Poll of the Day > What is wrong with my Tinder profile... I swipe all the time and got no matches.

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https://tinder.com/@satireofcomedy

I am not too picky either. I swipe right on women of all ethnicities, body types etc. I swipe left on some just so I am not shadow banned.

I was told I was a 4/10 but I think even ugly guys like me have a chance with right bio.

Are you a man? There's your problem. Men are severely disadvantaged in online dating. Unless you're a 10/10 Adonis or somehow get the algorithm to favor you, you're gonna just get no likes at all.

PoF was at least usable back when I was using it in 2017. Got a few dates out of it. But the user interface and overall site design tanked just before 2020, and every other app followed with it. Tinder was probably the absolute worse experience. OkCupid (I think that was the one) scammed me with their premium service. Literally did nothing at all.

Yeah....you're a guy so....

My only suggestion after 5 secs of seeing your profile is consider making your main shot a solo pic.

Take a picture of yourself in front of a Ferrari, and lie about being a tech bro who just made your third million last month. You'll start getting hits then.

I'd start by taking better pictures, alot of Men take those generic mugshot pics where you're looking straight at the camera, it looks uncanny and offputting. The second pic is something in the right direction, take more angle shots, it'll take some trying to find the right ones. Also try doing it outside where the lighting is alot more natural if possible. It might be more noticible to people so they might not feel like they're looking at suspect #4524

Also if you're male looking for Female you are likely going to have a much harder time in general, just due to how many men vs women use these apps, and imma be real, most men are not worth the effort.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I'd start by taking better pictures, alot of Men take those generic mugshot pics where you're looking straight at the camera, it looks uncanny and offputting. The second pic is something in the right direction, take more angle shots, it'll take some trying to find the right ones. Also try doing it outside where the lighting is alot more natural if possible. It might be more noticible to people so they might not feel like they're looking at suspect #4524

Also if you're male looking for Female you are likely going to have a much harder time in general, just due to how many men vs women use these apps, and imma be real, most men are not worth the effort.

Isnt this misandry?

Devil_May_Cry posted...

Isnt this misandry?

Not if you say the same for the women. Realistically, most of anyone on online dating apps aren't worth the effort.

Im not seeing your profile when I click the link.

Oh wait, I am now.

I cant see any of your profile if you wrote anything. Just the pics. But theyre not too flattering. Id take out the second and third ones. What do you look like w a neutral expression

Devil_May_Cry posted...

Isnt this misandry?

Kind of but also not really. People are worse at dating these days and inexperienced at being good partners. The companionship just isn't worth the effort.

You shouldn't use blurry pictures. Its probably fine to have one picture where you're smiling in the camera or whatever but only one. You could also do one looking off camera with a neutral expression (don't smile at something off camera though, it looks weird). Ideally your other pictures should be of you doing stuff and taken by other people/by a timer. Pet pictures are fine but some people see men with cats as kinda wussy but maybe that's a sort of person you'd rather weed out.

Everyone else is whining about how men are disadvantaged in online dating and that's not really true. If you're looking to line up 5+ chicks for 1st date bangs a week then, yeah you're not in the 1% that can swing that. If you're just looking for some matches that might turn into dates then you should be fine. Its been quite a while since I was using Tinder but as an average looking not particularly tall guy I was able to get what I wanted out of it at the time. You shouldn't get 0 matches ever as long as your pictures aren't blurry and repetitive.

SomeUsername529 posted...

(don't smile at something off camera though, it looks weird)

Not true. There's nothing at all wrong with it. I have a picture where I'm smiling at the Maid of Honor's speech at my sister's wedding and it looks great.

SomeUsername529 posted...

Everyone else is whining about how men are disadvantaged in online dating and that's not really true. If you're looking to line up 5+ chicks for 1st date bangs a week then, yeah you're not in the 1% that can swing that. If you're just looking for some matches that might turn into dates then you should be fine. Its been quite a while since I was using Tinder but as an average looking not particularly tall guy I was able to get what I wanted out of it at the time. You shouldn't get 0 matches ever as long as your pictures aren't blurry and repetitive.

Also not true. 0 matches in three months use proves otherwise. It's not even just me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUWw_W-DTlc

Okay, checked out your profile (or at least what it would show me). Your pictures don't look bad at all. Sure, you can't expect to get hits from everyone, but you look like a guy that would absolutely appeal to a certain type of person. You look fun, unintimidating and a nice guy. Nothing wrong at all.

But yeah, it's just that Tinder is not a great place. I suppose you could try shopping around with other apps? I hear Bumble (or Hinge?) is supposed to be good, but I never even got passed the profile creation stage. I'm so burned out on them.

SomeUsername529 posted...

Everyone else is whining about how men are disadvantaged in online dating and that's not really true. If you're looking to line up 5+ chicks for 1st date bangs a week then, yeah you're not in the 1% that can swing that. If you're just looking for some matches that might turn into dates then you should be fine. Its been quite a while since I was using Tinder but as an average looking not particularly tall guy I was able to get what I wanted out of it at the time. You shouldn't get 0 matches ever as long as your pictures aren't blurry and repetitive.

Something like 80% of male profiles on Tinder will never get swiped right at all.

Did you include a pic with a fish?

Devil_May_Cry posted...

Isnt this misandry?

I suppose to an extent, but I'm a man myself and have spent most of life socializing with men, and I can tell you the average straight man has no idea how to interact with women and knows even less about them than you might think, not saying you do or don't, but you have an obstacle to climb over so to speak, as in you might have to try harder to get attention just due to an inundation of boring, bland men.

these apps were not designed with men in mind and certainly not for any decent person looking for anything real.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I suppose to an extent, but I'm a man myself and have spent most of life socializing with men, and I can tell you the average straight man has no idea how to interact with women and knows even less about them than you might think, not saying you do or don't, but you have an obstacle to climb over so to speak, as in you might have to try harder to get attention just due to an inundation of boring, bland men.

There's even more boring, bland women so it's fair.

"I'm not going to put anything in my profile. I'm not going to make the first move. Say something interesting to me or gtfo. Also, pay for my dinner" is most women's profiles.

Salrite posted...

Not true. There's nothing at all wrong with it. I have a picture where I'm smiling at the Maid of Honor's speech at my sister's wedding and it looks great.

Also not true. 0 matches in three months use proves otherwise. It's not even just me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUWw_W-DTlc

Lol, alright, dude. OP asked for general advice about pictures and I' sure you nitpicking some random extremely specific example about how you look amazing smiling off camera will help him a lot. Especially after you admit that you haven't got a match in 3 months despite having that absolutely stunning picture.

I dont know where you can go in real life to socialize but surely it will be better than tinder

Damn_Underscore posted...

I dont know where you can go in real life to socialize but surely it will be better than tinder

Hobbyist clubs I guess? That's the main recommendation. Get in with a group of people who like the same things where you can meet people naturally.

The dilemma is finding one of those. Also going purely for the sake of hooking up with someone probably isn't going to work out.

SomeUsername529 posted...

Lol, alright, dude. OP asked for general advice about pictures and I' sure you nitpicking some random extremely specific example about how you look amazing smiling off camera will help him a lot. Especially after you admit that you haven't got a match in 3 months despite having that absolutely stunning picture.

You're the one who claimed that all pictures with while smiling off camera look weird. Burden of proof is on you to prove it.

Honestly, if youre not having luck almost immediately with an online dating platform, ditch it and try other approaches. So many men are far too dependent on them and act like its the only way to meet people. Many of those same men are just not likely to ever get what they want from the app, but long term use breeds frustration and insecurity. If its not working for you, go and meet women the old fashioned way.

Salrite posted...

Also going purely for the sake of hooking up with someone probably isn't going to work out.

Dont do this, just look to make friends. People hate the idea of the friend zone, but if you are friends with someone and you meet their friend, maybe that friend will like you.

Damn_Underscore posted...

Dont do this, just look to make friends. People hate the idea of the friend zone, but if you are friends with someone and you meet their friend, maybe that friend will like you.

Also, having friends is a good thing.

Plus, the people who find it easy to get with the opposite sex tend to be the people who find it easy to make friends. Its basically all the same skill set. You dont need to be in the top 1% of looks as many would have you believe. You just need to be somebody that people like spending time with.

Nade_Duck posted...

these apps were not designed with men in mind and certainly not for any decent person looking for anything real.

I used to agree, but my anecdotal experience has been that you can still find something meaningful on dating apps. I just wouldn't go into it with expectations too high. I never thought I'd use a dating app because I always over-romanticized how I felt you should meet someone. One of my closest friends who found her now husband on Bumble pushed me to make an online profile and I ended up meeting my wife on Coffee Meets Bagel. There are a lot of weirdos in online dating though, but I guess that's just generally true for regular dating too.

I heard if you only swipe right they'll hold that against you and show you less, but I'm not sure how true that is.

Also you are a guy. 20% of the guys get 80% of the girls, thanks 80-20 rule!

I dont think this guy looks too bad, the blue eyes will get looks. Although theres a line between the singer from Vampire Weekend and Gabe from the Office going on there

My suggestions:
1) Make that last pic, in the dark blue hoodie your main pic.
2) Delete the main pic with your hands doing whatever
3) Try to take pics when you are out, a selfie in a parking lot is even fine (tho go to the park of you can) when it is just in your place, its tends to look bad, obviously if you are at any events whatsoever would be very very ideal.

Even then you will barely get any matches, but then again I am 40 now, so it is reallllly drying up for me.

Skitchin posted...

My suggestions:
1) Make that last pic, in the dark blue hoodie your main pic.
2) Delete the main pic with your hands doing whatever
3) Try to take pics when you are out, a selfie in a parking lot is even fine (tho go to the park of you can) when it is just in your place, its tends to look bad, obviously if you are at any events whatsoever would be very very ideal.

Even then you will barely get any matches, but then again I am 40 now, so it is reallllly drying up for me.

Like I said, his pictures should appeal to a certain kind of person who appreciates authenticity. I was way more attracted to profiles with these kind of unpretentious pictures because it's just a person showing who they are, not trying to put on a show of how "fun and important" they are.

Of course, if you actually do enjoy doing these things, showcasing your hobbies and interests is a good thing. But it always feels forced when people take outdoor pictures for the sake of taking outdoor pictures.

Skitchin posted...

My suggestions:
1) Make that last pic, in the dark blue hoodie your main pic.
2) Delete the main pic with your hands doing whatever
3) Try to take pics when you are out, a selfie in a parking lot is even fine (tho go to the park of you can) when it is just in your place, its tends to look bad, obviously if you are at any events whatsoever would be very very ideal.

Even then you will barely get any matches, but then again I am 40 now, so it is reallllly drying up for me.

I think getting dates becomes easier for men as they get older, at least up to a certain point.

Glob posted...

I think getting dates becomes easier for men as they get older, at least up to a certain point.

I'm not sure, on the one hand you get more experience and wisdom as you get older, thus learn to interact with people better. On the other hand, online dating is a young person's game. There aren't a lot of women looking for 40-year-old men unless they're looking for a sugar daddy.

Salrite posted...

I'm not sure, on the one hand you get more experience and wisdom as you get older, thus learn to interact with people better. On the other hand, online dating is a young person's game. There aren't a lot of women looking for 40-year-old men unless they're looking for a sugar daddy.

I can only speak for my experience, and in some ways its limited, as Ive not spent much of my adult life single.

However, at the age of 35 I became single for the first time in 11 years, and had heard nothing but horror stories about the dating world and how it had changed. I was genuinely a bit worried about the whole thing.

While Id never particularly struggled to get dates etc when I was younger, I did have to put some effort in. Doing it at 35 was effortless.

Glob posted...

I can only speak for my experience, and in some ways its limited, as Ive not spent much of my adult life single.

However, at the age of 35 I became single for the first time in 11 years, and had heard nothing but horror stories about the dating world and how it had changed. I was genuinely a bit worried about the whole thing.

While Id never particularly struggled to get dates etc when I was younger, I did have to put some effort in. Doing it at 35 was effortless.

Through online or in person? I could see it working out in person, but I online has to be tough for anyone over 30.

Salrite posted...

Through online or in person? I could see it working out in person, but I online has to be tough for anyone over 30.

Both. Its the only time Ive ever tried online dating but I got plenty of interest. Some of it was unwanted, but there were good prospects too. Met my wife that way.

Also didnt struggle to get action in person for the 3 months or so that I was single, and Im not the best looking guy in the world.

Dating apps are really not a good way to meet people. Do you have hobbies that get you outside of the house?

chelsea___wtf posted...

Dating apps are really not a good way to meet people. Do you have hobbies that get you outside of the house?

Work fine for me

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/0/053628a9.jpg
how do I interest women. They call me boring

Devil_May_Cry posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/0/053628a9.jpg
how do I interest women. They call me boring

get out there and be somebody

you could also live by what my sig says

Devil_May_Cry posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/0/053628a9.jpg
how do I interest women. They call me boring

Don't wear anime shirts.

Revelation34 posted...

Don't wear anime shirts.

Well how will that fix my personality being bland :(

Everyone seems to want to have constant thrills.

Devil_May_Cry posted...

Well how will that fix my personality being bland :(

Everyone seems to want to have constant thrills.

While I do believe that its true that just about anything that a potential partner will see as a negative, there will be somebody out there who sees it as a positive, numbers do come into play.

A far from insignificant amount of women have no interest in anime or the people who do.

If you want to be more interesting, lead a more interesting life. Not because it makes it easier to talk to women, but because you actually want to do it. Theres not going to be one singular topic that acts as a gateway into relationships with all women, but if you have a decent bank of experiences, anecdotes, skills and hobbies to draw upon, it gets much easier and youre probably having a better life for it too.

Revelation34 posted...

Don't wear anime shirts.

Butt that's an apple shirts pororin

Wear a hat so u can look like him

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/f/f51da2f8.jpg

Devil_May_Cry posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/0/053628a9.jpg
how do I interest women. They call me boring

Smile.

Devil_May_Cry posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/0/053628a9.jpg
how do I interest women. They call me boring

Being able to hold a conversation should be a basic starter. Being funny is also good. Or at least having a sense of humor. I don't believe you should necessarily need to DO super exciting things, but being a person that other people like to be around is important.

Also, I was being nice before, but this picture really isn't going to do you any favors. Blank stare at a camera in a drab room with an open door to your whole closet? Yeah, that screams "boring".

At my point, I've just stopped giving a fuck. I'm still single too and ain't getting any dates, but it's not exactly a priority for me right now. And I certainly know desperation isn't attractive. Finding a girlfriend shouldn't be a gargantuan feat. It shouldn't require all the anxiety and self loathing. Just work on yourself and if it happens it happens.