Current Events > CE, would you date a trans woman?

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Nintendo_Porn posted...

No big deal, dude....Dudette?

*Shrugs*

This thread always draws. Even in the "CE is dying era never disappoints.

Lol I'm a guy though I feel if I was born just a tad later I'd identify as gender fluid. Term wasn't prevalent when I was growing up and as an adult I find it a tad asine to change what gender you identify as day to day. Not gonna tell others to not do that but I couldn't imagine my friends and family needing to ask each day what I wanna be called.

Which leads me to a joke I liked. Father asks "so you a boy or girl today?" "Girl" the child respons. "Oh I thought it was Sunday"

But yeah I identify as a male. I just have days where I'm way more in touch with my effeminate side. Honestly surprised nobody saw it coming as a child I would switch back and forth in kindergarten playing with the boys and the girls and with the girls it involved playing with a toy kitchen set.

Sufferedphoenix posted...

Lol I'm a guy though I feel if I was born just a tad later I'd identify as gender fluid. Term wasn't prevalent when I was growing up and as an adult I find it a tad asine to change what gender you identify as day to day. Not gonna tell others to not do that but I couldn't imagine my friends and family needing to ask each day what I wanna be called.

that's um....that's not really how being genderfluid works.

BrohammedAli posted...

that's um....that's not really how being genderfluid works.

Oh well please explain. Sincerely

It's how I was led to believe it was but I don't make effort to stay on top of these things.

I don't go out of my way to learn these things but if it comes up in natural conversations I'm always willing to listen and learn

Genderfluid is just embracing the adaptability of gender; it really doesn't have anything inherently to do with expression or identity. It's more of like, a modifier.

Like while it's not a term I'd attach to myself, I functionally am genderfluid. Not only has just like my understanding of gender changed pretty drastically over time, how I express it also changes depending on my mood, the vibes of who I'm with, etc. I consistently consider myself a woman, but what that means can differ.

ssb_yunglink2 posted...

lol were they tho

I was expecting transphobia but instead got a very weird tangent about adopter children being lesser

Well we got both, and I always expect a stupid tangent in threads on CE so I wasnt surprised

BrohammedAli posted...

Genderfluid is just embracing the adaptability of gender; it really doesn't have anything inherently to do with expression or identity. It's more of like, a modifier.

Like while it's not a term I'd attach to myself, I functionally am genderfluid. Not only has just like my understanding of gender changed pretty drastically over time, how I express it also changes depending on my mood, the vibes of who I'm with, etc. I consistently consider myself a woman, but what that means can differ.

Way it was presented to me was some at least would want to be spoken too in terms of pronouns differently based on it. I live in a rural as fuck southern area though so we don't get many openly gay people let alone these other demographics.

Remember someone at Walmart. Seemed obviously born a "man" but dressed in women's clothing. Dunno if trans or a crossdresser but a lot of us where staring at them. They got mad and I was like sorry I mean no offense but it's like seeing a unicorn around these parts. I was actually just in awe of the courage they had to walk around like that in a area like this. I wish I had that courage only done it once and it was a spirit week thing in school gender bender day. Easy excuse to do it

But anyways thanks for the info. I'm glad you are being non aggressive about it. There is a fine line between ignorance and bigotry some of us are just uninformed but aggressive behavior towards it tends to make people dig their heels in. Can't help legit bigots though.

I don't really understand the idea of being "too old" to explore ones gender identity

Not to say there is a need to do so if one is uncomfortable with it, obviously not

Just we live too short of lives to not at least allow ourselves the chance to live the best life we can / live as true to ourselves as possible

It's something I'm learning to do so I definitely understand how fucking hard it is

AnsestralRecall posted...

I don't really understand the idea of being "too old" to explore ones gender identity

Not to say there is a need to do so if one is uncomfortable with it, obviously not

Just we live too short of lives to not at least allow ourselves the chance to live the best life we can

It's a thing where you get settled in your ways and beliefs the older you get. I constantly have to remind my mom things change she gets adamant that some things are a certain way like laws and such.

Probably why conservatives tend to lean older. By definition they don't like change

Edit: also specifically for me I never got too hung up on labels. I think the labels have become too much these days. Not gonna fight against it though cause I know it's a me problem on that.

I mean, date doesn't mean "get married and have kids"

Mmm well, some of the labeled "FTM Femboys" I've seen are pretty good looking. I'm sure I like tomboys... but there's a certain area of non-binary/transmen on hormones where the change in body fat percentage, secondary sexual body fat and amount of hair goes from cute to ... hirsute masculine butch and I am just not attracted anymore.

Really though, women who can do girly and masculine, tomboyish, short hair is... well it's just great. Hairy arms aren't a deal breaker either unless the hair is really dark. Otherwise I don't care.

wanderingshade posted...

Mmm well, some of the labeled "FTM Femboys" I've seen are pretty good looking. I'm sure I like tomboys... but there's a certain area of non-binary/transmen on hormones where the change in body fat percentage, secondary sexual body fat and amount of hair goes from cute to ... hirsute masculine butch and I am just not attracted anymore.

Really though, women who can do girly and masculine, tomboyish, short hair is... well it's just great. Hairy arms aren't a deal breaker either unless the hair is really dark. Otherwise I don't care.

I have this weird thing where I'm attracted to femboys but I'm a bottom so I assume they are too and part of me wishes I could pull off being a femboy. But that's not in the cards for me older I get more masculine looking I get.

I like tomboys but I don't fuck with women anymore.

In case anyone was wondering, the tally so far is:

Yes: 53 votes
No: 22 votes

Which comes out to 70% in favor of yes.

Edit: Granted there could be some errors on account of me being unable to see every post in topic.

I wouldn't be able to have children with a transgender woman, and my family members would probably end up misgendering her anyway if I got into a relationship with one which would immensely piss me off. Besides, I'm doubtful that I've ever somehow interacted with an openly transgender/non-binary person in real life (only online, and in a purely platonic and non-romantic context).

_Valigarmanda_ posted...

I mean, date doesn't mean "get married and have kids"

Not everyone dates for the simple idea of just dating though.

Many do date with a purpose that might not match your own. For example, dating to seek a serious relationship with someone who would like to start a family. Which may or may not include biological offspring.

So your answering yes, doesn't mean everyone else's answer would be yes. Just for that simple fact.

I am dating a trans woman so yes.

NatsuSama posted...

Not everyone dates for the simple idea of just dating though.

Many do date with a purpose that might not match your own. For example, dating to seek a serious relationship with someone who would like to start a family. Which may or may not include biological offspring.

So your answering yes, doesn't mean everyone else's answer would be yes. Just for that simple fact.

I'm not even sure what your point is - like, yeah, people connect for all sorts of reasons

_Valigarmanda_ posted...

I'm not even sure what your point is - like, yeah, people connect for all sorts of reasons

You answered my point in your post. Nothing was cryptic about what I said.

Your reason for dating someone =/= someone else's reason for dating. Meaning for some, date, does mean a plan to "get married and have kids" with said date later.

This means they aren't casually dating people they think is a waste of time and energy, intentionally.