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For every 9/10 dates I get planned
Me: Hey, lets plan on doing this (day) at (this time)

Yeah thatll work for me

that day comes, hit them up 1-2 hours before planned time:
Hey, we still on for (time previously mentioned

oh sorry, (excuse) happened, can we plan for tomorrow/(insert day here)

ok

next day comes, ask this around 2 hours before date
so we still on for (same time as previously planned

*no response*

calls 30 min before planned date arrangement

*goes to voicemail*

gotta love it

Pack it up and move on.

you are being toyed with

Im cooked

She snapped me this morning like nothings even happened and when I called her out for flaking (for the second consecutive day) she said she was anxious and she thought about saying something but didnt but and shouldve been more mature

needless to say I deleted her contacts and deleted her as a friend on snap

leave the ball in their court when you make plans and if they have to reschedule for whatever reason, let them reach out to you if/when theyre ready to meet

i wouldnt ever ask are we still on for tomorrow?, especially when they agreed to it earlier on in the week. if theyre serious they wouldnt bail last minute. i get shit happens, but when it happens a day or hours before

needless to say I deleted her contacts and deleted her as a friend on snap

sounds like someone dodged a bullet.

Fluttershy posted...

needless to say I deleted her contacts and deleted her as a friend on snap

sounds like someone dodged a bullet.

He did, yes.

Fluttershy posted...

needless to say I deleted her contacts and deleted her as a friend on snap

sounds like someone dodged a bullet.

I hope youre not saying shes in the right

LukaDoncic77 posted...

i wouldnt ever ask are we still on for tomorrow?, especially when they agreed to it earlier on in the week. if theyre serious they wouldnt bail last minute. i get shit happens, but when it happens a day or hours before

I disagree. People are horrible at communicating, so asking that question makes perfect sense.

LukaDoncic77 posted...

leave the ball in their court when you make plans and if they have to reschedule for whatever reason, let them reach out to you if/when theyre ready to meet

i wouldnt ever ask are we still on for tomorrow?, especially when they agreed to it earlier on in the week. if theyre serious they wouldnt bail last minute. i get shit happens, but when it happens a day or hours before

what would you ask then instead prior to actually showing up for the scheduled date? Please dont tell me you would just go straight there

DeroIin posted...

what would you ask then instead prior to actually showing up for the scheduled date? Please dont tell me you would just go straight there

I would head there 24 hours early and wait a week for my special girl
;)

DeroIin posted...

what would you ask then instead prior to actually showing up for the scheduled date? Please dont tell me you would just go straight there

if were communicating throughout the week and there are zero signs that shes going to flake out on me i wouldnt ask her anything.

the date was made in advance for a reason, but if you really need to know i guess you can try bringing it up in a conversation roundabout way like ill see you on Thursday so that she knows youre still committed and that you can verbally hear her response (with her words and tone) as she agrees and says it back to you

this is of course something youd only say in a convo the day before, you dont have to keep saying see you Thursday each day leading up to the day you plan on meeting lol

I hope youre not saying shes in the right

or what? going to handle it as well as you handled being ditched?

nobody owes you a god damn thing.

Good call dropping her.

One time can just bad luck. Twice, she's playing games.

People on this board are crazy

Yet for some reason you think TC owes her something

i'm just going to laugh at you for actually doing a no u in almost 2024. you sure showed me conflict.

conflict i'm gonna have to ask you to calm down.

that's better.

anyway, try and be a better conflict tomorrow. i believe in you.

Fluttershy posted...

needless to say I deleted her contacts and deleted her as a friend on snap

sounds like someone dodged a bullet.

I don't see how TC is in the wrong here, unless I'm missing something

teep_ posted...

I don't see how TC is in the wrong here, unless I'm missing something

TC's not wrong, fluttershy is trying too hard.

Must be a lack of compatibility more than anyone doing something wrong. Looks like she needs someone more patient and understanding, and you're looking for someone more confident and ready to date.

Fluttershy posted...

I hope youre not saying shes in the right

or what? going to handle it as well as you handled being ditched?

nobody owes you a god damn thing.

What a stupid fucking take. "No one owes you anything" is childish and is the easy way out. Grow up.

nah, it's the reality. glad to serve you the check, but do try to shed your sense of entitlement going forward. it's childish.

DeroIin posted...

oh sorry, (excuse) happened, can we plan for tomorrow/(insert day here)

yea this is just shitty people who don't have the spine to say "no, im no longer interested"

online dating is a numbers game. you aren't the only one they are talking to. And if a better option comes along, they go for the better option. most people do.

yea this is just shitty people who don't have the spine to say "no, im no longer interested"

shittier people who don't take hints and demand explanations until they get one they like, more likely. clingy people that didn't hear 'no' enough in their formative years.

getting ghosted means someone has probably correctly identified that you wouldn't have any grace in the situation.

(conflict wants attention badly.)

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Sometimes people arent compatible at whatever point in time they talk about dating. That means its time to move on.

sometimes people have a 10% success rate and think the problem is everyone else.

pony avatars not be cringe for 5 minutes challenge

Fluttershy posted...

(conflict wants attention badly.)

No, you have a super shitty take. This isn't about what is owed a person, it's just being a decent person and telling the other person you changed your mind, sorry.
What if the TC had simply showed up for the date? He'd be stood up for no other reason than the other person couldn't be assed to just send a text canceling it.

God, I hate when girls do shit like that.

Super_Slash posted...

I disagree. People are horrible at communicating, so asking that question makes perfect sense.

I have to make my girlfriend send me pictures and texts of plans we make and I still have to ask her what we're doing and when.

This isn't about what is owed a person, it's just being a decent person

there you go thinking people owe you stuff.

they don't.

sorry the reality check had to come so late.

You owe it to the rest of society to be a decent person, deal with it

You owe it to the rest of society to be a decent person, deal with it

ghosting someone doesn't preclude you from being a decent person. it more than likely means you know the other person wouldn't take being told 'no' gracefully.

you aren't owed an explanation for anything by anyone. if you keep getting ghosted, this is probably why.

I can't imagine talking to the gimmick pony is going to accomplish anything.

okay calling you a no-name was probably a little mean but for real no idea lol. morbid curiosity. gimmick?

Taking it at face value and not reading into it too much or assigning ulterior motives, she said she got anxious and wasnt ready / being mature about it.

These things happen sometimes when you set dates to meet new people on the internet.

Fluttershy posted...

nah, it's the reality. glad to serve you the check, but do try to shed your sense of entitlement going forward. it's childish.

No one cares. Grow up.