Poll of the Day > My girlfriend is perfect except her weight

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Kazuma_Yagami
12/27/24 12:39:23 PM
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I feel terribly guilty for even saying so but it is where my mind is at.

She is fun. She is flirty. She is super smart and has a successful career and career trajectory. She is patient and understanding. She is communicative.

She is beautiful. She has nice hair and skin and lips. Making love to her is just as much fun as spending time with her.

However she has quite a bit of chubbiness going on. Its not anything morbid but its clearly there. I look at older pictures of her and while she does just appear to be a naturally thicker person, she was thinner.

I feel awful because this is probably the best it gets for me and Im whining. I know its childish and superficial.

Theres no way to approach about this without being hurtful. I am an avid gym goer and she knows it. Im just hoping maybe she will want to go on the physical fitness journey with me.

Its soon time to talk about new year resolutions and one of mine will be hitting the gym and diet hard. Im hoping this might be a spark but who knows.

Thank you.

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KingDavid
12/27/24 12:45:00 PM
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Well props to you for staying with her.

I don't think I can date a woman that is fat or chubby, or a woman that becomes fat or chubby and refuses to lose it.

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Muscles
12/27/24 12:49:35 PM
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How big are we talking here? Like just got some love handles and a little belly or is she looking like grimace?

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Kazuma_Yagami
12/27/24 1:00:20 PM
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Its not morbidly obese but its certainly overweight. No defined jaw. Significant belly.

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LaggnFragnLarry
12/27/24 1:02:13 PM
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thick girls are better than skinny ones
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Melody_JR
12/27/24 1:23:07 PM
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Congratulations. Youre shallow.

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_____Cait
12/27/24 1:28:36 PM
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Are you an Adonis?

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Muscles
12/27/24 2:08:41 PM
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LaggnFragnLarry posted...
thick girls are better than skinny ones
Skinny > thick but both are great

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BADoglick
12/27/24 2:45:40 PM
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You gotta get up and get down with the thiccness

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__starsnostars
12/27/24 3:25:22 PM
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I bought my girlfriend $400 inline skates with the hope she would get more regular exercise. She has so far used them once, while with me.

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Yellow
12/27/24 4:52:09 PM
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What you can do is get in really good shape yourself and drop hints on how you did it.

First off, it's only fair that you become hotter yourself if you expect her to, if you're packing on pounds then take a look in the mirror. And secondly (hint), calory deficit is the only thing that matters when it comes to losing weight. She doesn't need to lift weights or run on a treadmill, she needs to do a strict calory deficit with a high protien diet. If you just become a walking encyclopedia with this knowledge I'm sure she'll get the hint.

Melody_JR posted...
Congratulations. Youre shallow.
Everyone is shallow, otherwise you would marry some 60 year old woman for her charming aged-like-wine personality.

But seriously you're only young for so long, and if you're spending that time sitting around being unnattractive you're just wasting some of the best parts of life. Having useless knees/back and a "radiant personality" by the age of 30, that sounds fun.
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Yellow
12/27/24 4:54:19 PM
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__starsnostars posted...
I bought my girlfriend $400 inline skates with the hope she would get more regular exercise. She has so far used them once, while with me.
This attitude is the reason why so many people are overweight. Intense excercise barely effects weight. Regular moderate excercise (like walking) is all you really need, and if you're fat you need to go on a calory deficit and maintain it. I have done it with success before to get rid of a beer gut. Don't just "shotgun" getting into shape, do what you need to do for your ideal body.

I bought a bike and barely even touched it. Sometimes routines don't work out like you thought they would in your head.
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Damn_Underscore
12/27/24 4:56:58 PM
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Maybe go on daily walks with each other

Do you have a public park nearby?

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Yellow
12/27/24 4:59:18 PM
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Also when I put on some muscle I think there's not an aspect of my social life that didn't improve for the better. Friends are nicer to me, coworkers and boss show me far more respect, women are far more interested in me. It's actually really important.
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dj1200
12/27/24 8:51:23 PM
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Any before and after picture?

Melody_JR posted...
Congratulations. Youre shallow.

Bad post. We can't act like looks don't exist and physical attractiveness is not a major part of dating. Weight affects attractiveness. Its a fact.

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Cacciato
12/27/24 8:55:46 PM
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CE is more active so they bit easier than this board.
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dj1200
12/27/24 9:47:25 PM
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I think I'm banned from CE

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SilentSeph
12/27/24 10:14:44 PM
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Cacciato posted...
CE is more active
Indeed, PotD is fat

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dj1200
12/27/24 10:56:29 PM
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SilentSeph posted...
Indeed, PotD is fat

*slow smile*

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Salrite
12/28/24 12:03:35 AM
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I used to have a coworker that I thought was cute, then one day I just noticed that, yeah, she had put on a lot of weight. Like, I still thought she was cute, but it was just a sudden surprise to come to that realization because it wasn't something I had thought about until I suddenly did.

Girl liked to eat, though. A self proclaimed "foodie". Any time food was brought in for everyone, she'd take home multiple containers "for family" she said. So that sort of thing will definitely creep up on you. I noticed that in myself when I was 26...

How does this relate to OP? I don't know man, it just reminded me. Yeah, I'd say your girl is still just about perfect. I'd really only be concerned if it lead to health issues or depression, because the later can exacerbate weight gain and/or be caused by it.
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jsb0714
12/28/24 11:33:58 AM
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dj1200 posted...
Bad post. We can't act like looks don't exist and physical attractiveness is not a major part of dating. Weight affects attractiveness. Its a fact.
Let me guess. You're pushing 300.
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Melody_JR
12/28/24 11:54:49 AM
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Oh, another shallow person.

Its like people dont understand that while having a type isnt necessarily wrong, specifically shaming a person youre with for not conforming to your type, and dont get me even remotely wrong, this topic is a form of shaming, that is shallow and sad. Rather than be an adult and talk with your significant other and let them know how you feel and what youre hoping for in the relationship, a post on an anonymous message board complaining about your supposed loved one is in order.

It also screams of being upset about 10-15 pounds of gained weight. Which is absolutely normal for people to do when they get older. Im guessing TC and the other shallow one think BMI is a beauty standard.

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Pororin
12/28/24 11:55:16 AM
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Melody_JR posted...
Congratulations. Youre shallow.
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Pororin
12/28/24 11:57:56 AM
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LaggnFragnLarry posted...
thick girls are better than skinny ones
Is dis true? @TeaMilk
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Glob
12/28/24 12:06:09 PM
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Yellow posted...
This attitude is the reason why so many people are overweight. Intense excercise barely effects weight. Regular moderate excercise (like walking) is all you really need, and if you're fat you need to go on a calory deficit and maintain it. I have done it with success before to get rid of a beer gut. Don't just "shotgun" getting into shape, do what you need to do for your ideal body.

I bought a bike and barely even touched it. Sometimes routines don't work out like you thought they would in your head.

Exercise can be transformative though. Dont get me wrong, ultimately it all comes down to calories, but exercise can be an important aspect. Im in pretty good shape and Id be bang average without the amount of exercise I do, maybe even a bit tubby.
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Damn_Underscore
12/28/24 12:29:20 PM
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Pororin posted...
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/b/b22dd299.jpg

The French word is so much better tbh le superficiel

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TheGuiltySpark
12/28/24 12:39:10 PM
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Kazuma_Yagami posted...
I feel terribly guilty for even saying so but it is where my mind is at.

She is fun. She is flirty. She is super smart and has a successful career and career trajectory. She is patient and understanding. She is communicative.

She is beautiful. She has nice hair and skin and lips. Making love to her is just as much fun as spending time with her.

However she has quite a bit of chubbiness going on. Its not anything morbid but its clearly there. I look at older pictures of her and while she does just appear to be a naturally thicker person, she was thinner.

I feel awful because this is probably the best it gets for me and Im whining. I know its childish and superficial.

Theres no way to approach about this without being hurtful. I am an avid gym goer and she knows it. Im just hoping maybe she will want to go on the physical fitness journey with me.

Its soon time to talk about new year resolutions and one of mine will be hitting the gym and diet hard. Im hoping this might be a spark but who knows.

Thank you.


My last girlfriend was heavy. Actually fat. I still thought she was pretty, but I wasn't really sexually attracted to her. We messed around when she wanted to do stuff, but I hardly if ever inititated. She never complained about it, but I think she knew. I loved her, for who she was. But I couldn't, can't fake sexual desire that isn't there. If it's possible, I don't have that skill.

I know now that was unfair to her, to love her emotionally but not physically, fully. I won't date a girl that big again, because I don't want to repeat that.

(Ironically, she lost a lot of weight after our break up and started dating a new dude. That's life though)
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Damn_Underscore
12/28/24 12:41:49 PM
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TheGuiltySpark posted...
(Ironically, she lost a lot of weight after our break up and started dating a new dude. That's life though)

Sounds like your relationship gave her the spark to change her body, but I understand why you feel guilty

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ReturnOfFa
12/28/24 1:16:19 PM
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dj1200 posted...
Any before and after picture?

Bad post. We can't act like looks don't exist and physical attractiveness is not a major part of dating. Weight affects attractiveness. Its a fact.
it's a bit past the dating part of the relationship

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ReturnOfFa
12/28/24 1:18:08 PM
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jsb0714 posted...
Let me guess. You're pushing 300.
someone can call out this being a stupid topic

if buddy wants a fit partner, posting on a forum is probably the least practical thing to do

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Muscles
12/28/24 3:08:47 PM
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Where is the line between preference and shallowness? There have been a lot of girls that rejected me over looks, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are shallow, some were and some just aren't into guys like me.

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Revelation34
12/29/24 8:40:47 AM
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ReturnOfFa posted...

it's a bit past the dating part of the relationship


You don't take your significant other on dates?

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Damn_Underscore
12/29/24 1:05:56 PM
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Is this your gf TC?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/95xqmG7w9gE

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ReturnOfFa
12/29/24 1:13:45 PM
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Revelation34 posted...
You don't take your significant other on dates?
There's a difference between the 'dating' period of a relationship and taking your SO out for dates.

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Kazuma_Yagami
12/29/24 4:05:12 PM
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Guys my girlfriend sent me lewd pics and now i have no idea why i was troubled. Shes perfect im good.

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ReturnOfFa
12/29/24 4:08:27 PM
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based

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Damn_Underscore
12/29/24 4:47:16 PM
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lol

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wwinterj25
12/29/24 6:32:42 PM
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Damn_Underscore posted...
Maybe go on daily walks with each other

Best advice and eat healthy if you don't already.

Kazuma_Yagami posted...
Guys my girlfriend sent me lewd pics and now i have no idea why i was troubled. Shes perfect im good.

I assume she saw this topic and now you're apologising.

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Salrite
12/29/24 7:41:14 PM
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Kazuma_Yagami posted... Guys my girlfriend sent me lewd pics and now i have no idea why i was troubled. Shes perfect im good.

I posted about liking a thick girl once and got modded for it... funny how fickle the mods are.
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XenobladeX
12/29/24 8:21:04 PM
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Pororin posted...
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I remember George Costanza had a tail in that movie.
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Salrite
12/29/24 8:39:24 PM
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XenobladeX posted...
I remember George Costanza had a tail in that movie.
A little nubbin that wagged when he was happy.

2001 was a strange time, huh?
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