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thronedfire2 03/14/24 8:38:40 PM #51: |
it's not your fault. I've never been in this situation so I can only imagine how you feel, but she made her own decisions. you probably saved her life by still caring and going out to look for her, and if you can find it in you maybe you should be involved with her first couple therapy appointments after she recovers? but I say that hesitantly because if she can do something like this she might also try to guilt you into staying during therapy.
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 03/14/24 8:41:31 PM #52: |
Definitely get in to see a therapist. They will help you to process what has happened and how to process it and move forward.
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ArchNemo 03/14/24 8:47:06 PM #53: |
Really shitty situation to find yourself in, I can't imagine what'd it'd be like to feel like you're holding someone's life in your hands. That's definitely something you need to see a therapist about.
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tripleh213 03/14/24 8:53:30 PM #54: |
I thought I had fucked up relationships... Damn run away fast
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cleat76 03/14/24 9:20:24 PM #56: |
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On Sunday we had an epic argument, and I told her I was done with this. Immediately she started sobbing and pleading for me not to go. She actually vomited. I didn't move on this, because usually my biggest weakness is that I always put on the hero cape when there's a damsel in distress, but I'd been stressed out for months by this point. Pro tier manipulation right here --- http://cdn.makeagif.com/media/4-28-2014/zO9vqR.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zonbei 03/14/24 9:22:45 PM #57: |
cleat76 posted...
Pro tier manipulation right here she legitimately tried to kill herself. Its toxic, its unhealthy, but I dont think its pro tier manipulation if she meant it. Shush. --- It's a luscious mix of words and tricks, that let us bet, when we know we should have folded. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CARRRNE_ASADA 03/15/24 9:53:45 AM #58: |
Holy hist. Sorry that happened. You did everything you could and you actually saved her life by acting fast on your instinct. Completely not your fault, but follow through with the therapist.
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CyricZ 03/15/24 9:55:27 AM #59: |
Holy shit dude.
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reincarnator07 03/15/24 9:58:00 AM #60: |
Zonbei posted...
she legitimately tried to kill herself. Its toxic, its unhealthy, but I dont think its pro tier manipulation if she meant it. Shush.I wouldn't try to say whether she wanted to hurt OP or "just" made a cry for help, but it's 100% emotional manipulation regardless of her intentions or state of mind. OP, the best thing you can do is seek professional help and stay away from her for both of your sakes. It may sound cold, but you can't take care of anyone if you're in a bad way yourself. She will also need time and space and her own help, but there is nothing more you can do for her at this point. I'm sure you're running through all the scenarios in your head, but we're in the one where you did the right thing and ended up saving her. You have helped her, but further aid is for others to give. --- Fan of metal? Don't mind covers? Check out my youtube and give me some feedback http://www.youtube.com/sircaballero ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KitKats 03/15/24 10:23:19 AM #61: |
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Certainly some fucked up takes to assign blame on someone for attempting suicide, but then again a lot of people dont understand mental health and hold grave misconceptions. She needs to get help and OP isnt equipped to deal with that. He did what he could and helped save her life. --- her/she ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TheGreatEscape 03/15/24 10:40:02 AM #62: |
jesus christ pinky, that's traumatic. I hope she gets the help she needs now and that you do to if needed.
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pinky0926 03/15/24 12:03:32 PM #63: |
I want to clarify: while there were many toxic elements to our relationship, she didn't threaten to kill herself if I left her. She just went and did it somewhat quietly (sending messages to friends), and it was easy enough to miss her that it seemed like a real attempt.
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Aitz 03/15/24 12:21:55 PM #64: |
I am sorry to hear what happened. Definitely seek a therapist. Know that you are not at fault here.
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Zonbei 03/15/24 1:00:07 PM #66: |
reincarnator07 posted...
I wouldn't try to say whether she wanted to hurt OP or "just" made a cry for help, but it's 100% emotional manipulation regardless of her intentions or state of mind. Actually trying to commit suicide isnt a cry for help. Shut the fuck up. --- It's a luscious mix of words and tricks, that let us bet, when we know we should have folded. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LoveLikeJazz 03/15/24 1:06:57 PM #67: |
Jesus Christ that's heavy. I got choked up honestly. I'm so truly sorry for your situation and I hope you both get the help you need so you can move past this.
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reincarnator07 03/15/24 1:26:31 PM #68: |
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Zonbei posted... Actually trying to commit suicide isnt a cry for help. Shut the fuck up.I have been in OP's position before, just with family rather than a partner. Do not tell me what I know here. --- Fan of metal? Don't mind covers? Check out my youtube and give me some feedback http://www.youtube.com/sircaballero ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zonbei 03/15/24 1:35:25 PM #69: |
reincarnator07 posted...
I have been in OP's position before, just with family rather than a partner. Do not tell me what I know here. Have you considered that it was in fact a different situation? That not every person is the same person? That actual suicidal ideation exists? I have had people ACTUALLY manipulate me with threats of self harm. Ive been in abusive relationships. Ive also been with genuinely suicidal people. I have talked friends down from suicidal ideation. You dont have a monopoly on life experience. --- It's a luscious mix of words and tricks, that let us bet, when we know we should have folded. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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reincarnator07 03/15/24 1:51:38 PM #71: |
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Have you considered that it was in fact a different situation? That not every person is the same person? That actual suicidal ideation exists?Have you considered that these are not mutually exclusive? --- Fan of metal? Don't mind covers? Check out my youtube and give me some feedback http://www.youtube.com/sircaballero ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SweetNut_Farm 03/15/24 2:08:25 PM #72: |
Ok people... it's not ALL about YOU here.
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reincarnator07 03/15/24 2:12:12 PM #73: |
SweetNut_Farm posted...
Ok people... it's not ALL about YOU here.Fair point. I shall no longer respond to the others. OP, I hope you're doing better. --- Fan of metal? Don't mind covers? Check out my youtube and give me some feedback http://www.youtube.com/sircaballero ... Copied to Clipboard!
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StarSpangled 03/16/24 9:07:55 PM #74: |
Sorry to hear that TC. Best wishes to both of you.
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pinky0926 03/19/24 8:19:19 AM #75: |
Getting some counselling this week I think. Need to clear out my head and get out of this loop.
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Rotterdammerung 03/19/24 8:22:23 AM #76: |
I am so sorry youve gone through that, pinky. Absolutely seek psychological help, particularly if you think you need it. That would definitely cause PTSD.
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