Current Events > One of my employees was a victim of domestic violence and its hard to handle

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But of course I wasn't the one assaulted, so I'm not trying to act like woe is me.

But she is here right now and I feel so terrible for her situation. I want to ask questions but am not because I dont want to risk hearing some unfortunate answer like "where are you staying right now?" "Where are the kids?". I dont know what her future holds. She is a great person so this hurts even more.

She told me not to tell anybody. I am not but having this knowledge is making me uneasy. My other coworker did not need called in today as this one showed up. But I even feel bad for the other coworker, because she probably just assumes she got over the sickness and all is well. I wish it was so simple.

Being a GM is a lot of fun, but this is the part nobody prepares you for. I just needed to get this out there since I can't tell my coworkers and won't, I needed an outlet.

That sounds really rough. Hopefully she can find the resources to get out of her situation.

Unfortunately it's one of those situations only she can deal with. You can tell the cops but if she's not cooperative they won't do anything about it. The dirtbag will continue to beat her until she leaves him or gets him arrested. And often when it gets to the point where he's comfortable beating her regularly, it's because he knows she's not going to tell anyone or do anything about it. People get sucked into these awful relationships and then don't know how to leave, or don't recognize how bad it actually is.

Im not looking to get involved in the situation itself. I recommended her one resource outlet for employees of my company in tough situations. But I feel bad knowing I don't know what her immediate future holds. Where is she sleeping tonight? I dont know, and i feel like for my mental health i dont even ask, which sounds shitty but ???

I would consider contacting a Domestic Violence helpline and explaining the situation.

They should be able to offer advice and some resources you could steer her towards.