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gamepimp12
09/07/22 11:39:11 AM
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Basically despite our heart to hearts about our communication issues, whatever changes only lasted a few weeks and then when I called her out on it she basically dodged accountability and went back to her defensive poor communication skills.

the argument is still on going but its a 90% chance that Im done, what was the point of us having a heart to heart if nothing changes.

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MICHALECOLE
09/07/22 11:39:54 AM
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More like gamesimp12
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VampireCoyote
09/07/22 11:40:05 AM
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she probably has crohns disease

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 11:45:35 AM
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MICHALECOLE posted...
More like gamesimp12

Am I really being a simp for taking someone at their word ?

Our relationship was natural, and based on our dynamic we where always gonna end up either dating or never speaking.

She says she wants to communicate better and has a hard time showing that she cares, but that that doesnt mean she doesnt care. But here we are stripped bare, honest and open and she refuses to do the basic ground work someone who cares would do and then gets offended when I say she doesnt care.

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MICHALECOLE
09/07/22 11:49:56 AM
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I actually dont know what a simp is I just know people say it
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bsp77
09/07/22 11:53:50 AM
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Be 100% done, dude. I feel for ya, but now you are just enabling this shit.

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Dreepapult
09/07/22 11:57:08 AM
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Are you guys married or just a couple?

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 11:57:58 AM
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bsp77 posted...
Be 100% done, dude. I feel for ya, but now you are just enabling this shit.

i wanna see where the convo goes, but I honestly dont see a healthy way out of it.

like after we sit down have a serious conversation about our faults and where we can be better at and like the same shit continues to happen like we didnt just speak on it, its nothing more to do and this point Im begging you to be a good friend to me, not even a good partner but a friend.

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 12:03:14 PM
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Dreepapult posted...
Are you guys married or just a couple?

Friends who where dating casually for a year now considering being in a serious relationship.

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Mia_K97
09/07/22 12:11:15 PM
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MICHALECOLE posted...
More like gamesimp12

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 12:17:51 PM
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Three months ago she was saying how she wants us to be close again and that she does care and she wants to be in my life etc etc etc. i took her for her word and I think she genuinely does want that, but if she wont communicate it wont go anywhere.

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VampireCoyote
09/07/22 12:19:36 PM
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Just enjoy each others company and if you arent then dont spend time together

too many words, too many think

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NoxObscuras
09/07/22 12:20:19 PM
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bsp77 posted...
Be 100% done, dude. I feel for ya, but now you are just enabling this shit.
This. You should have been done with her a while ago.

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Mia_K97
09/07/22 12:27:57 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
Three months ago she was saying how she wants us to be close again and that she does care and she wants to be in my life etc etc etc. i took her for her word and I think she genuinely does want that, but if she wont communicate it wont go anywhere.

blah blah who cares, end it
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Poorly
09/07/22 12:35:17 PM
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Mia_K97 posted...
blah blah who cares, end it
Missing in action canine savant

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IShall_Run_Amok
09/07/22 12:37:48 PM
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https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/2/2/7/AAJBROAADpdD.png

wtf is this, it just appears and then disappears

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bsp77
09/07/22 12:42:24 PM
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IShall_Run_Amok posted...
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/2/2/7/AAJBROAADpdD.png

wtf is this, it just appears and then disappears
An ad failing to appear

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 12:47:40 PM
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Numbers been blocked

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bsp77
09/07/22 12:48:27 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
Numbers been blocked
Wait, you blocked her? What happened in the last hour?

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 12:51:11 PM
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bsp77 posted...
Wait, you blocked her? What happened in the last hour?

nothing Im just done. I cant beg her to respect me and at this point shes proven she wont.

She claims something that I do causes her to react that way but nothing that I could do could cause her to move around with little respect or lack of care towards me.

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bsp77
09/07/22 12:52:50 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
nothing Im just done. I cant beg her to respect me and at this point shes proven she wont.

She claims something that I do causes her to react that way but nothing that I could do could cause her to move around with little respect or lack of care towards me.
That's rough. Just because I have been saying you should move on doesn't mean it doesn't suck. Sorry, man.

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IShall_Run_Amok
09/07/22 12:55:16 PM
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bsp77 posted...
An ad failing to appear
Oh, sweet.

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 1:12:05 PM
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[LFAQs-redacted-quote]


i know you said rhetorical. But the second we had a heart to heart and she continued to do it I was done. At that point its no longer a communication break down, its her not caring and I have enough respect about myself to not beg for her to care.

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Dreepapult
09/07/22 1:15:40 PM
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Good on ya mate

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 1:43:03 PM
#28:


Blocked her on everything but snapchat

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 3:48:18 PM
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Im honestly really disappointed in her, its just sad she couldnt do the bare minimum a friend requires.

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 9:55:22 PM
#30:


One of our mutual friends sat me down and talked to me.

She kinda drilled into me, because she thinks alot like her and was in a similar situation.

As shitty as the girls communication was, mine wasnt much better, and I really fucked up there.

She felt like I smothered her and trying to hog all her free time up, and when she felt like that she pulled away.

I felt like she didnt care, she wasnt respectful of my time and hid behind her indecisiveness towards our relationships when ever there an issue.

and can honestly say I did smother her, but it had gotten to the point where I felt like I had to smother her to have any kind of serious conversation.

So Im not without guilt, but I tried, I genuinely tried and I just couldnt be meet halfway.


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bsp77
09/07/22 10:00:28 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
One of our mutual friends sat me down and talked to me.

She kinda drilled into me, because she thinks alot like her and was in a similar situation.

As shitty as the girls communication was, mine wasnt much better, and I really fucked up there.

She felt like I smothered her and trying to hog all her free time up, and when she felt like that she pulled away.

I felt like she didnt care, she wasnt respectful of my time and hid behind her indecisiveness towards our relationships when ever there an issue.

and can honestly say I did smother her, but it had gotten to the point where I felt like I had to smother her to have any kind of serious conversation.

So Im not without guilt, but I tried, I genuinely tried and I just couldnt be meet halfway.
If she was truly into you she wouldn't have thought of it as smothering. At some point, she needed to either commit or fuck off. Not this weird in between shit for perpuity. I don't like people like that.

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Dreepapult
09/07/22 10:03:30 PM
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Don't blame yourself dude. You guys were just on completely different pages with what you wanted.

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KaZooo
09/07/22 10:08:00 PM
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Pay attention to the mistakes you made and move on. You learned about what to improve on, and more accurately of what you're looking for based on her and your own doings. You both messed up the relationship. Not saying that to crap on either of you, but just be constructive about how this fell apart.

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carpediempimp
09/07/22 10:21:39 PM
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bsp77 posted...
If she was truly into you she wouldn't have thought of it as smothering. At some point, she needed to either commit or fuck off. Not this weird in between shit for perpuity. I don't like people like that.


shes big on her personal space and freedom, she wants the space to make mistakes and figure out what she wants on her own Her sisters the same way its almost an unhealthy obsession.

so I think it would of been smothering either way.

I was honestly fine with our dynamic (when healthy) my issues where always her disrespect of my time, her avoiding anything she views as conflict and her falling back on her indecisiveness towards us dating to excuse her own wrong doings.

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carpediempimp
09/07/22 10:23:30 PM
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Dreepapult posted...
Don't blame yourself dude. You guys were just on completely different pages with what you wanted.


I really dont think we where on different pages, different paragraphs definitely, but she never wanted to meet me half way when it came to communication

I cant beg her to help me understand how to make her happy.

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gamepimp12
09/07/22 10:55:10 PM
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KaZooo posted...
Pay attention to the mistakes you made and move on. You learned about what to improve on, and more accurately of what you're looking for based on her and your own doings. You both messed up the relationship. Not saying that to crap on either of you, but just be constructive about how this fell apart.


All I can do honestly


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gamepimp12
09/08/22 2:38:19 PM
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So we got into a screaming match over the phone.

someone told me she basically had shown a mutual friend one of our convos in a light that would embarrass me

(basically in the middle of an argument shed just stop texting me leaving me to rant about our problems )

the person who said it has a history of being messy. But it was something that he couldnt of known.

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bsp77
09/08/22 2:40:29 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
So we got into a screaming match over the phone.

someone told me she basically had shown a mutual friend one of our convos in a light that would embarrass me

(basically in the middle of an argument shed just stop texting me leaving me to rant about our problems )

the person who said it has a history of being messy. But it was something that he couldnt of known.
Thought she was blocked?

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gamepimp12
09/08/22 6:00:44 PM
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bsp77 posted...
Thought she was blocked?


i unblocked her to ask about this.

she basically said it didnt happen, at least not in that context but that shes shown our text messages before.

we blocked each other again after that.

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gamepimp12
09/08/22 7:59:47 PM
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Yeah even my friends are telling me Im an idiot.

I treated her like my girl, and even though I always told her I didnt want or expect a relationship me treating her like my GF superseded all that in her eyes.

So thats when she freaked out and started feeling smothered and like I was trying to back door her into a relationship.

and I really fucked up there.

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gamepimp12
09/08/22 10:56:43 PM
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Yeahhhhhhhhh

Her not respecting my time is a big issue and I doubt we would ever work with being a thing.

But as I remove myself from the situation I was super toxic.

i was tryna treat her like my gf while telling her I dont want a girlfriend. While getting mad at her for consistently giving mixed signals.


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bsp77
09/08/22 10:59:46 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
i was tryna treat her like my gf while telling her I dont want a girlfriend.
I am pretty sure that I and others stated this many months ago

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gamepimp12
09/08/22 11:23:36 PM
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bsp77 posted...
I am pretty sure that I and others stated this many months ago


yeap, everyone did myself included, I knew it wasnt really fair.

i was trying to have my cake and eat it too, which wasnt fair, but it was and still is how I feel. Love her to death and shes special but I cant see myself dating anyone seriously at the moment

i thought that though I was being a hypocrite it wasnt a big deal, because she generally loved the way I treated her and didnt want a relationship either. I was always consistent in what I said.

what Ive been finding out over the last month or so, was that it really put alot of pressure on her to the point that was the reason she actually felt smothered.

so I cant really be mad at her for all of her mixed signals when I wasnt much better.

i feel like I communicated better, at every aspect of our relationship, but I wasnt much better than her in the way I was acting.

Like I feel like the fact I tried to communicated makes me look better in the situation. But not much better.

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silverpine
09/08/22 11:27:19 PM
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communication is slightly overrated. you can't just spend your whole life communicating about the relationship. at a certain point your needs need to be met unspoken, for the most part
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gamepimp12
09/08/22 11:33:03 PM
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silverpine posted...
communication is slightly overrated. you can't just spend your whole life communicating about the relationship. at a certain point your needs need to be met unspoken, for the most part


i agree I needed her to respect my time and she just couldnt and because of those poor time management skills we were honestly always probably doomed to fail.

but on the other hand I have to acknowledge that I had her dealing with unrealistic expectations and that I shouldve recognized she was crushed under the weight of them

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gamepimp12
09/09/22 9:03:03 AM
#46:


Morning bump

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bsp77
09/09/22 9:09:37 AM
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gamepimp12 posted...
Morning bump
You just a glutton for punishment? Lol

You should stop thinking about her. It is good that you are reflecting on what you did wrong, but she clearly has issues that you should stay away from. Learn from it and then put her out of your mind.

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gamepimp12
09/09/22 10:48:17 AM
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bsp77 posted...
You just a glutton for punishment? Lol

You should stop thinking about her. It is good that you are reflecting on what you did wrong, but she clearly has issues that you should stay away from. Learn from it and then put her out of your mind.

nah its done done. Im really just reflecting on everything.


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gamepimp12
09/09/22 2:32:15 PM
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Oh so this is interesting, I went to go to try and sell some shoes and they where being weirdly rough with me over the phone. Come to find out shes in town and me actively working against me

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Virgalyssa
09/09/22 6:39:28 PM
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gamepimp12 posted...
Oh so this is interesting, I went to go to try and sell some shoes and they where being weirdly rough with me over the phone. Come to find out shes in town and me actively working against me
How? Does she know the owner or employees? Surely the entire town can't be at her beck and call because of a petty squabble and breakup right?

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