Board 8 > How do you get a straight girl going through a breakup to shut up

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Chaeix 05/10/23 12:34:20 PM #1:	Holy **** its been a month of just I feel so betrayed and how could he do this to me about a month long relationship this is a semi serious question on how to say you have said the exact same thing 8000 times and I cant keep giving you the same placid bullshit as a response because Im exhausted of this --- we're all buds~jc~ <DeathChicken> you are my hero for being the first person to cite National Geographic in Mercs <cite>Chaeix posted [p:973382853] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Holy **** its been a month of just I feel so betrayed and how could he do this to me about a month long relationshipthis is a semi serious question on how to say you have said the exact same thing 8000 times and I cant keep giving you the same placid bullshit as a response because Im exhausted of this</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
neonreaper 05/10/23 12:39:23 PM #2:	Be the rebound guy and then break up with her --- Donny: Are they gonna hurt us, Walter? Walter: No, Donny. These men are cowards. <cite>neonreaper posted [p:973382946] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Be the rebound guy and then break up with her </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 05/10/23 12:40:19 PM #3:	Without knowing her or your relationship with her, my best advice would be to gently tell her that the longer she dwells on it and the more she thinks about it, the longer and harder it's going to be to move on. --- darkx Games beaten in 2023 - 7; Most recent - Professor Layton and the Curious Village <cite>Underleveled posted [p:973382965] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Without knowing her or your relationship with her, my best advice would be to gently tell her that the longer she dwells on it and the more she thinks about it, the longer and harder it's going to be to move on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kenri 05/10/23 12:43:58 PM #4:	"I care about you and I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but you need to find another outlet for talking about this, like a therapist if you're comfortable with that. Continuing to put all of this on me every time we talk is exhausting and honestly makes me want to see you less, which I hate to say because I enjoy spending time with you." Or something to that effect. And then continue to reinforce it if she ignores you and is back at it again the next day. Warning: no matter how gently you tell someone this, it's possible for them to take it personally and as a result it can hurt your friendship. But often that's preferable to them continuing to treat you like an unpaid therapist. --- Congrats to BKSheikah, who knows more about years than anyone else. <cite>Kenri posted [p:973383043] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>"I care about you and I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but you need to find another outlet for talking about this, like a therapist if you're comfortable with that. Continuing to put all of this on me every time we talk is exhausting and honestly makes me want to see you less, which I hate to say because I enjoy spending time with you."Or something to that effect. And then continue to reinforce it if she ignores you and is back at it again the next day. Warning: no matter how gently you tell someone this, it's possible for them to take it personally and as a result it can hurt your friendship. But often that's preferable to them continuing to treat you like an unpaid therapist.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chaeix 05/10/23 12:58:57 PM #5:	good advice darkx and kenri, ty --- we're all buds~jc~ <DeathChicken> you are my hero for being the first person to cite National Geographic in Mercs <cite>Chaeix posted [p:973383320] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>good advice darkx and kenri, ty</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Peace___Frog 05/10/23 1:00:22 PM #6:	Yeah what they said --- ~Peaf~ <cite>Peace___Frog posted [p:973383345] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Yeah what they said</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MZero 05/10/23 1:25:56 PM #7:	D. Pee in her butt --- MZero, to the extreme https://www.twitch.tv/kabazame <cite>MZero posted [p:973383824] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>D. Pee in her butt</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Leonhart4 05/10/23 1:45:46 PM #8:	Tell her it was all her fault --- https://imgur.com/WqDcNNq https://imgur.com/89Z5jrB <cite>Leonhart4 posted [p:973384162] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Tell her it was all her fault</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
mnk 05/10/23 2:24:06 PM #9:	Link her to this topic. --- Change is weird. <cite>mnk posted [p:973384876] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Link her to this topic.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
trdl23 05/10/23 2:30:00 PM #10:	mnk posted... Link her to this topic. --- E come vivo? Vivo! <cite>trdl23 posted [p:973384969] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>mnk posted... </cite><quote>Link her to this topic.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NeatoAnAccount 05/10/23 2:42:55 PM #11:	Pro tip: you have to be alive to complain --- Neato, an account <cite>NeatoAnAccount posted [p:973385186] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Pro tip: you have to be alive to complain</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AriaOfBolo 05/10/23 2:48:49 PM #12:	butter the ex --- New name, new gender, same great Bolo flavor! She is messy, but she's kind; she is lonely, most of the time <cite>AriaOfBolo posted [p:973385296] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>butter the ex</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lopen 05/10/23 3:32:44 PM #14:	UltimaterializerX posted... Weve all been through it. Shut the fuck up or find a girl to talk to. I dont care. Direct is always best if someone is annoying or they go on thinking their behavior is okay. The problem is when you put it that way they still think it's OK they just think you're an asshole now. --- No problem! This is a cute and pop genocide of love! <cite>Lopen posted [p:973386157] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>UltimaterializerX posted... </cite><quote>Weve all been through it. Shut the fuck up or find a girl to talk to. I dont care.Direct is always best if someone is annoying or they go on thinking their behavior is okay.</quote>The problem is when you put it that way they still think it's OK they just think you're an asshole now. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
foolm0r0n 05/10/23 4:14:49 PM #15:	Lopen posted... now What if it's nothing new? Then there's no downside --- _foolmo_ he says listen to my story this maybe are last chance <cite>foolm0r0n posted [p:973386976] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Lopen posted... </cite><quote>now</quote>What if it's nothing new? Then there's no downside</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
neonreaper 05/10/23 8:55:28 PM #16:	Chaeix posted... good advice darkx and kenri, ty why settle for merely good advice --- Donny: Are they gonna hurt us, Walter? Walter: No, Donny. These men are cowards. <cite>neonreaper posted [p:973392440] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Chaeix posted... </cite><quote>good advice darkx and kenri, ty</quote>why settle for merely good advice </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
colliding 05/10/23 9:27:20 PM #17:	not to be that guy but I find the need to specify that it was a "straight girl" somewhat toxic --- while you slept, the world changed <cite>colliding posted [p:973393098] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>not to be that guy but I find the need to specify that it was a "straight girl" somewhat toxic</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Thorn 05/10/23 9:30:33 PM #18:	Claim you're workshopping an idea to help keep things like this from happening in the future using blockchain technology and would like her advice. You don't even need to know anything about the blockchain - I mean who really does? - just bullshit it. "See, when you enter a relationship it'll be logged on the blockchain and since it's all decentralized you won't be able to hide evidence of cheating." --- May you find your book in this place. Formerly known as xp1337. <cite>Thorn posted [p:973393156] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Claim you're workshopping an idea to help keep things like this from happening in the future using blockchain technology and would like her advice. You don't even need to know anything about the blockchain - I mean who really does? - just bullshit it. "See, when you enter a relationship it'll be logged on the blockchain and since it's all decentralized you won't be able to hide evidence of cheating."</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ChaosTonyV4 05/10/23 9:48:57 PM #20:	Pee in her mouth --- Phantom Dust. "I'll just wait for time to prove me right again." - Vlado <cite>ChaosTonyV4 posted [p:973393556] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Pee in her mouth</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
neonreaper 05/10/23 9:53:35 PM #21:	The real answer (for me) is youve been bringing it up a lot, it must really be bothering you. Whats up with that - you ok? Not saying its the right approach but its what I would do. and honestly why do you think that guy bounced? --- Donny: Are they gonna hurt us, Walter? Walter: No, Donny. These men are cowards. <cite>neonreaper posted [p:973393649] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>The real answer (for me) is youve been bringing it up a lot, it must really be bothering you. Whats up with that - you ok?Not saying its the right approach but its what I would do. and honestly why do you think that guy bounced? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pokewars 05/10/23 9:56:42 PM #22:	ChatGPT like Stan with Wendy. --- "To be underestimated is an incredible gift." - Jack Rackham, Black Sails <cite>Pokewars posted [p:973393717] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>ChatGPT like Stan with Wendy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
redrocket 05/10/23 10:23:57 PM #23:	Thorn posted... Claim you're workshopping an idea to help keep things like this from happening in the future using blockchain technology and would like her advice. You don't even need to know anything about the blockchain - I mean who really does? - just bullshit it. "See, when you enter a relationship it'll be logged on the blockchain and since it's all decentralized you won't be able to hide evidence of cheating." Post of the year contender. --- It's like paying for bubble wrap. -transience on Final Fantasy: All the Bravest <cite>redrocket posted [p:973394265] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Thorn posted... </cite><quote>Claim you're workshopping an idea to help keep things like this from happening in the future using blockchain technology and would like her advice. You don't even need to know anything about the blockchain - I mean who really does? - just bullshit it. "See, when you enter a relationship it'll be logged on the blockchain and since it's all decentralized you won't be able to hide evidence of cheating."</quote>Post of the year contender. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chaeix 05/11/23 1:47:35 AM #24:	colliding posted... not to be that guy but I find the need to specify that it was a "straight girl" somewhat toxic honestly fair but this kind of melodrama is something I have only experienced with straight female friends neonreaper posted... The real answer (for me) is youve been bringing it up a lot, it must really be bothering you. Whats up with that - you ok? Not saying its the right approach but its what I would do. and honestly why do you think that guy bounced? Ive been the one making sure shes been okay since things ended. I was just in a shit mood this morning and was v salty. he bounced because they were both going through a lot of personal shit and he tried to keep it going as long as he could but the shift from honeymoon phase to intense support system suddenly (the personal shit was sudden but I will clarify it wasnt like, death in the family level. Career stuff.) was just untenable. And he still has been there as a friend in a more limited capacity so its not like he just bounced and cold shouldered. I care deeply about this friend and the motivation for asking was because I wanted advice on how to deal with my own exhaustion (which is kinda what he was probably dealing with regarding other stuff) without making her feel like I was abandoning her. The topic title sounds harsher than I feel cause again I was in a shit mood --- we're all buds~jc~ <DeathChicken> you are my hero for being the first person to cite National Geographic in Mercs <cite>Chaeix posted [p:973396961] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>colliding posted... </cite><quote>not to be that guy but I find the need to specify that it was a "straight girl" somewhat toxic</quote>honestly fair but this kind of melodrama is something I have only experienced with straight female friendsneonreaper posted... </cite><quote>The real answer (for me) is youve been bringing it up a lot, it must really be bothering you. Whats up with that - you ok?Not saying its the right approach but its what I would do. and honestly why do you think that guy bounced?</quote>Ive been the one making sure shes been okay since things ended. I was just in a shit mood this morning and was v salty.he bounced because they were both going through a lot of personal shit and he tried to keep it going as long as he could but the shift from honeymoon phase to intense support system suddenly (the personal shit was sudden but I will clarify it wasnt like, death in the family level. Career stuff.) was just untenable. And he still has been there as a friend in a more limited capacity so its not like he just bounced and cold shouldered.I care deeply about this friend and the motivation for asking was because I wanted advice on how to deal with my own exhaustion (which is kinda what he was probably dealing with regarding other stuff) without making her feel like I was abandoning her. The topic title sounds harsher than I feel cause again I was in a shit mood</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ChichiriMuyo 05/11/23 2:15:18 AM #25:	colliding posted... not to be that guy but I find the need to specify that it was a "straight girl" somewhat toxic Depends on if OP is a gay man. Straight women have a tendency to have certain expectations of their gay male friends that may not be fair and that they would not have of a straight man or gay female. Anyway, if she's been on about this longer than the relationship I would point that out. It is not a sign of good mental health if someone obsesses over a break up longer than the relationship lasted and, as someone else mentioned, she may need to seek therapy. --- "If you ever feel good about yourself, just look on the Internet." - Ryan Reynolds <cite>ChichiriMuyo posted [p:973397168] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>colliding posted... </cite><quote>not to be that guy but I find the need to specify that it was a "straight girl" somewhat toxic</quote>Depends on if OP is a gay man. Straight women have a tendency to have certain expectations of their gay male friends that may not be fair and that they would not have of a straight man or gay female.Anyway, if she's been on about this longer than the relationship I would point that out. It is not a sign of good mental health if someone obsesses over a break up longer than the relationship lasted and, as someone else mentioned, she may need to seek therapy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Hardcore_Adult 05/11/23 2:47:52 AM #26:	Noise Cancelling --- I'll get back up for good this time and I ain't comin' down... <cite>Hardcore_Adult posted [p:973397374] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Noise Cancelling </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pezzicle 05/11/23 6:39:36 AM #27:	Tell her that you understand she is still sad by it but you need a break from her talking to you about it because it is impacting you negatively. you get to have boundaries, if she cant respect that thats an issue --- stop victory lapping around your desk, your chair has rollers, it's not even really exercise <cite>pezzicle posted [p:973398864] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Tell her that you understand she is still sad by it but you need a break from her talking to you about it because it is impacting you negatively. you get to have boundaries, if she cant respect that thats an issue </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pezzicle 05/11/23 6:40:19 AM #28:	Kenri posted... "I care about you and I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but you need to find another outlet for talking about this, like a therapist if you're comfortable with that. Continuing to put all of this on me every time we talk is exhausting and honestly makes me want to see you less, which I hate to say because I enjoy spending time with you." Or something to that effect. And then continue to reinforce it if she ignores you and is back at it again the next day. Warning: no matter how gently you tell someone this, it's possible for them to take it personally and as a result it can hurt your friendship. But often that's preferable to them continuing to treat you like an unpaid therapist. ya basically this --- stop victory lapping around your desk, your chair has rollers, it's not even really exercise <cite>pezzicle posted [p:973398871] in How do you... [t:80439028]...</cite> <quote>Kenri posted... </cite><quote>"I care about you and I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but you need to find another outlet for talking about this, like a therapist if you're comfortable with that. Continuing to put all of this on me every time we talk is exhausting and honestly makes me want to see you less, which I hate to say because I enjoy spending time with you."Or something to that effect. And then continue to reinforce it if she ignores you and is back at it again the next day. Warning: no matter how gently you tell someone this, it's possible for them to take it personally and as a result it can hurt your friendship. But often that's preferable to them continuing to treat you like an unpaid therapist.</quote>ya basically this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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