Current Events > I'm not sure what to do with all the crap my ex left behind.

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I've talked at length about the situation, but the tl;dr is my ex abruptly moved out one day about six months ago. She took her bed, the big-screen TV, the PS5, and an entertainment center (and a few other small things of hers). She left behind SO MUCH stuff and I'm not sure what to do with it all.

A few choice items:
1) A size 12 wedding dress
2) A fairly sizeable collection of X-Wing miniatures
3) A sterilite container full of Magic cards
4) Multiple brand new purses
5) Yu-Gi-Oh cards
6) A bag full of... things
7) A ring light
8) A green screen
9) Multiple wigs
10) Her W2

Anyway, suggestions for what I should do. She has had six months to come back and get this crap. I have to move soon and my apartment will charge me for anything left behind.

To the dumpster!

Any underwear?

Let's see these X-Wing miniatures and magic cards

Do the X-wing pieces have all the cards/dials/tokens etc to play them?

If so I call dibs

Six months ago? She forfeited it all. Gove it to goodwill of you don't wanna deal with it. Maybe look into how these type of things go in small claims court first. I feel like you'd win tho. Unless you're leaving our important information

_Rinku_ posted...

6) A bag full of... things

Give me

Ebay, baybee.

Obviously start leaving the dildos outside her house until the bag is empty.

Sell, some of those cards might be rare and valuable for instance

Alternatively, send me all of the yugioh cards please

She took what she wanted, meaning what she left is now literally trash. Toss that shit.

I'd be interested in the purses and possibly the wedding dress because you know, I'm a girl and engaged. >.> And I'd be interested in the bag of things as well though you could always just sanitize them and use them in future relationships unless you can prove they're like, a bad dragon or whatever in which case you could resell them for an easy $60-80 each.

The combination of all things ... sounds like youre better off without her.

Anyway, there can be money in the magic cards, xwings and wedding dress. I would look up the law regarding how much entitlement you have to those things?

gunplagirl posted...

I'd be interested in the purses and possibly the wedding dress because you know, I'm a girl and engaged. >.>

You're engaged? Congrats if that was recent.

Irony posted...

Any underwear?

Christ, yeah, she left a bunch.

MarcoRubio posted...

Let's see these X-Wing miniatures and magic cards

Looks like she mostly left all the extra bits for X-Wing. I swear I saw some of the miniatures yesterday.

Most of the Magic cards are circa Return to Ravnica plus or minus three years.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/2/9/5/AAJtqRAADgMX.jpg

Pitlord_Special posted...

Do the X-wing pieces have all the cards/dials/tokens etc to play them?

If so I call dibs

Doesn't look like it, but she did leave a bunch of Imperial Assault.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/2/9/6/AAJtqRAADgMY.jpg

I wish she would have left her Legion stuff. I really like that game. She stole the cards for my Wookiee Warriors too.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Six months ago? She forfeited it all. Gove it to goodwill of you don't wanna deal with it. Maybe look into how these type of things go in small claims court first. I feel like you'd win tho. Unless you're leaving our important information

She owes me several thousand dollars in rent and she's also a frequent user of illegal substances. I doubt she'd take me to court.

gunplagirl posted...

I'd be interested in the purses and possibly the wedding dress because you know, I'm a girl and engaged. >.> And I'd be interested in the bag of things as well though you could always just sanitize them and use them in future relationships unless you can prove they're like, a bad dragon or whatever in which case you could resell them for an easy $60-80 each.

One of the purses is a cute moon design itabag. I looked it up: it costs $60. She bought it at a time when she was arguing with me that she didn't make enough to cover her half of the expenses (she makes nearly 4x what I do).

JuanCarlos1 posted...

The combination of all things ... sounds like youre better off without her.

Anyway, there can be money in the magic cards, xwings and wedding dress. I would look up the law regarding how much entitlement you have to those things?

I'm hoping they're considered legally abandoned.

Ill take the green screen. I feel like creating.

_Rinku_ posted...

Christ, yeah, she left a bunch.

One of the purses is a cute moon design itabag. I looked it up: it costs $60. She bought it at a time when she was arguing with me that she didn't make enough to cover her half of the expenses (she makes nearly 4x what I do).

...I'll pm you my discord so we can discuss the purses.

Free $$$$

or you could donate it

You see that trash can?

H&M gives you a 15% coupon for every donation if you wanted to update your wardrobe for the next girl wholl leave stuff behind

She seems to have 8 decks of magic. If they have a good mana base, those are usually money (5-20ish) and each deck could have a few.

Return to ravnica has the shocklands which are some of the best lands in the game nd cost around 10-20 each.

If she had good cards there could be hundreds or more. If not could sell it all as bulk for 60-100.

There are apps like tcg player where you can just scan the card and it shows you the value. You also find the total value this way and sell it all at a discount.

Wedding dress being on that list bums me out.

I read about a lifehack for dating.

Just look up sales for wedding dresses in Facebook Marketplace in your area. Then sort by dress size.

Bam. All the single ladies.

gunplagirl posted...

...I'll pm you my discord so we can discuss the purses.

I might hit you up if she doesn't come for the expensive stuff by the end of the month.

RedLuigi posted...

H&M gives you a 15% coupon for every donation if you wanted to update your wardrobe for the next girl wholl leave stuff behind

H&M isn't my style, unfortunately. I'm a "graphic tees and cargo shorts in the summer, oversized sweaters and leggings in the winter" kinda guy.

JuanCarlos1 posted...

She seems to have 8 decks of magic. If they have a good mana base, those are usually money (5-20ish) and each deck could have a few.

Return to ravnica has the shocklands which are some of the best lands in the game nd cost around 10-20 each.

If she had good cards there could be hundreds or more. If not could sell it all as bulk for 60-100.

There are apps like tcg player where you can just scan the card and it shows you the value. You also find the total value this way and sell it all at a discount.

I'd be surprised if she has anything that valuable. We both played Magic around that time (lots of our mutual friends did) and I had a lot of the same stuff. I enjoyed playing it, but I couldn't keep up with my friends who would put serious money into their decks. I was doing good to buy a booster every now and then lol

AloneIBreak posted...

Wedding dress being on that list bums me out.

Bigger bummer: she walked out three months after the wedding.

If it makes you feel any better, we didn't have a big fancy wedding. It was a private ceremony with just the two of us. We actually hadn't told anyone other than our parents that we got married for at least two of those months. I told one of my friends when my ex was having another one of her manic episodes where she spent the rent money on stupid shit and I realized I might have made a mistake lol

_Rinku_ posted...

6) A bag full of... things

....dildos?

_Rinku_ posted...

She owes me several thousand dollars in rent and she's also a frequent user of illegal substances. I doubt she'd take me to court.

Fair. I've seen dumber things on small claims court tv shows tho lol. Sometimes people get petty and forget to think logically. And I dunno if her coming back into contact and realizing what you did would trigger that pettiness in her

NeonOctopus posted...

....dildos?

Close. Have you ever seen "Everything Everywhere All At Once"? It was a bag full of the trophies from that movie. I know for a fact that she acquired them second-hand.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Fair. I've seen dumber things on small claims court tv shows tho lol. Sometimes people get petty and forget to think logically. And I dunno if her coming back into contact and realizing what you did would trigger that pettiness in her

Maybe. I actually talked to her a few weeks ago to let her know that I had to put one of the cats (that we shared) to sleep. She sounded weird and out of it, so it wouldn't surprise me if she's fucked up all of the time.

Irony posted...

Any underwear?

Welcome to CE

Sell anything of value and burn the rest.

_Rinku_ posted...

I'd be surprised if she has anything that valuable. We both played Magic around that time (lots of our mutual friends did) and I had a lot of the same stuff. I enjoyed playing it, but I couldn't keep up with my friends who would put serious money into their decks. I was doing good to buy a booster every now and then lol

Then prepare to be surprised, or something. MtG is a very active game and bulk rares become valuable if they aren't reprinted to death and are even slightly good. For instance, Cyclonic Rift was a $.25 Rare from RtR that is now going for $35. Odds are you have quite a few cards worth a lot more than you might have realized. Rather than scanning everything in use something like Dawnglare for a visual breakdown of cards as you can quickly put in a bunch of sets->flip through cards until you find one on the screen.

I was going tonask. What are you doing with the magic cards. I would gladly take those off your hands.

divot1338 posted...

I read about a lifehack for dating.

Just look up sales for wedding dresses in Facebook Marketplace in your area. Then sort by dress size.

Bam. All the single ladies.

i lol'd

I need to see the Yugioh stuff

_Rinku_ posted...

Maybe. I actually talked to her a few weeks ago to let her know that I had to put one of the cats (that we shared) to sleep. She sounded weird and out of it, so it wouldn't surprise me if she's fucked up all of the time.

Oh, damn. She really isn't make the right decisions in life huh. That's kind of sad.

Bro seriously? Just get rid of it. Either sell it, donate it, or throw it away.

ellis123 posted...

Then prepare to be surprised, or something. MtG is a very active game and bulk rares become valuable if they aren't reprinted to death and are even slightly good. For instance, Cyclonic Rift was a $.25 Rare from RtR that is now going for $35. Odds are you have quite a few cards worth a lot more than you might have realized. Rather than scanning everything in use something like Dawnglare for a visual breakdown of cards as you can quickly put in a bunch of sets->flip through cards until you find one on the screen.

I might drag the magic cards with me and catalog them after I move.

Aztex posted...

I need to see the Yugioh stuff

It wasn't much. She started playing it not long before she moved out. I saw her bring in a booster box and saw the discarded wrappers later. I've only found these loose cards:

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/4/8/4/AAJtqRAADgPU.jpg

I haven't played Yu-Gi-Oh in over fifteen years, so I have no idea what she was going for, but I assume she was building a deck. Three is the max you can have of one card, right?

blazer4lyfe posted...

I was going tonask. What are you doing with the magic cards. I would gladly take those off your hands.

Maybe catalog. Maybe give them to my friends that still play.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Oh, damn. She really isn't make the right decisions in life huh. That's kind of sad.

Oh, yeah. Like... a week and a half after she walked out on me, she came back and said she still loved me. Admitted that she had [done things that are against the TOS to mention]. Three days later she was dating someone new. Absolute psycho.

Can you ship me the green screen I am a very poor budding videographer and photographer

also sorry for your break up break ups suck

You definitely should create a deck and enter the Battle City tournament btw

Damn_Underscore posted...

You definitely should create a deck and enter the Battle City tournament btw

Dude, just reading these is giving me a headache. I'd heard that Yu-Gi-Oh had gotten stupidly complicated over the years, but this just seems miserable. I'd rather play Magic or Pokemon again.

I'll be damned; she texted me asking if she could come by tomorrow to get her stuff. Let's see if she actually shows up.

_Rinku_ posted...

I'll be damned; she texted me asking if she could come by tomorrow to get her stuff. Let's see if she actually shows up.

Bro, she better not, I want that moon purse ;_;+

Size 12 wedding dress, Is that big?

R1masher posted...

Size 12 wedding dress, Is that big?

Not at all. They're not like those super petite girls who aren't even as wide as some mailboxes. But they're not large by any means at all.

gunplagirl posted...

Bro, she better not, I want that moon purse ;_;+

I'll see how it goes lol

There's a decent chance she just won't show up.

R1masher posted...

Size 12 wedding dress, Is that big?

Not really. My ex is like 5'8", around 165lbs last I heard.

_Rinku_ posted...

I'll see how it goes lol

There's a decent chance she just won't show up.

Not really. My ex is like 5'8", around 165lbs last I heard.

<.< here's hoping

Sell it if you can, throw it out if you can't.

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Yeah. I haven't gone in-depth in this topic, but this ex has put me through absolute hell for roughly the last two years. Cheated on me, dumped me, begged me to give her another chance, was super gung-ho about finally getting married, started treating me like garbage again, walked out and tried to stick me with the entirety of the responsibility for the apartment after three months of being married, a week later kissed me, told me she loved me and wanted to be together, gaslit me about it the next day when I had an important interview, and was dating someone else within three days of that.

I cleaned out a closet. I've always called it the Harry Potter closet because it's technically under the (upstairs neighbor's) stairs. Multiple times over the years, I've cleaned and organized it just for her to throw a bunch of crap in there and ruin it/make it impossible to find anything. I found more Magic cards! ...they're all mine. Says a lot about our relationship that my cards were relegated to a box in the spare closet.

I've also definitively combed through her closet and pulled out anything that was mine. I even found my old copies of American McGee's Alice and The 7th Guest. I bought both of them at my local thrift store when I was in high school. That might not sound wild, but it was in a rural town in the late 2000s. It was a surprising find both times.

Part of me hopes she comes just so she'll take her crap and I don't have to deal with it. Part of me also really doesn't want to see her. The feelings I have towards her aren't pleasant and I don't want to deal with the intensity of them when she's around. I don't trust her enough to just leave while she's here though.

TC, maybe you should gradually throw that crap out or Sell it if she doesnt come. Start small and if she asks about it- just say I thought you took it.

does she even remember whats she missing beside the big stuff?