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I don't

Let me know if you figure it out

Get rid of the shitty people

For me it helps to accomplish small tasks, like cleaning or going for a walk. Just doing little things here and there helps me feel productive which helps me feel a bit less depressed than usual. That fades eventually but that motivates me to want to do more things so I can feel less crappy.

Self-care really, and I don't mean the "treat yourself" type. I mean the awful unpleasant shit - keeping up with self-maintenance tasks.

Showering as needed, keeping to a set bedtime and practicing good sleep hygiene, ensure all meds are taken as prescribed, keeping hydrated.

It's all shit that I struggle with doing, lack of mental energy or execution dysfunction...but when I get myself to actually do it I feel so much better because I did something to care for myself.

A recent book I read, How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis had a line that I felt strongly.

"You don't have to care about your body to care for your body."

I try to be consistent with an exercise routine. Getting up and going for a run is just a small daily victory that I use to make myself feel good enough to get more daily victories.

Take a vacation outside of America and pretend you are from Bermuda because no one knows what a Bermudan accent sounds like.

It helps to remind myself that it's all physical in one way or another. My brain has trained itself to wallow in negative feedback loops that prevents me from doing the things I need to do to have it make with the happiness chemicals. Medication helps me as it essentially forces my brain to give me those chemicals so I can do the things that will make me feel better.

Consumerism.

Look back upon the worst moments of your life, and realize that you have surpassed them all. Each breath you take is all the greater victory over all the times you wanted to give up.

And yeah, taking care of yourself helps too. Which is easier said than done when you're mentally in a hole, but little things build into greater things. Even something as simple as getting a nice shave or a workout at the gym can boost your mood.

Remember, you owe it to yourself to show the world how awesome you are.

Extreme_light posted...

Get rid of the shitty people

How do you know which side of the fence you're on? Having terrible self-worth could make you think you're a bad person.

Solid_Sonic posted...

How do you know which side of the fence you're on? Having terrible self-worth could make you think you're a bad person.

Sounds like a good enough reason to work on yourself until you feel like you're not on that side.

Just have to focus on the things you're accomplishing. You're kicking ass and taking names with your schooling and I'm sure there's other positive things you've got going on. Even small stuff helps.

I keep a folder of mementos Im proud of, screenshots of kind things people have said of me, and other things that remind me that I am valuable; and I look back at it now and then when Im feeling down. Positive self-talk and CBT stuff helps too.

I gave up years ago. I just accept who I am.

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That's the funny thing about self worth. You don't see your own value but everyone else around you does.

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It's written from a therapist that has ADHD (and also struggled with postpartum depression) so the suggestions in it really resonated with me as they involved working with and around (rather than against) the struggles that come of having ADHD.

It was highly recommended from r/ADHD and is a very quick read

I'm a nihilist. I'm really not sure if I have or need self worth. '_'

I dont. Im my own worst critic. I just try to keep my family happy, even if it costs me some forms of freedom.

I never forget to, tbh.

Find something worthwhile that you like doing, tie your identity to it a little, and then practice it.

The first part is the hardest. I've seen a lot of people say they don't have any hobbies and nothing interests them. Just keep searching.

do something practical. like solve an actual problem. maybe do a project at home like re-paint a cabinet or something. basically anything other than just consuming.

i feel you TC. I've been unemployed for 3 months, and it's been a crazy up and down experience, especially from not hearing back from coworkers. A lot of the days I don't want to do anything. Also trying to get a laptop fixed right now so I can apply to more and being charged an arm and a leg

what's been helping me/saving me though is
-getting out of the house and exercising every day. For my physical and mental health. Being healthy is important.
-talking to people. Family and friends. Even talking to regulars at the gym boosts my mood
-writing down a list of things I need to get done every day. Be productive every day. This helps with your self worth. 1% everyday compounds. Looking for jobs, fixing stuff around the house, applying for certain things before deadlines

What's not been helping me
-sleeping most nights at 2-3am and just inconsistent sleep schedule in general
-late night food binges
-listening too much to sad music instead of music

what I will do moving forward
-fix my sleep to be more consistent and early. Not game late every night
-manage my time better to be more productive and on time
-read everyday
-take a class/learn a skill that can help me with future jobs
-spend more quality time with family and friends, and less Doom scrolling

As someone with ADHD, work gave me structure and purpose. It's a lot harder now, but I have to do my best.

My advice to you is get a good routine going, and get things done everyday, while working on yourself everyday a little. Prioritize your health. Make a list of goals, either texting yourself or writing it down, or on a word document. If can really help if you prepare ahead of time block out certain hours of the day.

I really dont, you just gotta get to the bland uncaring neutral area

By getting over yourself and stop caring

I don't need to remember. I just have it. BUT, I didn't used to. It took some positive experiences to get there. And to get those positive experiences, I had to persevere through the negative and just keep trying.

I don't think I've ever had any sense of self worth...

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Been there. It got better, and not until I was 40

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VtvGZyYV0EE&pp=ygUbYSBiYWQgZGF5IGlzIGp1c3QgYSBiYWQgZGF5

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I'm just going off of what I've seen you post about. Finishing your degree is great. But maybe it won't sink in until you finish?

Friends, loved ones, the occasional getting a cat out of a tree for grandmas.

You did, saying you were gonna drop one of your classes

people at work like me so that helps

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A_Good_Boy posted...

You did, saying you were gonna drop one of your classes

tbf Pysch classes aren't for everyone

this one's not for everyone, but I got rid of my smartphone and started to use a flip phone. kinda sucks cus most people I know use things like snapchat or facebook for keeping in touch, but the plus side is I don't touch social media whatsoever which means I'm not constantly comparing myself to everyone I see on there.

started keeping a gratitude journal. It feels really, really cheesy at first, writing things like "today I'm grateful that..." but I do think it works. Maybe placebo, but over time I didn't really have to think hard about thinks I'm grateful for, lots of times that feeling will just happen in that moment.

also started to do internet-free days. I'm kind of a hermit and terminally online if I'm not working, I think that had a big impact on my mental and emotional health. Now, once or twice a week, I'll unplug the network antenna from my PC and put it in one of those timed lock box things for the day

finally is finding escape through hobbies. Things like guitar, drawing, building gunpla every now and then. I'm not really great at guitar or drawing, but it's still fun. I think doing things that are creative or creative-adjacent are really good for mental/emotional well-being.

I generally find pure apathy, both in regards to myself and others, is often the simplest way to go. Definitely not the healthiest, but certainly the simplest, and the mindset Ive most often chosen for the past couple decades.