling him to speak to someone who really understands (me) and won't leverage guilt in his face.

As for fixing yourself, I have trust issues out the ass but I was able to find a boyfriend despite that. I think you can do it TC. Self-improvement seems to be a reasonable goal, but do it at your own pace, and not for other people. They can take you or leave you. Change on your own time and through your own experiences, not theirs.

Leaving now. I just wanted to give the TC a helping hand since everyone else was laughing at him like a bunch of high school bullies. I suppose if you're on the right side of society, that's acceptable? Won't fly with me though.

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Cheetaluv
07/21/22 8:00:05 AM
#89:


LinkFanatic posted...
I've done my job here highlighting how elitist everyone ITT is being (well, a lot of them). I also sent the TC a message telling him to speak to someone who really understands (me) and won't leverage guilt in his face.

As for fixing yourself, I have trust issues out the ass but I was able to find a boyfriend despite that. I think you can do it TC. Self-improvement seems to be a reasonable goal, but do it at your own pace, and not for other people. They can take you or leave you. Change on your own time and through your own experiences, not theirs.

Leaving now. I just wanted to give the TC a helping hand since everyone else was laughing at him like a bunch of high school bullies. I suppose if you're on the right side of society, that's acceptable? Won't fly with me though.

You done nothing lol, no one cares and don't let the door hit your ass on the way out.

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Fony
07/21/22 8:00:53 AM
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Lmfao.

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EliteGuard99
07/21/22 8:01:06 AM
#91:


LinkFanatic posted...
The only sociopath here seems to be you.
Gonna cry?


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Dat_Cracka_Jax
07/21/22 8:01:46 AM
#92:


LinkFanatic posted...
why not explain exactly what you think he did and how to fix it
I feel that there are several posts in this topic doing just that. Ultimately he needs a different outlet as strangers on the internet (the girl and CE) are not the best options for working through your mental health problems.

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DarkChozoGhost
07/21/22 8:05:45 AM
#94:


clyde_frog posted...
She asked how I was, and I was brutally honest.
Why would you be? That's obviously very foolish

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ThyCorndog
07/21/22 8:06:08 AM
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TC said way too much for sure, but this is why dudes don't express emotions

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Jabodie
07/21/22 8:06:32 AM
#96:


I'm surprised she didn't just unmatch immediately lol

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Dat_Cracka_Jax
07/21/22 8:07:41 AM
#97:


ThyCorndog posted...
TC said way too much for sure, but this is why dudes don't express emotions
Why? Because they can't figure out when it's appropriate to do so?

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Sajo
07/21/22 8:10:41 AM
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LinkFanatic posted...
I've done my job here highlighting how elitist everyone ITT is being (well, a lot of them). I also sent the TC a message telling him to speak to someone who really understands (me) and won't leverage guilt in his face.

As for fixing yourself, I have trust issues out the ass but I was able to find a boyfriend despite that. I think you can do it TC. Self-improvement seems to be a reasonable goal, but do it at your own pace, and not for other people. They can take you or leave you. Change on your own time and through your own experiences, not theirs.

Leaving now. I just wanted to give the TC a helping hand since everyone else was laughing at him like a bunch of high school bullies. I suppose if you're on the right side of society, that's acceptable? Won't fly with me though.
Nice alt TC.

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Fony
07/21/22 8:12:23 AM
#100:


ThyCorndog posted...
TC said way too much for sure, but this is why dudes don't express emotions

Because they can't do it appropriately?

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Vegy
07/21/22 8:13:17 AM
#101:


You all just proved dis topic lmfao

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/400-current-events/80096201

Imagine If da genders were reversed lol

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ThyCorndog
07/21/22 8:14:30 AM
#103:


Ye. Whatever you want to call it. I don't care too much. I personally only have a small handful of people I ever express any of that stuff to so I don't get made fun of or judged. To everyone else I act like I have no problems going on ever

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Dat_Cracka_Jax
07/21/22 8:14:39 AM
#104:


Vegy posted...
You all just proved dis topic lmfao

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/400-current-events/80096201

Imagine If da genders were reversed lol
I actually thought they were for a while. Thought the girl was the one pouting about her ex until the your a grown man text.

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CE_gonna_CE
07/21/22 8:15:00 AM
#105:


CyricZ posted...
Quite frankly I'm amazed she let it go as long as it did.


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rexcrk
07/21/22 8:15:49 AM
#106:


Vegy posted...
You all just proved dis topic lmfao

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/400-current-events/80096201

Imagine If da genders were reversed lol


Nah. Id still say the same thing.


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