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TeaMilk 04/17/25 11:31:39 AM #1:	We broke up like 8 years ago but aren't on bad terms or anything. We had a nice catch up chat like a month ago and she seemed into the idea of meeting up for lunch. We've been trying to coordinate something since, but she keeps forgetting to ask her parents for a ride...? I guess it feels bad cause it took a lot of courage for me to ask, and I don't really have anyone to socialize with irl. I even got her a small present the last message I sent was a week ago just asking if she was still up for it. I wish she'd just tell me she got cold feet or whatever so we could at least chat still Making friends as an adult is so damn hard, I want to hang out with people again but i get so fuckin scared around new people --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984744354] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>We broke up like 8 years ago but aren't on bad terms or anything. We had a nice catch up chat like a month ago and she seemed into the idea of meeting up for lunch. We've been trying to coordinate something since, but she keeps forgetting to ask her parents for a ride...?I guess it feels bad cause it took a lot of courage for me to ask, and I don't really have anyone to socialize with irl. I even got her a small present the last message I sent was a week ago just asking if she was still up for it. I wish she'd just tell me she got cold feet or whatever so we could at least chat stillMaking friends as an adult is so damn hard, I want to hang out with people again but i get so fuckin scared around new people</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kaldrenthebold 04/17/25 11:35:56 AM #3:	Exes are exes for a reason. --- http://i169.photobucket.com/albums/u223/chocolateFRESH/arts/kraid.png - Thanks GP cosmonaut! http://i.imgur.com/TuJWAR8.jpg <cite>Kaldrenthebold posted [p:984744408] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Exes are exes for a reason.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 04/17/25 11:40:29 AM #4:	Sounds like she keeps getting better offers. Sorry, king. --- Your days are numbered now, Decepti-creeps <cite>rexcrk posted [p:984744451] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Sounds like she keeps getting better offers. Sorry, king. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
2Pacavelli 04/17/25 11:40:49 AM #5:	Cut her off <cite>2Pacavelli posted [p:984744452] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Cut her off</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WingsOfGood 04/17/25 11:43:03 AM #6:	What kind of present? <cite>WingsOfGood posted [p:984744479] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>What kind of present?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 04/17/25 11:43:16 AM #7:	TeaMilk posted... We broke up like 8 years ago but aren't on bad terms or anything. We had a nice catch up chat like a month ago and she seemed into the idea of meeting up for lunch. We've been trying to coordinate something since, but she keeps forgetting to ask her parents for a ride...? I guess it feels bad cause it took a lot of courage for me to ask, and I don't really have anyone to socialize with irl. I even got her a small present the last message I sent was a week ago just asking if she was still up for it. I wish she'd just tell me she got cold feet or whatever so we could at least chat still Making friends as an adult is so damn hard, I want to hang out with people again but i get so fuckin scared around new people Ive heard so many people say this and I honestly just dont get it. You have more choice and agency as an adult. Ex or not though, if somebody is ghosting you, move on. <cite>Glob posted [p:984744486] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>TeaMilk posted... </cite><quote>We broke up like 8 years ago but aren't on bad terms or anything. We had a nice catch up chat like a month ago and she seemed into the idea of meeting up for lunch. We've been trying to coordinate something since, but she keeps forgetting to ask her parents for a ride...?I guess it feels bad cause it took a lot of courage for me to ask, and I don't really have anyone to socialize with irl. I even got her a small present the last message I sent was a week ago just asking if she was still up for it. I wish she'd just tell me she got cold feet or whatever so we could at least chat stillMaking friends as an adult is so damn hard, I want to hang out with people again but i get so fuckin scared around new people</quote>Ive heard so many people say this and I honestly just dont get it. You have more choice and agency as an adult.Ex or not though, if somebody is ghosting you, move on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Weezy_Tha_Don 04/17/25 11:45:04 AM #8:	how old are yall? broke up 8 years ago and she still needs rides from her folks? --- http://i.imgur.com/hwZyGuA.jpg - courtesy of the homie United_World haters can't stand me, like they got polio. <cite>Weezy_Tha_Don posted [p:984744503] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>how old are yall? broke up 8 years ago and she still needs rides from her folks?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Accolon 04/17/25 11:45:33 AM #9:	Kaldrenthebold posted... Exes are exes for a reason. --- http://i.imgur.com/XAMp8.jpg <cite>Accolon posted [p:984744508] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Kaldrenthebold posted... </cite><quote>Exes are exes for a reason.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TeaMilk 04/17/25 11:48:22 AM #10:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] She can't drive (neither can i) and she lives like 2 hours away by bus. I was gonna take the bus and meet her somewhere in the middle WingsOfGood posted... What kind of present? Nothing big lol, just a box of curry roux. She brought up how we used to make it together, and I was telling her about this new brand I really like. I can just eat it myself nbd but I was looking forward to it rexcrk posted... Sounds like she keeps getting better offers. Sorry, king. I mean I'm pretty sure she doesn't leave the house or have any irl friends either, which is part of the reason I felt comfortable asking :p she has social anxiety and I assume just got scared. Just wish she could let me know --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984744529] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> She can't drive (neither can i) and she lives like 2 hours away by bus. I was gonna take the bus and meet her somewhere in the middleWingsOfGood posted... </cite><quote>What kind of present?</quote>Nothing big lol, just a box of curry roux. She brought up how we used to make it together, and I was telling her about this new brand I really like. I can just eat it myself nbd but I was looking forward to itrexcrk posted... </cite><quote>Sounds like she keeps getting better offers. Sorry, king.</quote>I mean I'm pretty sure she doesn't leave the house or have any irl friends either, which is part of the reason I felt comfortable asking :p she has social anxiety and I assume just got scared. Just wish she could let me know</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NoxObscuras 04/17/25 11:48:43 AM #11:	Honestly, she doesn't seem worth the effort. Nothing wrong with staying friends with an ex if you still get along, but don't put up with someone that flaky. I think you can make new friends. The hardest part, it sounds like, will be getting out of your comfort zone. Maybe look for some local meetup groups for things you're interested in. --- Steam/Xbox/PSN = NoxObscuras <cite>NoxObscuras posted [p:984744536] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Honestly, she doesn't seem worth the effort. Nothing wrong with staying friends with an ex if you still get along, but don't put up with someone that flaky.I think you can make new friends. The hardest part, it sounds like, will be getting out of your comfort zone. Maybe look for some local meetup groups for things you're interested in.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 04/17/25 11:50:39 AM #12:	You should work to make new friends. I had to do that when I was 40 and was recently divorced. Meetup events. --- Currently playing - Dragon's Dogma 2 <cite>bsp77 posted [p:984744560] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>You should work to make new friends. I had to do that when I was 40 and was recently divorced. Meetup events.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TeaMilk 04/17/25 11:53:05 AM #14:	Weezy_Tha_Don posted... how old are yall? broke up 8 years ago and she still needs rides from her folks? Shes 28 im 29. She's like a NEET I guess, she has social anxiety and shit Glob posted... Ive heard so many people say this and I honestly just dont get it. You have more choice and agency as an adult. I guess I found it easier when I was in a public school setting and forced to be around people on a regular basis. I struggled making friends in college and now WFH and barely leave my house. It's not a catch all excuse, but admittedly my physical disability makes it harder to go out and feel confident and stuff --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984744588] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Weezy_Tha_Don posted... </cite><quote>how old are yall? broke up 8 years ago and she still needs rides from her folks?</quote>Shes 28 im 29. She's like a NEET I guess, she has social anxiety and shitGlob posted... </cite><quote>Ive heard so many people say this and I honestly just dont get it. You have more choice and agency as an adult.</quote>I guess I found it easier when I was in a public school setting and forced to be around people on a regular basis. I struggled making friends in college and now WFH and barely leave my house. It's not a catch all excuse, but admittedly my physical disability makes it harder to go out and feel confident and stuff</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TeaMilk 04/17/25 11:58:58 AM #15:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Im physically disabled, she has crippling social anxiety unless things have changed bsp77 posted... You should work to make new friends. I had to do that when I was 40 and was recently divorced. Meetup events. U right... i feel like I can barely take care of myself a lot of the time, but I think this is a good idea to work towards --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984744642] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Im physically disabled, she has crippling social anxiety unless things have changedbsp77 posted... </cite><quote>You should work to make new friends. I had to do that when I was 40 and was recently divorced. Meetup events.</quote>U right... i feel like I can barely take care of myself a lot of the time, but I think this is a good idea to work towards</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
A_Good_Boy 04/17/25 12:01:54 PM #16:	TeaMilk posted... Im physically disabled, she has crippling social anxiety unless things have changed Cut that shit loose and find someone local. --- Who is? I am! <cite>A_Good_Boy posted [p:984744677] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>TeaMilk posted... </cite><quote>Im physically disabled, she has crippling social anxiety unless things have changed</quote>Cut that shit loose and find someone local. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 04/17/25 12:39:08 PM #18:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Well, that's the question, isn't it? What is the intention here? --- Currently playing - Dragon's Dogma 2 <cite>bsp77 posted [p:984745078] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Well, that's the question, isn't it? What is the intention here?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TeaMilk 04/17/25 12:53:36 PM #19:	bsp77 posted... Well, that's the question, isn't it? What is the intention here? Hanging out and having an irl friend? She also wanted to meet my current gf (they are both trans) and it would be nice for her to have some irl support from another transfem. So I thought that would be nice as well >_> we all talked a bit about some places we could go and it seemed pleasant --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984745242] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>bsp77 posted... </cite><quote>Well, that's the question, isn't it? What is the intention here?</quote>Hanging out and having an irl friend?She also wanted to meet my current gf (they are both trans) and it would be nice for her to have some irl support from another transfem. So I thought that would be nice as well >_> we all talked a bit about some places we could go and it seemed pleasant </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 04/17/25 12:55:52 PM #20:	TeaMilk posted... Hanging out and having an irl friend? She also wanted to meet my current gf (they are both trans) and it would be nice for her to have some irl support from another transfem. So I thought that would be nice as well >_> we all talked a bit about some places we could go and it seemed pleasant That's cool. It just wasn't clear at first To be fair, I try to stay friends with exes as well. Usually it works for bit and then they get weirded out. Found out one was still struggling with feelings. --- Currently playing - Dragon's Dogma 2 <cite>bsp77 posted [p:984745260] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>TeaMilk posted... </cite><quote>Hanging out and having an irl friend?She also wanted to meet my current gf (they are both trans) and it would be nice for her to have some irl support from another transfem. So I thought that would be nice as well >_> we all talked a bit about some places we could go and it seemed pleasant</quote>That's cool. It just wasn't clear at firstTo be fair, I try to stay friends with exes as well. Usually it works for bit and then they get weirded out. Found out one was still struggling with feelings.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TeaMilk 04/17/25 12:56:14 PM #21:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] What lmao you're saying you should only interact with exes if your intention is to hurt them?? Thats some psycho shit I think people can still be freinds... and if you are accusing her of being narcissistic I dont think that's right, she just got scared. Im just annoyed she stopped communicating --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984745261] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> What lmao you're saying you should only interact with exes if your intention is to hurt them?? Thats some psycho shit I think people can still be freinds... and if you are accusing her of being narcissistic I dont think that's right, she just got scared. Im just annoyed she stopped communicating</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bsp77 04/17/25 12:57:24 PM #22:	TeaMilk posted... What lmao you're saying you should only interact with exes if your intention is to hurt them?? Thats some psycho shit I think people can still be freinds... and if you are accusing her of being narcissistic I dont think that's right, she just got scared. Im just annoyed she stopped communicating I am hoping he just messed up his wording and didn't mean it as it literally read. I hope. --- Currently playing - Dragon's Dogma 2 <cite>bsp77 posted [p:984745276] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>TeaMilk posted... </cite><quote>What lmao you're saying you should only interact with exes if your intention is to hurt them?? Thats some psycho shit I think people can still be freinds... and if you are accusing her of being narcissistic I dont think that's right, she just got scared. Im just annoyed she stopped communicating</quote>I am hoping he just messed up his wording and didn't mean it as it literally read. I hope.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TeaMilk 04/17/25 12:57:38 PM #23:	bsp77 posted... That's cool. It just wasn't clear at first To be fair, I try to stay friends with exes as well. Usually it works for bit and then they get weirded out. Found out one was still struggling with feelings. Ohh yeah lol there's no chance of anything romantic, I didnt realize it might come off that way. Im literally just lonely friendwise and I thought she might be too --- (they/them) \| http://large.horse/ Show user avatars on posts: https://openuserjs.org/scripts/melon/GameFAQs_Show_Icon <cite>TeaMilk posted [p:984745279] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>bsp77 posted... </cite><quote>That's cool. It just wasn't clear at firstTo be fair, I try to stay friends with exes as well. Usually it works for bit and then they get weirded out. Found out one was still struggling with feelings.</quote>Ohh yeah lol there's no chance of anything romantic, I didnt realize it might come off that way. Im literally just lonely friendwise and I thought she might be too</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WingsOfGood 04/17/25 1:07:02 PM #24:	Gift might be too much if they are scared save it for 2nd Meetup <cite>WingsOfGood posted [p:984745376] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Gift might be too much if they are scaredsave it for 2nd Meetup</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
nantomaster 04/17/25 1:23:22 PM #25:	Personally, Id just leave her be, but maybe let her know the doors open in case she needs a friend. Maybe check in on her every once in a while but thats it. She might be wary, she might be going through it and just needs her space, you said she has social anxiety. If she continues to not make contact, you might just have to accept that she doesnt wanna hang out with you and move on. Its tough but thats all you can do really. Save your time and energy. --- PSN: Otogi-Matsuri. Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/user/OtogiMatsuri <cite>nantomaster posted [p:984745558] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Personally, Id just leave her be, but maybe let her know the doors open in case she needs a friend. Maybe check in on her every once in a while but thats it. She might be wary, she might be going through it and just needs her space, you said she has social anxiety. If she continues to not make contact, you might just have to accept that she doesnt wanna hang out with you and move on. Its tough but thats all you can do really. Save your time and energy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HashtagSEP 04/17/25 1:28:21 PM #26:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Well, this is unhinged. --- #SEP #Awesome #Excellent #Greatness #SteveNash #VitaminWater #SmellingLikeTheVault #Pigeon #Sexy #ActuallyAVeryIntelligentVelociraptor #Heel #CoolSpot #EndOfSig <cite>HashtagSEP posted [p:984745619] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Well, this is unhinged.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jiek_Fafn 04/17/25 1:32:01 PM #27:	Bummer, but TC is nice af on here. That's her loss. Teamilk is a goddamn delight. She sucks. You rock. --- I don't believe in belts. There should be no ranking system for toughness. <cite>Jiek_Fafn posted [p:984745665] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Bummer, but TC is nice af on here. That's her loss. Teamilk is a goddamn delight. She sucks. You rock. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LuigiChalmersJr 04/17/25 1:32:40 PM #28:	Yeah, getting ghosted is one of the worst feelings. I would never do it to someone. I'd say just try to forget about it though. Even if she responds down the line, you have to think about if you really want to be friends with someone that would randomly ghost you. --- Los Angeles Clippers http://i.imgur.com/3dExqUh.jpg <cite>LuigiChalmersJr posted [p:984745673] in Man my ex ... [t:80968348]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, getting ghosted is one of the worst feelings. I would never do it to someone. I'd say just try to forget about it though. Even if she responds down the line, you have to think about if you really want to be friends with someone that would randomly ghost you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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