Current Events > I'm so mad right now. Long story inside.

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Ok, so I work the overnight shift at my job. I worked last night, so I was sleeping today. My parents left my 11 year old cousin at home while they went to town.

Later, he comes and gets me out of bed saying someone is at the door. I go to see who it is, and neither of us recognize them. I was tempted to just ignore it and let them leave, but instead I went out to see what they wanted. It was 2 ladies, asking for my mom. I explain that she's not home. They ask if I can confirm her phone #, they call it out and I confirmed it was her number. They claimed to be with some missionary program that Mom was helping with(unusual but not impossible). I tell them to try again later, and I apologize for not answering the door immediately. Told them that I didn't know anyone was there until the kid got my attention. They said it was fine, then introduced themselves as if they nuns or something, "I'm sister _____, and this is sister ______."

Something about it felt off. So I called Mom and she has no idea who they were or what they wanted. So I was suspecting that maybe someone used mom's info to register for something. Since none of us knew of any missionary programs or had ever seen or heard of these people before. It was confusing, and a little suspicious, but not terribly concerning. Just some kind of misunderstanding most likely, right?

Well... Not exactly. Turns out that someone has been trying to locate my little cousin. Been harassing the person who had custody of him previous to us, demanding to know his location. That person refused to give any info. They started threatening her, and saying that if they didn't get the info they wanted they'd get the law involved. That person has apparently also been in contact with my cousin's father asking to know where the kid lives because they want him(apparently an old babysitter or some such). The dad supposedly didn't answer, but he's usually messed up on drugs and I fear that he did give say who has the kid.

I got home this morning from work, 100% oblivious to any of this. No one thought to let me know any of this was happening. So now I think the ladies I spoke to were likely trying to confirm if this is the right place, and due to not knowing anything was going on, I gladly confirmed that this is where my mom lives.

Mom got a call from the person who previously had custody, claiming that the lady has been making threats again tonight(this is how I learned about it at all). I asked Mom if she thinks the ladies that stopped by today were involved, and we all agree it's super suspicious timing. And Mom had warned him this morning before they left to keep all the doors locked, and if anyone comes to the door to get me out of bed.

So, that's the thing. I asked her why she didn't feel the need to let me know as well? That if I had known something suspicious was going on, I never would've answered the door, and wouldn't have confirmed the info. But since I was clueless, and thinking it was just a misunderstanding, I may have made things worse. She got angry at me, because she said she didn't think I needed to be told anything about it. I said I wish she would've warned me before they left this morning, when they told him to get me if anyone shows up. She said she didn't want to wake me to just to warn me. But I was still awake when they left, I walked out with her to the car. She had the opportunity to tell me, and chose not to.

Now she's absolutely furious at me, saying I'm blaming her when she didn't do anything wrong. And I'm just upset that something important and potentially dangerous is happening and I guess I'm not important enough to be informed about it, and now I'm super concerned about what I said to those ladies.

You should have been told. You're not at fault with the lack of communication and it shouldn't be taken out on you because you had zero communication about it.

JMPzero posted...

You should have been told. You're not at fault with the lack of communication and it shouldn't be taken out on you because you had zero communication about it.

This has been an ongoing issue, where in always the last to learn of anything. But this one is a big one, that could be endangering a kid. So, I'm at a loss as to why I wasn't told. Especially this morning when she took time to be sure to warn him about people showing up, but not me.

Whoa, hold up, I respect you bro but you shouldve stopped at the 6th sentence

Like what the hell? Lol is there something wrong with just being overly protective as a person?

Nobody is getting a phone number out of me and thats because I just assume that person should already have the number to begin with.. especially if I dont know them. I could see it being alright if you were hanging out with them and you saw they were an okay person with mutual of some sort, but these are straight up strangers not even trying to sell you something >_>

KanWan posted...

Whoa, hold up, I respect you bro but you shouldve stopped at the 6th sentence

Like what the hell? Lol is there something wrong with just being overly protective as a person?

Nobody is getting a phone number out of me and thats because I just assume that person should already have the number to begin with.. especially if I dont know them. I could see it being alright if you were hanging out with them and you saw they were an okay person with mutual of some sort, but these are straight up strangers not even trying to sell you something >_>

I didn't give them her number, they already had it. They asked to confirm it and called it out to me, and someone having her number isn't too unusual. She has it on our business Facebook page and always gives it to people for stuff like this.

Also, Mom called me to the other room after I posted and decided it was time to explain everything. Everything I already heard from earlier. She was peeing super passive aggressive and after she explained everything I already learned she was like "now you know just as much as I do, so you can't say I never told you about it." So I responded with "No, you just wait till it's too late before you mention it." And now she's extra super pissed at me. lol

Just fantastic. My car broke down on the interstate on my way to work too. I'm an hour late and I had to leave it sitting.

This just has not been my week.

KanWan posted...

Whoa, hold up, I respect you bro but you shouldve stopped at the 6th sentence

Like what the hell? Lol is there something wrong with just being overly protective as a person?

Nobody is getting a phone number out of me and thats because I just assume that person should already have the number to begin with.. especially if I dont know them. I could see it being alright if you were hanging out with them and you saw they were an okay person with mutual of some sort, but these are straight up strangers not even trying to sell you something >_>

I'm inclined to agree. Mom was wrong for not cluing you in to what was happening, but confirming info for a stranger, particularly in a time where new scams are being thought up daily, is not a good idea.

Some guys came to my place a few months ago selling internet service, but had no distinguishable logos. They tried asking similar questions and I refused to open the door and eventually stopped engaging. You can never be too careful.

KogaSteelfang posted...

She was peeing super passive aggressive

At least she wasn't just peeing aggressively I guess

party_animal07 posted...

I'm inclined to agree. Mom was wrong for not cluing you in to what was happening, but confirming info for a stranger, particularly in a time where new scams are being thought up daily, is not a good idea.

Some guys came to my place a few months ago selling internet service, but had no distinguishable logos. They tried asking similar questions and I refused to open the door and eventually stopped engaging. You can never be too careful.

I'm dumb I guess.

hyperskate65 posted...

At least she wasn't just peeing aggressively I guess

Also better than aggressive pooing.

KogaSteelfang posted...

I'm dumb I guess.

I wouldn't say you're dumb, I'm just very apprehensive (to a fault at times) when dealing with strangers. Hell, I have coworkers I've known for years and speak to daily that I don't share much personal info with.

party_animal07 posted...

I wouldn't say you're dumb, I'm just very apprehensive (to a fault at times) when dealing with strangers. Hell, I have coworkers I've known for years and speak to daily that I don't share much personal info with.

Me too, honestly. It's just, since Mom has been advertising for our shop her number is everywhere and theres tons of people I don't know that she's been in contact with. I just assumed it was something like that.

I am sorry about the miscommunication but keep doing your best. This is what humans do.

Is this stalker as cringe as they sound?

What did you learn?

I understand being angry, because Ive been in similar situations.

However, i learned that sometimes they just dont want to burden you with the problems, or that there was so many problems, letting you know might make it worse somehow.

Dont be mad at her, but maybe talk to her and ask if you can help, if thats what you want.

My mum and sisters were absolutely like this to the point where I'd say things when I shouldn't and they'd get angry at me.

Like seriously, you guys keep me out the loop of everything how the fuck was I supposed to know? It got to the point where I just stopped giving a fuck which caused them to accuse me of not caring. That pissed me off again.

CobraGT posted...

Is this stalker as cringe as they sound?

Turns out the one harassing the previous custody holder did not contact the father, or his family like they said.

So, most likely the people I interacted with were unrelated. I hope anyway. But there's really no reason they should have figured out where he is based on what we know so far. Though, after done digging we did find out the lady is trouble(obviously).

So, idk... Guess we're back to thinking someone just used mom's info for something odd.

KogaSteelfang posted...

So, most likely the people I interacted with were unrelated.

I doubt it, I'm sure they were skip tracers or paid to look for intel

ArkhamOrigins posted...

I doubt it, I'm sure they were skip tracers or paid to look for intel

*Shrug*
Could be. Mom is going to talk to the school people when she drops him off tomorrow to be sure they know what's going on.

KogaSteelfang posted...

I'm dumb I guess.

You had to respond to the situation seconds after being woken up from REM sleep. You cant blame yourself for being blindsided by this.

Payzmaykr posted...

You had to respond to the situation seconds after being woken up from REM sleep. You cant blame yourself for being blindsided by this.

Thanks.

Also, I had to bum a ride home with my boss. He's dropping his wife off here in about 15 minutes and he just lives a little ways away from me. So I'm just going to ride home with him.
*Sigh* idk what all it's going to take to fix my car or how we'll get it home. Ugh.